Kerfuffled

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[estradiol]

Imo the “bad boy who’s only nice secretly/after you get through his layers” trope in media functions as propaganda designed to get you to second guess yourself and your experiences in order to give bad men a chance. Some things need to be taken at face value and if he treats people like shit he is in fact a bad person even if he’s nice to you sometimes. Stop looking for hidden meaning and depth in his actions. He’s not misunderstood he’s just an asshole and it’s not your job to shovel through the shit to get to the disappointing “good” parts

[lurkerviolin]

monster fucker kinsey scale incoming don’t ever tell me what i can’t do, son

[lurkerviolin]

[writhe]

i have a hill to die on real quick

[writhe]

phrases like “you don’t owe anyone anything” and “relationships aren’t transactional” have the power to be used in ways that are very backwards and harmful

for example, no you don’t owe anyone anything in that if some creep is trying to get with you, you can block him without feeling bad. you don’t owe kindness to people who are transphobic or racist or bigoted.

but, you can’t use this as an excuse to fuck over people who have helped you. “you don’t owe anyone anything” isn’t an excuse to allow yourself to forget compassion and basic empathy, it isn’t an excuse for you to be an asshole just because you find it easier to be one

relationships aren’t transactional in that if your partner does something nice for you, you are indebted to them. they do these things because they love you; it is their choice to express love through these gestures

but they are transactional in that you both actively need to be putting time and care into the relationship. ignoring the dynamic of one person caring too much (and putting in excessive (emotional an literal) work and labor) while the other does nothing isn’t healthy. one person can’t solely take and the other person can’t solely give- that’s dangerous, and you can’t put the bandaid of “this isn’t transactional” over a relationship that is draining you in all capacities

i’m tired of seeing these things being misconstrued and used as an excuse to hurt people, while framing it as a way of taking care of yourself

[marvelouserin]

yeah, I like romance. but you know what? I like women realizing their value and leaving trash men 1000x more

[winsome-tragedy]

i just wanna be kissed by the lady of my life

[croquettish]

Have you ever seen a twitter thread (or, in this case, two!) that so perfectly expressed everything you’d felt over months and months of harassment persistent? With all credit to @blackblobyellowcone, who is clearly amazing and completely gets it– not just why us women write and read the erotica that we do, but the history behind the censorship we, as a gender, have experienced. Bravo. 

[hellygrrl-deactivated20190210]

I think “high octane bonerade” is one of the best descriptions I’ve seen in a long while.

[asdfghkjklgkfhjh-deactivated201]

Remember the internet when we were kids?

[sagacitus]

REBLOG IF YOU REMEMBER ANY OF THESE

Here are all the games’ links in order :)

Bueno Rufus

Barbie Swan Lake Game

Bikini Bottom or Bust

That’s so Raven Pinball

Brandy and Mr. Whiskers- Style Diva

A Sitch in Time- Present

Sticky’s Mix Master

Lizzie McGuire Dressup

Babysit Baby Krissy

Barbie Makeover

Escalator Escape

MyScene Room Makeover

Helga’s Diary

Black Licorice

Crater Crossing

holy shiiiit nostalgia

[rememberthis2000]

I didn’t have the internet, but I did get a free CD-ROM in a cereal box once and it had Lizzie McGuire Dressup on it! (and a few other Lizzie McGuire themed games/things)

[earthhh12345]

Unpopular opinion maybe but you can’t blame people for not knowing how to help you. Not everyone is equipped with the intuitive knowledge. Some people just don’t know. And frankly, many of us are confused, all of us are trying our best and NONE of us has all the answers. 

[flowerais-deactivated20211031]

you are your worst enemy until you learn to treat yourself like a friend. sabotaging your efforts and relationships, convincing yourself no one loves you, not trying because you’re sure you’ll fail, being apathetic to everything is bc you think you’re not good enough. but the truth is you are good enough and you can be the best person you can be if you learn to change these thoughts into self-love and encouragement. listen to your needs and be there for yourself instead of destroying your health or abandoning yourself or your future.

[3koh]

Every. Single. Battle.

[willowofthehearth]

This is SUCH an important lesson to learn!

[eruditionanimaladoration]

Millennials are ruining corrupt corporate capitalism by caring about animals

[keuppy]

Because we do research on branding and see which don’t poison or kill our pets 🙄🙄🙄🙄 but I guess the only killing that matters is another industry

[missanthropicprinciple]

I love how we’re accused of ruining capitalism like…that’s kinda the goal. It’s like trying to explain to someone why a joke is funny. 

[post-collapse]

we’re killing capitalism by…spending MORE money on pet food?

[holtzyrans]

Consider: the monkey brain/human brain meme but instead it’s feminist brain/lesbian brain

[holtzyrans]

Feminist brain: this character would never realistically fight in that outfit

Lesbian brain: tiddies hot

[diamondorloj]

Feminist brain: gender non confirming women as villains are queercoding and teaching us that being a lesbian / wlw / gnc woman is evil and bad

Lesbian brain: step on me hot evil lady

[ineffablyserpentine]

[bouquetofheather]

Feminist brain: That’s right! She doesn’t need a love interest! She’s a fully functional compete human being without a man.

Lesbian brain: She doesn’t need a man because SHE’S A LESBIAN.

[unluckymarch]

“do you have a type?”

uh yeah, women I’m slightly afraid of

[bemusedlybespectacled]

#my type is basically women I’m slightly afraid of #and men I can be 100% sure I will never ever ever have to be afraid of (via @crazy-pages)

[hozier voice] amen, aaaameeen, aaaaaaaaaaaameeeeeeeeeeen

[spider-hands-mannos-deactivated]

PETA

you guys remember when PETA stole people pets off their porches and euthanized them?

you guys remember how it came out that PETA kills about 90% of the animals it takes in, including healthy and adoptable puppies and kittens, stating “ We could become a no-kill shelter immediately. It means we wouldn’t do as much work”?

you guys remember when PETA advocated killing all pit bulls for the crime of being pit bulls?

you guys remember when PETA handed out these comics to children when there were no adults looking?

you guys remember when they made a porn site and then filled it with videos of animal abuse, and (also in that link) claimed cats should be vegetarian?

you guys remember when PETA lied about sheep shearing, got caught, and defended the lie as true even after they admitted the sheep in their picture wasn’t even real?

you guys remember when they tried to excuse their horrifying ways by claiming that the person who exposed them was manipulating the facts by taking them and putting them in the wrong context?

Because I remember. I remember everything. 

And I’m gonna make sure everyone else remembers too. 

[ourladyofpainourladyofdreams-de]

Why would they kill pit bulls they’re sweeties

[spider-hands-mannos-deactivated]

Because PETA does not care about animals. they do not care that these dogs live and breathe and feel and want love like every other dog. they do not care about the history of human/dog bonding and co-evolution, they do not care that dogs and human beings have relied on each other for millennia, they do not care that its cruel and morally repugnant to put down an animal just because you can, they do not care about animals. 

PETA cares about money and publicity, its a corporation run by a psychopath who is afraid of pitts as it states in the link: she was apparently bit by one, and now she hates them. 

PETA doesn’t give a rats ass about animals. They just want to kill and make money off of idiots who fall of their spiel.

[ourladyofpainourladyofdreams-de]

Some celebs support them

[i-n-m-h]

ah c’mon, dear-tumb1r, I think you’re being a bit harsh. I mean, okay, PETA’s done some questionable things, but it’s not like they’ve also

-spread false information about milk causing autism based on outdated bullshit information

-used holocaust imagery to compare the meat industry to concentration camps (no pictures)

-used a young man’s brutal death as a way to say “yeah that’s awful but it happens to animals every day and nobody cares about that” (tw: no pictures but the way the guy died is described and it is really horrible)

-dressed up in KKK robes and protested outside of the Westminister Dog Show to protest breeding/pure bred dogs (tw: racism)

-offered to pay the water bill for literally the poorest neighborhood in Detroit if and only if they all went vegan for a month (tw: self-righteous shitheads)

-and they definitely didn’t have two of their workers accept perfectly healthy animals from an animal hospital, with the implication that they would give them good homes, clarify that these animals were all healthy and well-tempered, and then euthanized them all in the back of a kill-van before dumping their dead bodies behind a grocery store (tw: PICTURES OF DEAD ANIMALS, animal death)

-and they totally didn’t get off pretty much scot-free for it because PETA has loads of money and lawyers to defend themselves, which coincidentally might be why the Cerate family hasn’t seen justice for their kidnapped and murdered dog, Maya. (tw: animal death)

Nah. PETA’s not that bad.

(/the heaviest of all my fucking sarcasm, I am salty as a fucking winter road, lord do I fucking hate PETA)

[spider-hands-mannos-deactivated]

Did you think i was fucking joking, PETA?

I will make sure everyone fucking remembers what you’ve done. 

[spider-hands-mannos-deactivated]

Bringing it back, because it’s charity season and people need to know NOT to give charity to these fuckers. 

[pickingwinkles]

I won’t add to just how filthy and nasty PETA are, OP and reblogs have done a stellar job already. But if you want to donate to something that supports animals that probably never ever gets any publicity, find a small local rescue centre near you that actually cares for and understands animals. There are individuals about all over the world who open up their homes and properties to take in injured wildlife, rescue donkeys, chickens, retired greyhounds, retired racehorses, etc. They’re not shiny. They don’t have legal teams and PR. They just work hard. Google. Find. Ask what they need, ask if you can help and go for it.

[sharkboxes]

[ginger-ale-official]

Oh they’re going to need salvation.

[socialistexan]

Not just making it illegal, but making being gay punishable with death.

[unified-multiversal-theory]

This is one of the many reasons why I walk by every single red bucket in the run-up to Christmas. They’re not getting my money, I don’t care how nice the people ringing bells are.

[auntiewanda]

Ever since the time they threatened to close all their soup kitchens in NYC if a law that did something as simple as allow companies to extend spousal benefits to their employee’s same-sex domestic partners I have refused to buy from them or donate to them. 

[willowofthehearth]

It’s that time of year again! In case people don’t know… the Salvation Army is shitty peoples.

Also, the married women are not paid (and therefore can’t qualify for assistance if they should ever divorce, etc). And worth “of course” less than a man.

“ In the Army’s case, the agreement for compensation is that the officer allowance be paid jointly to the husband—the check is written in his name. Officially, the wife is a “worker without expectation of remuneration,” and her husband receives 40 percent more of an allowance as a married man than he would as a single man. “

source

[radioactive-dingo]

hey since that season is coming up again!

[basinke]

Don’t abuse the bell ringers unless they get aggressive, but don’t give them a bent penny.

[ariaste]

Relationships are scary and complicated ONLY when you start thinking of your partner as some kind of adversary. 

You know how to stop being scared of relationships? Remember that it’s got a goddamn buddy system *built in*. That’s all a relationship IS: “Let’s approach life with the buddy system.”

Check on your buddy. Make sure your buddy doesn’t forget their lunch box on the schoolbus. Hold hands with your buddy so you don’t get lost. If your buddy wants to look at the monkey cage, look at the goddamn monkey cage with them. If you are the one looking at the monkey cage, ask your buddy what they want to do next, and when they want to feed the giraffe, help them find a quarter for the little food dispenser. Be a good buddy, and if your buddy isn’t a good one too, tell the teacher and ask for a new one.

This isn’t fucking rocket science, people. 

[matociquala]

I have reblogged this before. I will reblog it again. And it’s not just romantic relationships: it’s family members and friends as well.

[smartass-stripper]

This kind of woke my ass up because of the amount of times I’ve had a buddy who didn’t check on me, didn’t want me to check on them, but didn’t want me to leave.