@skullrift is a necrophile and groomer/COCSA offender.
skullrift (aka dxtropeb on discord, fuzymew on youtube, and remiel as a collective name) is a popular pro-endo content poster here on tumblr. i had the unfortunate experience of being his friend and semi-long term partner. we knew each other closely for about 7 years, but we met in december of 2016 and dated for a collective 2ish years across 2-3 relationships together. we broke off around march 24th, 2024. throughout that time i was subjected to significant explicit sexual content starting when we were both minors. we have about a 1.5 year age gap, with remiel being younger. the majority of this time of my life is a blur because of the trauma i will be talking about below.
please keep in mind i have diagnosed C-PTSD and BPD as well as speculated DID, all of which have been heavily affected by my 7 years of interactions with him. many of my memories fail me at points but i am doing my best to stick to facts rather than speculation, screenshots provided have full context or will be further elaborated on for full context when i deem necessary.
i would have kept quiet on this had remiel not labeled me a terrible person to my old friends who he then proceeded to take from me (the only people i had while still in an actively abusive household), using my C-PTSD coping mechanisms as "proof" of me being abusive. the difference between us is that i've owned up to my past actions while he is still actively committing many. i wanted to heal internally and forget about this whole fiasco, but i cannot stay silent any longer while my abuser/groomer thrives on a public platform with users unaware of who they truly support.
i don't have exact timestamps for anything outside of provided discord/google hangouts screenshots, my timeline is fucked but i am doing my best to provide direct evidence for most incidents and it may lead me to elaborate on further incidents between us that i do not have direct proof for.
this source is from the UK however it provides a good source for the definition of grooming in adults. https://www.anncrafttrust.org/signs-of-grooming-in-adults-what-to-watch-out-for/
remiel groomed me both in child and adulthood. he sent sexually suggestive content to minors as a minor and produced sexually explicit content in the form of artworks which he posted as a child online, pretending he was an adult when he was 17.
my most damning and only piece of evidence is the following screenshot. since google hangouts was only used by our friend group in late 2016/early 2017 and we had since moved to skype, i am unable to look through skype messages as the platform is formally scrubbed since it was shutdown. the screenshot involves a 12 year old back in 2016 who remiel (12-13 at the time) sent a video of a dildo on a conveyor belt to. the minor's mom's response was reasonable, as this content was not appropriate for minors to be sharing. i have no evidence of remiel doing these same acts with genuine pornographic images, however this image goes to show that he was capable of doing these things. i do not have direct evidence, but remiel did much more COCSA-related acts outside of this realm (including talking about explicit acts between characters made by mutual friends, who were minors at the time). i have also provided a link to the exact video sent, as remiel and i "reminisced" in a voice call about this incident (which he laughed about). we did this commonly where we looked back on our past fuck ups and just laughed, which i recognize was disgusting of not just him, but myself. in the second screenshot, i left a meme partially uncensored as proof that we were reminiscing over the past on voice call, as we'd just send images to each other and laugh about them in the voice call.
remiel was upset but made light of the situation, at the time using a tord meme that read "oh shiz [shit], [minor's name] is gone for good this time ;-;". tiff was the online name i went by at the time.
this post will further delve into incidents of COCSA and adult grooming with each screenshot and explanation providing context.
i had trusted remiel with my everything due to him being my FP (a favorite person is exclusive to BPD, and is defined as "an individual who the person with BPD idealizes and relies on for emotional support and validation".). this resulted in him also confiding in me about "taboo" topics, starting when we were minors. he introduced me to hardcore BDSM (as adults) and talked about taking the BDSM test with me as minors (older teens). this further made me indulge in unhealthy habits with him related to my childhood trauma (both from him and my parents). eventually he directly admitted to being a necrophile.
i am completely anti-censorship personally. however in these instances, he went on to later roleplay engaging in sexual acts with one of our alters's corpses (i will not be providing this evidence for my own sanity and personal comfort. this shit scarred me), which we only consented to because we wanted to appease him, as well as just generally being hypersexual because of the COCSA (child-on-child sexual abuse) he put us through. him telling me not to screenshot this out of context is insane, and another grooming tactic. he gained my trust and only shared things with me he knew were disgusting because he knew i'd keep silent about them. this source talks about adult-on-child grooming, however these tactics also apply to adults (see previous source for comparison). https://learning.nspcc.org.uk/safeguarding-child-protection/grooming#article-top
i also rebuke the claim of it being completely fictional with the sole evidence being he is legitimately turned on by these thoughts, going as far as to describe a fantasy.
him saying he has no intention of commiting acts irl holds no weight. if you are turned on by these subjects, you need help instead of dragging others into your "fictional" fantasies. these situations have stuck with me for so long, i never would have even pretended to be into this had he not been someone i trusted with my whole being. i completely consider this grooming due to these circumstances (grooming can happen at any age, depending on the scenario. adult sexual grooming is also a thing).
romanticization of self-harm
this one kind of speaks for itself. i really don't remember this in the slightest but it obviously happened
i've held this in for so many fucking years. i've cried to my parents about it on so many occasions, i've tried to off myself over these things too many times to count, i can't have sexual intimacy in my relationships anymore without going too "extreme". it's messed up my internal alter relationships, it's caused me to hurt people in similar ways. but i've changed, and i've grown. i've seen no change in him, i've seen no improvement. just more secrecy and vying for approval from more people he is actively grooming. i don't know what to say from here, i just hope this is enough evidence to prove he does not deserve a fanbase or supporters in the slightest. he has hurt me beyond repair while making me feel like the perpetrator.
please spread this if you can. reblogs are so appreciated. people should not be supporting him.