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✧ orion ✧ they/xe ✧ xxviii ✧ incredibly normal ✧ I tend to disappear/reappear at random so my activity is out of wack. Apologies. [Blog pfp ID: Artwork of the Pokémon Magnemite in front of the nonbinary flag. /end ID.]

[jetix]

2025-01-08

[magnetmite]

You ever listen to somebody complaining & think "maybe if you didn't see romance &/or sex as the be-all end-all of human connection you might actually be happy"?

[paranormal-taters]

hang on i need to review my entire post history from all time and make sure i haven't said anything embarrassing

[paranormal-taters]

awful news guys

[homunculus-argument]

Bitches will say they want a "fairytale wedding" and then get offended when I show up uninvited and curse their firstborn.

[veryluckyclovers]

[pokemonarchive]

Pikachu (2024) - TCG Pocket Backdrop Illustrator: Mari Inoue

[homunculus-argument]

For some reason I once ended up browsing a support forum for adult survivors of shitty homeschooling, and there was one thread made by a woman who was on the verge about whether she wants to homeschool her kids or if she should send them to public school, and could not make up her mind no matter how hard she thought of it. Someone on the forum suggested to her that how about she'd try interviewing three happy, thriving, mentally and socially well-adjusted adults who were homeschooled as children, and then ask herself if she can provide that same experience to her children.

The mom-to-be then asked the suggester where to find some.

And the suggester answered roughly "the fuck if I know, I've never met one in my life either."

[birdship]

being in your 30s is cool because you can buy yourself children's toys and then use your superior adult abilities and skills to play with them way better and more efficiently than any child

[magnetmite]

Tsalagi third person pronouns aren't separate words like English pronouns are.

He/It/She (and singular They, but you won't see that in most books bc transphobia; plural They has its own prefix, as do various groupings like "you and I", "he/she/it and I", "you two", "all of us", "they and I", and "you all/y'all") all have the same singular pronoun (a-, ga-, or g-) which is a prefix to the word which denotes what the subject is doing, or the item that belongs to the subject. If you want to specify gender of the subject, you have to actually, specifically say the the gender.

Some examples:

Aholi: "Her/His/Its (or singular Their) mouth"; also just the word for mouth bc a mouth always belongs to someone

Third person action: Agoliye'a: "He/It/She is (or singular They are) looking at it"

Third person action w/gender specified: Na asgaya agoliye'a: "The man, He is looking at it"

Despite the third person pronoun prefix being genderless/gender neutral, there is still a lot of binary gendered language in Tsalagi, and very little language for those of us who are trans, nonbinary, abinary, intersex, altersex, multigendered, &/or otherwise sexgender variant. I know there are neologisms created by some people online, but a few that I've seen have been insulting if I'm being totally honest, and they're so niche that nobody really knows them.

We can omit the gendered words altogether in speech (third person action w/o gender specified) when we reference people, but men & women will likely get upset if we try to remove the language altogether. Of course, they'll also get upset if we try to create language for people with sexgenders outside of the binary, for people with multiple sexgenders, or for people without a sexgender whatsoever. So it's a lose lose.

This sort of shit makes me hesitant to buckle down and learn Tsalagi. I get misgendered enough in one language; I don't want to deal with it in another. I'm anti binary in every sense, not just when it comes to the colonizers' binary. Transphobia, exorsexism, intersexism, and the like aren't just a white people problem. I'm still going to try to learn it to spite the colonizers and honor my heritage, but I'm dreading it.

[nitw]

it's crazy to think back on undertale and just how openly and casually queer it's been since the beginning. like, everything with alphys and undyne (+ alphys explicitly being bisexual). the guard boyfriends. several nonbinary/agender characters. mettaton not only being transmasc but also a hyper flamboyant diva and is unambiguously regarded by the game as Sexy. mad mew mew basically being the transfem equivalent of mettaton, continuing the theme of ghosts finding joy and purpose in their new inhabited bodies. even just little things like the transfem lion npc in hotland. like it was just always like this. all of these were woven into the game so naturally yet so clearly with a loving hand. and to this day tobert is still throwing life-altering yuri and transgenderisms left and right with every new deltarune chapter but it cannot be overstated how much he's been cooking since the unholy year of 2015

[nitw]

seeing this resonating with a lot of people in the notes who have undertale to thank for their queer awakenings/their first exposure to lgbt representation in media which is awesome, but also if you've read through the fan letters that were sent in for the 10th anniversary stream event you'll REALLY get a scope of just how many people have this shared experience. it's kinda insane. if you grew up with undertale, there's like, statistically, a really high chance that it impacted your gender or sexuality in a way that you didn't know was possible before...... and i just think that's a wild accomplishment for a game that doesn't even Really focus on queerness all that much in its core narrative

[magnetmite]

Might get eaten alive for this, but I wish (some) people would stop acting as if sex &/or romance repulsion/indifference/favorability are set in stone.

I'm aroaceflux; my romantic and sexual orientations/states naturally fluctuate. Likewise, whether or not I'm favorable to things like sex, romance, intimacy, physical contact whatsoever, relationships, etc. is also subject to fluctuation, not always at the same time that my sexuality fluctuates, and not always for the same reasons.

Nobody should be shamed for being sex &/or romance repulsed. Nobody should be shamed for being sex &/or romance favorable. Nobody should be shamed for being sex &/or romance indifferent. These are whole statements that I'm placing in this post intentionally. (I'll also note here that "positive/negative" are different than "favorable/repulsed".)

For some people, whether or not they're sex &/or romance repulsed, indifferent, or favorable will change or fluctuate, for many different reasons. This is also not something anyone should be shamed for.

People who are repulsed, indifferent, or favorable towards sex &/or romance should be believed, and have their consent and boundaries respected. Likewise, people whose favorability, indifference, or repulsion shifts, changes, or fluctuates should also be believed, and have their consent and boundaries respected.

I've never seen anyone discuss this; most posts I've seen discussing repulsion/indifference/favorability present them as solid "this or that" "one or the other" ends of an oppositional binary, typically ignoring or forgetting about indifference. As someone whose experience differs due to their fluctuation, I feel forgotten by these posts, and I'm willing to bet that I'm not the only person left unseen by this "black or white" thinking.

And no, this is not the same as being indifferent. There's nothing wrong with being sex &/or romance neutral, but this isn't that experience. There are times when I am genuinely unable to be romantic &/or sexual, even when I'm not aro &/or ace; I'm repulsed by sex &/or romance. Likewise, there are times when I am capable of participating in sexual &/or romantic activities, even when I AM aro &/or ace; I'm favorable towards sex &/or romance. This is not the same thing as indifference, and to conflate them is a disservice not only to people who experience fluctuations with their repulsion/indifference/favorability, but also to those who are indifferent towards sex &/or romance. There are times when I am ro/se indifferent, but that is subject to the fluxes, which is why these are different experiences.

Also it can vary depending on the person you're interacting with, but that's a given.

[lgbtqiatext]

[orteil42]

terrified of unwittingly enjoying the shadows in the cave. the song you didn't know was a cover. the movie you didn't realize was a parody. the game you never knew was a bootleg port. and then even after you find out, there's something in you that still likes the shadow better than the real thing

[toskarin]

understanding anything about the history of laws is going to make you a bit frustrated in conversation with people where it comes up, but basically nothing compares to the feeling of abject derealisation that you experience when the topic turns to IP and you can't stop noticing that the average person arguing for it knows literally nothing about why copyright exists or was allowed to happen, just kinda sailing through sentences on a fully vibes based understanding of an explanation they were given at age ten

[toskarin]

the average person's understanding of copyright, when defending it, starts with the phrase "copyright exists to protect the rights of artists to..." which is currently wrong, but would also still have been incorrect from the very first time a modern copyright was granted

[toskarin]

the modern system of copyright is primarily used by publishers and rights-holders to enforce a chokepoint monopoly over the works of artists, who have neither the means to operate free of a publisher's censorship nor finance to defend themselves should the copyright be leveraged against them. this stands in contrast to the original system of copyright, which was also like that because I lied to you and was describing the stationers guild

[poketcg-art]

Magnemite -- ryoma uratsuka

[luxiomahariel]

[m1s0-s0ups]

I rlly like seeing corbeau with a venipede