Happy nonbinary awareness week! Weâre extra aware this week of how fucking much you hate us, and how much you think weâre not real or just a joke.
This is explicitly at you, my beloved transfemme and transmasc peers, who constantly act as if we donât exist, or as if because thereâs nothing for many of us to transition to that it means we get âcis privilege,â when actually our experience is much closer to someone who will always be in the closet, who will always be misgendered, because the closest thing we can transition to is âopenly queer,â in which even our own people will still get our gender wrong AND we get to be subject to violence!
This is to all you, my transmasc and transfemme peers who see someone struggling with their gender identity and immediately presume the only option is that theyâre the binary âoppositeâ on a made up spectrum that has room in fact, for someone to be both simultaneously, or neither.
The way you talk about things makes it blatantly clear most of you view us as âtemporarily confused about our gender,â at best, and internally are misgendering us and âpolitely accommodating our confusion.â
I love you. I hope you have a joyous life and that nobody you love or care about, that not even your community? ever subjects you to the kind of disdain you show for your nonbinary peers. I hope you find safety and peace and that maybe someday youâll have room in your heart to give a shit about us too.
To my fellow nonbinary people, Iâm sorry youâre so maligned. Iâm sorry our siblings are so fucking unkind to us and so busy squabbling that they donât recognize the ways theyâre throwing each other, and us, under the bus.
Happy nonbinary awareness week.
