Anyway one of the best things you can do for engaging with political discourse is to stop viewing different analytical frameworks as competing teams or a decorative element to add to your bio, and instead view them as what they are: Methods of interpreting stuff that happens in the world, some more reliable than others, some more tailored to specific situations than others.
And then also recognize that sometimes individuals deploy those frameworks badly.
Which in turn means that when you see an absolutely shit take from someone who's usually spot-on with their analysis inside their preferred framework, you can just go "oh, they're outside their domain of applicability, what a shame" and move on with your day.
A big one to avoid is taking the knowledge from a framework meant for analyzing large-scale power structures, learning about how those affect material conditions at population levels, and then starting to go "ohhhh am I being Bad At The Framework if I try to change my material conditions with individual actions" to which the answer is... no. That's just outside the scope of the framework.
That's all to say that when you see someone from any branch of feminism starting to slip into "gals, is it heteropatriarchal if we do lesbian BDSM" you can just laugh to yourself and go "haha, she's individualizing the systemic analysis" and move on instead of trying to formulate a Theory Of How Being A Good Girl For Dommy Mommy Is Actually Super Feminist to counter.
