This Is Who I Am

Art Blog: moth-of-everglades

[wagitfag]

picklesbaseball

[magikonch]

[smallpotatoes-dandelions]

I don't know how to articulate this well, but I really fucking hate the way a lot of thin writers write fat characters. Like how men write women "breasting boobily" there is something so dehumanizing about how fat characters are often written. "He waddled", "he lumbered", the writer of the book I'm reading always mentions this characters "fleshy hand" when he does something with his hand. Like, we already know that he's fat. There is no need to describe everything he does as "doing it fatly".

[sulkybender-retired04042026]

*fishes this absolute treasure from the tags*

[ofswordsandpens]

I need to see it again to pinpoint the details but I really like how the opening scene of obsession (2026) is Bear practicing his confession with a diner waitress... like already you have a woman (who is not Nikki) fulfilling the role for her, saying the response she thinks Bear would like to hear, but the moment this woman gives her own opinion, offering genuine advice to Bear (something along the lines of buying Nikki something she likes, like her favorite candy, flowers, etc)... Bear disregards it... but then ends up using Ian's recommendation from this same conversation (calling Nikki "Freaky Nikki")... like god its all already right there

[bonivers]

i haven’t stopped thinking about this tweet for days

[mmilhouse]

goodbye $200 helloooo 3 groceries

[poodpoopsie]

So an old man meets an old friend with a new face...

[oncillaphoenix]

these hips don't lie but the truths they tell are strange and disquieting

[shetheyslain]

Dahling you simply must read this book! It’s all about this devious little caterpillar who simply gorges himself on all manner of divine things

[cha3blu]

cowboy

[sapgoop]

i like this cowboy

[peacefulsoaring]

peacefulsoaring’s atla appreciation (17/??):

AVATAR: THE LAST AIRBENDER (2005 - 2008) -> "We need you, Aang." (insp.)

[yurimom]

obsession was great. the themes are especially great when viewed thru a feminist lens. i think you could even go so far as to view it as a metaphor for reactive abuse (the way bear makes a wish for nikki to love him more than anything in the world / be obsessed with him, then lets everyone believe she’s just gone crazy put of nowhere, all while still not wanting to end his relationship with her. of course it’s not one to one but the subtle themes are there.)

i also enjoyed how the film showed what everyday violations of consent can look like…media often shows the most obvious, often-dramatized occurrences of it, but this depicted a more common way of it showing up.

bear did indeed take advantage of nikki while she was in a mentally unstable state. he was well aware her consent was compromised. all the while he is very insecure about it, knows what he is doing, becomes aware even that nikki is aware and it is hurting her, continues doing it. i love that this film names this. it even critiques “not like the other girls” anti-feminism through sarah, who sees it as nikki taking advantage of bear…then she ironically tries to take advantage of bear’s vulnerable state herself by coming onto him.

also on a smaller note nikki’s batshit incestuous gorey hansel and gretel story had great prose i enjoyed it. my partner pointed out that before the wish, nikki saw bear as a little brother figure. meaning the hansel and gretel thing very well could have come from real feelings of disgust, like it nearly feels like an incestuous relationship to her.

and the ENDING. a lesser film would have insisted that, in these circumstances where the wish can only be broken if one of them dies, the male lead must survive between the two. but there was no self sacrifice from nikki out of “love”, there was no moment of lucidity or jealousy or rage where she kills herself, bear is forced by the narrative to take full responsibility for what he has done to nikki. what’s more— he reaches for a gun, almost uses it, ultimately decides on overdosing on pills. my partner and i personally think this was intentional commentary on masculinity, by having bear consider, then reject, the way men typically choose suicide in favor of the way women typically choose it. just a fun detail and maybe we’re both batshit.

good movie. all of that said though i’m sure a lot of people will boil it down to “haha women are soooo crazy…”

[thededfa]

Listen, maybe I can’t change the world, but I can pass eggs over the fence to my neighbor to save them a few dollars. I can cross the street and fix another neighbor’s cabinets. I can send my kid to the house next door with a can of tomato sauce they need and they’ll come back with a box of cocoa powder they weren’t going to use. We can leave our old furniture at the curb and one of us will drive by and pick it up to fix and sell or keep. I’ll plant a garden since I have the space and time and I’ll share what I can and I’ll get calls from someone else asking if I can use a crate of oranges.

I may not be able to change the world but I can do something

[heroofthreefaces]

[littlethingwithfeathers]

Here’s the uncomfortable part of that. It means you have to talk to your neighbors. And your neighbors might not be the kind of people you would normally choose to socialize with. They might have ideas or beliefs that run counter to yours. They might make you uncomfortable because of a mental health issue or personal practices.

But that can’t impede you from helping them when they need it. And that means they need to be able to talk to you. And you need to be able to talk to them. This is where the dreaded small talk comes in. It is social lubricant. It is an irritant barrier. It lets two people talk who would otherwise have nothing in common so they can ask each other for help if they need it.

So start saying hi. Maybe drop off a loaf of banana bread. Get on speaking terms with them. That way if a Crisis comes, the first time you are speaking to each other isn’t as strangers. 

Your community includes people who make you uncomfortable. And their community includes people who make them uncomfortable as well, and those people are possibly you.

But mutual aid needs to be universal. And that can start with you.

[fairycosmos]

i really don’t have the time to be the way i am

[violetsbookshelf]

Pointe Skirt by Darinika Atelier

[shouts-into-the-void]

One thing about Obsession (2026) that I enjoyed was that it almost asks you to feel empathy for the entity possessing Nikki as well as the real one. Like, obviously the things she's doing are horrific and fucked up, but I think the scene where Bear is asking her to "just be Nikki!" and she eventually just desperatly screams "I can't be Nikki!" does a really good job of showcasing the entity's inner feelings. She's been created with the sole purpose of loving this guy more than anyone else but no matter how perfect it is or how much he claims to love her, its not her that he loves, its Nikki. And any time she stops pretending to be Nikki, he reacts (albeit rightfully) with disgust and horror. She can't be Nikki because Nikki would never love Bear, and so Bear will never love her.

[seizethegay420]

Op you can't leave this in the tags

[spiralboundd]

"is being with me so bad?"

KILL YOURSELF LITERALLY EXPLODE EVERYWHERE HOLY FUCK!!!! FREE HER!!!! GOD!!!