☀️ Dawn🌙

they/she | 20s | 🏴🇵🇸

[recoveredcombatsister]

yk i think the fundamental problem is that transmascs dont believe that they belong to a different demographic than us transfems. i think its that they still believe in a Trans Community of one demographic - the Trans Demographic, with one unified Trans Experience, rather than that of women and men who share a marginalization

this shows up when transfems make posts for and about other transfems, and invariably transmascs will come along to try and make it about them as well. they dont see it as a womens post, they see it as a Trans post that hasnt mentioned transmascs yet

this also shows up in discussions of transmisogyny. transfems discuss the intersectional bigotry we face and transmascs will get defensive that the conversation centres us and not the Trans Demographic as a whole. this is where "transandrophobia" theory comes in, from transmascs misconstruing transmisogyny as just "transphobia for girls" and insisting there must be a transphobia for boys in return, and to deny "transandrophobia" legitimacy is to deny that transmascs face any transphobia. its morphed into its own transmisogynist violence at this point but its inception was very clearly fueled by the transmasc insecurity over there not being one Trans Experience. transmascs think there has to be a blue version, because they dont conceive of transfems belonging to a different demographic than them

i think no small part of this is that transmasculine transition doesnt force them to reckon with transmisogyny the same way transfeminine transition does. of course, it would be wrong to claim no transfem falls victim to this, but far more transfems do have that reckoning because we are forcibly subjected to transmisogyny. and because transmascs flatten the demographic to just Trans, they believe themselves to have a postion of authority to speak on trans issues without ever being forced to interrogate their inherent transmisogynist biases from living in a transmisogynist society and understand the misogyny within the demographic, and any pushback against them is pushback against the Trans Demographic as a whole

my problem with all of this is that nobody who needs to hear it is going to listen to me, because ultimately were dealing with men, moreover: marginalized men, and men prefer to revel in their power to speak over women and take up space and assume they know best rather than listen to the women in their "community" when we tell them theyre wrong. after all, what reason do transmascs have to think otherwise? i mean, were all faggots in the eyes of the state, right?

[seraphina-aureline]

Chinese Restaurant Syndrome

It's really weird how we call it "Chinese Restaurant Syndrome"

But like

No one calls it "Doritos Syndrome"

Or "Pringles Syndrome"

Or "Pop Tarts" or "CoffeeMate" syndrome

Really weird how MSG never seems to give anyone a headache in any of those foods, for some reason

It seems to be only specifically in Chinese Restaurants that MSG becomes a problem 🤷‍♀️

What an interesting coincidence.

You know what gives me a headache?

Racism.

[alternativeulster]

i'll tell u one thing there's a miles wide gap of distance between how people treat me when they suspect i might be a trans woman and when they find out i'm an intersex tme. like no matter how much people hate my beard or are weird to me about my appearance, once they're certain i'm not a trans woman i'm allowed to be treated as a human again.

[key-pair]

in case folk outside the UK aren't abreast of our news, the British press just hounded a black academic to death

[key-pair]

a rough timeline of events (from memory, there may be inaccuracies, feel free to correct me if I'm wrong)

Cambridge professor of sociology Jason Arday is accused of plagiarism by another academic

the accuser is a "race realist" who believes that in a true meritocracy all university professors would be white. this is somehow not acknowledged much during the entire ordeal

this leads to several days of media coverage demanding an investigation, or that Arday is expelled from his post immediately

somehow this accusation that has no effect on the lives of 99.99% of the population becomes FRONT PAGE NEWS in all the newspapers for multiple days, above anything else happening in the UK or the world at large

following intense media scrutiny, Arday resigns his post as a Cambridge professor

today, august 14th, days after resigning, Arday is found dead at his home in Battersea

the British tabloid press remains, and will always be, fucking evil

[recoveredcombatsister]

its fucked how much clarification you have to do as a transfem if youre writing a post criticizing tboys but want to stay on their good side. youve got girls bending backwards and doubling the length of their posts covering all their angles so that whiney men wont bruise their fragile egos reading it and throw a tantrum with the ultimate goal of socially murdering her. and these dipshits still dont think they have privilege for being men

[wolfkinsanya]

there have been a few occasions where i [trans man] have been mistaken for a trans woman due to being loud about transfeminism. [one occurrence even had the person in question continuing to believe i was transfem AFTER seeing and complaining about "tme" in my bio, which was extremely funny.] whenever the mistake is corrected, i get one of two options.

the scrutiny on me clearly diminishes and i'm treated better

the person in question hates me even more than before

the first reaction is obvious, but what about the second? well, it sure ain't transandrophobia. lmao. actually, the conclusion i've reached is that these guys get so mad because i prove to them that you can be transmasc without being an insufferable misogynist. i'm obviously in it at no benefit to myself, i'm passionate about it, i'm not silenced by mra fallacies. and seeing a better path for themselves really infuriates these transandrodorks who try so hard to believe that they're on a just and righteous crusade.

[catgirldogthing]

I literally can not emphasize enough how much of a textbook case of intersectionality transmisogyny is. The basic idea of intersectionality can be summed up as follows:

Some businesses would not hire black women, but because they would hire black men and white women, it was not considered discrimination on the basis of race or gender. Therefore, it is insufficient to simply combat racism and misogyny, but rather we must specifically combat misogynoir, the unique oppression that black women experience specifically.

If we replace businesses which wouldn't hire black women with a government passing laws which specifically target trans women, you obtain an analogous statement about transmisogyny. It is phenomenally easy to apply intersectionality to the oppression of trans women. Therefore, if someone claiming to be familiar with intersectionality denies the existence of transmisogyny, they must be speaking in bad faith. Such a belief can only come from willful ignorance or malice.

[kaylmao]

it's so fucking sickening seeing the amount of vitriolic hate that Black trans women get for pointing out that white privilege applies to trans people too. there is no trans community and there never will be until Black trans women are listened to and not fucking harassed off of the internet for daring to suggest that white trans people are privileged over trans people of color. i don't want to be in a community with any of you racist pieces of shit.

[sara-sel]

[kayla-denker]

Lesbian trans woman Petra Parker?! I need a whole series right now!

[jesse-pinko]

Okay Walter White was actually pretty funny as a character bc he was so toxic that seasoned drug lords were like I cannot work w this man I have to put my mental health first

[murraysiskind-deactivated202511]

It’s so crazy that suicide prevention is just people going awwww don’t!! Awwww come on noooooooooo stopppppp

[allhailklisz]

[yokelfelonking]

One of the best ones I saw was a thing noting that every single one of the few survivors of suicide jumps off of the Golden Gate Bridge realized, on the way down, that the problems they were killing themselves over actually were fixable or could be worked through...except for the now - extremely unfixable - problem of gravity.

[authortobenamedlater]

Went to the Holocaust Museum in DC once. There was a video interview of an Auschwitz survivor who said he and some other prisoners stayed up all night with a man who wanted to kill himself. The man didn’t kill himself and survived to liberation.

In the video the survivor said “Never seek a permanent solution to a temporary problem. And they’re all temporary problems.”

Hearing that from a guy who survived the Holocaust rewired my brain a little bit.

[drgrlfriend]

I think something a lot of people don't understand is that depression is not suicidality, and suicidality is not depression. People can, and are, depressed without being suicidal, and sometimes suicidality peaks as people are emerging from depression. Suicidality is a wave, and the trick is to allow that wave to crest and subside WITHOUT acting on it. Whatever it takes to ride it out. For some people that's distraction, like watching television. For others it's calling a friend -- not to talk about the suicidality, but just to talk. For others it could be as simple as going to sit in a coffee shop or library, because the presence of other people is a huge diminisher of suicide risk. That's what suicide safety planning is about. It's like having any other type of emergency plan, like a plan for fire or evacuation. It's making a plan when you are in the frame of mind to do so, so that you can just DO the plan without having to think about it when the occasion arises. When you're in the midst of suicidal ideation, or even intent, you're not in a problem-solving mood. So knowing past!you, with the help of a therapist hopefully, came up with the plan and all you have to do is follow up until the wave crests and subsides, is what allows you to see another day.

ETA: Here's a link to a safety plan. https://www.samhsa.gov/sites/default/files/988-safety-plan.pdf

[goldkirk]

There’s a really compassionate and well-written paper/book/thing called Suicide: The Forever Decision that’s written specifically for people who are currently suicidal. The letter to the reader at the beginning is wonderful and deeply understands how to talk to someone who’s suicidal without preaching or talking down to them.

It’s very honest. It’s very clear. It’s very kind. It presents you with a lot of information and a lot of understanding and lets you take it all in like the autonomous human you are, and make decisions from an informed place. It goes over the reality of suicide attempts, pain involved, likelihoods of survival, after effects of attempts, and how to get help if you want it after reading all of that and learning about the reality of suicide attempts.

You can read it for free here: https://qprinstitute.com/pdfs/Forever_Decision.pdf

No one can ever stop you if you’re really determined. Only you can stop yourself. If you’re suicidal and there’s ANY tiny part of you that wants a chance to not go down that route, but can’t convince the rest of you yet, give this short book a try. Or share it with anyone you know who might need it.

[puppygirllaika]

The thing that often kept me alive through my worst moments in high school and college was the realization that there was no way to kill myself that wouldn't be traumatizing to someone else. I don't want the random train or truck or bus driver to have my death on their conscience. I don't want my doctor or my pharmacist getting hauled in by the police because their patient OD'd. I don't want some random passerby to see me splatter at the bottom of a building or a bridge, or god forbid get hit by my body. I don't want my loved one or my neighbor to find me with my wrists slit in the bathtub or my bed. how can i do it without being sure that i'm not taking others down with me? not filling the world with permanent scars as my final act? I can't. I cannot guarantee that to myself. And so I didn't.

[undeadtransfeminist]

I hope y'all know for every single piece of shit transmisogynist I see on here I log off, go to my job, and make misandry real in another woman. That's my job, actually. Making people have an intense bias and hatred against men. I get paid 41.97/hr doing it :3

[godly-girlfailure]

thats a lot of moneys… where do i apply to th misandry factory

[undeadtransfeminist]

Just answer a couple questions here and I'll gauge your employment :3

1. What is the moral of every story ever?

A. Kill all men

B. Kill all men

C. Kill all men

D. Kill all men

2. How does this image make you feel?

A. Concerned (her smile looks forced to me!)

B. On Edge (why is that man smiling at me?)

C. Upset (a man should not be in this photograph)

D. All of the Above

Answer carefully.

[freakflags]

Trans women ARE natural born women.

[stupid-twink-girl]

[valtsv]

is it a manic episode or am i sincerely having a good time for once in my wretched life

[d-7th]

It literally does not matter how many hours I work this week, I'm going to be behind on bills because the only jobs I can do don't pay and make my condition rapidly worsen until I physically can't even get up, much less work, at all

[d-7th]

I’m so physically spent from overwork that I can’t even get out of bed. I can’t eat or drink without getting sick. I can’t even keep my eyes open for too long without getting sick. I’m not going to live through this without some kind of help.

I need $600, which I’ve been trying to raise all month for a deadline that is now in two days, and beyond that I need enough money to go back to the hospital and pay out of pocket multiple times over to get some actual fucking treatment

[d-7th]

listen I'm ambulatory again today but I am shaking and having a hard time standing up, I need help

[storyweavingspider]

Hey, if you've read any of my work and thought about giving money to me, I'd really really appreciate if you helped my friend out. They have to make $600 in (now) about a day. Please fucking help them.

[egregore-engine]

When she’s on HRT and she