Inside Out

[expensiveity]

heal. your mom may never apologize to you, because she has conditioned herself to believe that she did right by you. she hasn't healed. heal anyway. your father may never apologize to you, because he can only see what he's done right. he hasn't healed. your family members may never apologize to you, because toxicity is what they were raised on. they haven't healed. heal anyway. that "friend" may never apologize to you, because he/she isn't sorry. he/she hasn't healed. if/when they reach their healing, they may seek your forgiveness. be so healed that it won't even matter. heal for you. you owe yourself that much.

[authenticity2025]

If it gets awkward, let it be awkward. That awkwardness is something they created. You don’t owe anyone a performance of being okay when you are not feeling okay so that they can feel better about themselves. Jennifer Peepas

[myfreedomformoutterdemons]

[thehopefulquotes]

“Remember that you were art long before he came to admire you, and you’ll continue to be art even when he’s gone. A masterpiece is still a masterpiece when the lights are off, and the room is empty.”

— Charlotte Beier

[only-knives]

all your stuffed animals love you. they're not sad if they're in a box, or on the floor, or not held/played with as much. they understand. they know that you might need another stuffie more, or that you don't have enough space. they're just happy to be with you, and if you ever give them away, they'll be happy there too. stuffies are for comfort. they understand. they love you too. it's okay.

[ruminate88]

Masking Emotions🎶:

They don’t make clothes for us skeletons 💀 and people that actually know and love me, think I purposely lost weight 🤡🤡🤡 they think I purposely eat small amounts of food… If they only knew the turmoil my mental and physical has actually been through. The betrayal, the disappointment and made to feel small or less than. I realize that’s not truly my reality these days, that’s my past! HOWEVER, I keep most people these days at a handshake, a friendly smile and a “hi how are you, bye now ttyl” relationship to avoid EVER experiencing those hurts again. I wrote a song called “Masking Emotions” because so many people are hurting behind a smile and I want them to know they’re not alone ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹 We will heal and better ourselves. Learn to treat each other better and then rebuild relationships but trust your gut and discernment. Grow and be stronger than before! I don’t wanna be fake….

[dependencypersonality]

Prindepense - Princess DPD Archetype

no id provided for spoons' sake, if someone else has time I will add any that are made

Depense are labels that describe one's relation to DPD and their dependent identity. It may be a gender experience, orientation experience, or any other identification: even its own category altogether.

Prindepense, or the princess dependent archetype, is a dependent identity related to princesses, considering oneself princesslike, and/or being seen as a princess. The intended definition is along the lines of "spoiled" or "silver spoon", but it can be used in other ways as well.

The modifier symbols are: 👜🌷

The tulip as a symbol for DPD is representative of how gardens are dependent on their gardeners and often lovingly tended to in turn.

Depense coined by @epikulupu. Also tagging @cupidcoining and @revenant-coining.

[anxietyproblem]

[thoughtkick]

[quotelr]

““i hope you find someone who knows when to give you space and when to hold you close.” - r.h. sin”

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[anxietyproblem]

[moved-to-jellihye-deactivated20]

Your friends aren’t your therapists. They won’t always have the perfect response to your problem. Sometimes they won’t have a response at all. Sometimes the problems you are going through are too much for an untrained person to process. Sometimes what your going through can be triggering to others so they might not be able to help even if they want to. I know a lot of people here are younger and I want you to know that your friends are kids just like you so they can’t always help. Even adults don’t always have the answers.

That being said people can still support each other without knowing all the answers. Be willing to listen. Be a shoulder to cry on. We will help where we can and with what we can. But we aren’t trained to diagnose or treat you. We can offer you support but sometimes it may be from afar. That doesn’t mean we don’t care. Because we do. Because you matter.

[adviceformefromme]

When you place your value on your looks, secs, and the physical in relationships you’re placing your value in the gutter. Sound harsh, and extreme? Yes, because it’s really that serious. You’ve been leading with your body, and that’s been your downfall. 

Often women say, I can’t believe he is with her. And while her might not look aesthetically pleasing to you, her value shines through her being. She is more than her body, then what she can physically offer him. She connects with his mind, body and soul. A woman who knows who she is is attractive as hell to a man, because she's different from the crowd. She's not leading with her looks. Men see this, they know she knows her true value and that’s how she’s secured the ring, and you’re still dealing with fuckboys only interested in your body. And while you might not be sleeping around, the way you present yourself online, to the world even in your own understanding, your looks have become your leading value.

You set the standard, men follow. If you’re keeping him in his animal instincts, his mind below his belt, sure he’ll be interested but connecting with a mans mind, heart, and soul is how you find something more deeper than causal sex and empty situationships.  

When you lead with your body, you become the low hanging fruit.

Society has taught you to place your value on the exterior on how snatched your waist is, on how plump your lips are, on how seductive you can be. Sure these things come into play but they are not centre stage because YOU, who you are is your true value. The value that's rarely celebrated or honoured is the value that sets you apart from every single person on this earth. Its your being. 

~Your being is you. Who you are at your core, the way you see the world, your unique perspective, the light in your soul, who you are at your very essence. 

This is your true value. It’s heartbreaking to think you’ve believed you are not good enough at your core and that your body, and sex is the driving factor for getting a man, but I’m here to tell you sweetie you don’t need to lead with your body anymore and the men only interested in your body are not men worth your time. You are so much more than your looks, your hair, your body, those edited photos you post online. Because what’s in your heart, your true being is where your value is held. You without the mask, this is your true value. Having the confidence to show up and quit performing and peacocking for a man is how you truly win and enjoy life at ease when it comes to dating. 

[adviceformefromme]

Cheat codes #1

Remove the idea that your value comes from your looks, your achievements, the clothes you wear, the car you drive, the Van Clef necklace. If you can remove all of those external factors, and look in the mirror and realise that you stripped down to your core is worthy, you without the mask is enough, from this place you will have a confidence that allows you to thrive in this world that leeches on women's insecurities. 

Root yourself in spirituality. Because ultimately life is better with God than without. Knowing there is a love, protection and care that comes from this relationship and acknowledging and strengthening this bond is how you remain grounded in a world that can so easily have you lost in the darkness, when there is so much light waiting for you to feel. God is waiting for you. 

Daily exercise. Your body is your temple, treat it as such. The movement / stretches / cardio and weights in light moderation allow a layer of protection to your health and wellbeing. You feel energised, your energy is moving through your veins. It’s an act of self love and care that doesn’t require a fancy gym membership. Just commitment of 30 mins per day. 

Prioritise your gut health. Your gut is your second brain, it’s communicating with you always. Start listening, start noticing what foods it needs, what foods affect your energy levels, if carbs are making you sleepy, re-assess, if the coffee is giving you the jitters, reassess. Stop ignoring what your gut is telling you, notice your bowel movements. Keep getting the shits? Take fucking note. Read books, get tested, learn about your gut microbiome. Having excellent gut health is how you thrive in this life, unfortunately the western diet creates quite the opposite and so its on you to rise above the status quo.

[cocotropic2]

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[theoldman]

it is not those times when you cant see the light that are the most difficult. it is those times when you see the light but just dont care. it is those instances when life has beaten you to within an inch of your life and you feel you have no fight left in you. it is that moment when light stops being saviour and starts being apathetic and unsympathetic. i have walked this path many times in my life and have always risen. i am a survivor. i am the hero in my book of life. i refuse to allow those without heart, without soul, without conscience to keep me down. at the end of the day it is my belief in my innate goodness that keeps me alive and inspires me to help others. so when darkness and light become different sides of the same coin know that you can find me in the periphery of an alternate reality playing with my inner child. i am brave, i am strong and i am beautiful. this is who i am.

MicHEAL Teal The Ancient One

[myfreedomformoutterdemons]

[myfreedomformoutterdemons]

If we grew up in an environment where we took everything on, where we learned to be responsible for the family harmony, where we were conditioned to believe that if we were practically perfect, then everything would be okay, it’s likely that we take on more than we should in our adult relationships.

You see, it’s hard to turn this off. It’s hard to be the one who tends to everything, who is responsible for everything, who takes on the blame and also controls the outcome of every potential relational issue- and then just suddenly stop doing that.

If we experience insecurity in our attachment to others, we may find ourselves trying to control our relationships as a way to maintain safety. And listen, most of the time this isn’t done with malicious intent, however the outcome is often lacking intimacy in our connections.

One of the ways we can build safety within ourselves is to let our behavior be about us and other people’s behavior be about them. This healthy differentiation keeps us out of places we don’t belong. It allows us to unhook from being a relationship investigator, or a people-pleaser, or a relational perfectionist.

If we can begin to see that most behaviors by others has far more to do with them than it has to do with us, then we can really focus on how our behavior aligns (or doesn’t) with our most authentic way of being.

Dear one, you can focus on you. Let their stuff be about them.

To those of you learning to stay in your own lane, I see you.

Empowered therapist