yearning for the night bus

• nessie • she/they/it • dragon enthusiast • mutuals can ask for my discord

[namelessennes]

not alive not dead but a secret third thing (chronically ill)

[phantomrose96]

When you meet Edward Elric he gives off the impression that he's the short-tempered hot-headed "violence is the answer to all life's questions" kind of protagonist, and it's in fact incredible character craft that he's actually the character who ends the series with a negative-3 kill count.

[phantomrose96]

people killed: 0

direct orders of "you really really need to kill this guy" ignored: 1

ongoing murders being committed by Ed's own friends/colleagues that Ed got in the way of to specifically stop that murder from happening: 2

[phantomrose96]

God's worst soldier Edward Elric. Showed up as the youngest member of the Amestrian army, took millions of dollars from them, never followed a single order, helped dismantle their fascist regime, left with a lower kill count than he arrived with, then fucked off to go be a house-husband. Character of all time.

[aka-blaa]

You know, when you said "negative-3 kill count," I, who haven't seen the anime, thought, "He resurrected 3 people?????" But I'm seeing here on the wiki that apparently resurrection in this anime is a terrible idea.

[phantomrose96]

Official addition to this post.

[foxes-in-love]

[fozmeadows]

Watching my toddler figure out how to language is fascinating. Yesterday we were stumped when he kept insisting there was a “Lego winner” behind his bookshelf - it turned out to be a little Lego trophy cup. Not knowing the word for “trophy”, he’d extrapolated a word for “thing you can win”. And then, just now, he held up his empty milk container and said, “Mummy? It’s not rubbish. It’s allowed to be a bottle.” - meaning, effectively, “I want this. Don’t throw it away.” But to an adult ear, there’s something quite lovely about “it’s allowed to be a bottle,” as if we’re acknowledging that the object is entitled to keep its title even in the absence of the original function.

[legit-writing-tips]

Another good post to read for those writing small human characters. 

[jennytrout]

My son was about three when he came to me in the middle of the day and said, “Mommy, there’s a knight behind the bush.” I thought he meant a toy knight or something. So I follow him outside and he goes, “Listen. Do you hear it? It’s night behind the bush.” It was a cricket. A cricket was standing in the little patch of shade under the bush, chirping. So, my son saw this dark area with accompanying nighttime sounds and decided, okay, well, that is a night right there. Their brains are incredible.

[deleted20211121]

My little bean knows she’s two, constantly saying proudly ‘I’m two!’ And the other day she saw this very frail old lady who looked one foot in the grave, pulled a face and said ‘oh shiiiit. She’s three.’ I almost screamed.

[cantnotknope]

I live in Korea and have a lot of international friends, and the same is true with language barriers in adults. 

*Looking at a bowl of pears* “Can you please pass me the… apple’s friend?” 

[masterofbirds]

OH SHIT SHE’S THREE

[ovenroastedtwerkey]

the two year old bean is now 11, that’s how long this post has been going around, and I STILL bust out laughing like a maniac whenever I read ‘oh shiiiit. She’s three.’

[elodieunderglass]

Yeah, I’m not ready for foz’s kid to be a teen….

[fladurblegon]

“What if poor people abuse the system?”

The system intrinsically abuses poor people.

Hope this helps.

[breninarthur]

"What if poor people abuse the system?"

Rich people abuse the system far more and out of pure greed, not necessity or desperation so idrc about that

[assortedinsanities]

Also, if this is an actual concern and we wanne prevent poor people from abusing the system, how about (and here is where it gets a little wild) we build support systems that are accessible, reliable, robust and actually provide enough to live and then some to be happy.

So that poor people are not constantly in a situation where abusing the system would provide major benefits, cause the system as it is intended doesn't meaningfully improve people's life. How about that?

Also if only it was remotely as easy to abuse the system as rich people make it out to be. I mean it is for them, but our situations are different.

[laluce1999]

How I be moving lately

[chamxmxle]

Reminder: if your partner safewords for any reason, first you stop, and then you thank them. You ask if they are okay, and you let them know they did a good job.

[chamxmxle]

I wrote this after someone replied, "why?" to a safeword, by the way. Don't do that.

[crazy-brazilian]

[ales-cortizo]

Such a gift (Pathfinder 2e OC)

[montereybayaquarium]

The Pacific Ocean is wider than the Moon. Anyway how’s your day going?

[noxfauna]

dip moon like cookie

[directactionforhope]

Rich people are literally just lying about being good at money btw

[directactionforhope]

Things like overdraft fees, late fees, parking tickets, fines, subscription renewals, legal fees, penalty fees, sales and discounts, lawsuits - these are things that all cease to matter in any material way once you have enough money

[directactionforhope]

To Jeff Bezos, a parking meter, a plane ticket, and a private jet all effectively cost the same amount of money: none

[dare-to-dm]

My wealthiest aunt credits her fortune to her financial acumen. Last year, her husband died (making her even wealthier), and as she was grieving her children stepped up to help her out with things.

Turns out she is terrible with money. Like, she had multiple copies of the same subscriptions, was overpaying to keep multiple homes maintained, and generally can't budget to save her life. Also, so many things that she assumed were "perks" of her credit card program were actually just her husband paying for upgrades behind her back.

But it doesn't matter because she already has enough money to make problems go away. She can afford to be stupid with it and still think of herself as smart and poor people as dumb.

[morlock-holmes]

I can't stand this shit. This is the kind of rich person behavior that simultaneously makes me envious and angry.

I don't care that they have more stuff than I do, but I do envy that they have more slack. That they can afford to forget things, to be inefficient, or wasteful, and it doesn't matter.

Which is fine by me if you are properly grateful and understand that's what's happening, but good lord it drives me up the wall when people who are terrible with money castigate the poor for being bad at money. When the person who has a bunch of duplicate subscription services they forgot about lectures the destitute about how irresponsible it is to order Doordash, I get enraged.

"Do as I say, not as I do" has infuriated me since I was a child and that irritation has never left me.

[assortedinsanities]

Reminds me of a guy who always used to tell me I just need to budget better and that he was so good at it, so he had so much money to spend. Eventually I snapped and rattled off my entire monthly budget to him and asked where I should save. Should I just skip rent? Electricity?

And he just stared at me and asked "How do you know all that off the top of your head?", because apparently his version of budgeting did not involve knowing your exact income, fixed spending and budget for necessities.

[sanguine-squid]

where is any higher quality version of this image

[satellites-halo]

can't find anything other than this which has maybe 5 extra pixels

[sergal]

[solitairie]

now dance fucker dance man he never had a chance

[fuckyeahchinesefashion]

OP: How to fold a flying pig. (cr简开JK)

(The name flying pig/feizhu飞猪 is inspired by Nezha’s mount the Wind-Fire Wheels. In the animated film, the Wind-Fire Wheels normally take the form of a flying pig.)

[assortedinsanities]

If you are not ready to have a trans child or and intersex child or a disabled child or a child with autism or otherwise neurodivergent, if you are not ready to have a "difficult" child, you are not ready to have a child.

[mockiatoh]

I think it’s important to be able to recognize the different between our emotional response, our moral response, and what we believe should be our legal response.

For example, emotionally, I genuinely think less of someone who buys into stupid conspiracies about organ donation. I think that morally, if you are unwilling (unwilling, not medically unable) to donate organs, you should not be an organ candidate. I don’t think you should be able to say ‘If I’m dead I want all of my organs to rot, even if they could save lives. But I also want to benefit from other people’s sacrifice.’ Fuck you.

But I do not believe it would be ethical (or practical) to legislate that. I think it would be a horrible ethical violation and medical coercion. I recognize that, even as I’m disgusted by people who would let someone die when saving lives would cost them nothing.

Legal codes and ethical guidelines shouldn’t be based around our feelings.

[mockiatoh]

Not long ago, there was an attempt to pass a law where if a baby was born sick and addicted to drugs, the mother could face child abuse charges and have parental rights terminated. Stepping back from any emotional response—either to the criminalization of addiction or to the suffering of newborns—is extremely difficult. I don’t know if it’s a subject that I could have that level of clarity on because it’s such an emotional topic. 

But what I want to highlight is the political bloc who were most effective against the law, and led to its defeat: community healthcare workers who were on the frontlines, whose careers very often were at that intersection of drug abuse and child suffering. 

Their argument wasn’t primarily about the parental rights of the mothers, or about the criminalization of substance use disorders. Instead, it was about what public health policies work in the real world, and what policies cause more harm. They argued these women would be afraid to access resources for harm reduction during pregnancy. This would result in heavier drug usage during pregnancy than if they were able to access harm reduction strategies and resources. There would also be an increase in abandoned infants, babies who are very sick and need immediate medical help. Fear of punishment wouldn’t help anyone. 

In a practical manner, this legislation would likely do more harm while not addressing the actual problems. Several different policies were instituted instead, ones that had been proven effective in practice. I think that there are some situations that we can only find solutions if we can step away from our immediate emotional response to think, or understand that we aren't the right person to try to fix this problem, and focus on where we can make a positive impact instead.

[beardedmrbean]

[unfriendlymoth]

[dualcasterjay]

however small you may think this dog could be, it is sooo much smaller

[pangur-and-grim]

we have to write poems in my creative writing certificate program, so I pieced something together from Belphie's medical reports

[pangur-and-grim]

my professor really liked this and said that it should be 'the nucleus of a chapbook' (so like 15-30 poems of the same theme that I would attempt to get published) but now I feel awkward because I think that she thinks HE DIED? but it turns out, everything will be alright! his heart recovered! the FIP meds are working!

[pangur-and-grim]

if I do make a chapbook, this will be the next page:

[pangur-and-grim]

and then this will be the page after that:

[pangur-and-grim]

I couldn't believe how fast he went from death's door to running and playing once we got the GS441525 into him. I am so incredibly grateful to everyone who's spent their time researching and legislating it!!

[pangur-and-grim]

Belphie is over two years old now, and sometimes when I look at him, I still think he lived.