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[nerdybutch]

howdy, my name is valentín. i'm 23, latine, tme non-binary, a butch lesbian, and here for a good time. my pronouns are she/he/they

my posts and my face

terfs, men, racists, antisemites, pedophiles dni

if you’re a minor (17 years old and under), don’t have your age somewhere on your blog, or are a blank blog please don’t interact or follow

[nerdybutch]

far out 🪐

[nerdybutch]

howdy 🤠

[cuntess-carmilla]

Maybe the reason people find the lesbian label too restricting is out of a combination of:

It being the only sexual identity to the complete exclusion of men as both the subject and object of desire, and most people (even lesbians ourselves!) aren't used to anything that completely excludes men, much less on the realm of sexuality.

Lesbians being the smallest sexual identity group, so naturally most people don't relate to how attraction works for us.

If you, not being a lesbian, try to force yourself into the lesbian label, you're gonna feel restricted, same as any bi or gay person would feel trying to make themselves fit the straight label. Do you understand that whether a label feels rigid or not is entirely subjective? It WILL feel restrictive if it's not the right one for you.

I, being a lesbian, did in actual real life feel desperately restricted and suffocated by the bisexual label as well as the straight label, when I tried to force myself into each of them. I was always performing and policing my unattraction to men and punishing myself when I found myself not liking men "enough" (at all).

I didn't feel unrestricted when I identified as bi, I felt trapped and constricted and that's not the fault of the bi label itself and much less was it a sign that the bi label needs redefining, it was a sign that I wasn't bisexual.

That's what we mean when we say if the lesbian label feels too rigid or restrictive to you that might be because you're just not a lesbian, or you might have a lot of internalized lesbophobia (I definitely had the idea that "not giving men a chance" was mean/uptight/rigid/cruel so I didn't want to be a lesbian in part because I didn't want to be a Mean Dyke to the Poor Men who might desire me and thus had a "right" to a chance with me).

It's not an insult at least when I say it. It's just a fact.

[bananaanna1]

yeehaw<3

[fybutches]

Every piece of media featuring lesbians ever:

[queermasculine]

love it when butch lesbians go by traditionally masculine names. i dont mean the sort of neutral sounding names that feel like they could go either way, like kai or chris (though that’s hot too) i mean shit like like roger or jeremiah or whatever. uncle names. nothing sexier than lesbian called patrick. the g in gf? that stands for george

[bakwaaas]

poll: how do you like your water

1. hot/warmed up

2. room temp

3. cold/chilled

4. ice cold

5. I don’t drink water 😳

[nerdybutch]

if u experienced 90's regional mexican pop music in real time i'm jelly

[nerdybutch]

[nerdybutch]

if u experienced 90's regional mexican pop music in real time i'm jelly

[transcourse]

hey pro-tip for people who can become pregnant, plan B only works best if you weigh below 155 lbs, Ella works best if you weigh below 195 lbs, and if you weigh over that your main alternative to an emergency contraceptive is a copper IUD. this is just one of many examples of healthcare that is both incredibly fatphobic and that i see people totally uninformed about

[natalieironside]

Shout out to trans women who aren't computer scientists or musicians or avant-garde artists or whatever.

Shout-out to tgirls who work at Taco Bell. Thank u queen, society would collapse without you

[snkrfnd]

Over twenty years ago my big brother got me a job at a Taco Bell in the St. Louis suburbs-West County. He warned me that it was the "gay Taco Bell", but since I was coming from the "gay Howard Johnson's" I wasn't shocked. It turns out it was the black trans women Taco Bell complete with black trans women in management. And they'd worked out an arrangement with the local teen Narcotics Anonymous group so that twice a week we would shut down the drive thru and the dining room and exclusively serve 60+ teens in various stages of recovery. And many of the women I worked with were in various stages of being out or transitioning and they were from all generations from teens to over 50. One woman I worked with had a regular corporate job presenting as a man 9-5 Mon-Fri and then came to Taco Bell and worked 6pm -2am Friday and Saturday night so she could be herself surrounded by other black transwomen in those stolen weekends. And we had customers come from all over the metro area because they knew they could be themselves in the dining room. I only worked there from 1999-2001 but for young me, this was a vital, formative experience. Some of the girls came from north city all the way out to the "gay Taco Bell" on Manchester in west county because they heard it was safe to work there. Like- I know times have changed but they haven't changed much in 20 years. I'm still convinced that for lgbt youth, finding a job at your city's version of the "gay Taco Bell" is key to survival.

[natalieironside]

Thank u for sharing this with us

[pizzaback]

reminder in the coming days and weeks to not take pictures of protesters, do not reblog pictures of protesters, particularly Black protesters

[transfaguette]

Just in case you aren't clear on how things work, overturning Roe Vs. Wade will not make abortion illegal federally. Instead, it will give states the legal right to ban abortion, if they so choose, and many red states will attempt this if overturned. But, as of right now, the evening of May 2nd, no such decision has been made, there are no official proceedings, and nothing is set in stone. Now is the time to be loud.

[nerdybutch]

[closet-keys]

the most succinct explanation of why some lesbians use they/them or he/him pronouns is that pronouns are very much like names, in that they are culturally established signifiers we use to refer to someone else, and almost always those signifiers are gendered. 

You’ll see a lot of lesbians start to go by androgynous or masculine names (or nicknames) to feel more comfortable. Sam, Pat, Chris, Jay, Moe, etc. are all really common chosen names among lesbians for that reason. 

I also knew an older butch– my parents’ age– who went by Otter (& her femme partner went by Kitty) because they decided to just depart from standard names entirely– and I see younger lesbians using neo-pronouns in very similar ways for very similar reasons. 

A lesbian who was raised with the name Christina and the pronouns she/her/hers deciding he’s more comfortable with the name Chris and he/him/his pronouns to reflect his complex relationship to womanhood is not a huge confusing leap, it’s pretty normal depending on what circles you’re in. 

Gender is complex, and gender nonconforming lesbians, butches, and femmes have often navigated gender on their own terms to find ways of being comfortable in their bodies, relationships, and lives. 

[marisatomay]

finding out that for the first time in history someone leaked a SCOTUS ruling and they’re overturning roe v wade with alito leading the opinion in between met gala updates i feel like i’m having a stroke

[marisatomay]

and if you think abortion is the end. lol. lmao, even. they’re coming for it all. every civil rights win of the last 70 years. every single one.