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[batmanisagatewaydrug-deactivate]

full and complete offense but the scene in Ghostbusters where Holtzmann starts lip syncing and dancing to DeBarge to flirt with Erin >>> every other attempt at romance in the history of cinema 

[batmanisagatewaydrug-deactivate]

okay 1.) I didn’t think this was gonna get more than like 7 notes but I’m glad it did because it’s true so

2.) I need to genuinely like… sit down and write a well thought out disseration on the Unexpected Screaming Queer Girl Fanservice that was Jillian Holtzmann because I just… like where did that come from? Where in the actual hell did that come from? I’ve NEVER seen a character in a mainstream big-name movie who seems so specifically designed to get wlw viewers all hot and bothered. 

Like… this was none of that lesbian porn nonsense with the most hyperfeminine women imaginable fingering each other with eight inch nails or whatever. Holtzmann in absolutely no way resembles the typical Sexy Lesbian ™ presented to heternormative audiences. She’s all soft butchy and an aggressively unfashionable dresser and she’s just really fucking weird in a way that should almost be off-putting but like… my ovaries are literally falling out of my goddamn body.

I’m not even exaggerating when I talk about the lip sync scene in the original post; it was weird and profoundly geeky and also there was fire involved and yet. And yet. Had I been in Erin Gilbert’s position I would have either a.) burst into more flames or b.) let Holtzmann take me right there because I swear to god no other scene has ever been more tailored to wlw sensibilities. It’s not aggressive sexual pursuit (and thank gaaawd for not making a joke out of a Creepy Lesbian pursuing a straight woman [not that Erin’s straight either]), it’s a display of interest that’s over and kind of sexy in its confidence but also charmingly harmless (fire aside) and adorkable and it’s just sweet.

And I don’t really know where I’m going with this other than a.) this movie either created prime wlw bait completely by accident (doubtful; Kate McKinnon knew exactly what she was doing) or b.) not only did they reboot Ghostbusters with a woman-dominated cast but they also specifically catered the majority fanservice to the wlw demographic and I just. Still don’t know where I’m going with this, I think I’m trying to use faux-deep analysis to cover up my tremendous lady boner over motherfucking Holtzmann and in particular that one goddamn scene this is so embarrassing somebody please stop me. 

[once-a-polecat]

I’m pretty sure that scene was in the movie just to get Kate McKinnon pussy from here to the end of her life.

[no-goddamn-cilantro]

I literally found this because that scene made me realize Holtzmann flirts like a bird and I needed to know if anyone else saw it. And @batmanisagatewaydrug nailed it.

[jacensolodjo]

Tomorrow, October 27th, marks the 5th anniversary of the Pittsburgh Synagogue Shooting. For any of those who may not remember or forgot a few details, especially outside of the US: in 2018, a man named Robert Bowers went into the Tree of Life Synagogue during their Shabbat morning services and opened fire. 11 Jews lost their lives. On August 3, 2023, Robert Bowers was sentenced to death for this antisemitic crime. This was the worst mass shooting of Jews in the US to date.

Yesterday, October 25th, Jewish students at Cooper Union, a college in New York had to barricade themselves in the library while 'protestors' banged on the doors and shouted 'Free Palestine'. Note that the students had done absolutely nothing to cause this and have absolutely no power to do anything about the situation in the Middle East. This was an antisemitic attack, not a protest. You don't trap people for a protest. That's basic protesting rules. Disrupting is NOT the same as trapping. Peaceful protesting is defined as not blocking doors. Even if the students had opened the doors the demonstrators were right there and threatening. Not peaceful. It took over 40 minutes for the students to be safely escorted out of the building.

Also yesterday, a 6-person family in LA was woken up at approximately 520am by a man who kicked in their door and was wielding a knife. Blessedly (somewhat) he had entered the master bedroom first where he confronted the husband and his pregnant wife (at 9 months which means any amount of stress could put her into labor and put her baby at risk). All four children were also at home. Luckily the husband was able to fend off the knife-wielding antisemite. Multiple reasons he knew they were Jewish range from the mezuzah on their door to the fact he is apparently a neighbor and had talked to them before a few months previous where he found out they are Israeli. He apparently was drunk but had the wherewithal to state his intentions: he was going to kill them because they are Jews.

October has not been kind to Jews in the past few years and especially not this week in particular. Please, we are not okay. We are very tired and hurt and scared.

[tributary]

people who care about (or claim to care about) palestinian liberation should ally with left-wing israelis instead of shunning them for being israeli, unless of course they hate israelis more than they care for palestinians.

[not-the-blue]

by utterly refusing to listen to israelis no matter what you're only giving the right wing what it wants: an enemy

[penguicorns-are-cool]

So many people trying to come up with solutions for a problem they know nothing about all on their own when there are a ton of groups in Israel already working on it with actual plans to make Israel a better place for everyone.

Like, that's generally what you're supposed to do when it comes to stuff like this is listen to the organizations actively working on it

Anyway here's some links

Home - Hand in Hand

Hand in Hand is Israel's largest network of bilingual, multicultural Jewish-Arab schools. Join the movement today.

Hand in Hand are a bunch of bilingual, multicultural schools in Israel meant to counteract a divisive culture between Israelis and Palestinians by encouraging multicultural cooperation early on. Basically just raising a generation of kids who are more culturally aware.

About Us — onevoicemovement

One-Voice supports Israeli Palestinian and global grass-roots and leaders working towards a peaceful resolution

[tributary]

English | standing-together

Standing Together is the grassroots people’s movement in Israel. We organize Jews and Arabs, locally and nationally, around campaigns for pe

Standing Together organizes Jewish and Palestinian citizens of Israel working for peace, equality, and climate justice. They’ve done a lot of outreach to underserved/unrecognized Bedouin communities during the war.

For reconciliation and dialogue We work to end the cycle of bloodshed and towards achieving a diplomatic arrangement agreed upon by both si

Parents Circle Families Forum is comprised of Israelis and Palestinians who have lost family members to the conflict. They advocate for reconciliation and a diplomatic solution.

[dvar-trek]

Friends of Roots

Roots - Shorashim - Judur

Fostering a grassroots movement of understanding, nonviolence, and transformation among Israelis and Palestinians. Roots’ mission is to enhance dialogue, transformation and bridge-building and it is based on a mutual recognition of each People’s connection to the Land. Roots is about developing understanding and solidarity despite ideological differences. Roots is a place where local peoples can take responsibility.

[sprinkledsalt]

The American Hamas apologists who are out here like “If you shitlibs don’t do what we say, we won’t vote in 2024!!!!”

1.) As if any of you got off your lazy, selfish asses long enough to vote in any election in your life 2.) As if entertaining the dirtbag left has ever yielded a positive result for Democrats 3.) Democrats don’t want terrorism apologists in the party, actually. I know it might be incomprehensible to radicalized ghouls who are deep in their social media or college campus bubble, but decent people don’t think mass murder and rape are ever justified, and saying otherwise would be electoral poison. And in general, decent people want tankies and terrorism stans to stay far away from them. Shocking, I know

I also think it’s ghoulish to make a conflict that is, above all, harming people in the Middle East far away from us into another endless excuse for why you won’t go press a button in a voting booth every few years, but that should go without saying (and we all know a GOP administration would be worse about this in every way, but that goes without saying x2)

[midnightssea]

While it’s true that you sometimes can’t trust mainstream news publications for unbiased reporting, you also can’t necessarily trust unsourced rage tweets and instagram infographics for accurate information. Media literacy is in the mf toilet.

[midnightssea]

elaborating since I wrote this in bed at 7 AM:

There’s always room for human error or bias even in the most reputable news sources, and it’s good to be aware of that and read critically. But if you’re wholly rejecting a news source that employs professional journalists and has standardized vetting and fact-checking processes, while at the same time consuming information uncritically from random social media users with unclear credentials….it may be time to reconsider your approach! I’m also not saying every un-sourced social media post about world events is automatically incorrect but this is why you should consult multiple news sources and develop your discernment skills

[leonardo-nierman]

Everyone who mocked their parents and grandparents for being glued to facebook should shut up now since tiktok and twitter and instagram are doing the same to them

[spacelazarwolf]

if any of y’all were wondering what leftist antisemitism can look like, here’s an example:

here’s the rhetoric they’re blatantly borrowing from:

so yeah, there absolutely is antisemitism that is unique to leftism and if you try to argue there isn’t that is probably because you agree with it!

also before you try to whine abt this in the notes, i am a leftist jew. cry to someone else.

[spacelazarwolf]

bonus: this person also said “well white supremacists also hate catholics” which truly sent me over the edge. so many leftists think that simply being a leftist makes them intelligent and moral and leftist antisemitism does a fantastic job of obliterating that claim.

[tiktokantisemites]

I thought I was losing it when I saw the comment about how WS see Catholics.

[spacelazarwolf]

respectfully, no it doesn’t. this discussion (the context of the screenshotted comments) was about conditional whiteness specifically in the context of white and white presenting jews. the term and politics surrounding “rootless cosmopolitan” are explicitly about antisemitism. they’re about the fact that jews will always be outsiders no matter where we go, always Too Much Like The Enemy. if a group hates poc, we’re not white enough even if we’re paler than the moon. if a group hates white ppl, we’re the whitest around even if we’re the darkest shade on the scale. huge chunks of our community are disregarded to make our multiracial ethnic group into whatever boogeyman is needed. and like i do get where you’re coming from, but this discussion is very specific to jewish experience with antisemitism and oppression.

[fromchaostocosmos]

'rootless cosmopolitan' is an antisemitic dogwhistle, you can't suddenly remove the antisemitism part and claim it still is what is

no, the antisemitism is what makes it a dogwhistle. in the same way that 'cultural marxist' and 'globalist' are antisemitic dogwhistles.

it is not a jab or taunt, it a dogwhistle. a wink and nod if you will, the not so subtle subtle cruelty, it is meant to be a sleight of hand, a "i didn't say anything they are just crazy and over reacting" is it gaslighting, it is real, it is normalized, and it is everywhere

[postingtreyf]

Security is a massive fucking part of Jewish institution budgets. How is that NOT a limiting factor for communal standards of living? How the fuck are regular “you aren’t safe here” reminders NOT lowering standards of living? Like, you don’t stop looking over your shoulder just because you’re not in a JCC or shul. How is considering whether you should use cash instead of a card because your name is a bit Too Ethnic NOT lowering a standard of living?

This meme exists because antisemitism exists wherever gentiles are gathered, regardless of their politics.

Yeah, right wingers are more likely to literally do murder and violence, but they’re enabled and emboldens by everyone else when antisemitism is socially acceptable.

You can punch all the Nazis you want, but if you’re not anti-antisemitism you’re not addressing a root cause of why the Nazis are openly walking around being Nazis.

[jessicalprice]

So in addition to claiming that “antisemitism” applies to any speaker of a Semitic language, gentiles are now claiming that “rootless cosmopolitan” applies to all Americans? I fucking cannot.

[tributary]

you guys want to see some objectively useless analysis? here you go:

[no-goddamn-cilantro]

Cultural Christianity meeting braindead leftist ideology. Throwing identity politics (strict oppressor/oppressed boundaries and the role of privilege applied without regard to scale) in a blender with Christian cultural standards (anti-intellectualism, purity of ideology) and somehow the slurry of ideologies becomes the worst of all worlds.

[meangirlnurse]

i posted a somewhat more thoughtful take about this last night but like

increasingly i think there are a lot of gentiles (with absolutely no personal ties to palestine) who are picturing a resolution where the israeli state is dismantled entirely by force

so there’s no need to care about anything jews think or feel, and that’s super radical praxis, because the israeli government is apparently going to be taken down by a les miserables style revolution

and like. does anyone with a rudimentary understanding of international politics want to explain to the class why this might go badly

[meangirlnurse]

have you guys ever read the story of samson? do you remember how it ends

[meangirlnurse]

the last couple of days gentiles have made it very clear that they absolutely will not engage with the idea that jewish support for the israeli state is driven in considerable part by a belief that jews will never really be safe without the israeli state

and ok. like i tried. i can’t make you stop actively reinforcing that belief

but i also want you to realize that the israeli government is widely understood to have nuclear weapons

do you see any way that this strategy could backfire on maybe the entire planet

[tributary]

any anti-zionism that is not committed to fighting antisemitism and making the diaspora safe for jews to live in is not just counterproductive: it is worse than useless.

[stripedroseandsketchpads]

Also worth noting (for people who may be unfamiliar because use of the terms has ticked up massively in the last week) that making your commitment to fighting antisemitism clear is really important because there are contexts (a lot, in fact) in which calling Jews zionists is a neo-Nazi dogwhistle which does not have anything to do with supporting Palestinians. Specifically using the word “Zionists” to mean Jews-in-general (regardless of their politics) is neo-Nazi talk. Assuming all Jews are zionists has similar connotations. So does arguing over Jews who have publicly stated that they are anti-zionist and saying they must be lying. For that reason, “Does this person conflate being Jewish with zionism and refuse to believe non- or anti-zionist Jews exist?” is an extremely basic litmus test for antisemitism and a huge number of ostensible leftists are failing it miserably right now.

Also while it’s true that there are Jewish-led organizations and publications which have described the extreme right wing of Israel as “Jewish supremacists” because of their open statements that Israeli Jews’ rights are more important than those of Israeli Arabs and Palestinans, the phrase has also been/is still used by white supremacists who are inverting the idea of white supremacy as a part of the great replacement conspiracy theory, and they and other antisemites use it as a rhetorical device similar to Holocaust inversion (“Jews are the real Nazis”). If you go in the “Jewish supremacy” tag you will find neo-Nazis in there! Context-free use of the term also reads as a massive red flag because of that.

People are mostly strangers on the internet. Strangers have no way of knowing who is and is not an antisemite unless they visibly, explicitly, stand up for Jews and against antisemitic violence and rhetoric.

Just like with Palestinian solidarity, if you want people’s trust you need to show that you are trustworthy, because a ton of hostility is being directed towards Jewish people worldwide right now and default assumption of good faith is not something that everyone can afford right now.

If you can recognize why Palestinians, Arabs (& their diasporas) and Muslims are especially leery of dog whistles and language which seems fine on the surface level but may have double meanings, and why they may not trust that strangers are supportive of their human rights or will stand up for their safety against bigots, you can do the same for Jewish people.

[hazel2468]

Seems like a good time to remind people that the phrase "from the river to the sea" - while apparently popular on this hellsite, is basically a call for the total eradication of not just the Israeli state (and by that I don't mean the government, I mean EVERYTHING) but of every Jew in that area.

SO. If I see it on your blog? Bye. I do not trust you to have anything even remotely approaching a nuanced take to this fucking tragedy.

[spacelazarwolf]

leftists on tumblr have been so fucking bold the past few days like literally just blatantly calling for genocide:

like????? hello??????? half the world's population of jews lives in israel, whether you like it or not. calling for all israelis to "die brutally" is calling for jewish genocide. ironically, it would be about the same percentage of jews who were killed during the shoah. this isn't activism. this isn't helping palestinians. this is making things actively worse for them just so you can get your antisemitic reactionary rocks off.

[traycakes]

People will make posts saying "land back doesn't mean we will kill all the white people" when talking about the US then say genocide is necessary for Palestinians to return to their homes.

People will make posts calling out Israel's use of collective punishment then say all Israeli citizens should be punished for the sins of their government and far-right movement.

A lot of people have convinced themselves that everyone living in Israel is a rich (not true) Jew (not true) who moved there as an adult (modern Israel has existed for nearly a century lots of the people living there were born there) which means it's ok to wish them dead because they are oppressors actively stealing land.

The double standard is obvious.

[noparlpf]

Also, many of the people who did move there as adults were refugees from ethnic violence and expulsion from, not just the European diaspora, but also from all those Arab Muslim nations western leftist historical revisionists keep claiming would be happy to have peace with Israel if Israel would just stop defending itself from attacks funded by some of those nations.

[athingofvikings]

Just to give some hard numbers on @noparlpf's point. Oh, and just to really ram it home on the "they can go back where they came from!" line?

Yemen, to give one example, has passed laws making it legal to murder Jews.

Not only is the double standard obvious, but the intent is obvious, in that there are only two places where it is acceptable for Jews to exist.

Crushed under the boot as a subjugated minority, or in the grave as a moral lesson.

[zombiiehorse-deactivated2024032]

Working in a custoner service job is an incredibly easy way to get dehumanized to other people btw.

[zombiiehorse-deactivated2024032]

This isn't meant to be a haha funny relatably upset post fyi. Like this is just straight up something I'm saying. People do not treat customer service employees like humans as much as they should. I've had a man hit me in the back with a bag of scented pinecones to get my attention to tell me he found them when I said I didn't know if they were sold out since I hadn't been at work in a week, that man months later was complaining about me to a coworker, he recognized me half a year later despite having completely changed my look and brought it up like it was funny. I've had a woman tell me to my face that I was useless because I didn't have an easy solution to finding a price on something before demanding i lift the giant, heavy tent into her cart for her despite being half her size, and she didn't even buy it. I've had people ask me to open a product that I am not allowed to open, only to do it right in front of me when I say its not allowed. I've had people laugh at me when I said I was the one who was assisting them with something and scream at me when I said I couldn't assist with something. I've had to uncomfortably chuckle along when someone makes a joke about how I should know everything in the store because I didn't know if they were genuinely just joking or not. People just shove past or into me, or keep pushing their cart at me when I dont even notice them, because they expect me to move. The most fucked up part? These people are always completely polite to me when I'm just another customer in the store. I've had someone who told me I should just quit my job while on the clock later politely say excuse me and talk about the weather when I was simply buying chips out of uniform. In the same god damn day. The list goes on and on and on. The fact is that even if you don't personally dehumanize a customer service employee, so many people DO.

[zombiiehorse-deactivated2024032]

This is ok to reblog btw, if you want to tell your own stories of experiences in a job like that go ahead. Just know that I'm sincerely sorry you had to or still have to deal with that stuff and you are so awesome for making it through that man

[ashtarthysscribe]

Someone literally poured half a cup of hot coffee on one of my coworkers at Starbucks while she was kneeling down to swap out the trash bags at the condiment station. Poured it right down the back of her neck, because they just couldn't wait fifteen seconds for her to get a new trash bag put in and the bin put back in the cabinet.

"Oops. Guess I missed."

And none of us could do a damn thing about it, because we knew the company wouldn't have our backs if he complained. The best we could do is let her punch out early to go to urgent care, which meant she didn't get paid for most of her shift.

Fifteen seconds. "Oops." Second-degree burn.

[no-goddamn-cilantro]

I had someone tell me to my face that they "don't care about [my] name, just get me my food" and let their children trip me as I was passing with a loaded tray because it "took too long" to get their food. This was dinner on a Friday night. We were packed.

This same woman goes to my mother's church and was, at the time, considered one of her favorite friends.

You put on a uniform and it allows people to ignore that you're a human too.

[cocksuredness-deactivated202410]

If this is the virgin loser website how come all of my mutuals are hot and smart? Skill issue maybe

[unbidden-yidden-deactivated20240]

Detroit synagogue president Samantha Woll found fatally stabbed outside her home

Samantha Woll, 40, led the Isaac Agree Downtown Detroit Synagogue since 2022. Police have not announced a motive or suspect.

Okay so as far as I can tell, they haven't yet confirmed that this particular murder was a hate crime; however, I'd like you to consider that it's extremely likely giving the current global explosion in antisemitic hate crimes being egged on across the political spectrum that a highly visible Jew in politics and community leadership might have, in fact, been murdered because she's Jewish.

[esthersjumblrblog]

Hello! I knew this woman and she was the president of my "other" Synagogue. The community has asked that, if you are able to, to please donate in her memory (link here).

May she be remembered as a kind, and incredibly smart woman. May her memory be a blessing for all of us who knew her.

[unbidden-yidden-deactivated20240]

Boosting this; may her memory be a blessing to all of her family, friends, and community. I am so sorry your community is going through this right now.

[esthersjumblrblog]

Thank you so much. I am upset because I will be at work today and will miss the funeral. I'm hoping to join one of the opportunities to mourn later on. We are all also still holding onto hope that this was an act of random violence. I didn't read the article, so pardon me if this is repeat information, but she also was a (as I recall) leading member of a Jewish-Muslim coalition that predates 10/7.

I speak for myself here, but I know that work like that does not matter to the eyes of people who hold that much hate in their heart, but I would mourn double if someone who so actively worked for peace was targeted.

[tributary]

fellas if you’re trying to cancel me for saying “rape is bad all the time no matter who does it,” that says a lot more about you than it ever could about me. and it says nothing good.

[gay-otlc]

Some of yall will (correctly) say that Israel shouldn't punish Palestine as a whole for the actions of Hamas, and then you'll immediately go congratulate Palestine as a whole for the actions of Hamas. "Don't conflate Hamas with Palestinian citizens" means "Don't conflate Hamas with Palestinian citizens," not "Don't conflate Hamas with Palestinian citizens, except when I do it to celebrate the kikes colonizers dying."

[nadandkfa]

they so quick to scream antisemitic any time ppl stand up for palestinians STOP TRYIN' TO PLAY THE VICTIM. israel been killing the ppl whose land they stole, pls don't distort the facts, what's wrong with the stand up for urself from the zionist occupier?! as long as we're not racist towards jews and this is not antisemitic >:/ and i thinkk this ain't abt focusing on hamas as well...

[gay-otlc]

Standing up for Palestinians is not antisemetic, and I never claimed it was. You can stand up for Palestinians in plenty of ways besides screaming at random Jews on the internet, and all of those ways are significantly more helpful for the people suffering. What is antisemetic is:

Celebrating the death of the most Jews in a single day since the Holocaust

Cheering on an organization that is very clearly antisemetic

Also you appear to have missed the point, so, one more time: Hamas does not represent Palestinian citizens as a whole.

[tributary]

i would not be okay with someone hurting me for political reasons and if you say otherwise about yourself, that’s deeply unwell behavior.

[tributary]

telling people to go to the united states of america so that they are not complicit in colonialism is. well it’s a choice

[no-goddamn-cilantro]

Don't participate in colonialism by going to the Colonization Capital of the World.