Rooks of the Building

mentally ill maverique trying to live life. i like to write whatever im thinking about.

[ocearba]

hello there! 𖤓

hey! im rucach o'cearba. you can call me just rucach or ocearba, whatever boats your float. im just a mique living my life, trying to get through the days.

i use many pronouns, but mainly thon/thons and he/him. i would appreciate thon/thons being used. i am a solarian maverique. im a midwest USian with nothing to do except ramble on the internet.

im audhd and dissociative with recurrent depressive episodes, so that really affects how i go about on the internet. i miss cues a lot and have trouble keeping my attention, so details get lost on my easily. i ask youre just patient with me.

i run a side blog @rookie-coins for coining terms and stuff! i also write about stuff on my blogspot, rooks of the building. feel free to read it if you want to, but i'll ramble here too

i don't have a dni and will block as i please.

[ocearba]

Gender Queer and Non-Binary Opinion Survey, June '26

Gender Queer and Non-Binary Opinion Survey, June '26

An opinionated survey for non-binary and genderqueer individuals and their thoughts on the current public understanding of non-binary identi

Hello, I'm Rucach O'Cearba! I'm just a hobbyist with an interest in anthropology and queer issues.

I'm hosting a survey regarding how non-binary people feel they are perceived by both their binary and non-binary peers, as well as their opinions on others. This survey is intended specifically for those who are non-binary and genderqueer.

This survey is entirely anonymous, but results WILL be posted publicly. Do not take this survey if you do not wish for your results to be posted, but once again, you will not be named or personally identified.

[ocearba]

nonbinary is not solely a singular gender identity and it doesnt mean that you dont have a gender or that youre a boy and a girl or anything like that. its an umbrella term first and foremost and it encompasses all sorts of binary rejection. androgyne, bigender and other multigender identities, genderfluid, agender, genderless, neutrois, maverique, aporagender, demigenders, are all examples of nonbinary identities. some nonbinary people DO use nonbinary as a single gender term. the best way to know the specifics of someones identity is to just ask us.

not all nonbinary people use they them or even like the set. nonbinary people can use he him, she her, it its, neopronouns, or any combination of these. it is perfectly acceptable and encouraged to default to they them if you do not know a persons pronouns, but the best way to know how to call a nonbinary person is to just ask us.

nonbinary people are not "theys" or "thems" or "they thems" or any term that simplifies us to pronouns. we are not all "things" or "creatures." there are absolutely nonbinary people who are alright with, or even use, these terms, but many of us do not like the dehumanizing aspect of it and find it offensive. the best way to know how to refer to us is to just ask us.

nonbinary people may present any way they want. they can present femininely, masculinely, neutrally, androgynously, or with any other modality. nonbinary people are not required to present "opposite" of their sex and we are not required to present neutrally or androgynously.

nonbinary people can be straight just as they can be gay or lesbian. not all nonbinary people are multisexual. it is entirely up to the person to decide how to label themselves. some nonbinary people use these more well known terms and some use terms made explicitly for nonbinary people such as trixic, toric, enbian, ceterosexual, gai, strayt, uranic, neptunic, and so many more. some nonbinary people use multiple attraction labels and some only use one. some nonbinary people use consistent labels and some nonbinary people use contradictory ones. it is entirely up to the person to decide how to label themselves.

nonbinary people can choose to transition socially, medically, or both. some nonbinary people pick a different name and some use their birth name. some nonbinary people choose a gender neutral name and some choose explicitly masculine or feminine ones. some nonbinary people want to start HRT and some do not. some nonbinary people choose to take typically prescribed amounts and some choose to microdose HRT. some nonbinary people go through the medilegal process and some DIY. some nonbinary people want top surgery and others dont. some nonbinary people desire opposite genitalia and some nonbinary people are fine with their current. some nonbinary people are altersex and desire a mix, combination, or lack of genitalia. some nonbinary people are intersex and many of us are perisex or dyadic.

nonbinary people are people with diverse experiences and we deserve to be understood and treated as the human beings we are.

[ocearba]

i don't know if i just never noticed it but i feel like the aggression against people who use contradictory labels has spiked tenfold this pride month. literally cant go on twitter without seeing someone pissed off about bi lesbians and gaybians and lesboys. radfems coming out of the woodwork to disavow transgender and nonbinary lesbians. even xenogender users can't escape it.

i know it's probably just online queer discourse but with how much the internet and the real world have become intertwined i'm worried about these people taking these ideas with them offline. years ago people would be 2 completely different people on and offline and now it seems like it's become more acceptable to mix the two.

it's also gone to show how little people really understand about GQs and enben and how willing they are to stuff us right back into boxes, but this time "wokely," which by the way the bastardization of the term "woke" is also immensely pissing me off. also the amount of people that see their identities as vip clubs that need to focus on excluding people instead of the community we're supposed to be.

i have a feeling the quick slope down back into conservative and right wing thinking has made people who cant think for themselves hop on this bandwagon. this is a queer issue altogether. i'm american so this is mostly centered on american issues, forgive me.

multiple states are practically unlivable for transgender people. tennessee passed a bill requiring medical providers to report the information of those who seek gender affirming care in May. multiple states are blocking people from changing their gender markers on any legal document. transgender people with a gender marker on their drivers license that doesnt' match the one on their birth certificate can be arrested for identity fraud. the federal government has rolled back amendments on birth certificates. some more petty things like proclaiming june "nuclear family month" with verbiage that implicitly excludes queer families from this month, only serving to undermine pride month because the government doesn't actually care about the families in the states they're supposed to represent. this is all just american stuff and other countries like the UK are also seeing a significant regression after years of apparent progression.

so basically what i'm getting at is there are all of these genuine queer related issues but people would rather be on the internet telling people with contradictory labels that they're not valid. i do not consider these people, people that insist we as queer individuals must pander to allocishet normative ideologies, that we must make ourselves palatable for the majority, part of the queer community.

this post doesn't really serve anything but for me to complain and i hope for people to feel a bit more encouraged to do something. i know so many queers in the us live in rural areas where queer activism is practically impossible and i'm not here to shame those who literally cant do anything. but if there's a pride organization in your town, or any humanitarian organization in general, now is a good time to get involved.

also, it might just be my region but i've noticed a lot of pride festivals have been moved to october, which is queer history month, because of the intensifying heat, so if you're planning on going to one you might want to check that your org didn't move it.

happy pride, and let's focus on uplifting each other instead of tearing each other down, please

[plutoqueer-deactivated20260508]

🪐🌈 Plutoqueer‼️ (Coined by ME!)

The emoji in its combo is not Pluto, but it suffices.

Name and stances chosen mainly based on the idea that Pluto does not “fit in” (considering it does not meet the criteria to be considered a “normal planet”).

Stances also decided based on the idea that Pluto would look out for Earth, and would be against the ones harming and draining the life from its loved one, and so on.

࣪ ִֶָ☾.࣪࿐

(The following is subject to change.)

Plutoqueers Are:

• Supportive of (Harmless) “Contradictory”/Controversial IDs

• Supportive of (SOME) TransIDs (ex. Transgender & Transspecies) – Where the line is drawn depends on the individual.

• Supportive of Self-Expression

• Supportive of Disalignment Between Gender and Expression

• Supportive of Disability Pride

• Supportive of Alterhumanity

• Supportive of Diversity / Diverse in Many Ways

• Supportive of Activism / Activists Themselves

Plutoqueers Are NOT:

• Supportive of Harmful Language (ex. Slurs & Misuse of AGAB Terminology)

• Supportive of Exclusionism

• Supportive of Any Form of Bigotry

• Supportive of Abuse

• Supportive of Environmental Harm (AI, littering, etc.)

• Supportive of Staying Silent (IF & WHEN One Can Speak Up)

࣪ ִֶָ☾.࣪࿐

Brown Stripe Represents:

“Weird” Connections to Identity/Humanity

Orangeish Stripe Represents:

Those Who Have Struggled Due to The Affects of Their Disabilities, Being Closeted, Facing Bigotry, etc.

Grey Stripe Represents:

Inclusion and Acceptance

Tan Stripe Represents:

Activism Against Bigotry and Other Types of Harm

Black Stripe Represents:

Willingness to Protect The Earth and Others

[themaveriqueagenda]

there is no nonbinary identity that is more accepted than others*.

people say nonbinary means being in between the binary genders until someone is androgyne or something similar, then they're a bad nonbinary person for fitting a stereotype.

people say nonbinary means not having a gender until someone is agender, then they're missing a fundamental part of what makes us human.

people say nonbinary means being both binary genders until someone is a manwoman or similar, then they're being contradictory.

people say nonbinary is a third gender until someone is maverique or similar, then they're just making up identities to be special.

people say nonbinary means being gender-neutral until someone is neutrois or similar, then they're also bad for fitting a stereotype.

people say nonbinary people all fit into either transmasc or transfem until someone does, then they're actually just a trans man or a trans woman in denial.

and this supposed validation of different ways to be nonbinary is only done to invalidate other people, i.e. if i say i'm nonbinary and maverique, i guarantee you someone's gonna turn around and insist i must be masculine or feminine, or that i'm not really nonbinary because nonbinary means genderless, then they will do the same thing to an agender person. they only say this to invalidate us while not trying to seem like a complete bigot, as in "i accept nonbinary people who do it correctly".

they keep moving the goalposts so that we can never win.

and the fact that some nonbinary people see this exorsexist behaviour and insist there is a thing such as a "gender trinary" where three genders are more accepted than others means that their rhetoric is working. it's creating a divide within the nonbinary community. it's making our community tear itself apart.

the sooner we realise they do this to all of us and work together to defend each other, the stronger we wlll be.

*there are nonbinary people whose genders are pretty binary-adjacent and who can live as a binary gender without much discomfort or dysphoria which gives them a bit more privilege, but that's not at all the same as these nonbinary men or women being accepted for who they are. they are accepted as fake binary versions of them, and if they were more openly nonbinary, that part would not be accepted, they wouldn't be accepted as their whole selves. acceptance on the condition of keeping parts of you to yourself is not acceptance. i've actually heard from multiple nonbinary men and women who opened up to some people about also being nonbinary and they lost support, friends and more.

[oatneko]

ִ ࣪ ˖ ࣪ CrowQueer ! ᰔ ִ ׄ

An ideology about taking anything and everything that catches your eye! Even if said thing is technically "not for you" or is inherently "Anti you".

This means if a term, stance, or other catches your eye — Whether due to the flag design or meaning — you will take it, even if you are on the coiner of said things dni or on the list of what the term is anti about. This is because you are a crow and crows do not care. If they like it? They will take it!

This flag was inspired by @nyaqueerdump while we were chatting so they get like 80% of the credit /silly