Marshmallow

{ she/her | bisexual | idiot }

[selfgoals]

If you can’t reblog this, unfollow me now.

[sunkissedspider]

it’s fucking disgusting that i just lost 6 followers

[hotel-firingsquad]

[emt-monster]

Please reblog if you know anyone who might take party drugs.

[smeliot-deactivated20220528]

this is so important

[arkhamarchitecture]

Also important information: A cop cannot arrest you for something you already took. You can tell a cop to his face that you just injected black tar heroin in your veins and as long as you don’t currently have any on you (including things like syringes or residue in a pipe), there’s fuck all he can do about it.

I take police reports for a living. The number of people who will happily tell someone “Well officer, this fight started because I smoked crack cocaine earlier,” is astounding and also not at all illegal. The criminal charge is for Possession of a Controlled Substance. If you don’t possess any at the time, there’s no crime. The only thing you can get dinged for is if you’re actively on a drug and driving, in which case - DUI.

Please, please, please tell EMTs what you took. They’re not going to rat you out to the cops and even if they did, you will still be okay.

[kenderfriend]

Spreading the word, being honest with paramedics and doctors can save your life

[wadefeltonism-deactivated202106]

rb if you’d wipe all pedophiles off this earth

[mohawkmama]

It’s sad that there are only 13k notes on this..m

[thiccdaddy-mbaku]

put this on all 3 of my blogs

[opaleye]

hi i’m back and yes i am now neck deep into the dream smp fandom and yes i am indeed a technoblade and ranboo fan

[runawayalters]

Please reblog this if you believe that alters are real people with valid emotions

Please, I need to prove a point. It would mean a lot to one of my very depressed and suicidal alters.

[miss-nejire]

I know I constantly reblog things that may seem stupid. But I have a friend who has alters. And while she has many of them, I treat every.single.one with respect and wish to someday make friends with them too. I love those people istg💕

[alternativemlm]

Billie Joe Armstrong literally wrote a song about coming out as bisexual as a teenager, and then like two years later wrote one that was pretty much all about dressing up in drag and getting fucked by/fucking guys, and y'all STILL say he’s a “straight ally” because he married a woman??

[pavelchekovswig]

[coldwarfem]

The same goes for Freddy Mercury and David Bowie. Both were openly bi. Both wrote (multiple) songs about their queerness. Both are pigeonholed as either “gay” or “straight”. They were both neither of those things.

[flagellant]

hey remember when freddy mercury wrote a literal song about wanting to be allowed to be bisexual without it being a big deal and was incredibly obvious about it and then straighties went “oh lol look at how quirky queen is writing a song all about bicycles!”

[charlie-in-a-beanie]

This also happened to p!nk, she’s openly bisexual but since she’s married to a man and has had two babies with him, people say that she’s straight.

Like, yeah she does a lot and shows a lot of support for the LGBT+ community but she isn’t just an ally, she’s part of that community.

Biphobia is completely real and so many Bi wlw and mlm are assigned the “straight” role when they just ARENT.

[prince-spence]

[pepperpatrol]

Also let’s add Lady Gaga to the mix. She’s repeatedly shit on for Born this Way for not being part of the community when she is, in fact, openly bisexual and writes song about being LGBT

[holyfunnyhistoryherring]

[Image 1: the “It’s free real estate” guy with the altered caption “It’s Biphobia”

Image 2: a picture of Chris Fleming with the altered caption “Okay, was anybody going to tell me that ‘Bicycle Race’ was about being bi or was I just supposed to learn that from a post about Billie Joe Armstrong myself?” End ID.]

[brunhiddensmusings]

its baffling that bisexuality is considered ‘invisible’ when theres a whole pantheon of the most loud rhinestone bedazled spectacles of entertainment being openly vocal that theyre bi its like a simpsons bit where everyone ignores the blinking neon sign

[spottygeek]

You ever just hyperfixate on the fact that if it wasn't for the plague we'd all be speaking french

[microwaved-cheese-sandwich]

Explain

[spottygeek]

So rat fleas hitch rides on the rats on ships.

Who can afford to buy imported food and goods?

The rich.

What do the rich blame for the plauge?

cats.

What do cats kill?

Rats.

Rats are all over the land, their fleas infect more rich people than poor cause they aren't where the rats are.

What do the rich people speak?

French.

What do the commoners/poor people speak?

English.

With the doctors and lords and ladies all dying, that mean less people are speaking French and more English so when England heals the dominant language becomes English and the uk had at one point an empire and spread their language everywhere and thats why English has so many French roots and why its the dominant language

[microwaved-cheese-sandwich]

What the fuck

[spottygeek]

Yes it is in fact the fuck

[microwaved-cheese-sandwich]

Thank you for this fuck

[acupofteaandmore-deactivated201]

if i ever misgender you or use slang (bro, man, gurl, dude) that makes you feel even slightly uncomfortable please tell me because your gender identity and comfort is more important than any word i may use to refer to you

[sonseulsoleil]

hey fun fact: shipping real people is invasive, creepy, and unethical. Not to mention, extremely disrespectful to the people you’re shipping, and the people they’re actually in relationships with 

[sparatus]

bangs fists on the table this is a strictly ANTI-cringe culture blog!!! make ur shitty mary sues!!! shove them up against a canon character yelling for them to just kiss already!!! drop-kick urself into ur favorite story!!! do whatever makes u happy dammit!!! have fun u glorious bastards!!!

[catsnraincoats]

Hey girl im consuming a new media

[catsnraincoats]

help girl I'm hyperfixating

[sassenachsansa-deactivated20201]

The narrative of ‘this person was disabled but their disability was cured as part of their story’ is ableist

[kipplekipple]

The narrative of ‘this person is disabled but “overcame” disability in order for them to be a hero’ (e.g. a paralysed person finding a way to walk) is ableist

[explorerrowan]

And just for clarification for the non-disabled, using adaptive technologies, like prostheses or whatever, is not ableist as long as you never forget. Ask yourself questions about the benefits but also the limitations of whatever adaptive thing you’re giving the character.

They have to take a pill every day to treat a chronic illness or chronic pain? Okay, what happens when they forget, or are in a bad situation and run out of pills?

They lost a limb or are paralyzed and now they have a sci-fi cybernetic prosthesis/exoskeleton to replace the lost functionality? Cool. What does maintenance look like? Does it ever malfunction? What happens if they don’t or can’t take care of it? Do they still get phantom pains even with the adaptation?

They’re deaf or blind or anosmic, but they’re a wizard who uses magic to adapt to the lost sense? Fine. What does it take to maintain that magic? Do they have adaptive strategies for when the magic fails?

They’re autistic or have ADHD or schizophrenia or some other cognitive disorder, and they have a chip in their head to make it easier to communicate when non-verbal? Okay. What exactly does it do for them? Does it ever malfunction or give them headaches? What are other ways they’ve adapted to their disability apart from this chip?

Other questions to ask that go for all kinds of things:

Do they have a service animal? For what tasks or situations is it trained?

Do their family/friends know how to help if their adaptive technologies/strategies fail?

Is their disability (or the adaptation) visible or observable to others? How do others react?

Has their society adapted to accommodate disabilities, and if so, in what ways? (Ramps, closed captions, sign language, etc.)

Basically, think about what it adds to the story to have your character disabled. If you were just going to completely cure it with no ongoing repercussions or adaptations, why did you bother making them disabled in the first place? What story were you telling?

[angiethewitch]

really good addition

[essekknits]

Not to be disrespectful, I genuinely want to know: I heard more than a few disabled people talking about how for them a fantasy world where the disabled character is cured of their disability/chronic pain is wish fulfilment and something they want written and also write. Where does the line go? Like, I’m autistic, and I wouldn’t want a story with a character being “cured” of autism cause that would feel ableist and icky. But I can understand why a person with say chronic pain would want a world where the character gets cured of their chronic pain.

[ruffboi-mags]

I think personally (as a person who is both neurodivergent and has painful physical disability) it’s about how it’s approached. Is the person who’s in pain cured of their pain because they’re ~broken~, or because they’re suffering and this is an attempt to reduce or remove their pain? Is their disability something that can be accommodated for and give them good quality of life, or is it just something that is physically draining and no amount of accommodation will truly improve the situation because they’re in pain?

It’s the difference from the first (I think?) X-Men movie, when Rogue bursts into Professor X’s office excitedly asking if it’s true that someone’s found a way to cure them, and Storm replies with “no, they can’t, because there’s nothing wrong with us.”

Storm has weather powers but could live a completely normal and fulfilling life as a mutant if mutants were accepted socially. With accommodation and social acceptance, Storm would not be significantly negatively impacted by her mutation.

on the flip side, Rogue kills people who touch her bare skin and could never live a completely normal life due to needing precautions to avoid accidentally killing people, and will also always have to live with the stress and anxiety of knowing she could kill someone if she’s not careful enough. Even if mutants were fully accepted socially, she would be significantly negatively impacted by her mutation.

So no, STORM doesn’t need to be “cured” and it would be shitty to suggest she does, but it’s understandable and even reasonable for ROGUE to desire and get a cure, even if that cure is not removing her mutation but at least removing the worst parts of it (like how she had no control over the killing-by-touch part).

I don’t want to be “cured” of autism or even (though it can be a pain in my ass) ADHD. I would take any suggestion I should be  “cured”  of these things very personally as offensive. I know a lot of people who are physically disabled (blind, deaf, amputee, just to name a few) don’t feel like they need to be “cured” or “fixed”. It’s deeply ableist to assume that someone with ADHD or who is Deaf can only have a fulfilling life if they are no longer those things.

On the other hand, I have severe chronic joint pain. I would give anything to be cured of that, because all it’s doing is hurting me an lowering my quality of life. No accommodations would actually improve that. I would still be in pain, I just might be in slightly less pain, and frankly, fuck that, I want to be in no pain.

So, no, disability or neurodivergence being assumed to need curing/being cured is not actually 100% either way, but by and large “things that can be accommodated for to allow for a full and happy life” are the ones you absolutely do NOT want to go around curing willy-nilly in fiction.

That being said, there is also something to be said for having representation as someone with chronic pain and fatigue, of someone who suffers too but still gets through the day, and doesn’t have it magically fixed. THAT is all up to the story you’e been telling and the tone you want to develop, imo, but I couldn’t tell you how to get there.

TL;DR: It’s actually not fully black or white, but generally if it’s something that can be accommodated for to relieve the burden on the disabled person, don’t cure it. If it’s something like chronic pain or fatigue, which are just. 100% miserable even when “accommodated for”, then it’s not an automatic “don’t do it”, but consider the story you’re telling with that potential either way.

[capricorn-0mnikorn]

I’ve been puzzling through a “Bechdel-Style Test” for Disability Representation for a while, now. And I think I finally pinned it down this right around NaNoWriMo (yay! one accomplishment for 2020).

And this is what I’ve come up with (with reasons for each point:

1) There’s a Disabled character

Just one necessary, ‘cause a lot of Abled writers like to stick us in flocks of (what they perceive as) “our own kind,” and a lot of disabled people are the only ones in their immediate family or (mainstream) classroom.

2) Who wants something for themselves

Rather than being an “inspiration” for an abled person, or the proverbial cat to be rescued in a “save the cat” scenario, to prove the hero’s goodness.

3) Besides Revenge, Cure, or Death,

In other words, the thing they want is not defined by their disability.

4) And tries to get it.

Again, they’re not the cat to be saved, but the protagonist in their own story – even when they’re a side character in a larger book or movie, or TV show. For example: if you have a disabled side character in your story, that’s okay, but if you decided to switch perspectives, and make them your P.O.V. character, would they still have agency and something to do, or would they be passive plot devices?

———-

I’ve decided to call it the 1,001 Problems Test, because that’s really the key for me.

What makes a “Cure Narrative” (vs. a story with a cure in it) ableist is that in a “Cure Narrative,” the character’s entire story arc hangs on the state of their disability at the end, and nothing else about them matters. Are they still disabled at the end? Then it’s a tragedy. Are they cured? Then it’s a happy ending (even if they die, it’s often framed as a happy ending, because at least they’re not disabled, anymore).

And as we’re talking about cure as a wish-fulfillment narrative, I’d like to point out that my third point says “besides cure,” not “instead of cure.” It’s fine if your protagonist wants a cure for their chronic pain, or “accidentally-killing people” condition. But give them something else to want, too – like falling in love, or being an architect, or figuring out how to save the world from a giant, star-eating Space Dragon, or, or, or…

If the only problem you can imagine your disabled character wants to solve is disability, then you’re ableist. You are revealing the fact that you can’t imagine disabled people as complete, fully formed humans, who live real lives.

[thebindingofdragonshy]

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[gypsy-that-i-was]

If you listen, her tapping very much adds to the music.

[lizzy52955]

Love this💗💗💗💗💗

[froggybangbang]

That’s Emma O'Sullivan! She’s a famous tap dancer (all-Ireland champion) and you can see her often if you walk the streets of Galway, dancing in the street!

[sraithpics]

I’d just like to add (for non Irish people especially) that she isn’t actually a tap dancer but a sean nós dancer. Sean nós is a traditional Irish dance (sean nós means “the old way”) but it isn’t the same as the mainstream Irish dance which people would be familiar with. In mainstream Irish dance the dancers have carefully choreographed routines that need to be learned and replicated and keep a rigid upright position at all times. They either wear soft shoes which make no sound or hard shoes which make a tap sound which are worn for different types of dances. People can also usually recognise Irish dance pretty easily at a glance due to the extravagant colourful costumes, white “poodle” socks, white undershorts and heavy wigs and make up that the dancers wear at competitions.

Sean nós is a totally different type of dance separate to this mainstream “Irish dance”. It is a much more loose and free type of dance where the dancers always wear hard shoes since the sound of the feet is very important. There are a few basic moves (the “shuffle, shuffle stamp”, the “heel and toe” and the “slide and shuffle” being the basic foundation steps) but once you have the basics you can combine steps, free style and even make your own steps. You can move your hands and arms to the music unlike in mainstream Irish dance too. Sean nós is often seen as the sexier Irish dance as the dancers are allowed much greater hip and general body movement and can laugh and interact with the audience as they move. There are no particular costume rules for sean nós competitons. Unlike Irish dance, people can really wear whatever but the norm is comfortable and simple dresses or skirts or trouser/top combinations made up from whatever the dancer chooses from their own wardrobes, a huge contrast to the heavy Irish dance costumes and the expense and pageantry associated with them. Part of the appeal of sean nós is that it has not been commercialised and commodified to the degree that Irish dance has and has a much more casual and fun feel to it in contrast to the strict routines and costume norms of Irish dance.

The most skilled sean nós dancers are able to dance a “barrel dance” where they dance at high speed on top of a barrel without knocking it over. It usually takes years to get to this level of skill so people normally start on the ground and then work their way up from a quarter barrel to a half barrel until they can dance on the top of a full one. This is Emma again doing a barrel dance on a half barrel:

Another sean nós dance is Damhsa na Scuibanna “The Brush Dance” where dancers pass a brush between their legs at speed. The still images don’t really do it justice so here’s a clip of three members of the Cunningham family dancers performing it: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GX3Z8qG7AKo

It’s important that people call it by its correct name of sean nós or damhsa ar an sean nós rather than just “tap dance” as it’s an important part of our cultural heritage and a type of dance that is barely known about outside of Ireland. Sean nós had almost fallen into total obscurity outside of small pockets of rural Ireland until dancers like  Emma O Sullivan and the Cunningham family dancers repopularised it in the early 2010s through their acclaimed performances and TV appearances as well as their classes for children to keep the tradition going into the next generation. Sean nós is still threatened with falling back into obscurity, if you search online most of the popular videos and photos of it are from about nine years ago during this revival and it’s still largely a rural, West of Ireland phenomenon which even people from within Ireland don’t really know about. Calling it by it’s correct name helps to keep it alive and allows new people to find out about it.

[duine-aiteach]

Just to add that sean nós is pronounced as “shan no-ss”. Sean in Irish means old and doesn’t become Seán (Shawn) without the fáda on the A, though many Seáns don’t use a fáda especially outside of Ireland.

[invaderxan]

Heard some important information on Twitter today, and thought I’d post it here for anyone who may not have heard it. This is actually a thing, devised by human rights organisation called Karma Nirvana.

Reblog to save a life?

[hank-sartin-72]

Boost this!

[tianatwitty-deactivated20141228]

Please make this go viral.

It is so important I don’t even care if you delete what I write here, just help it be seen. 

[own-your-weird-deactivated20150]

Reblog.

[calzonegod]

If you don’t reblog get the fuck out of here

[theludicrousrival]

U.S. National Suicide Hotline: [phone] 

Live chat services are also available for anyone who doesn’t feel comfortable with making phone calls/talking on the phone. 

Please reach out when you are struggling. You deserve so much more out of this life. Don’t ever forget that somebody loves you. 

[amberstorm-splash]

I don’t know what to add. Just, be safe out there. People will love you.

[cyder-puff]

Please Please Reblog

[fatiguing-thoughts]

very important to reblog, if anyone ever needs someone to listen, I’m always a message away. People love you and people care. 

[apocalyptic-cake-deactivated202]

My asks and dms are always open, please don’t hesitate to talk to me!

Also here’s a list of helplines for India

[rainbowsnowflake]

Please feel free to talk to me if you are going thru something. My asks and dms are open

[troloyunu]

Kaede, A2?

Kaede, A2!!!

[byjove]

Me: *Removes my cat from my lap to do something else.*

My cat: Father is...evil? Father is unyielding? Father is incapable of love? I am running away. I am packing my little rucksack and going out to explore the world as a lone vagabond. I can no longer thrive in this household.

[cryoverkiltmilk]

The spiritual successor to Miette

[manicgoblinnightmarewoman]

Might I also add

[shydestinybread]

May i add the piece from artist Verbal Vomit

[unyanizedcatboys]

Glad to see we’re all in agreement that cats talk like disparaged victorian children

[explorerrowan]

I am so incredibly glad we finally moved on from "i can has". Cats are clearly smart enough for advanced sentence structure and dumb enough to draw entirely incorrect conclusions about what they're talking about.

[dualclock]

My cat, banging the cabnet door over and over and over: bang bang bang

Me: you will not earn what you desire by banging the cabinet door.

My cat: This is a test of wills, is it not? We shall see if your ability to put up with my incessant banging outlasts my eternal lust for snackie treats. Years of conditioning have hardened me for this purpose. bang bang bang

Me: ksst!

My cat, throwing herself to the ground like she's been shot: Oh! Oh I have been assailed in my own home! Have mercy, have pity! Surely in the cruel darkness of your heart there is some mote of goodness that might stay your hand! Do not strike me, I pray you!

Me: ok

My cat, after waiting about 3 minutes: bang bang bang

[notcaycepollard]

[callmebliss]

Can haz snackytreat

[ladyshinga]

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[dogsrulepeopledrool]

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[fandom]

This post is the most reblogged post of the year! Congratulations!

[world-heritage-posts]

world heritage post

[schrodingers-fyke]

I was just quoting Miette earlier