Avaxce

[orcaandseal]

No one ever talks about how once you finally heal from a toxic relationship, and you finally get into a good one with someone who treats you right, how angry it makes you. I'm so mad that I now understand all the little things my previous partners did that weren't okay. Because what do you mean you're not pressuring me to stay the night? What do you mean you automatically take my indecision as a no and not yes? What do you mean-

[i-wheely-love-poodles]

You know what? It’s fucking hard trying to get better. It’s exhausting managing doctors appointments, doing daily PT exercises, eating better, trying to exercise, trying to meditate, and doing ADL’s. I have had a bad crash per week trying to juggle and do all of the above.

It’s easier and less acutely painful to just coast and not actively work on ‘getting better’. Is the work worth it? I don’t know yet.

But to people who’ve tried and given up, to those who don’t even bother - you still deserve care and compassion.

[orcaandseal]

I am once again back from the dead for the three people who follow me, and I've kinda been making a thing

[orcaandseal]

I have aquired progress

[orcaandseal]

I am once again back from the dead for the three people who follow me, and I've kinda been making a thing

[h3avylove-deactivated20150526]

becoming an adult cheat sheet!

learn to coupon

what to do when you can’t afford therapy

cleaning your bathroom

what to do when you can’t pay your bills

stress management

quick fix meals

find out if you’re paying too much for your cell phone bill

resume workshop

organize your closet

how to take care of yourself when you’re sick

what you should bring to a doctor’s appointment

what’s a mortgage?

how to pick a health insurance plan

hotlines list

your first gynecology appointment

what to do if the cops pull you over

things to have in your car in case of emergency

my moving out masterpost

how to make friends as an adult (video)

how to do taxes (video)

recommended reads for surviving adulthood (video)

change a flat tire (video)

how to do laundry (video)

opening a bank account (video)

laundry cheat sheet

recipes masterpost

tricks to help you sleep more

what the fuck should you make for dinner?

where should you go for drinks?

alcohol: know your limits

easy makeup tips

find seat maps for your flight

self-defense tips

prevent hangovers

workout masterpost

how to write a check

career builder

browse careers

birth control information

financial management software & app (free)

my mental health masterpost

my college applications masterpost

how to jumpstart a car

sex ed masterpost

[sirflodgypodgy]

reblogging for whomever needs it

[orcaandseal]

Its me. I need it.

[classycookiexo]

[capricorn-born]

Oddly specific. Got a deposit for 6,837 today

[weaselle]

fuck it, i never ever do those “reblog for X, this one really works!” posts, but this one doesn’t have any of that BS, this is just straight up wishing us good things; and then the comment doesn’t even say any of that either. Zero claims on this post, all positive vibes

May you end this week feeling ever more certain of a future you’ll love

[vmohlere]

May you end this week feeling ever more certain of a future you’ll love

[orcaandseal]

ADHD Study tip.

romanticize the SHIT out of it. Put on atheistic music, a cute outfit, etc. Hell make a tiktok. Make it as fun and enjoyable as possible

I made a cute little study with me tiktok and it was the most productive ive been in a week 💀

BUT IT WORKED

Peaceful studying with my fish Helios #Betta #studytok #studywithme #collegestudent

[orcaandseal]

"Flow State" is fucking bullshit

So, maybe that's a bit of an inflammatory title. But I think it still stands. The flow state is bullshit. Often described as a time "where you are totally absorbed by and deeply focused on something, beyond the point of distraction. Time feels like it has slowed down. Your senses are heightened. You are at one with the task at hand, as action and awareness sync to create an effortless momentum. (headspace.com)"

As someone with adhd, that is hyperfocus. Time dissolves and I can spend forever on what I'm doing, hell, as I sit here and write I'm in that state right now. I'm not sure if I'm simply misunderstanding, but it feels a tad bit like neurotypicals found out how to tap into the hyperfocus state -everyone can do it but adhd people do it more- and they repackaged it to be more palatable.

It's very frustrating to see something I was shamed so much for when I was younger now being sought after and praised by so-called "normal" people. But while that's my own cross to bare, I worry that it could cause things like hyperfocus to continue to fly under the radar. Hyperfocus is a very real symptom and can cause damage.

Have you ever been so zoned into something that you don't eat? that you become increasingly dehydrated? Have you ever focused so hard that you almost don't make it to the bathroom before your bladder fails because you couldn't feel it screaming at you?

"But Rachel," you say, "Flow state isn't like that, you're supposed to be able to take breaks, chugging along like a locomotive at a steady but enjoyable pace, rather than a one-stop bullet train!"

To that I say, could you tell the difference? if you're not paying rapted attention to the individual, because let's face it no one has that kind of time, how would you know? How could someone undiagnosed tell the difference between the two, if there is one? Or worse, someone attempting to explain their symptoms to a friend and family or a partner, and it's brushed off as "Oh that's just flow state!"

Overall, I feel like the idea of flow state vs hyperfocus needs to be reevaluated, and we need to double checking and make sure that we aren't misidentifying the two states and protecting the adhd community from more harm.

[orcaandseal]

Nature said No and humans said 'Fuck you'

Me 

[orcaandseal]

Depression/Adhd study tips coming from someone who has depression, anxiety, and ADHD. All of these I try to do

Make the process as bearable as possible. Put on those fuzzy socks you like, comfy clothes, pour yourself your favorite drink, and have a treat while studying

Pavlov yourself into it

I've found that when I do these, it both helps sit down and get started, and it makes my brain associate it with positive things.

If you have the option, have a specific place you do schoolwork.

I happen to have like 3 desks in my dorm, even though I live in a single 🙃 So I have a desk where I have fun stuff, like my TV and gaming console, and a work desk which has my printer, laptop, and Kettle.

Minimize your distractions. Given that I'm currently writing this in procrastination, I'm lowkey failing that, but that's okay. You're going to get distracted sometimes. What matters is getting something done.

What did help minimize distractions is that I drink tea while I work. So I moved my kettle to my desk so I wouldn't have to get up and walk across my room every half hour

Find lighting that works for you. Some people might like soft lighting,

for me if I'm studying at night I need all the lights on to minimc daylight as much as possible.

Notice what you happen to be wearing or doing when your being productive. Like after you get your work done. We're you sitting in a specific position? what was the environment like? what were you wearing, was your hair up or down? were you wearing shoes?

Oddly, for me, I'm most productive if I'm wearing a bra with an underwire. If I need to clean, putting on shoes seems to cue my brain into its work time. Music usually helps me stay focused

If you take medication, make sure you take your medication.

Look, just make sure your basic needs, like sleep, food, and water, are all met first. Trust me, it is impossible to focus otherwise. Same with anything clamoring at your brain.

Regulate yourself first, like lay under a weighted blanket, meditate, or go on a walk. Those are all examples I do that help.

If you're nervous about an exam you're studying for and your stomach is in knots, you're never gonna retain the info. So take care of yourself first.

Block off more time than you think you need. Should this only take an hour? block off 2.5 hours. Especially if you have adhd and you aren't hyperfocused, you're gonna get distracted. Sometimes, you might not finish. that's okay. The goal is to have something. A word, a sentence, a page. Even if it's not a lot, something is better than nothing.

if you're really struggling with an assignment, half ass it. something is better than nothing, and yeah, you might fail it, but at least I'll be a 20% rather than a 0%.

Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly

[orcaandseal]

"So class any ideas on how to conserve water?" "You can conserve water by not making me cry Dave."

Me to my professor when he didnt put the power point online 

quotes from the classroom

[orcaandseal]

College is so unhinged sometimes I got invited to what I thought was a philosophy group and ended up being what might be an underground Bible study?

According to all group activities it doesn't exist.

About 2 hours later during a lab I then ominously got asked if I was "the Rachel who lives in the single on x floor?"

I am.

I asked who he was and he said "I'm 'Spencer'" and walked away to go look at insect

I feel like this is a fever dream

[just-a-monster-blog]

Monster f❤cker bingo

I stumbled upon this on devianart , I belive the person who made this was (whitenoize on deviantart) but yall let me know if I'm crediting the wrong person,

Blank:

Here's mine : BINGO BITCHESSSSS

Lemme know what you guys got!

[friendly-alien-fucker]

[orcaandseal]

bingo 

[thedaniverse]

I am a little high but what if people proposed with beautiful, intricate knives. Ladies would gather around the table and be like “guess what finally happened!!” And pull this beautiful, intricate dagger out of her purse and all the other ladies would gasp and congratulate her

[thedaniverse]

Me: I’m a little high but –

Y'all rushing to that reblog button:

[chuckyzoopa]

It’s an awesome idea tho

[weareoracle]

Because I have a tag for pretty weaponry, some knives I’d accept as proposals follow:

[lianabrooks]

I said yes! 

(but, actually, hubby bought me a dive knife when we got married so this works…)

[aelin-lovelace]

I can 100% get behind this as a new tradition.

[honeybeejohn]

Ok but this is amazing becuase knives are dangerous and you can use them to hurt other people but when someone proposes with one it’s symbolic like “yes I love you and trust you so much I’m asking you a very vulnerable question with something you could hurt me with but I know you won’t”

[foggythefrogoriginal]

@kinglesbiancore

[panismightier]

@lady-redshield-writes this seems up your alley

[redshield-writes]

This isn’t just up my alley, it’s traveled all the way down the alley, through my front door, and is sitting on my couch. I love this so much.

[genderlich-deactivated20211204]

@sparklemotion24 I know we’re doing rings but these are amazing

[fansonia]

AAAAAAAHHHH IT’S THE POST I’VE SEEN IN SCREENSHOTS don’t mind if I just-

[papayafromtv]

the only way im getting married

[cerothenull]

@dragonzzilla Orcs

[dragonzzilla]

@cerothenull this is it, the post that started it all

[dynasty-dabbles]

@thelastflyingfuck

[thelastflyingfuck]

Hbbbbbhbhb YeS

[orcaandseal]

Lovecraft and Tea

[anxietyproblem]

[orcaandseal]

dont attack me like this

[orcaandseal]

I drew a thing. First human face to look like a human in a good long while