Please help my s/o escape an abusive situation and move into a safe household!!
my 19 yr old partner lux (@magegoth) is, and has been living in an abusive situation. im making this post on my account because their mother has asked for their tumblr some times and we absolutely do not want her to find out. they are currently living stuck in an apartment with their abusive mother, who ive firsthand witnessed physically, emotionally and verbally abuse them, gaslighted, guilt tripped and manipulated them. we're on call 24/7 on discord, so i hear and see the things she does to them. they have been traumatized again and again throughout their life and i dont want this to keep happening again, especially to a csa survivor with cptsd, fibromyalgia, asthma, autism and other things.
i understand that this is a hard time for everyone, but this is dire and their life is in danger. im not asking for money, but a safe place for them to stay. they just need a place thats safe for LGBT people, internet and food. if anyone could provide that in north carolina, preferrably near raleigh, i would be extremely grateful. they dont have a bank account, and are currently unable to get a job, but once the pandemic is over and i start getting a job ive been trying to figure out how to move them to england with me, or to at least support them financially. they need time to begin living and getting important documents like a passport, but please, if anyone can signal boost it to any loving people that are able to help them, i would be extremely grateful. theyre a wonderful person to be around and extremely funny, smart, and also a wonderful cook!
im going to go on a tangent about the sorts of things their mother does. please do not feel obliged to read all of this, especially if you think youll get triggered by it. i just felt the need to let people know how horrible she is.
she forces dependence on them. they are not allowed to order groceries or medicine, and if lux asks her about either of those, theyre "nagging" and theyll use it against them, thus keeping it from them. theyve gone days in the past without some medicine because of that, and some of them are extremely dangerous to miss. she must be in control of everything in luxs life, but she doesnt do anything like ordering groceries or medicine unless lux begs for them. its a horrible cycle of her neglect. because of that lux is in no way able to order food for themselves. i try to get them food once a week or two but it isnt enough and their weight is dangerously low. she usually steals their stuff too and often loses or breaks them.
their mother expects them to be her mother. they are forced to take care of her emotionally and physically, whilst she disregards them entirely. they must listen to her issues all the time, and fix them for her. if they dont, then she loses it and starts treating them horribly. sick or not, they must take care of her. their mother has not cooked for them once, but she expects them to cook for her, even if theyre dealthy sick. any housework they do is messed up and ruined by their mother, often on purpose.
they sometimes have coughing fits, and what prompted me to make this post is that one of those just happened. they were coughing unbearably and i could hear the pain in their throat. they texted me they couldnt breathe, their chest was tight and they were in pain and of course, were in a pandemic and theyre vulnerable, so of course i was worried. we frantically text their mom and she starts guilting them. she also lost lux's inhaler (which she later found. she loses their things a lot). she has absolutely no concern and when she called me, she tried to make herself the victim saying shes been physically harmed by them because of their "medicine" (they were protecting theirself because they were hit by her. dont even get me started on the fact that she broke down the lock on their door.) and that i dont know because i havent been there (i have. i see it. i know this situation). this has happened multiple times. their mother called this a game because they were texting me and not her (because they were afraid), and they absolutely did not believe this was a dangerous situation.
those are just a few of the things she does. i hate having to see her treat lux like a parent when they had no one like a parent, not even their mother, in their life. please, if you have any questions, dont be afraid to message me or lux!! we'd be happy to talk about anything