Phidippus Aidacheanus

27, they/them, I like bugs

[i-am-a-fish]

gay people love reading this post

[sundermunder]

WHAT THE HELL IS THAT!

[undercoverchikin]

@onenicebugperday

A very scary butterfly :)

[catboybiologist]

I hate to be all "cis good" on main, but if it weren't for the cis queer women that welcomed me into womanhood idk where I would be

[catboybiologist]

Shout-out to cis queer women that welcome trans women because that was genuinely a foundational part of developing confidence in my femininity

[catboybiologist]

There's this huge media storm that, even when it's supposed to be "trans positive" still paints this atmosphere of separation between trans and cis women. This has been the opposite of my experience. I'm grateful for the solidarity between all women <3

[bee-dazzle]

There are gonna be young cis women who are gonna delight in helping you find out what sort of clothes you wanna wear, how to look after your skin and hair, helping you on the path to learning the difference between like, what you feel you *should* present like vs what is actually comfortable and authentically you.

There are going to be menopausal cis mums who are on the same brand of estrogen patch as you who are gonna join you in griping about getting them to stick and swapping tips for when you get dispensed the big patches but your dose is half that.

There are going to be infertile cis women who share your pain and anger at the concept that 'able to bear children' is seen as the only 'real' way to be a woman.

There are gonna be intersex cis women who understand what it's like to have your body's default state not line up with societal expectations.

There are gonna be queer cis women who will stand with you at Pride, who will welcome you to our family, our community.

[catboybiologist]

I want to reblog this a thousand times. I've seen all of this, and it is so beautiful and pure and we all need it for survival. I love women, I love the solidarity we all have, and I love what we can all do for each other <3

[catboybiologist]

The notes on this post are a set of the most beautiful stories I've heard about welcoming and solidarity between all women, cis and trans.

Please keep sharing these. They truly are a joy, and are giving me a lot of hope <3

[lottielunalady]

reblogged this earlier but actually have something to add. the barely 20 year old cis girl who came up to me in the train station to ask me if she could stand with me. who told me all her friends left and she felt nervous waiting alone. who waited with me and told me to get home safe as we got on the train together. the fact that you felt like I was a safe and kind woman you could lean on a little?

Probably the single most affirming social experience I've had with a stranger. The fact you chose me of everyone in the train station means you saw me in a crowd and picked me out and said "That's a girl's girl."

[takostacos]

Shout out to the group of middle aged cis moms I met at the liquor store when I was looking for wine. The one that said "oh honey, you just wiped off your makeup." And gestured at her upper lip after I wiped the sweat off my face with a handkerchief from my purse.

I was having a lot of dysphoria about my upper lip hair suddenly having color to it (medicine side effect it seems). So I was internally wondering if they'd ostracize me since they'd clocked me.

One of the women goes "oh it's okay, I have PCOS too. Don't let it bother you." And suddenly I've got 3 women chatting with me and lamenting how they have to "shave almost every day at this point" and just cackling. The store worker joined in, saying she plucks constantly, and her "transgender friend has to shave 2 or more times a day!". They all had these genuine reactions and "oh no, poor girl" and other comments.

I felt included. I never mentioned that I was transgender.. I just carried on, they helped me pick out wines, gave me some tips on undertones for makeup to cover facial hair stubble, and I got the shop worker to pull out some elderflower liqueur to add to a small sample of a Pinot Grigio (and got more people to try it and add it to their rotation. Seriously, try it sometime. It's incredible).

The random solidarity and genuine reactions I've received from other women has been very validating and honestly so welcome.

[makeitwrite]

I actually have one for this. I work in food service, and I was working in that industry for... Almost a decade before I came out. And I came out at age 27, didn't start HRT until I was 28. Despite the sheer size of the city I live in, a not insignificant portion of the industry knows who I am. And so when I get a new job, I usually have to come out a few times.

I had had this job for a couple of months, and while I was working I was told we had a stage coming in later to see how they fit in. I say great and go on my break. When I come back, the potential hire is there... And she's a coworker from a couple jobs ago (like two or three years previous). We both slowly point at each other and go "Aren't you... ?" Before laughing and reintroducing ourselves. I go "Sooo I'm a girl now," and she laughs and tells me "Yeah I can tell." We spend some time catching up, and we work great together, and she gets hired.

A few days later I tell her I'm jealous of her bandana — you need something to cover your hair at work, and I'd been using a baseball cap, but I felt it made me look really masculine, even after several years of HRT — and she immediately pulls out a spare and shows me how to wear it. I still love the selfie I took that day, I was beaming. And from there it was very clear she just... accepted me as one of the girls. She'd tell me about men being shitty to her, and about the consistent misogyny we face, and even helped me at a sapphic night at a bar. It was just... Instant solidarity. It was amazing. We're still friends today.

[queerasaurus-rexx]

when my close friend came out, my mother (who had a hysterectomy years ago and had been in estrogen) gave her some general advice about it.

she also gave her a list of things that would help with the bodily transition while on estrogen, from good bras, general breast health tips (not even just lump checks - how to deal with friction or rashes underneath the breasts, how to get properly fitted for a bra, etc.) and just - general stuff a mother would do for a daughter going through puberty.

it is general human nature to help and take care of each other. cruelty isn't.

[pinkmadnessing]

Reading all this after a weekend of shopping for girl clothes with a cis friend of mine who was so excited to help that i literally didnt have to leave the dressing room because she kept bringing me dresses and stuff that looked great on me. This shit is so true, let the people in your life help you, they want to so much.

[queerbeverage]

When i was 17 and still in school, i came out some time at the start of my last year. I couldn't handle all the misgendering anymore, now that i knew who i was. I was very lucky in general with my realisation & transition, in this case especially so bc everyone in my year accepted me. Fast forward to sports classes, and i was still changing in the men's - even if it felt really awkward & wrong. Then, some of the cis girls in my sports class talked to me about it, and immediately told me to come change in the women's next time, like it was so obvious to them that's what it should be like. I was really really moved, because they were all so enthusiastic & nice about supporting me.

A few weeks after that, one of them gave me a coupon & a few tips about nail polish so i could get some more variety than the 2€ black one i was using. I was so moved by that, we didn't even know each other that well.

[stormsbourne]

part of what terfs are trying to do is to paint cis women as inherently threatened by and unwelcoming to trans women in an effort to get trans women to self-censor and self-seclude. but the truth is that most women (including most lesbians!) are welcoming and loving of trans women. most women are happy to help their new sisters find their way. I'm not going to preach the whole "all girls protect each other" thing (untrue), but I am going to say that by a pretty large majority, most women want trans women to feel welcomed, included, and safe. don't let terfs convince you that every cis woman will hate you or wants you dead. the same way rapists assume everyone else commits rape, terfs assume everyone else has the same fear and hatred in their hearts, and it's just not true. live authentically and most people will respect and love you for it. and fuck the people who try and throw a shitfit.

[ouuiiei]

ngl i posted this before but it flopped HARD and i got scared that something was going wrong with my account ... so posting again my noelle emoticons...

[piratedllama-art]

Quarters only, please [x]

(done in procreate)

[wanderingnelipot]

[p-aidacheanus]

Shout-out to the repressed memory that just surfaced of me trying on dresses as a kid and my mom switching from laughing to worried/angry when I made a comment about liking dresses and wishing I could wear them.

She went on to "teach" me about the evils of crossdressing and gay

Jokes on her

[p-aidacheanus]

AI in advertisements is inherently malicious

Report all ai ads as malicious

[p-aidacheanus]

I make 50¢ more than minimum wage in my town, and my snap just went from $200 to $23. Explain. Please. Explain how 50¢/hr justified removing 170+ from my food stamps. I still have to eat. Working does not provide food, and with bills I'm left with barely enough to feed myself and my cats. But I'm left with $0 in savings, -$50 in my checking (overdraft protection), so how the actual fuck am I supposed to pay for any emergencies? I can't save any money. I'd have to starve myself all month to save $100 and that would immediately go to buying my a new tire for my car which I desperately need.

America is a fucking joke. Can't even feed it's citizens. The first to starve should be Trump and his cabinet, the whole world would be better off with them rotting in the sun

[januariat]

this thread on twitter is fucking killing me

[cheeseanonioncrisps]

IT GETS BETTER

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[seimsisk]

lmao prev

[museeeuuuum]

I don't even know what to say

[museeeuuuum]

I actually said a lot here:

American GLAM professionals start making copies of EVERYTHING YOU CAN

[crippled-peeper]

“You think every citizen should have access to free and accessible healthcare?”

Wrong!!!

I think that Asylum seekers and Migrant workers and The Undocumented and Everyone Else should get free healthcare too

I love immigration

[crippled-peeper]

This one made the fascists and the racists really really mad. I get hate mail daily for this post

Imagine getting mad because someone else’s child’s chemotherapy doesn’t cost them 100,000$ .

[p-aidacheanus]

Spammy AI slop YouTube channels have no right to exist and should be deleted from the platform for the safety and sanity of everyone.

Actually, extend this to all platforms. To the internet.

People are stupid. AI is used by stupid people to manipulate even dumber people. The second I hear an AI voice I click out. The second I see AI in a thumbnail or video, I have all I need to know that the "person" making the video didn't care enough to put effort into it.

AI and bots are destroying the internet.

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[catgirlforeskin]

My sister is doing pet play with women on roblox and I don’t have the heart to tell her it’s probably a kink for the others involved

[catgirlforeskin]

No, I can’t emphasize enough that she’s totally clueless about anything that could be weird about it, she just thinks it’s funny. I had to sit there with a straight face as she told me about how she made this girl eat off of a plate on the ground (in roblox) and sleep in a dog bed (in roblox) whenever she misbehaved and go “oh haha that’s so funny” and pretend like everything’s normal.

[ice-cream-asker-deactivated2026]

maybe

how old is she

[catgirlforeskin]

She’s in college, she isn’t like, a child

[ouppykittygirlmurderinstinct]

she looking for another dog?

[catgirlforeskin]

NO

[public-trans-it-deactivated2024]

Hey is your sister single (obviously not counting her harem of dog girls)?

[catgirlforeskin]

No she’s straight (but says she’d go gay for Taylor Swift) and has a boyfriend, sorry petplay girls

[queen-mihai]

Volunteering to stand in as this person's sister during this time of need

[catgirlforeskin]

I have a name

[unoisveimved-un-medicated]

This post really makes you take a deep breath and ponder...

[catgirlforeskin]

I swear to god if this blows up enough that it gets reposted on other social media and my sister sees you all wanting to be her roblox dog…

[alyanas-little-hideout]

this will be 100k notes. I feel it.

[catgirlforeskin]

Sorry liberals, despite 400 tags saying “posts that have 100k to me,” we’re capping out at a nice cool 11k. My white ass is not making it onto tiktok, no robot lady is going to read this text, and my sister is not seeing it. Thank you all for playing

[ironwoman359]

Don’t sell yourself short just yet

[catgirlforeskin]

Everything is fine. I’m going to live forever

[quendergeer]

never seen a notes total as a punchline before

[catgirlforeskin]

Since I've gotten dozens of asks and comments about this, NO, my sister still hasn't seen this post, but she is gay now

[datasoong47]

[p-aidacheanus]

I am enjoying grounded 2, but the spiders lack of care is starting to annoy me especially bc they seem to give a lot of random small details to a lot of bugs, but spiders are just spiders. They shoot webs, ugh, the orb weavers are turned into wandering hunters and have two large front facing eyes, all of the spiderlings look exactly the same.

Orb weavers should be up high, tucked in corners when not on a web.

Wolf spiders were everywhere in the first game, I haven't seen any so far but they might still exist. They should be the hunters. Not orb weavers. It makes absolutely no sense for an orb weaver to be crawling around in paths and attacking prey. They DON'T HAVE EYES LIKE THAT. They rely on vibrations in their web, otherwise they literally run. I've had an orb weaver who was particularly scared, even a fruit fly hitting her when she felt vulnerable would send her to the floor and running.

They could add grass spiders. Or black widows, even! Throw some cobweb up and when we trip it, they should come at us with speed and it should be scary. They added flying mounts, so hitting an orb weaver web should be a death sentence.

If you want active, smart hunters, put in jumping spiders! Please! Make em tameable so we can have a jumper friend, that would be so cool.

There are so many options. Orb weavers are the worst option. Please update this in the future 🙏

[otiksimr]

Spiders your plant

[bug-catcher-silva]

I don't care if Grass/Bug is a terrible typing... I need this to be a Pokémon !