No. I know this is probably just a casual commiseration but I think itās a real and important question to ask and answer. If doing the stuff youāre expected to do everyday is super hard, then something is probably wrong.
Anyone who relates to this too hard, Iād recommend looking up spoon theory and starting to make a record of how you feel and your experiences that you can bring up with some kind of health professional. Chances are if doing laundry feels like climbing everest, itās because youāre disabled in some way. Whether that disability is some invisible chronic illness or depression or ADHD or burnout, *something* is wrong.
Almost all disabilities have some form of treatment or accommodation that can make your life easier. If you can get a diagnosis, you might also be eligible for official accommodations and benefits. Social security sucks ass and is almost impossible to access but like, itās not the only thing out there set up to help disabled folks and usually local organizations are gonna be better anyway.
Plenty of people reblogging this probably already know theyāre disabled in some way but if even 1 person sees this and can learn something important about themselves then itās worth saying.
TLDR: people who arenāt disabled donāt find acts of daily living extremely hard. Maybe look into that and see if you can get help making your life less hard.
Sincerely, a multiply disabled person.
This is super important okay. Like, I used to try to ask my conservative family/church/etc. for help, and theyād just be all,Ā āsuck it up; life is hard for everyone; quit being such a babyāā¦ and then I went to, like, actual experts, and they were basically like,Ā āum, wow, youāre clearly super depressed and suicidal; you should actually be proud of yourself for still being alive!ā And Iām stillĀ trying to unlearn the former and accept the latter, even after all this time. And Iām so mad that Iāve wasted so much time just trying toĀ āpush through itā instead of getting help I clearly need(ed),Ā and thatās stillĀ a thing I struggle with.
Please, please seek real help if you need it. Like, I understand that there are shitty doctors and shitty therapists and whatnot, but itās soĀ worth expending what effort you can to find good ones who can help. If you have mentally ill friends ā which, if youāre reading this in the first place, you almost certainly do ā they might be able to point you in the right direction.
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I have a friend with insane ADD and we have this same conversation sometimes
She canāt actually even define laziness (which is weird) but she thought she was just lazy, life was that hard for everyone, and that everyone else was just being more responsible at managing it. I told her laziness feels good once and she blue screened.
Like if you canāt define laziness, youāve probably been convinced itās something that itās not. Probably something nebulous and hard to describe. Like, idk, an unknown disorder.
In case youāre one such person, laziness feels great. Itās not stressful. Itās like the opposite of stressful. If youāre being stressed and lazy at the same time youāve managed to do it wrong somehow. The only struggle in being lazy is wanting the tv remote and being to darn comfortable to want to move. (But you get it anyways, because itās not an inability to get the remote. You were just cozy.)
Think of it like a cat sitting near a warm heater or a hamster so relaxed it āmeltsā. If there were danger, or if the animal were hungry, it would get up. It probably doesnāt want to get up because itās comfortable but it will. If the hamster is actually genuinely hungry but it canāt get up and itās just laying there stressed and starving, you would take your animal to the vet because it has a problem.
It was only when I was diagnosed that I understood that others define laziness differently than I do. There was something wrong. Donāt give up until you find the reason why things seem to be extra hard for you. Donāt give up, you can find answers and get help.
