Revelry Maenad

Sex educator! Switch in many a way. Ask me about sourdough, sex toys, and stories! Constantly thinking about kinky philosophy. Pine cone under creative commons, PC Rob Young

[ivy-michaels]

Reblog if you wanna kiss prev

[sivavakkiyar]

[sandersstudies]

Talking to my traumatized friends like “take your time responding and don’t feel any need to cater to my opinion in this matter just tell me the truth about what you feel. Your feelings are valid. ” and it’s about like choosing where to go to lunch.

[performing-personhood]

Y'all do not know how long it took for me to finally realize "telling other people what I think they want to hear" is not the nicest kindest choice for me to always make. And neither do I, because I'm still learning it, but as soon as I do I'll be sure to tell you How Long It Took.

Because, haha, it turns out? Most people actually don't need to be constantly right, always in control, and perpetually being reassured. And they'll feel funny (negative) when you treat them like they do. Because people mostly assume that how you treat them is a direct reflection of how you perceive them, and they will never assume you're treating them that way because of someone who literally isn't currently in the room.

Wild, I know.

In actuality, people already know you have a preference because that is a very normal thing to have. And because you're never as slick as you think you are, you definitely won't fool anyone by pretending you don't. So the actual kindest choice to make is to just be honest about what you want, because most people will feel most comfortable when they know for sure that the decision you've both made is truly a mutual agreement.

Genuinely? Mind-blowing concept. But a very helpful thing to remember.

[the-real-seebs]

someone trying to pretend not to have preferences because they were afraid of what might happen if they appeared to complain is in fact the only reason i have any experiences at all in my life that i would describe as "feeling violated". i genuinely didn't know it was possible for me to have that emotional response to anything until that happened!

[acerby]

Doll girl full of wires is kind of a robot!

[houndmother]

“go early, it’s hard to find parking” you want public transit. “don’t go on weekends, traffic is terrible” you want public transit. “once i parked i had to walk half a mile to the entrance” you want public transit. “it took me an hour to get out of the area after the concert” you want public transit. “ugh somebody needs to DD” you want public transit. “can you drive? my car won’t start” you want public transit. you want public transit. you want public transit. you want public transit.

[mikahseacole]

"my car broke down and now i have to pay 5k i dont have to get it fixed" you want public transport. "there are so many shit drivers on the road" you want public transport. "i get nauseous in cars" you want public transport. "i'd love to chat with my friends instead of having to focus on the road when we go somewhere" you want public transport. "i hate potholes" you want public transport. "my grandma has to pay 50$ for a shopping trip because she can't drive and needs to use uber" you want public transport. "i don't like my daughter/sister/etc getting in some random dude's car to get home, it feels unsafe" you want public transport. "I want to have a stronger sense of community and know who lives in my area" you want public transport.

[ashlgcostumes]

As someone who is both trans and has a child, absolutely hilarious to me that society presents one of these as absolutely only to be done if you are 110% certain and have proved to several people that you want it bad enough and are ready, and the other is like. You might as well everyone else does. Just do it nobody feels ready. You don’t want to? Yes you do

Especially since one of those is pretty reversible if you change your mind after a couple years and the other one, well, technically but that’s pretty frowned upon

[lady-of-fangs-lyrlia]

I'm not possessive, but I want you to take me to your favorite cafe so you think about me every other time you visit.

I'm possessive, but I love watching you fret over what outfit you'll wear to see your date

I'm not possessive, but I want to set a standard for how you're treated.

I'm possessive, but I've memorized the way your body shivers when she pushes into you.

I'm not possessive, but I daydream about putting scars on you that you'll carry for the rest of your life

[kinkystims]

i think sadists enjoying what they're doing to me is such a big part of my relationship to masochism. like on an individual level, i do have this fantasy and this want and this need, etc. but on a bigger level, it really is about someone wanting to torture me and play with me and getting off on my cries or my tears or my pain etc.. like that's so special to me

[gailynovelry]

The fastest way to accomplish The Project is to cease being afraid of The Project. The Project cannot maim you. The Project cannot kill you. The Project is more afraid of you than you are of it. It is okay if The Project turns out differently from how it was in your head, and it is okay if it has flaws. You are capable of engaging with The Project.

[rq1nzorr]

nonbinary folks: have you ever changed your pronouns to 'avoid being misgendered'?

yes

no

i'm not non-binary and i want a button

Remaining time: 13 hours 40 minutes

e.g. they/them perceived as female -> they/her because "it feels worse to have people get it wrong than it does to go by the wrong pronouns in the first place"

[free-my-mindd]

[wyrm-boy]

[dogboybruisebait]

A local bar is doing like a puppy girl/cat girl rave type thing and they have plastered all over it “not a kink event, this is not pet play” and I’m like are u fucking kidding me…

[xenasaur]

this event is pet serious

[persistentrevelry]

WORKING DOG

DO NOT PET

[gendercensus]

The 2026 Gender Census is now open!

[ survey.gendercensus.com ]

The 13th annual international gender census, collecting information about the language we use to refer to ourselves and each other, is now open until 13th August 2026.

It’s short and easy, for most participants it takes 5 minutes or less.

After the survey is closed I’ll process the results and publish a spreadsheet of the data and a report summarising the main findings. Then anyone can use them for academic or business purposes, self-advocacy, tracking the popularity of language over time, and just feeling like we’re part of a huge and diverse community.

If you think you might have friends and followers who’d be interested, please do reblog this blog post, and share the survey URL by email or at AFK social groups or on other social networks. Every share is extremely helpful!

Survey URL: https://survey.gendercensus.com

The survey is open to anyone anywhere who speaks English and feels that the gender binary doesn’t fully describe their experience of themselves and their gender(s) or lack thereof.

Thank you so much!

[ Link to survey ]

[pull-the-thren]

I think "what if we molded ourselves to each other perfectly" has legs as a kink dynamic if we could ever get anyone to take off their compulsive "understand any kink dynamic through dominance and submission" glasses

[pull-the-thren]

The best part about it genuinely is your movements get scary synced. Put all your energy into mirroring and learning and being suitable to each other and suddenly you get bored and miss them and they message that they were just thinking about you. Suddenly a cup of water appears in your hand when you're thirsty. It's weird and a little bit magical.

It takes time to set up. But it's super achievable and you can definitely start with like. Basic mimicry and hypnosis to get your feet wet. Later you start discussing your every boundary and value, nothing kept sacred, full agreement almost always the goal. This isn't exactly SSC but like. Per that other post neither is heavy obedience training. I think that's actually the hard part - society says it's fucked up to spend all your time devoted to someone, and a lot of people don't know how to reconcile wanting that without painting the person they're devoted to as evil and saying it's ok because it's consensual and the fact that it's evil is hot. You do not have to think this is evil. You can just staple your identity and sense of reality to someone and have them do the same back and watch your life get weirder. Make strange paracosms together. Lose track of who did what and whose tongue is whose. Join me in knowing the feeling of "I would answer that but I store that information in my other body."

I need more of you to become inseparable and borderline interchangeable. It's way too messy to be realistic for most but it's way too fun and achievable to be as underrepresented as it is.

[transgenderer]

were all born screaming, and the rest is voice training

[gaydelgard]

i hear a good lyric and start mentally holding up blorbos like im in the home depot paint aisle comparing swatches

[queenlua]

Everyone who plays around with Tarot cards long enough winds up with a “bad” card that they love. I just barely persuaded my husband not to get the Ten of Swords tattooed on his body; traditionally, it shows a corpse with ten swords stuck in their body and means “utter ruin,” but he thought that if it took ten swords to kill you, then you must have put up a pretty good fight.

honestly this is the most badass ten of swords interpretation i've ever heard.  i'm stealing this

[wizard-of-interesting-failure]

WIZARD TIP: They will run out of swords eventually.