Hell-Hale Teart

Your friendly neighborhood punk lesbian • 27; she/it/they ; tme • genderfluid autistic • If you judge and harass people for things they enjoy in fiction and/or kink dnf •

[girlcalledwhatsername]

via thebooksmartbimbo on Instagram who is doing AMAZING work

Next person to tell me "uwu don't talk publically about your meds not working for you what if you scare off others from meds?" can come here and pay compensation for my emotional distress.

One psychiatrist worked out well for you? Many congratulations, the system still sucks. One police officer was nice to me too, I still know that entire system is rotten to the core. If you keep shutting down the very people you claim to protect then this isn't about advocacy it's about your need to hold some sort of morally high position backed by "science" and "rationality" (which, btw, has historically been weaponised against mentally ill, and especially psychotic people, to take away their agency).

[girlcalledwhatsername]

Wanted to add all the other parts of this wonderful series too and if anyone reading this has engaged in any kind of mental health advocacy at any level I request that you read it and even if your first reaction is to reject it because it's discomforting and challenging your idea of activism, I request that you sit with it a while and think on it and think about the very people whose interests mental health advocacy is supposed to promote:

[crazysodomite]

you know whats really crazy?

it's when people assume something is "fetish art" because it's weird... and the weirdness is literally just drawing a disability

like drawing someone with a disability is likened to 'deviantart tier bizarre fetish art' because any disability that doesn't look "normal" and "acceptable" is too weird to ever portray just for the sake of it

[crazysodomite]

i think this comes from the idea that a visual piece of art has to be appealing, beautiful, pleasant to look at, etc.

so portraying something 'not beautiful' has to have some other "purpose" which people usually assume to be sexual

[bfdi]

i don't like how this website tries to equate 'shelteredness' with physical isolation and asociality rather than an obliviousness to one's place in society that is afforded through material privilege. someone can have a job and a thriving social life and regularly go out with their friends or whatever and still be 'sheltered' about certain forms of oppression in that regard. i promise you your rhetorical "shut in" who has been cut off from the outside world (through self-imposed means or otherwise) is probably the least likely person to be blissfully unaware of life's hardships if you were to actually think about why it is they might be in that position in the first place

[bfdi]

i don't like how this website tries to equate 'shelteredness' with physical isolation and asociality rather than an obliviousness to one's place in society that is afforded through material privilege. someone can have a job and a thriving social life and regularly go out with their friends or whatever and still be 'sheltered' about certain forms of oppression in that regard. i promise you your rhetorical "shut in" who has been cut off from the outside world (through self-imposed means or otherwise) is probably the least likely person to be blissfully unaware of life's hardships if you were to actually think about why it is they might be in that position in the first place

[trangoldin]

I'm ngl it kinda kills me that the thing that is killing Hank Green and making him go through mass cancellation is him saying that he sometimes uses AI for research.

Like not the horrible video on hrt, no of course not. Loudly and proudly declaring "we don't hire transfems here at scishow"? Nobody gives a shit!

But say "i used Claude as a search engine for academic articles" and every creator on youtube takes turns shitting you as you go into fucking witness protection.

[trangoldin]

There is a connection here with that post I saw the other day about how being performatively anti-AI can be a way to loudly declare one's commitment to "good values" without actually having to care about uplifting any marginalized communities

[autistic-af]

When I was a child, many of my sensory issues were used as the butt of jokes by my family. I had many phobias due to these issues, but they were laughed off as they were seen as "extreme" or over the top.

Examples would be I was terrified of pinecones as young as 3 because I thought they were visually disturbing and dangerous. So, at the age of 4/5, we were in a park and I handed my mum my jacket so I could use the public loo. She proceeded to fill the pockets, sleeves and hood with pinecones.

I had a meltdown in the middle of a forest. I screamed and collapsed and i was told I was overreacting.

Now, this isn't good behaviour for an adult for any child.

But when you're an undiagnosed autistic, you begin to learn that your sensory pain doesn't matter. It's too much, and needs to be ignored.

Holding the door closed whilst the toilet flushed, another sensory pain was one done to me "for laughs". I was told it wasn't that big of a deal and I needed to grow up.

So, is it any wonder that late diagnosed (and probably many early diagnosed) autistics ignore their own needs? We don't want to be too much. We don't want to rock the boat and endure being told that we're overreacting and to just shut up.

[theconcealedweapon]

Some autistic people learn that this is how basic human interaction works. When something bothers someone, it's funny to do it just to provoke a reaction and laugh about it. So they do it to other people as an attempt at interacting with them.

But they missed the most important part of the rule. Only neurotypical people who are doing this to an autistic person can play the Kidding Card. Autistic people can't. Autistic people are held fully accountable when they make someone uncomfortable.

They end up constantly in trouble, disliked by everyone, and often even risk being physically attacked.

But they have no idea what they did wrong, because they were taught that it's how normal human interaction works, and because people who supposedly love them did it like it was nothing.

[aqueerkettleofish]

And then you get the outcome of the autistic kid seeing no point in following rules that don't apply to anyone but them, because-- and this is the important part-- whether they behave or not, they get tormented and punished.

[marchenshoujo]

That was genuinely sadistic and vile, I'm sorry your parents were so cruel to you. Even if their intention were to "toughen you up" by some bizarre flooding method to desensitize y ou, it's not supposed to be something sprung up on someone unexpectedly and without their consent. Taking delight in it and laughing is just cruel and sadistic.

[pagliacci2]

If the woman that JK rowling posted an upskirt photo of had been a cis woman snopes wouldn't have said this was "mixed" and you know it.

[vexatiousvic]

Not that it was necessary, but I looked up definitions, and yeah, obviously "taking a photo under someone's skirt" is literally it. Fuck Snopes so fucking hard. I need them to explain to me how it doesn't fit the definition to a fucking t:

And what the FUCK do they mean, "public setting"?? Yeah, upskirts are mistly taken in public fucking settings! That's not an eycuse, that's part of the fucking issue

[pagliacci2]

And truly what do they mean it was in public? Does that mean that the upskirt photos people take on subways dont count because other people are around? OF COURSE IT WAS IN PUBLIC THATS HOW THE PHOTO GOT TAKEN IF SHE HAD BEEN PHOTOGRAPHED AT HOME IT WOULD HAVE BEEN BREAKING AND ENTERING

[doe-eyed-disaster]

what do they mean "it wasn't taken surreptitiously"? there isn't any implication here except that because Freda Wallace was in public, she consented to any pictures that might be taken of her? this is just "look at the way she* was dressed". snopes is doing rape culture.

[estrogenesis-vaporeongelion]

https://archive.is/Nv1K1

according to archives the first version of the snopes article listed it as "true," but it seems to have been changed. given rowling's widely known history of extreme and aggressive litigiousness i'd be willing to bet her legal team probably objected and snopes caved

[dakigivemethestrength]

Within 24 hours of posting a callout of a trans woman who's in pain (traditional TWERF pasttime) on a whole different website, her Twitter account gets nuked.

Over and over again, we inform these people that pointing out the slights trans women make will always hurt these women way worse than anyvody else, and they just keep doing it anyways.

I'm 100% convinced it's on purpose 99% of the time. I don't believe the Tboy Tears.

[estrogenesis-eeveeangelion]

if a cis woman, after a breakup, said "done with men forever sorry" and got dogpiled by men harassing her it would be obvious to everyone that these are misogynists punishing her for saying out loud that she's no longer romantically or sexually available to men. but i guess because she's trans & people have heard of her, everyone lines up to demonstrate their virtue by vilifying the Bad Trans Woman Of The Week instead. clearly any trans woman you've heard of is a celebrity worthy of being #canceled, and surely no woman can ever be allowed to say she's not interested in men or she's tired of their behavior. i hope every single person who harassed this poor random trans girl chokes and fucking dies for real

[sapphling]

i think it was kind of a major failing to frame the self diagnosis issue around whether it's "valid" or not rather than the fact that unless an official diagnosis is necessary for you to access actually beneficial pharmaceuticals, accomodations or disability benefits, you should actively avoid on-paper diagnosis for your basic safety and access to care

[feminist-space]

[seracadash]

crazy concept. imagine

[sarafangirlart]

Ppl can’t criticize fucking anything anymore.

I’ve constantly seen Nolan fanboys joke that all the ppl who criticize the movie act like they’re experts in mythology yet when AN ACTUAL EXPERT criticizes the damn movie ppl still get mad.

[frostops]

This is so fucking funny.

“I couldn’t possibly be mansplaining. You probably don’t even know what mansplaining is. If you would consult the chart. Which I made to teach you something you couldn’t possibly know better than me. Hashtag transandrophobia”

[realshy]

careful, #feminists! don't want to oppress trans men or trans masculine people by telling them they're mansplaining when actually they just don't know that they're dominating the conversation, and he did then if you told him he was dominating the conversation he would stop, and if it wouldn't then actually maybe it just knows more than you, and if xe doesn't then you should really think hard about whether you've made xem aware (politely!) that you know more than xem, and if you haven't then you should very quietly and submissively suggest to him that you do know more about this topic than he does, and then he'll probably listen. you hysterical bitch.

[nylarac]

not to be a pedantic hater but i wish tumblr accent wasn't the commonly used term to describe tumblrina typing quirks and phrases bc that is Not an accent it's a dialect!!

[seimsisk]

what's the difference here?

[nylarac]

accents just affect how you pronounce words

dialects also include grammar (like tumblr users' tendency to not captialize except for Emphasis or ending sentences with commas like this,,,,,) and vocabulary (blorbo, devil's sacrament, #mythis, etc)

[treecitysessions]

Even in left wing circles it’s literally like pulling teeth trying to get people to take misogyny seriously as a real problem that is killing women and ruining their lives everywhere all the time and not like a haha silly 1950s problem we just make jokes about now

[mexicast]

"Overconsumption is bad because we have limited resources on earth and the production of your comforts is done by practically enslaved global southerners" - yes real. Fucking real and true.

"Overconsumption is bad because you will get fat and lazy and stupid and fat and your brain will rot and youll be a feeble whiny disabled" - okay you are a eugenecist. Can you fucking hear yourself

[mexicast]

same thing for ai usage. Are you complaining about companies investing in ai over people, or are you just an inch of self preservation away from openly calling its users the R slur? Be fucking honest i see how you talk.

[jadeharleyinc]

#i dont think ppl reliant on ai are inherently disabled actually. im disabled and i find that frankly offensive#ive received my fair share of brain damage but i can tell people who are outsourcing everything to ai are basically headshotting themselves#it is genuinely bad for you thats not said out of a desire to be intellectually superior to anyone.#it is said because i think purposefully lobotomizing yourself is bad for your health#especially when youre poisoning the earth air and water at unprecedented scale to do so#and purposefully sabotaging yourself is... uh... bad?

ok but you are doing the exact thing OP is talking about. what you are saying is false, reactionary, and deeply ableist! you are talking about "headshotting" yourself and "lobotomizing" yourself, that IS exactly what OP means by one inch away from the R slur!

none of this is supported by the science. the most shared studies about AI "brainrot" (and other lovely woke ways to call people brain damaged) are a microsoft survey where nothing was measured, and a MIT paper by some lady with an AI chatbots cognitive consulting startup.

the idea that AI pollution is especially bad compared to the tech industry in general is just blatantly false. the idea that it is in any way "unprecedented" is absurd if you know anything about datacenters in general, the tech industry in general, or industry in general. especially if you're paying attention to its effect on the global south. this is a drop in the bucket compared to cars, agriculture, plastic, literally anything else.

i am disabled. sometimes i rely on AI tools. that includes all the "evil generative AI" (to make todo lists, write boilerplate code, etc) but also the "good analytical AI" like speech to text. if i ran an AI image program 45 minutes a day for a month to make 1400 images, that would emit as much CO2 as a 3 mile car drive, or as making a single meatball of beef.

you're repeating ableist, reactionary propaganda that scapegoats AI as exceptional, and sweeps under the rug much older, worse shit caused by tech you like, like netflix and youtube. you don't have to do that.

[biblicallyaccuratemoth]

Caught in an eternal loop of “I am the only sane person here” versus “I may be the craziest bitch alive”