gender is over

gared / he/him / ♥10/13/18♥ leo / philly / infp / pansexual T - 8/21/18

[sallymolay]

More Safety Tips For Trans Travelers

Here are some more safety tips for transgender travelers, fetched from the Asher and Lyric site. These are tips from Derek and Mike, Meg and Lindsay Cale, and Andrew Dobson.

1. Select the gender that appears on your Government ID. When booking tickets, indicate the gender that appears on your government-issued identification. Sometimes this is different than the gender you present, but the legal requirement is only for the names on your ID and travel documents to match. You should never be questioned or forced to further prove your gender based on your gender presentation.

2. Pat-downs are based on the gender you present, not your ID. If a security pat-down is required, it must be completed by security personnel of the same sex as the passenger. In a pat-down situation, it will be based on the gender that the passenger presents and not their government-issued ID.

3. Body scanners don’t actually show your body. For trans and non-binary travelers worried about body scanners, the countries mentioned do not display the actual scan of your body to security personnel. In fact, all passenger images are displayed as generic body forms on the screens visible to staff.

4. Wearing a prosthetic device or binder can lead to further questioning. Trans and non-binary travelers should be prepared for additional questioning if wearing prosthetic devices or binders. These travelers are not required to show, remove or lift clothing to reveal these devices. Simply answer any questions in a straight-forward manner and speak to a supervisor if any of those described situations should arise.

5. Find LGBTQ+ friendly businesses before you leave. Consider using the International Gay and Lesbian Travel Association as a resource for finding LGBTQ+ owned and affirming businesses in countries where you may have more concerns. Knowing that a business is owned by LGBTQ+ people or specifically seeks out LGBTQ+ accreditation may offer some peace of mind.

6. Be sure that sex toys are legal. In some countries, traveling with sexually explicit material can be used as evidence of sex work which may result in you being detained while traveling. Transgender and gender nonconforming people are often unfairly targeted, be aware that in recent years there have been a few instances where people have used sex toys to victimize LGBTQ+ travelers.

7. Consider who you disclose your identity to. Consider who you disclose your identity to while you are traveling in countries that are not as LGBTQ-affirming as your home country.

See more travel tips and an index of countries ranked by sefety for LGBTQ+ people here!

Photo: Malte Lu

[kaijuno]

Shit this got me out here cryin in the club

TERFS do not interact

[mantimecomic]

Being buried in paperwork is the edgiest

[whitepeopletwitter]

[catbirdseat4u]

➣ NBD people…  Just the latest thing trending on Twitter

➣ Oh, and you can access Trump’s original tweet HERE.

#SudafedHead

[liberalsarecool]

Trump is not well. #Sudafed #addict

[chaoswolf1982]

Trump was never well. It’s just that now the proof is coming out.

[drtanner]

It is at once hilarious and also incredibly frustrating to see this Tango fart man visibly and flagrantly breaking the law in just about every way possible, and every time something new comes out, everyone’s like, “OH!!! THIS WILL BE THE THING THAT RUINS HIM!!! THEY’LL GET HIM FOR THIS ONE SURELY!!!”

And then they don’t, and nothing happens, and then next week we find out that the Tango fart man broke the law in some other stupid, clearly observable way, also with no consequences.

[hoork]

[shinvermouthea]

you ever notice how to bureaucrats trans people are whatever gender is most expedient for them? transgender woman gets denied a change of gender, she goes outside topless and gets arrested on public indecency charges that only affects women. not woman enough to change her gender, but woman enough to go to jail. this trans woman veteran from ww2 got married after changing her gender on her birth certificate, and after her husband died she was denied widow’s benefits because social security said gay marriage wasn’t legal in the state they were married in. didn’t matter that legally she was a woman and he was a man. she fought that decision and won, but she still was woman enough for her state but not woman enough for the feds

being trans isn’t always about people deliberately misgendering you, sometimes it’s about them deciding what gender would fuck you over the most at any given time. you’re not a woman until it’s expedient for them, you’re a woman until they’d have to actually give you benefits. it’s a bitch and a half

[shinvermouthea]

this is why adding a third gender option to birth certificates and driver’s licenses and passports is pointless; regardless of what letter it is, m, f, or n, you’re going to be treated by whatever authority figure sees you however they decide. it’s far better to simply remove gender from documents like those

[a-trans-comic-by-me]

“Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep” – Mary Elizabeth Frye

Happy Pride 2019!

[swordsdance-deactivated20191029]

peepole…”lesbians are subject to unique forms of violence and oppression because of their inherent lack of attraction to men” and “bisexual women are subject to unique forms of violence and oppression because of their attraction to both women and men” are things that can be true at the same time, and neither of these things mean that one group is more or less oppressed for the way our sexualities are parsed under patriarchy

[stayatsam]

what do dog ears look like? im not very busty so i prob wont have them but id like to know as much as possible abt top surgery b4 havin it and this is the first ive heard of em

they’re just like leftover skin that was either like impossible or very difficult to clear away in the first surgery. my dog ears are like very small and dont bother me, especially bc my surgeon actually combined the first regular top surgery with a “corrections” in that he made an incision that goes under my armpits almost to my back, instead of just under my chest. 

they dont have any health implications, they don’t feel weird, the only reason to really fix them is if you don’t like the way they look tbh! hope this helps

EDIT: ALSO swelling on the sides is also extremely common! you will likely not know your “true” results of top surgery until about a year later. my sides have gone down significantly, and so have my scars since the last year

[estradiol]

“being gay and conservative is hard” good. hope it’s shitty being a literal traitor to your community 

[estradiol]

this is my single most controversial post on this site, every republican that comes into contact with it crytypes at me

[estradiol]

i houuhg.t tthe lgb tcommuniy was ll li..inclusiv,ee what do yo umeaan i i C..an’t Be racais tandd .. hatte poor ppeople????? .so muuch for te ;;htoleerant l lefft

[minecraftcourse]

support ALL trans people :) ! 💓

[mynonbinaryjournal]

And support non-androgynous non-binary people too!

[la-laborista-republiko]

[rhube]

TikTok has banned LGBT content

I think some people might not know, so I’m spreading this, but TikTok has banned LGBT content.

For that reason, I’m not going to be reblogging TikTok videos anymore, and I encourage you to do the same.

I know it’s hard. TikTok felt like getting Vine back, but they’re scummy homophobic poo-poos and I feel like we should take a stand against that.

[12drakon]

^^

TikTok is owned by the Chinese government oligarchs. It’s designed specifically as a propaganda tool.

[ifeelbetterer]

[smooththegoofyshark]

IT’S WHAT

[imnotabandicoot]

Time to post anti ccp content on tiktok

[missjessicabrewer]

I don’t care if I lose a thousand followers overnight, but if you think “tranny” or “shemale” are remotely acceptable ways to refer to a transgender person, please unfollow me.

[missjessicabrewer]

The number of notes on this pleases both my ego and my fragile faith in humanity.

[guys-positivity]

Adding on, “extra hole boy”, or “pussy boy” are equally abominable ways to refer to trans men.

[datboi-against-cgl]

Dont use Shim, shehe/heshe, chick with a dick d*ckgirl or c*ntboy either

[reyphorian]

and if you use “it” to dehumanize any trans person i will personally come to your house, break down your door, and piss on everything you own

[nothing--new]

‘Sissy’ and ‘trap’ are also utterly reprehensible…

[spiroandthelacktones]

Also if you call a trans woman futa I will kick your fucking teeth in

[fattyatomicmutant-deactivated20]

Please yes, im fucking sick of people looking at and consuming futinari culture and think that’s what we are

[goodnastygirl]

is it okay for a person who is not trans to reblog this?

[fattyatomicmutant-deactivated20]

Given the fact this is a legit list of words that trans people don’t want to be called/don’t want to hear, I hereby decree this post may be reblogged by everyone who wants to spread the word that these words are NOT ACCEPTABLE.

[hi-def-doritos-deactivated20181]

As somebody who literally had to tell one friend that “tranny” is a slur and “fem-boy” is not what you call a trans woman, I agree with this hardcore

[dodgygrungechick]

Reblog if anywords that degrade, disrespect, dehumanise Transgender people is NOT ACCEPTABLE. AT ALL.

[eightbowlsofspaghetti]

I HAVE THE PERFECT MEME FOR THIS POST

[sharkboxes]

[technogenic-mess]

This user will not forgive the Salvation Army for killing Jennifer Gale.

[thefingerfuckingfemalefury]

Never forget that the Salvation Army is a hate group that murdered a trans woman and is bigoted and disgusting

NEVER give these people any donations of any kind

[oogityboogityboo]

‘if you’re a trans guy why are you wearing a bra’ listen my dude, unsure if you know but the day I came out as trans my breasts didn’t immediately retract into my body. they continue to exist. and wearing a binder - no matter how well it fits - for hours on end day in day out becomes unbelievably uncomfortable. wearing a bra as a trans guy doesn’t make you a Bad Trans™. can we stop putting expectations on trans people to perform to the Good Trans Person Standards and being terrible to them when they don’t. other words, can people mind their own fuckin business when it comes to other people’s bodies and what they do with them lmfao

[oogityboogityboo]

this goes for giving trans women shit for not shaving too. there are a hundred and one reasons why someone may choose not to shave or not be able to. people empower cis women for not shaving (which is perfectly fine and great) and in the same breathe shame a trans woman for not choosing to shave. don’t force a higher standard of presentation onto trans people, especially when those presentations are rooted in stale expectations of gender.

[disordered]

[politijohn]

Being shortsighted isn’t a good look.

1972- Wrote a letter in support of abolishing all laws dealing with abortion, sexual behavior (adultery, homosexuality, etc.), and drugs

1983 - Bernie Sanders signed the first proclamation to create the first Gay & Lesbian Pride Day in Burlington, VT

1985 - Burlington passes proclamation protecting LGBTQ people from housing and employment discrimination

1993 - When Congress members attacked non-discrimination in DC, Sanders voted “no”

1993 - Voted “no” on ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’

1995 - Sanders rebuked Rep. Randy “Duke” Cunningham for using the word “homos” when talking about gay people in the military

1996 - Voted against the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA)

1999 - When Congress tried to keep domestic partners from adopting children in DC, Sanders voted “no”

2001 - When Congress tried to keep domestic partners from receiving health benefits, Sanders challenged it

2004 - Voted against the constitutional amendment banning gay marriage

2007 - Voted to expand and strengthen penalties for violent crimes committed in the basis of sexual orientation

2009 - Voted to expand federal hate crimes to cover offenses motivated by gender identity and sexual orientation

2009 - Supported Vermont’s first-in-the-country law legalizing gay marriage

2010 - Voted to overturn “don’t ask, don’t tell”

2011 - Called on President Obama to support marriage equality

2013 - Co-sponsored the Employment Non-Discrimination Act

2013 - Co-sponsored the United Families Act to allow LGBTQ Americans to bring their partners to the Us

2014 - Co-sponsored the International Human Rights Defense Act

2015 - Co-sponsored Civil Rights to include sexual orientation and gender identity protected categories

2016 - Co-sponsored Bill to designate June 26, 2016 as LGBTQ Equality Day

2016 - Bernie condemned conversion therapy

2017 - Co-sponsored the Every Child Deserves a Family Act which prohibits foster care entities from receiving federal assistance if they discriminate against prospective LGBTQ parents

2018 - Committed to passing the Equality Act

2019 - Has proposed a comprehensive housing plan that addresses societal homelessness, which disproportionately impacts the LGBTQ community

2019 - Committed to advancing policies that ensure fair treatment for transgender people who are targeted by police unfairly

But yeah, Bernie Sanders “skipping” a forum on LGBTQ rights to host campaign rallies is breaking news

[politijohn-backup]

LOUDER

[semicolin-deactivated20191121]

For anyone that thinks Bernie Sanders wouldn't be the biggest LGBTQ advocate to EVER be elected to the office of the president

[advanced-procrastination]

People posting and reblogging posts misconstruing small events in order to persuade people away from supporting good democratic candidates? Why does that sound familiar?

[adrestianflames]

While I agree with most of this? The implication that Sanders would be a bigger advocate for LGBT rights as President than Pete Buttigieg is... Bad. It's just very bad.

[socialistexan]

Pete Buttigieg came out in 2014, Bernie's been fighting for our community decades before most he was born.

Just because someone is gay or trans doesn't automatically make them a good advocate for the community, think of people like Milo Yiannopouls who is extremely transphobic, or someone like Caitlin Jenner that lets be honest set the community back a few years. Barney Frank, a gay man, and organizations like the HRC helped push trans people under the bus and used as a bargaining chip to pass an exclusionary ENDA. Hell the head of HRC at the time said trans rights would be recognized over her dead body!

By your logic, Ben Carson or Candice Owens are better advocates for the Black community than white allies who fought for Civil Rights (including one Bernard Sanders, but that's beside the point).

I know plenty of Jewish people who don't think Bernie is the best candidate for Jews in America just because he's Jewish himself - note I personally am a Jewish person he thinks he is, but it's because of his policies, not because he's also Jewish.

You aren't suddenly a better advocate for the community than someone who was fighting for the community before you were born just because you happen to be apart of the community.

So let me ask, in what ways will Pete Buttigieg be better than Bernie? What plans for advancing the community has he put forward? Is it more empty platitudes about how "this isn't us" or "the US can be better" or whatever? I follow politics pretty closely and I couldn't tell you outside some empty lines on his campaign website and saying he'd update the Civil Rights Act of 1964 to include gay people (which literally every other Democratic candidate supports).

All I'm saying is, if I'm going to pick someone who I think will be better for the community, I'm picking the guy with decades of history of fighting for us. The bad take is assuming the gay guy is best for my queer trans ass just because he's gay.