How do you unlearn shame?
Embrace being a gross and horrid little creature. I could never wrangle myself from "I am a horrible disaster of a person who shouldn't even be here" to "I am normal and do normal things, I have the same right to be here as everyone else", so the only other option was to go with "I am a horrible little menace and I am making my weird shit everybody's problem."
Going "yes, and?" at your own shame works for some reason. If you think that everybody in the room hates you and wishes you would leave, then the fact that nobody's told you that is their problem. Either they accept that you're here, or they're too scared of you to do anything about it. The difference between having a problem and being a problem is giving a fuck.


















