[portiastudies]

https://medium.com/@maack/well-what-are-yall-going-to-do-then-e281bd51de34

“Well What Are Y’all Going To Do Then?”

Online conversations about electoral politics continue to expose how limited our political imaginations are.

[portiastudies]

https://gf.me/u/yk3g4t

Single Black Mother and Teacher Wanting a Home organized by Karen D Brewer-Harrington

Hi everyone, I am a single Black mother and teacher with tw… Karen D Brewer-Harrington needs your support for Single Black Mother and Teac

[portiastudies]

https://gf.me/u/yk3g4t

Single Black Mother and Teacher Wanting a Home organized by Karen D Brewer-Harrington

Hi everyone, I am a single Black mother and teacher with tw… Karen D Brewer-Harrington needs your support for Single Black Mother and Teac

[kaliforhnia]

[huntrad-chadcel]

Me eating just another junk food

[thetearsofunfathomablesadness]

[thetearsofunfathomablesadness]

i love toxic men, i love men i should not like, so let’s go...

[icarusfellintomyarms]

If I were a therapist is watch this in front of my client as I scream holler laughed at this

[strongermonster]

anybody here wanna pay 30 thousand dollars for evans shitty couches

[gahdamnpunk]

Honestly!!! This is just psychological trauma in the making

[toastbutteregg]

THANK YOU

[aphony-cree]

I’ve asked parents about this and they always say they are teaching the child responsibility and “respect for other people’s things.” If I point out that the child accidentally broke their own toy they always say “I bought them that toy” or “my sister gave that to them.”

The problem is that parents view all possessions as not really belonging to the child. A part of them always seems to think that the adult who provided the money is the real owner

If a parent breaks a dish they see it as breaking something that already belonged to them, but if a child breaks it they see it as the child breaking something that belonged to the parents

People raising children need to realize that household possessions belong to the entire household. If everyone has to use that plate then it belongs to everyone and anyone can have a forgivable accident with it. It’s okay to deem certain possessions as just yours and ask everyone in the house to respect that, but extend the same respect to your child’s belongings

[cannilyuncanny]

Big mood. I know most of these are talking about little little kids, but here’s a tale from middle school. I had forgotten to charge my phone one night, and this was back when cell phones used to beep loudly when they were low on battery. I kept hearing the noise throughout the afternoon and not recognizing what it was because I’d never heard it before. When I finally did realize what it was, I was in science class and my fellow classmates were making presentations. I reached into my bag to try to turn off the phone, and then the low-battery sound went off, loud enough for the teacher to hear it. She confiscated my phone in front of everyone, and I didn’t get it back until after the weekend because it was a Friday. I was really embarrassed, especially to tell my parents.

When I got my phone back that Monday, my teacher said it was important for me to learn this lesson now since in college they wouldn’t tolerate phones going off. Fast forward to when I was in college, any time someone’s phone went off, either the professor would tell them to turn it off, or they would say, “Oh, my bad,” and turn it off themselves, and everyone would move on. I even had a professor who danced around while someone’s phone went off, and it was a welcome moment of levity during the lecture.

I say all this to say, one of the worst aspects of being a child/teen was adults assuming my intentions were malicious.

[dechart]

God I’ve been reading these posts for a while and each time I am struck with the realization that certainly not all parents were supposed to be a parent

[bobcatdump]

“I say all this to say, one of the worst aspects of being a child/teen was adults assuming my intentions were malicious.” YES this

[what-even-is-thiss]

The problem is, even if families are forgiving the culture around children still effects the child. I use myself as proof of that.

A few times between the ages of 4 and 18 I broke things. I broke my grandma’s favorite Christmas ornament. Her first question was: “Are you hurt?” and when I apologized profusely she said “I’m just glad you weren’t hurt.”

I broke a few plates. I broke a couple glasses. Every time my dad’s first response was “Did you get cut?” the second step was cleaning up the broken bits, and the third was a discussion of what led to me breaking it and how I could avoid doing that in the future.

Same with spills. Same with stains. My biggest “punishment” from my immediate family was being taught how to clean up the mess I made and being shown in detail how to avoid the same mistake in the future if it was avoidable. There were consequences for my actions, but they were the direct result of those actions and nothing much beyond that.

My family tried so hard to teach me how to deal with accidents in a healthy way. They were patient. They treated every slip-up as a learning opportunity. They showed me a lot of love. The other adults still got to me. Teachers still punished and publicly shamed me and other students for our mess-ups. Extended family members outside of my small supportive circle still yelled at me. My friends’ parents still got mad.

To the point where whenever I messed up my first instinct was that my dad or grandparents were going to punish me, or yell at me, or hit me, even though they never did. They just didn’t. They always responded with patience and an attitude of “I’m glad you’re safe and I want to help you learn from this.” And I was still afraid of messing up. Mortified. Expecting the worst every time.

It’s like… we need to change the culture around this, man. Completely.

[spamdini]

[worldssmallesttrampoline]

📘 Jenny Holzer, Untitled (Destroy Superabundance…), from Inflammatory Essays, 1979/82.

[portiastudies]

She says as she writes in a state of exaltation.

[oceanjar]

on food/the food writing industry & colonialism/racism

cooking other peoples food: how chefs appropriate bay area ‘ethnic’ cuisine by luke tsai, east bay express

the stark racial divide in pay for restaurant workers by alastair bland, npr

the primal pleasure and brutal history of sugar by ruby tandoh, eater

ole missus vs mammy: who owns southern food? by michael twitty, vice

what happens when a brown chef cooks white food? by khushbu shah, gq

the rise (and stall) of the boba generation by jenny g. zhang, eater

yelp reviewers authenticity fetish is white supremacy in action by sara kay, ny eater

pathology of displacement: the intersection of food justice and culture by shane bernardo, whyhunger

the bon appetit test kitchens race problem by soleil ho, san francisco chronicle

the vegan race wars: how the mainstream ignores vegans of color by khushbu shah, thrillist

whose food is it, anyway? by ann hui, the globe and mail

food, race, and power: who gets to be an authority on ‘ethnic’ cuisines? by lorraine chuen, intersectional analyst

[ratfuck]

impeachy the conservative clown

[clown-names]

YOU ARE COPYING MY IDEAS THE CLOWN

[ratfuck]

clown-names the MEAN RUDE ASS clown

[clown-names]

now you’ve fucking done it

[clown-names]

the clown

[nemfrog]

William Burroughs. High priest. 1995. Colorized. Book authored by Timothy Leary.

Internet Archive

[radicalgraff]

“Make the rich pay for COVID 19”

Seen in Albuquerque, New Mexico

[the1920sinpictures]

1920′s Silk chiffon teddy with silk shoulder straps, insets of lace at front, trim, legs and gusset. The front is box pleated. From Denise Ryan Auctions.

[joaquin-sorolla]

San Vicente cape, Joaquín Sorolla

[sosad-today]

https://www.amazon.com/Pisces-Novel-Melissa-Broder/dp/1524761559

[whisperdal-deactivated20230131]

Bro, you just posted blasphemy! You will surely be put to death!