PositivelyButch

Adult, Butch they/them/he

[thejsorcerer]

once again, I'm asking you all to please acknowledge the gray spectrums of aromanticism and asexuality. the concept of attraction is so subjective and complex that it can't exist on a black and white area only, a- and allo- aren't the only ways you can experience attraction. acknowledge the gray!

[sunshiny-rants]

Queerness is not just about sex and romance. Since the concept of queer has been around, so have asexual and aromantic people. Lavender marriages, voluntary spinsters, vows of chastity used to cover a disinterest in sex. “Monosexuals”, “anesthesia sexual”, “anaphrodites”, category "X". Queer-platonic relationships, asexuality and aromanticism are an undeniable part of lgbtq+ history. Before there were any terms, any flags or acronyms, choosing to not conform to society’s romantic and sexual guidelines has been the very essence of queerness. The inherent queer experience of feeling alienated because you don’t love the “right” way or feel the right feelings for the right people, of trying to meet the expectations set for you while trying to build a life that doesn’t feel like a lie. These are all part of the aspec experience. We aren’t “invading” a space we don’t belong because it’s a trend, or an internet identity. We’re not “spicy straight”. We’re making ourselves known in a community we have always been a part of.

[kristianasquill]

What No One Talks About

You know what no one ever talks about? How meeting "the one" doesn't make you any less aspec.

Like, you know when aphobes are all like, "You just haven't met the *right person* yet"? It doesn't follow logically.

A few days ago, my queerplatonic partner and I decided that there is a romantic element to our relationship, and that "demiromantic" describes our romantic orientations better. So yes, I "met the right person" and developed romantic feelings. But does that make me any less aro? Absolutely not. I wasn't alloromantic all along and just needed to realize it. You don't NOT develop romantic feelings your whole life and nullify your entire aromantic experience just because you find out you're arospec more than vanilla aro.

So yes, aspecs *might* meet "the one" and develop romantic and/or sexual feelings (not me, though, I'm ace as heck 😂). They might find out they're gray or demi. But that doesn't make them ANY less aspec.

Fight me on this.

[that-girl-glader]

Not me being like I'm asexual to actually I'm greysexual to...hmm maybe I'm aegosexual to realising that I might just be aceflux. And all of those were what I felt at those points in my life. And it's just all so complicated and I hate constantly being confused about my own sexuality. So Imma just say I'm asexual/acespec if that's alright with y'all.

[pansyfemme]

polyamory would not always fix the love triangle. sometimes it would make it much, much worse. but they should do it anyway

[positivelybutch]

I love queer as a descriptor for myself because it really encapsulates everything. I’m queer in the way I relate to gender, I’m queer in the way I relate to and navigate sexual attraction/sex, I’m queer in how I experience romantic attraction and love. Nothing about me really fits what we are often told people are supposed to be. And isn’t that just so queer?

[positivelybutch]

Keys jingling on a belt loop is the butch version of femmes’ heels clicking on a stone floor.

[positivelybutch]

To all blond people out there who are trying to grow facial hair…I see you.

[cephalopod-celabrator]

It is inherently fun and sexy to say statements that swap the traditional genders of pronouns and terms mid-statement, such as: "I'm going to make him my wife" "She's my boyfriend" "Who says a guy can't be a pretty princess?" "That girl's the coolest dude I've ever met" "She's a madman who has to be stopped" "It's not his fault he's a material girl" Gender is a set of watercolors and the prettiest shades come from mixing the paints together.

[trans-dwightschrute]

Please refer to me this way

[broadwaytheanimatedseries]

Women are my favorite guy

[lesbianjoefixit]

There these seemingly contradictory societal double binds that are used to enforce conformity.

Example: A Lesbian is told that "everyone is actually bi" while a bisexual woman is told to "pick a side". Seems contradictory but really they just want us to be straight lmao.

Another one: A woman who does not perform womanhood to society's standard is not a real woman vs. You can never change the gender you were born with. One is butchphobic/anti gnc women, the other is transphobic. Clearly both enforce transmisogyny.

The insidious thing is that these double binds also foster inter community division. Its easy to hear one side of these, for example: "everyone is a little bi" and assume that means bisexuality is more accepted. But on the other side bisexual people are getting the same shit.

None of these are contradictory when you realize that bigots simply don't want lgbtq+ to exist at all.

[killy-deactivated20241228]

Help Ahmed and His Family Escape Gaza, organized by H A

To introduce myself, I’m a Palestinian-American who has been to the West Bank many times. R… H A needs your support for Help Ahmed and His

Making this new pinned post for Ahmed @90-ghost Please donate and/or spread as much as you can.

EDIT: GFM is giving me grief because this is going to someone in Gaza. I am trying to sort it out, but if the worst-case scenario happens and they shut it down, I’ll have to refund everyone. Currently, I can’t even access the funds. You can still donate if you want, but you’ll be more sure to get money to Ahmed if you go to his blog and use his PayPal or Ko-Fi to donate directly.

EDIT 12/24: the fundraiser hit its goal! But the funds are still in limbo. GFM essentially concluded their questioning and told me that they will reach out when there’s a decision regarding whether or not I will be able to transfer the funds or if everyone will be refunded. I’m trying to at least pester them for a decision ASAP, but in the case of a refund, please pay attention to your email for the refund notification and re-send your money directly to Ahmed’s PayPal: @/ahmed94saad

EDIT 12/29: the good news is that GFM reached out to Ahmed directly, received his documentation, etc and it looks like they’re moving forward with lifting the hold on the account, hopefully. The bad news is that the cost of the permits has gone up in the time that this has taken. It’s $7500 per person now. I’ve adjusted the goal and re-opened donations accordingly.

[positivelybutch]

I feel like I owe a lot to the intersex community/intersex activists.

Even setting aside that intersex rights are intrinsically connected to bodily autonomy (and thus connected to transgender, disability, and women’s rights), it was intersex activists that taught me that sex characteristics exist on a spectrum.

It helped me understand how my gender and sex are in relation to each other and understand my own body and androgen sensitivity.

So anyway, intersex community/activists love you 💛💜💛

[positivelybutch]

Never underestimate the power a comfy sweater has over gender dysphoria.

[positivelybutch]

Sometimes I’ll be in school or at work and suddenly realize that I am existing as an out nonbinary adult in the real world and I can’t even believe it

[positivelybutch]

I’m a they/he kind of girly

[thepoisonroom]

the kens are going to create new transmasc genders you've never even seen before

[boringkate]

Transitioning is a very serious decision and you shouldn't do it unless you're kinda bored and wanna try it out.