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You can call me Lux. iām a transexual siren and the host of a system. This is mostly queer political reblog.
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The worst sin you can commit around so-called "woke" white liberals is pointing out that, actually, NOT every homophobic republican is gay!, actually, many of them are just evil cishets doing their thing, and the closeted ones affect people more through evil than through their gayness so why are y'all so fixated on it? Hooooboy y'all those liberals will FLIP THEIR SHIT because how DARE you fuck with their hilarious narrative turning every evil anti-queer politician into a good ol' fashioned fag like they deserve, it's actually SUPER liberal and cool and effective to blame all queerphobia on queer people, why are you RUINING our GOOD TIIIIME
"BUT DOESN'T GRINDR KEEP CRASHING WHEN--" no. Jesus it happened ONE time at ONE republican gathering. Yes there's a SLIGHT increase in traffic on the site for their gatherings - the same as EVERY SINGLE BIG GATHERING OF HUMANS. If you've been telling people "Grindr crashes at EVERY GOP convention" you've been spreading misinformation to blame queer people for the violence they face in the US and it's gross
Black people who have any form of hair at all deserve 1 million dollars.
Since July is Disability Pride Month
(as opposed to every other month when we're all demure about disability rights /gentle sarcasm)
I wanted to highlight one of my favorite artists: Liberal Jane.
I really need the "Let's publicly execute pedophiles" crowd to calm tf down. I really dont like having to defend people who hurt children but like. Our rights dude! We need our rights!
Right yeah like. The death penalty is bad and due process is important, actually? And let's consider restorative justice instead of a carceral system maybe?
And Also, most people who sexually abuse children are not predominately attracted to children, the children are just there and vulnerable. Victim of opportunity. It's usually about power and violence more than it's about sex.
Abolitionism anyone?
Or
How queer people have been accused of being pedophiles historically for a lot of modern history and itās gotten worse recently and do you not see where this is going?
You are being manipulated with this rhetoric, if any group is marked for executions, then the state will use that power to execute and this state will use that as a political weapon. Itās already happening and has happened and will happen again as long this is our system. Donāt buy into it, the prison system is not the only way and it isnāt justice. Itās a tool of capitalism and slavery and white supremacy. Itās a system of economy and control that was sold to you as justice
The video is actually about how all of those things don't equate to a sense of self. She talks about how this "list of traits" often backed by corporations is a trap to further remove yourself from discovering any actual deeper meaning and feelings, when Myers Briggs could do the work for you.
Then, every one of us rebloging this without having watched the video fell into the misogynistic trap of seeing a screenshot of a woman talking about how she feels and decided she's full of herself.
white europeans love to pretend like the united states and europe arenāt two cheeks of the same ass
Listen, nobody who's ever opened a history book says we didn't do that shit first. Pick an atrocity and chances are there was a time europeans did it on mass to someone for the sake of profit. The difference, is that we have for the most part put that behind us, while the US is just sinking deeper and deeper into it. We're not perfect, and we were a lot worse in the past. But it has been a while since we were the problem
so the racism, antiblackness, islamophobia, and hatred for immigrants just disappeared huh
"its been a while since we were the problem" someone Black was murdered by police violence in Ireland last month
Even ignoring the current shit (like we haven't watched Europe get increasingly insane about brown refugees over the past few years), the shit Europe is no longer doing still has consequences. Britain isn't ruling Egypt but they still got the artifacts in the museum. France no longer owns Haiti, but they forced Haiti to pay out the nose for international legitimacy, a process that effectively took Haiti 120 years to fully complete, which is why the island is disproportionately poor even compared to other Caribbean islands. You don't just get to leave your shit all over the world, wash your hands and then go "glad we finally evolved past having assholes"
taylor swift invited a guy who owns and operates an ice detention center to her wedding swifties can pack it up forever now your bitch is awful
Wild how no one made announcements like this about P.Diddy when his trial was happening.
Wild how abusive artists like Micheal Jackson can have biography movies made and not a single mention of accused abuses or the subsequent trials will be mentioned.
Hmmmm I wonder why people feel the need to explicitly condemn women and any action they may have possibly been a part of (like inviting a shitty guy to your wedding) yet do not extend this same behavior to men in the same industry who commit abuse and atrocities on a much larger scale š¤?
yeah i hate concentration camps because i hate women you caught me
Also like where were you that you think people didnāt talk about Diddy and MJ like this? That people still donāt?
References to both these men in other medias - songs and movies and old TV shows that are on streaming services now - have been censored or removed entirely because people donāt want the association specifically because of what came out in Diddyās trail and the accusations about MJ.
And btw regardless of peoples personal opinions, MJ was found not guilty on all charges but the damage to his reputation from the trial was irreparable and definitely impacted him financially as well as how widely reported his depression was the last 4 years of his life before he overdosed, so actually yeah there were very clear social consequences.
I remember people calling out others for still listening to Chris Brown. People stopped listening to Morgan Wallen when he was recorded saying a racial slur. People stopped watching Johnny Deppās movies.
JKR is a famously vocal transphobe and actively funds and promotes state and personal violence against trans people, trans women especially. Lots of people who were BIG Harry Potter fans, people who had been fans for decades, some their whole lives, no longer engage with HP in any way because of JKRās shitty personal views.
T Swift is not the first and only celebrity - woman or not- to have call out posts made about them and their fans.
And be for real, even if all her fans stopped supporting her right this second, she would still be fine because sheās a fucking billionaire, sheās already got more money than she could ever spend.
Itās not āmay have possiblyā anything, it was her wedding and she chose to invite a man who runs a fucking concentration camp, with multiple documented sources able to prove that. Her willing association with a person who runs an ice concentration camp has nothing to do with being a woman and everything to do with being a shit person.
And the people who still love and defend and supports a shit person and their objectively shit choices? Makes for a pretty good block list.
āIt just means you have to work double as hard as most people!ā
Well maybe I donāt WANT to work double as hard as abled people!! Maybe I deserve a BREAK!! Maybe Iāve been working MORE THAN double as hard for MY WHOLE LIFE and itās led me to immense burnout & caused me to develop several MORE disabilities!! Maybe I should be ACCOMMODATED so I donāt have to KILL MY BODY AND BRAIN over trying to do what abled people can do!! Maybe I DONāT have to work double as hard!! Maybe if thereās the option to let me NOT work double as hard, I should have it, because Iām already working double as hard JUST TO SURVIVE!!
Why do you think disabled people deserve less rest than mentally & physically abled people?
Itās a āPrime Dayā for this reminderā¦
"I'm just a girl", "girl math", "girl dinner", "divine feminine energy", "bimbocore", "clean girl", "girl's girl", "girlfriend brain" SHUT UPPP!!! SHUTT THE FUCKKKK UPPPPPP !!!!
being sick & miserable objectively sucks, but it has become significantly easier to cope with since learning that āsickness behaviorā is a well documented part of the bodyās immune response
feeling not only physically but also emotionally like fucking garbage is unfortunately an extremely effective way to force your body to prioritize fighting infection & keeping you alive. i donāt have to like it, but knowing why i get weepy & pathetic when sick does help at least a little
i just found out that this is not common knowledge and am reblogging so more people know
YOUR BODY DOES THIS ON PURPOSE
YOU ARE NOT A BAD PERSON BECAUSE OR "WEAK" WHEN YOU ARE SICK IF YOU CAN"T CARRY ON AS NORMAL
Rereading this on my sick days šš½
Why do I feel like I should print this out, frame it, and hang it in my office?
There is something sooo deeply American going on with Seattle Childrenās Hospital that I think would brick the minds of everyone outside of the United States.
The CHILDRENS hospital has to restrict helipad landings because of noise complaints from the wealthy home owners living next to it. Only the most urgent patients can land directly at the hospital. While the other kids have to land a mile away and are taken to the hospital via ambulance. Which is an unnecessary risk to the childās life and also makes the families pay for the helicopter AND ambulance.
The hospital says some limits on helipad access add pressure when children need lifesaving care.
Apparently this has been going on for decades and is only getting traction because a pilot complained on Twitter.
Unfortunately, a lot of people's idea of feminism does not hinge on women are autonomous beings who deserve equal rights and opportunities, but instead on women are beautiful and precious objects that should be treated well which is not actually the same thing. At all.
I'm going to sound radical when I say this, but out of all sexualities aro/aces are the only ones* going through that OG queer experience. And I bet most aroaces agree with me, but we just don't say it out loud.
(Edit: I admit this was a very 3rd world country thing to say about sexual minorites that I wrote in frustration)
We are still legally classified as a mental disorder or psychosexual dysfunction in most countries. Aroace people have fought hard, partially successfully, to have asexuality removed from the DSM-V in 2013.
My sexuality, aegosexuality/autochorisexuality, was literally named and defined by a doctor who wrote about it and asexuality as a paraphilia, in 2012.
Aro/aces are at high risk of experiencing conversion therapy. We're 10% more likely to be offered or undergo such therapies compared to other sexual minorities, and around 48% aromatics reported having experienced attempts or suggestions to "fix" or "cure" them. This includes being pressured or even forced to take medication.
Aromatics are especially discriminated in mental healthcare because of all the above.
In some places non-consummation is a ground to annul marriage and/or is ruled as cruelty. Basically, if you don't have sex with your partner, in the eyes of law, you are being cruel to your husband/wife and you're at fault for the divorce.
Asexuals are significantly more sexually assaulted than homosexuals (but not bisexual).
Aro/aces are not protected by most anti-discrimination laws, because asexuality is seen as lack of sexuality and not a sexual orientation. Same goes for romantic attraction.
Aro/aces have secret codes/signals for showing other aro/aces their identity without needing to come out to others. We wear white and black rings on specific finger and hand, just like gays did with handkerchiefs and lesbians with carabiners.
There's almost no media that doesn't dehumanise people who don't feel romantic or sexual attraction. Those that do exist were made by aro/ace people.
Surveys show most allos don't understand what asexually is, even when they are confident in their definition. This leads to almost all of asexuals being told they aren't actually ace because of xyz by allos.
Now, I'm not trying to make it into Oppression Olympics but I believe it's important to acknowledge how strongly discriminated aro/aces are when most people claim we aren't oppressed at all. I've heard so many times how aro/aces have "straight privileges" but what kind of privilege is it if we have to pretend to be straight and never come out to fucking have it? We deserves legal recognition, we deserve protection, we deserve acceptance, and we deserve to be seen.
So, I was not expecting this to blow up in any way or reach allos. I wrote this in frustration without even editing before posting. Sorry for the harsh and kinda vague opening. But also, I feel like I accidentally ragebated people into reading this post, so at least something good came out of this. To clarify:
This post very specifically was about oppression against sexual (and romantic) minorites. I don't mention anything about sex, gender or non-monogamy for that reason.
I wrote this mostly about how a-spec people are treated in progressive countries. Yes, in many countries all types of queernes is extremely oppressed, even so severely it's fatal. Also, it actually hard to even say anything about aphobia in less progressive countries, since studies about aces and aros aren't even really done there.
To respond to some reblogs and comments. I didn't mention some of the common ways of oppression since I didn't expected this post to be seen by allos. One such thing is erasure of our identity because "it's not real" or "lack of sexuality doesn't equal sexual orientation".
TW: sexual violence, skip to "end of TW". I barely touched on corrective rape of asexuals, mostly because it's such an uncomfortable topic to me, since I was constantly told how I "just need a good rape" since I came out at 16. Sexual violence is not uncommon in asexual community. People are often force to have sex or accept opening their relationship because "it's unfair" "they aren't satisfying their partner" and "need to sacrifice something too". The 2015 Asexual Community Census Summary Report found that:
18.5% of Asexual participants reported having had sex due to social pressure from a partner.
43.5% of Asexual participants reported having experienced sexual violence.
A different study on students from 2021 found:
More than 70% of asexual college students reported unwanted non-contact sexual experiences,
Over 50% experienced unwanted sexual contact,
Almost 25% were raped by coercion or physical force.
According to another paper, asexual individuals are 2.5 times more likely to report experiencing sexual trauma than allosexuals (also students).
I couldn't find statistics on corrective rape, not even a study using interviews, however there's a lot of people lived experience out there. Many people reported being threatened with it at least once. End of TW
Another thing are the quite famous in the community results of surveys about how asexuals are dehumanised. When participants had to judge how warmly they felt about individuals of different sexualites, asexuals were marked as least warmly of all (homosexuals, heterosexuals, and bisexual). When asked to assign different robotic and animalistic traits they dehumanised asexuals the most. They also indicated least amount of interes in interactions with asexuals or bisexuals after one meeting. When asked how they felt about hiring and renting to the four sexual minorites, asexuals were similarly unwelcomed as other sexualites. Shocking absolutely no-one, most people who were biased against aces were also generally queerphobic.
And like I mentioned, asexuality and aromanticism isn't included in anti discrimination laws. Why does it matter? Well, because hate crimes like those mentioned above are not legally recognized as hate crimes. If someone tries to convert (by rape, therapy, religious practices, or otherwise) a gay or bisexual it's recognized as hate crime, but when it's aro/aces it's not.
To touch on annulment of marriage, unlike divorce, it voids the marriage as if it never existed. The problem itself isn't that people who ended up not matching are parting. The issue is complex and some countries are up to task and some aren't. One example is Canada that doesn't include voluntary non consumption as a valid reason for being voidable. At least one side has to be unable to have sex for physical or psychological reasons. UK on the other hand defines it as not having sexual intercourse with the person you married since the wedding (does not apply for same sex couples) because of a wilful refusal or incapacity (physical or psychological). There've been some talk about this being changed after a case in 2021 of abuse. Not gonna lie, I haven't checked since if the UK still makes annulment a blaming game of who wronged who.
Oh, I have feelings about this too. It always annoys me, because it paints such a dormant picture of aromantism and asexuality. "Why are people hating on aro/aces? They're not doing anything!" WRONG. This post explains it pretty well.
On a slightly lighter note, (not really because transphobia), in 2015 Russia put a driving ban on people with disorders of sexual preference, which back then included people with fetishes, asexuals, crossdressers, and transgenders. This is such a silly thing to list as a reason for being unfit to drive safely.
Sources and other articles/papers to look at:
A very good article about corrective rape with lots of sources
A paper about corrective rape of lesbians, asexual women, and transgender men
Article about sexual violence against asexuals
Recent (2020) article about different types of social discrimination of asexuals
Article about general oppression of aces and its history
A paper about it ^ but in depth
Explanation of Allosexism
Stonewall's article about acephobia
About intra-community discrimination within the Queer Community of Aromatics
2015 study proving asexuality is different from Sexual Desire Disorder
Article that archived statistics about conversion therapy
Study about acephobia in UK
I bet you could update the fuck out of Wikipedia's acephobia page with this post.
"It's yank propaganda to support Black American and Native American liberation movements, because that's definitely something US famously and historically supports" -you fucking idiots
It is genuinely so funny in a distressing way that they hate the US so much (good) but hear about land back and are so quick to admit they do actually still want the US to exist but with a different flavor of white supremacist imperialism leading the charge.
When you hear about the Epstein files and you can't understand how people can be so monstrous, keep in mind that every monstrosity that happened on Epstein's island was legal just two lifetimes ago.
A monster kidnaps a barely pubescent girl, rapes and impregnates her, then traffics the baby. That seems like a horror story when you hear about it happening on Epstein's island. But it used to be legal. They used to do this openly. It was not only legal to do this, but also illegal to try to rescue the victims. The police enforced that. The police were originally created for the main purpose of enforcing that.
Rich people acting entitled to do whatever they want? Large numbers of people engaged in human trafficking? Police making the most monstrous people look like saints compared to them? That's nothing new. That's our country's history.
