To all lovers down there, I dedicate you to read these texts :) yes, dedicated to both genders and let not the title limit the advice between a man and a woman. These are written by a Filipina artist behind the name Lina Flor.
Last-Minute Message to the Bride
by Carolina Flores-Trinidad
On your day of joy, by telling adverse thoughts sneak out,
I know I'd be considerate like the fly in the ointment,
But I'll risk it: I feel someone has simply got to speak out,
To help you avoid many a future disappointment.
They say: the first year of marriage is simply the hardest,
But I tell you that this is not entirely so;
Actually, your whole married lifetime you'll be trying your darndest,
Continuously; if you want of your marriage to make a go.
Don't ever make the mistake of expecting perfection,
Nor strive for it yourself; 't would be foolish, lass!
And better be prepared in case of defection,
So you won't be too shocked when it does come to pass
Love, though most important, is simply not enough, dear,
From my own vast experience, in my evaluation,
'Tis a keen sense of humor, the ability to laugh, dear,
That can help a wife best through the worst situation.
And remember this: no matter how much you may exceed
In performing your role of wife with courage,
All by yourself, you can never fully succeed,
For it always takes 'TWO' to make a good marriage!
A Confidential Note to the Groom
by Carolina Flores-Trinidad
Your status will change eye the day is over,
From being a bachelor you'll turn benedict-
If the turn must evoke thoughts of another,
Let it be of that which a good life will predict.
Meaning, of course, Benedict the saint,
Patriarch of monasticism and holy mentor,
And not the Benedict whose surname was Arnold,
Who from starting as hero, ended up as traitor!
Not that it's saintliness I'm advocating
As the most Judgmental husbandly trait-
(It must also be quite exasperating
To a wife to have a paragon for her mate!)
But the basic rule is simply this:
Be fair and square, loyal and true;
Peace and harmony and marriage bliss
Hinge on faithfulness between you two.
But just in case you should ever eyr,
In a moment's weakness, succumb, to temptation,
Here's an advice for you to remember:
Never admit the whole depredation.
If you love her, do your best to hide
The full extent of your transient distraction,
For it would add injury to hurt her pride
By confessing there 'was' a real infraction!