"Tattoos are becoming unpopular", "piercings are unpopular again", "keep your hair natural never dye it again, it's the trend now" literally fuck off I know what y'all are doing
The backlash was a major lawsuit from 9 tribes alongside other lawsuits from advocacy groups like NDN Collective. You can support NDN Collective by donating to them here.
Please don't ignore my first message, Israel demands the evacuation of the place. You are the hope for my family to survive.We left everything and ran away from death.
One last $50 to rebuilding my life
Vetted by gaza-vetters number in the list 365đ
I'm sorry to bother you. If it weren't for our need and hunger, we wouldn't have bothered you.đ
đŽ In Gaza â A Life Between Fear and Survival đ„đ
In Gaza, families live day after day between fear, hunger, and illness, in a reality that leaves no space for safety or stability. Every day becomes just another attempt to survive.
From the heart of Gaza, we reach out to you with deep pain and a plea for help⊠amelia romain needs your support for Help Wedad's family in
đŽ Between Hospitals and Fear... A Mother Fighting to Survive đ
We write these words not knowing whether we will still be alive tomorrow. My name is Najah, I am a mother of six children, and I am living through days beyond what I can endure. I try to stay strong for my children, but I suffer from a severe deficiency in vitamins, iron, and calcium, which leaves my body exhausted all the time, yet I continue moving between home and the hospital without rest.
â ïž My husband urgently needs surgery.
My husband is suffering from a severe health condition that began before the war due to digestive problems, but it has significantly worsened since then. He now urgently needs a surgical operation and continuous medical care that we cannot afford. His condition became even worse after he was injured during the bombardment while we were inside our home, increasing the danger to his life
â ïž My child has had increased electrical activity in the brain since early childhood.
As for my son Ahmed, he is a young child not yet six years old who has suffered from recurrent epileptic seizures since birth. He needs continuous treatment, but the essential medications are almost unavailable in Gaza and, when they do arrive through the crossings, they come in extremely limited quantities, making his treatment unstable and full of risk
đ There is no safe place left for us.
We live under constant bombardment, displacement, and repeated evacuation orders, with no safety or stability. My children live in constant fear, and we have no money to escape or even protect them, and there is no safe place for us to go. Every moment, we feel danger getting closer.
đŽ Repeated displacement and losing everything with every evacuation đ
With every evacuation, we are forced to leave our tent, our clothes, and everything we own, fleeing in panic, losing again even the most basic necessities of life with no ability to replace them.
đŽ Childrenâs suffering inside tents due to harsh conditions and illness đ
My children also suffer from recurring health problems due to harsh conditions inside the tent, where rodents and insects are widespread because of poor hygiene and lack of a safe environment, leading to painful skin infections and other health issues
đŽ Children are deprived of education due to familiesâ inability to provide basic school supplies đ
They also struggle to continue their education due to the inability to afford books, notebooks, and school supplies. The cost is around $200 per child, which is completely beyond our means.
đš We urgently need treatment, food, and safe shelter to save my childrenâs lives. đđ„đđïž
đ Any contribution starting from $25, $50, $100, or even $200 can make a real difference in easing suffering and giving this family a chance at life.
Donation link belowđ
From the heart of Gaza, we reach out to you with deep pain and a plea for help⊠amelia romain needs your support for Help Wedad's family in
đ Any support, donation, or even sharing this message could help save our lives.
đïž Even a small action from you might be the reason a child survives another day.
đż We are not asking for comfort â we are asking for a chance to live.
đš Please do not turn away. Your kindness may reach us when nothing else can.
Vetted by @gazavetters , my number verified on the list is (#629) @90-ghost
Those shockingly high âilliteracyâ statistics that go around arenât saying that like 22% of Canadians or 21% of Americans or whatever literally canât read.
Thatâs the number of people at level 1 literacy or below. Level 1 literacy is like grade school level. Able to read labels and straightforward instructions and whatnot.
Which is like. Still higher than the ideal for sure, but itâs not like a fifth of adults literally canât read. Theyâre just kinda bad at it.
Those rates are also at like 18% in the UK and around 14% in Australia which is better for sure but itâs also not like this is a problem unique to North America.
You and your spouse have been married almost a decade. Your spouse has several bank account, credit cards, and small investments that they haven't shared with you. your finances are separate, save for a groceries account they mete out specific amounts into. You didn't agree to this arrangement, you just didn't really get a say. You've had chronic illness for a while so work has been patchy. You're struggling to cover your cell bill and bus fare in slow months. Your spouse wants to solve this by giving you an allowance ($65/mo). This kind of financial arrangement in a marriage is:
Wow. I was not expecting the massive response this post got, but thank you to everyone who's been filling out this poll and/or commenting on it! I feel like maybe I should give some clarification or context?
I posted this poll because my spouse thinks the above arrangement is reasonable and their prerogative. They feel that what is theirs is theirs, and they don't have to share it with their spouse, and wouldn't expect me to share what's mine with them if the tables were turned. I deliberately avoided using language in the poll that made any of the responses leading, because I didn't want to influence the results. When my spouse and I have arguments about how few of my basic needs they meet, and how vulnerable I feel, they tend to dig their heels in and insist that defining what a partnership looks like is up to the individuals and it's ok to deviate from the norm (which I agree with in principle, but only if both parties agree to the arrangements and can do so freely, not through coercion), and sometimes I genuinely feel like I'm crazy for thinking that there's a basic standard we get to expect from each other mutually, not in this one-sided way, and that my partner is being being both neglectful and controlling at the same time. I posted this poll because even when my spouse makes me feel like I'm being unreasonable, I know in my gut I'm not (not least of all because we very much did talk about our expectations of each other in both the best and worst potential situations, and what they promised me is not what I'm living now).
To see how many people have responded by straightforwardly calling this financial abuse, and to see how few people see this as normal, is validating to say the least. I've begun the process of building myself a life raft out of this situation, and I think I needed to see this feedback - so many strangers responding to what I hope is as neutral a summary of the situation as I intended it to be, and still calling it like I see it.
What I didn't put in the above poll is the even crazier stuff: A few years ago I ended contact with my abusive family, and my spouse promised to take care of me. Not long after they stopped giving me emotional support and asked me to seek it from my friends instead of them. When my computer, my main work tool, suddenly stopped working, they would only help me pay for a new one if I paid them back for it (they put me on a payment plan, but it was better than a bank loan because there was no interest and they let late payments slide). I also contracted a serious chronic illness because my partner was careless and ignored my existing health issues which made me vulnerable, and they failed to take care of me to the point I wasn't even eating properly while in bed with a fever, and for months after. Any support they gave was won at the cost of arguments I didn't have energy for, and reluctantly, but to friends and family my partner presented themselves as a caretaker.
I've struggled to work steadily and most of my limited income went to repaying the cost of my computer, so I depleted any savings I had left after the pandemic. As a result I sometimes couldn't even afford basics like toiletries or even clothes (I once showed up half an hour late to a doctor's appointment because the zipper on my only jeans broke and I had to wear a skirt in the freezing cold), and my partner, while expressing sympathy verbally, didn't take any action to offer tangible support, ie. buying me a new pair of jeans. I didn't have my family to rely on for safety and support. Anything I want or need, whether it's a necessity or something like a trip to visit family or friends who all live far away, I have to meet my partner's parameters since they're the one footing the bill. It took many arguments and detailed explanations of my difficulties and expectations before they would give me basic support like a one-off clothing purchase, and even more negotiation for it to be given in a way that allowed me autonomy in decision making (ie. they handed me a limited budget instead of going shopping with me or asking me to run purchases by them first).
I've given my partner a lot of leeway because they're struggling with several simultaneous neurodiversities and they tend to be passive observers in most situations, rather than active participants. I can see the ways in which they struggle to understand my experience because of their NDs. It has also been several years now since their diagnosis, and they use their ND as an excuse, but won't seek support for it. I have to do the emotional heavy lifting for us both, and if my expectations of them feel reasonable to me, it doesn't matter because if it's outside of their comfort zone, even the simplest things become contentious and they get the final say, since they're the only one in the relationship who have financial independence right now. I have no access to, nor do I get updated on, any of their bank accounts or savings (worrying in case of an emergency), except for a debit card which has a set amount on it at any given time and is only for groceries and recurring bills.
My spouse will give me information on their financial standing occasionally if I ask, but they are very hesitant and reluctant. I have a bank account of my own, and my spouse has asked to see my monthly earnings for the purpose of understanding my needs, but I'm hesitant to show them because of how much of my trust they've compromised, and how private they've always been about their financials (not to mention that it indicates they don't trust me to state my needs reasonably and reliably). I believe that everyone in a marriage should have at least one personal bank account, but our finances aren't shared at all, save for the one shared groceries/bills account. That account does, however, include medical costs, and as long as my spouse approves the spending, I can use it for things like amenities.
I don't know if I will show my partner this poll, but it's really good to have in case I would like to. It shows what I've been saying to them for a very long time, which is that my expectations are based in widely socially accepted ones that most people are aware of, and while I want to respect that my partner's ND may preclude them from having understood this, I also feel it's reasonable to ask that they accept that I'm not unreasonable in having these expectations (especially since they had justified this with commitments they made when we got married and have since broken).
It's been well over a year since this post and I wanted to add an update:
I never did show my spouse this poll, but what I did do was go to
A lawyer
A domestic abuse non-profit
A government agency
and had all three confirm that the situation was economic abuse. It took me several months but I scraped together enough to have a consultation with a divorce lawyer and learned what my options were. I wasn't expecting to get much - even though they'd have to either sell our home and give me half of what he got for it, or buy out my half, I didn't think they'd be willing to do the former or have the money for the latter, but I could at least get alimony and I could take care of my needs and my health problems better and get away from the stress of the marriage. So I asked my spouse for a divorce.
The divorce process itself was... illuminating. I found out that my spouse had several massive savings accounts they had conveniently forgotten to tell me about. And what was lucky for me, they didn't seem to understand that in a marriage all things are legally shared. They seemed to think that if something was only under their name, it was theirs exclusively - like putting a label in your clothes for summer camp. So they didn't secure any of their accounts, and most of them consisted of funds accumulated during the marriage. Not long after that came to light, they moved out (their ND includes being severely conflict averse and you can imagine things became... tense). It took a long time until I could start to relax and feel like I could be safe again.
In the end I walked away with enough to have a safety net. I bought an apartment that meets my disability needs, and have enough to live on for a few years while I get back on my feet (though hopefully it won't take that long). Moving, and doing all this on my own was really hard, but luckily I've had wonderful friends who've helped me and been incredibly supportive. I still feel like I'm putting myself back together and finding myself, but am doing worlds better.
Thank you to everyone who commented and reblogged and added tags - that massive and unapologetic naming of this situation as abuse was so so validating and meant the world to me. I was significantly luckier than most people facing a similiar situation and found a way out. I hope you'll consider donating to one of these domestic abuse non-profits if you're able to, to help others who are struggling:
If you want to volunteer with domestic violence nonprofits, make donations, fundraise for them, or gather information, this can be the ultim
divingbelles are mermaids in the selkie family who use humanoid skins to house aquatic forms instead of the other way around.
as this lovely lady demonstrates, some of the more delicate divingbelles that take after jellyfish or molluscs hold onto their skins kind of like snail shells. they dislocate the pieces to unfurl from the spaces between when under water, and pull the bits back together when they want to hide or walk around.
i don't remember them playing mahjong but they do other old man things like going to the wet market together and drinking soup and taking walks. anyway go watch suk suk / twilight's kiss
it does get better. & then it gets worse. & then it gets better. & then it gets worse. & then it gets better. & then it gets worse. & then it gets better. & then it gets worse. & then it gets better. & then it gets worse. & then it gets better. & then it gets worse. & then it gets better. & then it gets worse. & then it's fine. & then we go get hoagies.
Here's my real tip for anyone moving out on their own for the first time; when you buy a set of measuring cups or spoons buy ones that have the measurement engraved into the cup/spoon and do NOT buy ones where it's just printed on. Because that ink/paint/ect. can rub off and then you'll have a bunch of useless little spoons and cups you have to get rid of bcs they no longer say what size they are. Don't ask me how I know, just trust me that you wanna buy engraved ones.
I always thought Reddit was a place where people could share things they created.A few days ago I posted one of my original paintings. People loved it. We had wonderful conversations about art, emotions, and how everyone saw something different in the same sunset.
About two hours later I was permanently banned from r/MadeMeSmile for âself-promotion.â
I accepted that different communities have different rules.But then something even stranger happened.Soon afterward, a moderator from r/pics started going through my account. Not just the new postâmany of my older painting posts disappeared as well. One after another. Then I was permanently banned there too.
Maybe it was the same moderator. Maybe it wasnât. I honestly donât know.
What surprised me wasnât even the ban itself. It was realizing how much power individual moderators have over what millions of people are allowed to see. One decision can erase years of posts from a community and instantly cut off your ability to participate, even if those posts had been happily sitting there for months or years.Iâm not saying moderators shouldnât have rules. Communities need moderation.But it does make you wonder where the line is between protecting a community and allowing a single interpretation of the rules to completely reshape what people can share.
The funny part?
I wasnât advertising anything in those posts. I wasnât posting prices or asking anyone to buy anything. I was simply sharing my original paintings because I enjoy discussing art with strangers from around the world.
AnywayâŠ
Hereâs the painting that apparently caused all the trouble. đš
So I do 3D modeling and printing as a hobby, and a few weeks ago I designed wheel guards meant to prevent office chairs from running over cables and clothes... or your pet's tail.
I got the idea from cowcatchers old locomotives used to have.
Anyways, yesterday I uploaded the model to Thingiverse, and just hours after uploading it, the Community Relationship Manager of the whole website left a comment suggesting I enter the model into a competition that's currently being held on the site.
So I did... and now it's in third place not even a day later. First place is $500, but the competition still has a month to go.
Then the Community Manager contacted me again, telling me they want to feature my model in an upcoming design promotion.
Just, what is happening? I mostly made this thing for myself in, like, an hour, and now it's suddenly super popular? This is all a little bit overwhelming đ”âđ«
Other models I worked on for weeks didn't get nearly as popular. I swear, it's impossible to predict what people will like.
Anyways, if you want to print the wheel guards yourself, you can get the model here or here.
I also made a quiet version you can stick furniture felt pads on.
masks as a signifier of deceit or attempting to hide something is Out. masks being used to represent stepping into one's own identity and not one foisted upon them is the new hit craze
masked character removing their mask in front of someone as a sign of trust: boring, overdone, reinforces the idea of the mask as the "fake" identity and the "real" face as the "true" identity
masked character's mask accidentally comes off in front of someone but they look away to avoid seeing their face as a sign of trust and respect: now we're cooking with gas
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