[raccoonmilf]

I’m sorry I didn’t mean to refer to your unvaccinated dog as an “empty vessel for rabies.” I’m sure it’s also something else. Like an empty vessel for distemper.

[spacecasepc]

Hey. What's up. Much right.

Let's add empty vessel for parvo to the list. Devastatingly contagious and fatal virus.

[badwolfbadwolf]

I think I am officially Fandom Old. I am so worn out from the arguments on who's the top or the bottom (who cares), what is allowed to be written (anything you want, bejeebus), what is Problematic (I know, just tag it), what other people Should Do (they Should live their lives free of judgment). There isn't a Right Way to do things. Tag your stuff appropriately, don't read stuff you don't want to read, and leave other people (me) alone.

[leeshajoy]

There is nothing quite like the freedom of having gone through all of the Discourse and come out the other side into the promised land of Not Giving A Fuck.

[randomslasher]

The three keys to the promised land are “Block, Unfollow, and Do Not Engage” 

[murderousginger]

I have been in Fandom spaces for 20 years. It is LOVELY once you become the bog witch that no longer gives a fuck.

[windsweptinred]

Proud fandom bog witch who's fucks have runneth dry, proudly maneuvering round meaningless discourse like...

[capybaralovers]

[orpheuslament]

i will personally never understand that thing people do when theyre like "i thought this was a good piece of art until i realised its fetish/pornographic" like why does art lose value if the artist was a little horny when they made it. why is that so scary. im sure a lot of the old masters were doing portraits of their lovers slightly bricked up & theyre still displayed in museums. why is sexual arousal not an acceptable source of inspiration when like every other emotion is. well i mean i know why sadly but i do not like it so i'll continue to complain about it

[what-even-is-thiss]

I still don’t get why people try to convince me that driving is less complicated than navigating a public transit system. With public transit I’m not doing most of the work.

[what-even-is-thiss]

What if instead of relaxing and just getting off the vehicle when it beeps at the right stop you got stuck in traffic and had to concentrate constantly on what you’re doing or else you kill somebody and started screaming at other people for not using their giant death machines correctly wouldn’t that be so much better

[cannibalchicken]

[weltenwellen]

Ocean Vuong, from “Someday I’ll Love Ocean Vuong”, Night Sky with Exit Wounds

[eroscestlavie]

I need to stop replying to “how do you make friends in your 30s?” threads because all my answers boil down to “you have to want to know people instead of have friends” and I don’t think people wanna hear that

[exhuastedpigeon]

The first rule of fandom is have fun. The second rule of fandom is find an enabler and become an enabler. Yes you should write that fic. What if it was even hornier? What if it was angstier? What if you wrote it just for me?

[crabanarchy]

They say ooooh be a good boy for daddy and you'll get a reward. But then the reward is just gay sex. This is bullshit. I wanted a skateboard

[crabanarchy]

Then they say if you're a bad boy daddy will punish you. But what's the punishment? More gay sex! You can't escape it. This whole damn place is in the pocket of Big Sex

[grungekitty-77]

Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

[grungekitty-77]

Fun fact, that was literally what inspired me to make this post!

[beybuniki]

shirakumo & tenko skeb <3

[where-is-zoro-one-piece]

Zoro every day whenever I edit him into a new location.

[loveridden1999]

whatever needs to be said was said in iris by the goo goo dolls

[hyperculture]

OH OKAY......

[criminalizegolf]

Never not thinking about the trans woman I met in a gay bar in a town I'll never go back to who said "gender roles are like chains, fun to use in bondage scenarios but largely irrelevant in daily life"

[greelin]

wdym i have to keep going

[thickness-protection-program]