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I’ve been seeing a lot of posts about transitioning and needing help. I feel the need to put out a resource for people to see.
If you need help with anything for transitioning, I implore you to reach out to a company called Point of Pride. They will help you with anything you need with transitioning. I am not part of Point of Pride, but I donate to them. There is a resource for you if you are transitioning. You are NOT alone.
https://pointofpride.org
if i could give one piece of advice to newly transitioning trans men, it's that it's 100% possible to find a community of people (including women!) who don't treat you as a threat, and the people trying to convince you otherwise are not your friends
Also, perhaps, have we considered that it's actually really bad that we treat closeted trans women (and closeted nonbinary people, and frankly cis men too) this way? Like. It's a bad thing that trans women are treated like distrustful monsters for """"being men"""" before coming out by one demographic and then are also treated like distrustful monsters after coming out for being trans by another. That's not a sign of a culture with a healthy relationship with gender in the slightest!!!
Have we considered that treating people as inherently dangerous or distrustful by virtue of their gender alone is in fact, the very gender essentialism that perpetuates radical feminism in our spaces and that is something that we should be working on stamping out?
I am genuinely sorry that people across multiple different identity lines experience this shit because no trans person should be treated like a distrustful monster just by virtue of their gender identity before or after coming out.
*extends my hand* Let's examine the ways we allow gender essentialism to invade our spaces and harm other trans people and put an end to this cycle of gender essentialist abuse together!
this bigoted attitude towards queer men not wanting to be treated as predators is bad enough on its own, but saying "most of the trans girls i knew occupied this space before coming out" like its something trans women should be okay with is so cruel and deeply out of touch. some of these people never actually read Jennifer Coates' "I am a trans woman. I am in the closet. I am not coming out." and it shows
You don't owe anyone, ever, to be a "decent man". You gotta stick within the basic realms of not harming people, by the same rules as other genders, but everything beyond that is completely auxiliary.
You are not obliged to go at lengths to make yourself appear safe and nonthreatening to others. If doing so would result in your own safety and wellbeing compromised - fuck them.
This advice applies to everyone, but especially - to trans people of any gender.
“most of the trans girls i knew occupied this space before coming out” — I think one of the basic divides among people is whether they react to being treated badly by feeling like it’s unfair if the next person in line isn’t also treated badly, or by wanting to make sure they aren’t.
Hot take, but I honestly suspect that if we stopped treating men as a threat, I suspect a lot of trans women would hate men less, because they wouldn’t have the same worry that they might be evil prior to getting HRT.
HRT should be about “I want different body characteristics because that will make me personally feel happier,” not “I want different body characteristics to distance myself from The Evil Ones.”
I mean, on the “people are going to be shitty even if you tell them to stop” level you “have to accept” that they’re going to keep being shitty. They’re getting something out of it.
Community, mostly. And “if I hate those people loudly enough, maybe it’ll silence the part of me that fears I might ‘still’ be one of them. It’s so much easier than unpacking my internalized self hatred.”
You are not, however, required to pay attention to them while they go forth and be shitty.
You are allowed to wish them the best and aggressively ignore them.
Ok now do NYT columnists
already this has tags in the notes like “#anti ai” but... this is just real life with almost everything. this is like grifter 101 please don’t exceptionalize needing to be critical of chatgpt.
This is literally how job interviews work, by the way, and then everyone is surprised the super-duper confident guy is also an incompetent moron.
It’s also where we get “con artist”, aka “confidence artist”. It’s someone who dazzles you with the assurance that they know what they are talking about because they speak with absolute certainty despite not knowing anything. I dare say it’s gotten worse with the internet because text and careful/exciting editing makes people seem more confident than before - and if you think you’re immune, you aren’t.
I have a confession to make. Sometimes I scroll tumblrs fyp. The algorithm is pretty fucking bad and mostly bases what you see next on a single post you spent a couple extra seconds on. And sometimes that post was the last one that loaded before the feed had to buffer for a lot longer than anyone needs to read two sentences about otters, but the algorithm saw me look at those two sentences for 35 continuous seconds so now I’m getting a ton of otters I guess.
It also. This is bad. It also considers blocking and reporting to be active engagement with a subject. So if you’re on the fyp and you block a Grinch Shipping Blog the algorithm will notice you clicked three entire times on a Grinch Shipping Blog and gain the understanding that you engage more closely with grinch ships than anything else. And guess what. Guess what it does then.
it makes me actually genuinely angry how gleefully "OH WE STILL GET TO USE HE/HIM?" people were about gooseworx saying that using he/him or she/her for jax were both acceptable. and how many people interpreted this as "jax uses he/she in an ideal world".
PEOPLE USE HE/HIM FOR JAX BECAUSE SHE DIED IN THE CLOSET. LIKE REAL EGGS DO, LIKE REAL REPRESSED AND TRAUMATISED AND SCARED GIRLS DO. it's a tragedy. you don't "get" to use he for her, you should have to feel a pang of grief every time you do.
everyone who is not currently in the process of moving please pause and take a moment to be grateful that you're not currently in the process of moving
sometimes instead of a horrid little monk, divine visions of lesbians dance in my head dispensing wisdom
Without fail, every time a woman is talking about how she does not want to have children and never wants to be pregnant and how medical professionals, romantic interests and family members keep trying to bulldoze her decision and keep expecting her to change her mind because motherhood is something that is expected of all women and it is abhorrent to think a woman could not desire it, a random mother spawns in the comments to be like “Well, actually, you never know! I didn’t want children and then I got pregnant and I realized I love being a mama and I have five little babies now! Could happen to you! 🥰”
Sister, keep that to yourself or make your own goddamn post, you are ignoring that woman’s central concern and belittling her, you don’t even think you’re doing it. Formerly childfree women who ended up having children and loving it are like detransitioners in the sense that there is nothing inherently wrong with changing your mind about having children or realizing you were mistaken about your gender identity but immediately weaponizing your indecision to tell people that the barriers to healthcare and the violations of their bodily autonomy and the way society ignores that person’s wishes is actually okay because you were wrong. Some people do know themselves.
Jasmine Vine, lead programmer of Hollow Knight & Silksong just transitioned!! I'm so happy for her!❤️🏳️⚧️
her bluesky header & icon are so cute too 🥰
I almost forgot to mention: this woman came into the penguin enclosure with a KESTREL??? I said “oh my god is that an American Kestrel?” and she said “Yes! She was outside doing raptor education for the kids, but she doesn’t like to get rained on.”
#she was watching the penguins with what I will anthropomorphically project as skepticism
kestrel: i hate rained on!!
human: here is birds in water
kestrel: ……no…..
This is me if you even care you need to do conservation efforts
how do we make more so that we save this beautiful species off the endangered list??
breed it.
duckduckgo fuck yourself
trying to search for like the one thing that treats us like any other girl for once!! only to be met with a reminder that we are considered a porn category first. it makes me so very sad and upset.
you can have this it is real
I kept forgetting my nighttime antidepressant so I set an alarm where the sound was a recording of me saying "HEY. TAKE YOUR FUCKING PILL" because I thought it would be funny. It was funny about three times, and then it started making me mad and I'd dismiss it right away to make it stop. So I handed my phone to my partner, who made another recording sweetly saying "Okay Shira, it's time to take your medication" and now I don't get mad anymore and I take my pill. The "compassion over punishment" camp has gotta get something wrong one of these days
the time difference between 7:39 and 7:40 is 5 million years
7:39 = oo ive got plany off time
7:40 = SHIT!!! FUCK!!!
acting all humble like he wasn't just begging and crying for it
