unfamiliar ceiling

wren/harlow | 19 | he/they | neurodivergent | plural | cripplepunk | no kings | free palestine | system stuff @changling-central

[rooftop-amnesia]

If youre a hot medicated bitch click keep reading

Ya rascal.

[sealsdaily]

Today's Seal Is: Making Contact With An Unknown Beast

[mugwomps]

I have never seen "wtf" so clearly expressed on an animals face

[aliciabenissa]

He looks so fucking upset I can't breathe

[stoneronthemoon]

[bigboyhammerhead]

@creatures-in-posts creatur meeting….

[creatures-in-posts]

Confirmed creature posts

[nyxfaei]

Dangerous crow boy just flew full speed into the glass window of the plastic factory, killing him instantly.

[nyxfaei]

Labubus have become an endangered species thanks to overhunting by the invasive dangerous crow boy

[baskabytheanglerfish]

"I asked chat gpt" ok well i asked dangerous crow boy and he ate my dress. help. im cold

[talesfromaurea]

I'd much rather see one thousand "graphic design is my passion" canva book covers and scribbly ms paint covers and poorly scanned colored pencil covers than a single AI generated book cover

[rooftop-amnesia]

Laby bub 🐞

[rooftop-amnesia]

Bubby is back

[depsidase]

[beetlebongos]

Looks thru a glory hole n sees a lovely meadow

[beetlebongos]

[scrimblospectrumdisorder]

me, moral ocd haver: wheee! the joys of life! *licks swirly lollipop*

The Guilt: we're gonna fucking Get you bro 😂😭😭🤣🤣🤣

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

“No one remembered my birthday-” Well, but did YOU tell anyone it was coming up and you wanted to celebrate it with them?

“I wish someone would see through it when I tell people I’m fine-” Well, but have YOU considered not lying when people ask you how you’re doing?

“I am so resentful of my friend because they keep doing this thing that really bothers me-” Well, but have YOU directly communicated that the thing is bothering you?

“I am burning out because my friend keeps expecting me to help them with serious struggles-” Well, but have YOU tried to establish the boundaries you need to feel okay?

“No one ever asks me about this thing I really care about-” Well, but have YOU brought it up yourself?

“I miss my friend but they haven’t texted me-” Well, but have YOU been reaching out to them?

Sometimes people are mean, uncaring assholes, in which case you get to be mad. But sometimes you just need to communicate better. Try communication before you assume someone doesn’t care!

[snipertrifle]

Having someone who knows you on such a deep level that they see past your mask, or sense you need a check in is such a deep satisfying fantasy. It’s up there with living in a cottagecore farm, or buying all your friends houses when you win the lottery. But you have to make peace with the fact that this is also a fantasy. It is unfair to expect people to “just know” when to respect your boundaries or to push them.

Being cared for is not a fantasy. But you have to let people know you need it. And you have to understand that sometimes they will let you down. Just like you totally could live in a cute farm, but you still have to shovel shit, and the crops sometimes die anyway. Or maybe you win the lottery, but you still have to manage your money and learn real estate law.

The fantasy isn’t the caring, the fantasy is not having to do the work. And it sucks. It’s embarrassing. But like the meme says, it’s not rotten if it’s YOU. So do it for yourself.

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

“The fantasy isn’t the caring, the fantasy is not having to do the work”! Thank you for that addition. Because it’s not a naive expectation to want someone to care to treat you right. But it requires communication and mutual effort to actually get there

[aromantic-diaries]

What I really despise about the "are cishet aromantic men queer?" discourse that went around is that it's completely transparent that that's not what it's actually about. They only think of this cishet aromantic man as a hypothetical person. What this really reveals is that the queer community as a whole still does not see aromanticism as an actual queer identity and thus when pairing it with the pinnacle of straight, the cishet man, the kneejerk reaction is that of course they're not queer. They don't think aromanticism is actually something that has a profound effect on someone's identity because they don't see it as anything beyond someone who chooses to stay single.

I saw this poll that was prefaced with a description of a hypothetical cishet arospec man who's the most stereotypical suburban white dad, everything in the text suggesting that he is the straightest man you can imagine and his arospec identity doesn't really affect him in any way and he's pretty much living like any typical straight cis man, and the question was whether or not he was queer. Like clearly what this reveals is that aromanticism isn't seen as that big of a deal. If you wrote a detailed description of me, an aromantic asexual trans man in a queerplatonic relationship with another asexual transmasc person, the answer would probably be "yeah he's queer" but would that really be because I'm aromantic? If all I say is I'm aromantic and not mention anything else I'll get the "you're basically straight" treatment.

Anyways. Yes, aromantic cishet men are queer because aromanticism has way more impact on your identity than just staying single

[rooftop-amnesia]

Im really high rn but thinking of this hypothetical aro suburb guy is making me emotional. He probably had a lot of struggles trying to find himself and navigate relationships during his teen/ya years. Stumbling through self descovery and battling internalized queerphobia. I would imagine hes experimented and explored many aspect of himself and now hes a well adapted and confident individual. I hope hes so happy. He lives in my heart now, I will protect him.

[chungledown-bimothy]

reblog to tell a 14 year old that these are the very, very hard years and they're not wrong to feel the way they do.

[nojglisrenaissance]

I had a fifteen minute long crying session yesternight over the fact that all I was 10 years ago, at the ripe old age of 14, is lost and lonely, and now, at 24, I am neither and that filled me with so much gratitude

[cecil-speaks]

reblog to tell a teenager that these aren’t actually the best years of your life and that things can and will get better when you have independance and maybe are away from your situation right now.

Its me reblog to tell me that

[pyrobchilling]

Oh shit I just realized I can post the "Gaussian Blur Wizard That Gaussian Blurs You" here

[transgendercyborg-deactivated20]

[zzoupz]

his friend "Motion Blur Mage That Motion Blurs You"

[blastovkatamarinecromancy]

Their long suffering associate, the "Sharpen Cleric that Sharpens you (badly)"

[artastic-foe]

Nooo!!! What have you all unleashed upon us!?!

[l4byr1nthz1]

dont forget the chromatic abberation warlock that chromatically abberates you

[vinnybox]

may I add Mystic Mosiac who turns your quality waaaaaaay down

[theo-window]

What did he do to deserve this

[rain-droplet]

punished by the council

[spleenmuncher]

Reminder that "aro/ace people can still be in romantic relationships" is a statement meant to explain actual real aro/ace people's lives, not for you to project allonormatively onto aro/ace characters.

[aromantic-diaries]

The thing about qprs is that they are a lot harder to get into than romantic relationships because they just don't work the same

I'm a partnering aromantic who feels absolutely zero attraction, so while I did experience that feeling of yearning for a partner like alloromantic people do, I never got that signal of "that's it, that's the person I want to be with" that you're supposed to get when you feel romantic attraction. All I got was this sense of longing for Someone but no one was actually the right person that I would actually want to be with.

With my qpr I had to go the long way because I don't get the attraction that actually makes you want to be with that specific person. I knew my partner for almost two years before I reached the point where I knew I actually wanted to be in a qpr with him and even after that it took a while to become as comfortable with eachother as we are now. Neither of us feel any attraction towards eachother and I wouldn't have it any other way but it did mean that I really had to get to know him and even learn more about myself in order to get to where we are now

My point here is that if you're also looking for a qpr, don't approach it the same way you would do with dating because it simply does not work the same way. You can't really find that person the way one would find a romantic partner and the slow but efficient method is to find a person that you really click with on a level that you don't with most people and take the long route of letting it naturally develop as you get closer. It's a slow progress but in my case it sort of just happened. I was way too emotionally closed off when we first met and what I learned is that if you really want the full experience, you gotta let people in even if it takes years

[co-fronting]

Something that always bothers me in mental health spaces is the fear of relating too much to each-other across the lines of different disorders. Too many times I've met people who are not dissociative systems, but have dissociative experiences (such as from BPD), and they trip over themselves saying "no no, I mean, I don't REALLY understand what you go through, my thing is totally different," and it makes me a little upset. Disorders are just clusters of symptoms packaged together in a certain way, that's why the names and criteria often change across DSM and ICD editions, and viewing them as entirely exclusive clubs where only they could possibly understand anything about each other isn't a particularly healthy way of seeing it. The lines between disorder labels are blurrier than you think. You are not being a bad person or overstepping for relating to symptoms of a disorder, or people with a disorder, without having their specific label. Very rarely (if ever, frankly) is there a symptom that can only occur in one disorder, or even one type of disorder. Psychosis can occur in countless circumstances. Dissociation and identity compartmentalization can occur in countless circumstances. It's better to focus more on your specific symptoms and building community with your fellow neurodivergent people, using the resources that help you regardless of if they were specifically made for your diagnosis, over worrying about whether or not you're "allowed" to relate to something or experience something similarly to someone else.