s and n

hey we're s and n ! enjoy your stay on our blog :) s & n | she/her for both of us main acc of @s-and-n-writes

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[eatingdisorderssuck01]

Imma need this eventually cause they don’t teach you jack squat in school

[sanders-sides-uncorrect-quotes]

Ima schedule to reblog this when I’m 16.

[mxdragonturtle]

Ima need this eventually

[ace-lost-in-motherfucking-space]

same fam.

[oh-star-how-the-mighty-fall]

Pfffft i’m 32 and I still need some of this advice

[chaoticmooncollective-deactivat]

Reblogging now for future me

[sharingneedles]

IVE BEEN WAITING ALL YEAR TO POST THIS YOU DONT EVEN KNOW

[fuckyeahpaganism]

I’m crying. 

[for-fox-sakess]

i scheduled this a year ago..

[madasross]

Scheduling for every year

[yannasketches]

dAMn yOu, nINo 🐞🐾

[s-and-n]

hey, so sorry for being inactive, my life is super busy nowadays so i think i probably won’t be on tumblr too much anymore? like this blog will still be up but i dont think that i’ll be able to be on here, sorry!

[euclase]

Do you ever think you'll stop drawing fanart? No offense it just seems like the kind of thing you're supposed to grow out of. I'm just curious what your plans/goals are since it isn't exactly an art form that people take seriously.

Ah, fanart. Also known as the art that girls make.

Sad, immature girls no one takes seriously. Girls who are taught that it’s shameful to be excited or passionate about anything, that it’s pathetic to gush about what attracts them, that it’s wrong to be a geek, that they should feel embarrassed about having a crush, that they’re not allowed to gaze or stare or wish or desire. Girls who need to grow out of it.

That’s the art you mean, right?

Because in my experience, when grown men make it, nobody calls it fanart. They just call it art. And everyone takes it very seriously.

It’s interesting though — the culture of shame surrounding adult women and fandom. Even within fandom it’s heavily internalized: unsurprisingly, mind, given that fandom is largely comprised by young girls and, unfortunately, our culture runs on ensuring young girls internalize *all* messages no matter how toxic. But here’s another way of thinking about it.

Sports is a fandom. It requires zealous attention to “seasons,” knowledge of details considered obscure to those not involved in that fandom, unbelievable amounts of merchandise, and even “fanfic” in the form of fantasy teams. But this is a masculine-coded fandom. And as such, it’s encouraged - built into our economy! Have you *seen* Dish network’s “ultimate fan” advertisements, which literally base selling of a product around the normalization of all consuming (male) obsession? Or the very existence of sports bars, built around the link between fans and community enjoyment and analysis. Sport fandom is so ingrained in our culture that major events are treated like holidays (my gym closes for the Super Bowl) — and can you imagine being laughed at for admitting you didn’t know the difference between Supernatural and The X Files the way you might if you admit you don’t know the rules of football vs baseball, or basketball?

“Fandom” is not childish but we live in a culture that commodified women’s time in such away that their hobbies have to be “frivolous,” because “mature” women’s interests are supposed to be marriage, family, and overall care taking: things that allow others to continue their own special interests, while leaving women without a space of their own.

So think about what you’re actually saying when you call someone “too old” for fandom. Because you’re suggesting they are “too old” for a consuming hobby, and I challenge you to answer — what do you think they should be doing instead?

[talesfromthemek]

#I love the fact I’m ‘weird’ for writing fic but some guy painting a team logo on his beer belly is normal

[destielhiseyesopened]

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[takaraphoenix]

This whole modern approach is also seriously undermining just how important fanfiction is - from a historical standpoint.

The concept of fanfiction formed and forged the earliest stages of literature in Europe. Because the majority of authors in France, Germany and Great Britain looked at that funky little Celtic dude Arthur and thought “hey, he’s neat. I wanna write about him”.

The entire concept of a book outside of religious purposes was born out of fanfiction in my country.

There is no “first canon” for Arthur where he came as the prince of Camelot, with his sidekicks Lancelot and Merlin and his endgame love interest Gwen.

Arthur was some random hunter when he started out.

Someone’s fanfiction made him a prince.

Someone else’s fanfiction gave him a round table.

Someone else’s fanfiction gave him Merlin at his side.

Someone else’s fanfiction gave him Morgana, gave him Gwen, gave him his swords.

And, to this day, we still write Arthurian fanfiction. Literally last year there was a movie adaptation that is, by all intends and purposes, fanfiction, because it wasn’t even close to a literal adaptation of the source material (The Kid Who Would Be King). Heck, BBC’s Merlin, itself an Arthurian fanfiction, remains one of the biggest fandoms that people today write for on AO3.

You were a joke in the middle ages if you tried to write your own stuff. Who’s interested in your stuff? You were only a respected author if you wrote fanfiction. The most famous medieval German authors are famous because they wrote fanfiction about some knightly OCs they created who served on Arthur’s court. That is the literary legacy of the middle ages. Arthurian fanfiction.

Yet somewhere along the way, this concept of “I find x story/element cool and want to elaborate on it more, shift the focus onto an aspect of this original source material” has gotten this “eh, it’s fanfiction” connotation and lost respect.

Even though this very concept is still being used - even outside of the actual medium of fanfiction - and it is still being used for the very same purpose it was used for in medieval times. Original movies often don’t get as much recognition as adaptations of existing source material that the audience is familiar with. People see a movie about a character they’re familiar with and seem more inclined to buy a ticket to see the 10th new interpretation of Batman or Superman or Snow White. How are these new interpretations of familiar source material that usually add to the lore, reinterpret characterizations and dynamics, any different from fanfiction?

But heaven forbid we call The Dark Knight Nolan’s Batman fanfiction. No, fanfiction is that silly thing that we can’t take seriously, but that new Joker movie, that however is high-end art.

[stufflizleelikes]

SO IMPORTANT

[kyraneko]

This. Fanfiction is variations on an existing theme, simultaneously making use of and satisfying people’s existing love for a story that they’re happy to consume more of, and cultivating the synergy between an existing story/mythos and a new author who, in interacting with characters they’d never have created themselves, creates something that neither they nor any of the story’s previous tellers could have made all by themselves.

Fanfiction is the new whole being greater than the sum of its parts, and fanfiction is the story being made limitless, retelling by retelling, and it is wonderful.

[amuseoffyre]

It’s also worth noting that Batman himself only came into being because of The Scarlet Pimpernel, a series of books about an extravagantly rich foppish playboy by day, daring hero in disguise by night (I mean, loosely. He also fopped by night and heroed by day, but you get my drift). Written by a woman no less.

Batman is a transformative work with a modernised crime-fighting SP but also borrowing strongly from earlier comic books, and yet it is seen as definitive.

[zara2148]

Coming back here to say that I think the derision for fanart also has some of its roots in our capitalist hellscape.

It’s the age old “If thing not make you money, why you care about thing?” that’s so prevalent in the system. Of course some people do make money with their fanart, but I think that is still part of the scorn. 

It’s supposed to be something you do not just for fun, but for practice, people like this think. Once you’re good at it, you can drop it and make money by focusing on your OCs and original work!

[yespolkadotkitty]

**smashes reblog**

[tuxedoelf]

Couldn’t agree more. Fan art and fic are absolutely valid. We really need to stop putting an age limit on fun as well!

Funnily enough, my Mum sent me this just today. It was in the front of the Doctor Who book she’d just purchased. (My Mum’s in her 70btw… tell her she’s too old for fandom, I dare you…)

[theheroofheroes]

Fandom, fanart, and fanfiction is for everyone.  No, it isn’t something you “have” to grow out of.  If it brings you joy, then who cares?

[stargirl-judooz]

Always reblog

[s-and-n]

r e b l o g

[jjismyhusband]

Hey everyone I'm starting a tag game say 1 nice thing about your body's appearance 1 thing you think you're good at and 1 personality trait you like about yourself

NO SELF DEPRECATION!!!

I'll start

I like the body's thick thighs

I'm real good at singing

I'm a kind and funny person

Tagging friends @spixi @boimgfrog @heyheyheybutlikeromantically @vang0bus @kyoutani-ily @dead-houseplants @its-oikawaig

[spixi-moved-deactivated20240205]

jfdksjsh this i’ll try my best

i love my arms, they look really strong and good for hugs

i think im good at putting my all into things and caring about them sincerely

i think im really sweet

tagging: (im actually tagging people, if youve already been tagged i apologise) @pissfizz @zorbs @la-isla-de-circe @livrere-green @theneekytree @theguardianace @despairingartist @peachysesames @fairydustskies @fairywithgremlintendencies @sensitiveorange @yourlocalsewerdragon and everyone else ^.^

[yourlocalsewerdragon]

Dear lord I need this but it's also gonna suck here we go buddies

I like my neck, it's long so it helps with ballet, and it makes me taller when my legs are short.

I think I'm good at comforting people when they're sad or going through something

I think I might be good at making friends

Tagging: @shoyuiscrying @leneyyo @tuvbos @localkoi @write-lets-do-this @caffeinenby @ceruleanmage + Literally anyone who follows me, or doesn't follow me, just anyone who wants to join

+If you've already been tagged, just ignore this <3

[write-lets-do-this-deactivated2]

Thanks for the tag

Uhhhh oh god ok here goes

I like my figure. It makes me feel more confident when I’m wearing clothes I’m more nervous about.

I think I’m good at figuring things out quickly.

I think I’m a good listener

Tagging @aravenclawdaughterofhades @mysticalshrimp @thehottestmess @papillon-de-porcelaine @deathbyfiction @generalpiemuffincreator and anyone else that sees this and wants to join in

[rudolphsboyfriend]

Oo thanks fr the tag!!

Ok then

My hair is SO freakin beautiful and soft and silky all on it's own no conditioner needed here 😌🙏🏼

I'm good at learning new things :)

I'm always willing to help my friends if they need me no matter how far away i am

@catsandcrabs s @justa-pipedream @the-stars-love-us @gopikanyari @supermeh-krishnah @klutzyfox @scintillatea @the-demon-killer @user-with-a-name @notsofabulouslife07 @persephcned @fluffyblanketssupreme @starviki @thesexypanda-boo @fatpotatosaysmoo @thatrandomfangirlll @limp-wrist @adoginthemanger @jugn00 @jugn00-ish @samalaingik @church-of-burnt-romances @burn-like-starss @just-wordsandthoughts @booksandgreydays @enigmasandepiphanies @livelistenlove @just-me-and-myselfs

[user-with-a-name]

Saaaaame I love my hair they are freaking amazing, straight nd silky and when I cut them short like usually till my chin or neck they curve just enough at the ends and they don't get tangled either I love them

I am good at dancing I believe!

Personality trait... idk... oh yeah! Oh... no hmmmm ig I am uh straightforward? Mostly... I mean I can't put my feelings into words but I don't pretend, I won't lie about how I feel. You either hear my true feelings or you don't hear anything at all. But you won't hear me lying about it. Is that good tho? Coz I can't even fake compliment for the life of me

@verose-queen-of-hell @kurohiraeth @damhalfblood @prettyamberskies @cordelias-musings @natalie-being-the-bitch-she-is @the-songless-siren and anyone who sees this

[daleks-never-muse-deactivated20]

Ahh I didn't notice the tag the first time I saw this! Thanks for tagging me!!

I like the shape of my face in general.. I think it looks nice

I'm good at cooking!

I'm good at being myself and being open except about how I feel about anything I wonder if that counts now

@verygardenerbanana @the-actual @writingsbypb @im-boreddd-and-boring @configurous @addressing-modes @dogsandcatsandmiscellaneousstuff @anyone who wants to join in!

[wedefyauguryy]

Thank you for tagging me! <3

I like how I look when I smile, I think I look really cute

I’m good at photography!

I am a very good listener and I think I’m sweet/kind (??)

tagging: @s-and-n @the-actual @arbitreneart @thegoddesofchaosherself @bashircore @milkbaer @theshityoucallmyheart @inkwicke @anyone who sees this!!

[s-and-n]

hi! thx for the tag :)

1. i think im decently nice, i would say!

2. im glad i can make people laugh

3. im not AMAZING but im good at mario kart so there!

open tags!

[s-and-n]

hi! life is a little busy rn so i probably won’t be fully active for a bit, stay with me! 

[petite-madame]

Marvel League - Team Cap vs Team Iron Man - (2021)

Vintage baseball trading cards inspired by the legendary 2016 “Team Cap Vs Team Iron Man” fight (and also by the latest campaign of a famous US clothing brand ^^). Note: I chose the numbers on the shirts at random, except for some characters: it’s their birthday.

CLICK HERE FOR “TEAM IRON MAN”

[every-marveler-ever]

OOOOOOOOHHHHH

[petite-madame]

Marvel League - Team Cap vs Team Iron Man - (2021)

Vintage baseball trading cards inspired by the legendary 2016 “Team Cap Vs Team Iron Man” fight (and also by the latest campaign of a famous US clothing brand ^^) Note: I chose the numbers on the shirts at random, except for some characters: it’s their birthday.

CLICK HERE FOR “TEAM CAP”

[yellowplumfruit]

[s-and-n]

damn this hit hard...

[fiti-vation]

[ernasd]

oh this is a life saver

[gallusrostromegalus]

So these are both “Aw Fuck I’m outta real food” meals BUT ALSO:  if you’re learning how to cook, these are great “baby steps” meals to learn how to cook basics into something enjoyable without “wasting” anything expensive.  Though I maintain that even cooking screw-ups are valuable in terms of lessons learned.

Also they’re great for when you get absorbed in something and you realize your blood sugar is dropping and you need to make something Quick.

[gailforcewinds-cgbk10]

My pantry is so empty, I can’t make any of these 😂 I’ve been living off of frozen meals and take out for so long 🤣

[spacezeros]

wanting and not wanting at the same time

a comic for asexual awareness week

[spacezeros]

bringing this back today for the start of pride month. still overwhelmed by how well this comic went down and with how many people relate. it’s easy to think aro-ace people are all totally accepting of their identities and really proud of who they are. i guess on websites like this you see a lot of people proudly putting their identity in their bio, a flag in their profile picture.

in fact i think a lot of aro-ace people really hate that part of themselves, hide it, and struggle for a long time to ‘accept’ who they are and feel any sense of ‘pride’. that’s the feeling i wanted to capture here. the disappointment, the loneliness, upon realising that you can’t feel what is such a wonderful thing. the embarrassment of not being ‘normal’, of being some random sexuality that nobody irl has heard of, and letting down those around you because you can’t be who they want you to be. how desperately you want to change, how desperately you want to feel. but you just can’t.

i know not all aro-ace people feel like this. i know lots of aro and/or ace people feel able to be in relationships, to feel closeness and have partners in other ways. but i think it’s important to be aware that some aro-ace people do feel like this.

the comments on this comic have mostly been great but a few have been very frustrating. a comment it got a lot was along the lines of ‘aw!! you don’t need to have sex to be in a relationship!’. you completely missed the point, hah. this is not a comic about sex. it’s about a lack of feeling, the lack of something beautiful other people seem to have. another comment that popped up a few times was ‘maybe she’s a lesbian’. well maybe lesbians and aro/ace girls have more in common than people think - maybe they both often struggle to accept that they feel no attraction to men, even though society has conditioned them to do so, sometimes spending years trying to force themselves to like men in that way, when they just can’t.

this comic is called ‘wanting and not wanting at the same time’ because she wants to love. but when it comes down to the reality, she can’t fulfil the requirements of that. she wants to love someone forever, to get married and have children and grow old with her soulmate, but she doesn’t want it with this person. or that person. or anyone she meets or will ever meet. a sort of catch 22, i guess.

hope that makes sense. thanks for listening, and have a lovely pride month ❤️

[mypeculiarparadox]

Coucou c’est moi

[angelofthequeers]

“she wants to love someone forever, to get married and have children and grow old with her soulmate, but she doesn’t want it with this person. or that person. or anyone she meets or will ever meet”

Well shit I didn’t need to be called out like that

[meefy]

I feel this so hard and often it makes me doubt my identity as ace so this is really validating. I straight up feel like I don’t know what I want. I know I want a soulmate but I am still figuring out what that would look like for me.

[funnydoesntlookdruish]

It is my personal headcanon that if Adrienette were to happen, Adrien would constantly over-share, and Marinette would be a blushy mess.

And, I thought it might be fun drawing totally opposite expressions.

(This is actually a moment from a fic I probably won’t get around to writing. If you think of a funny caption, let me know!)

Base by Jasmiass

[arbitreneart]

Pass the happy! 🌻🌈 When you receive this, list 5 things that make you happy and send this to the last ten people in the notifications. (‘∀’●)♡(‘∀’●)♡(‘∀’●)♡(‘∀’●)♡(‘∀’●)♡(‘∀’●)♡(‘∀’●)♡(‘∀’●)♡(‘∀’●)♡(‘∀’●)♡(‘∀’●)♡(‘∀’●)♡(‘∀’●)♡(‘∀’●)♡(‘∀’●)♡

Oooo alright!

1.time with family & friends

2.Paints & brushes, inks to write with

3.food

4.Sleep

5.talking to my moots on here

@ajab-leher @abottleofjam @wwxcatboy @anotherteenageroninternet @sarcasm-caffeine-and-chaos @an-absolute-nightmare @amateur-artist @verygardenerbanana @mintlyq @ddepressedbookworm @doritosandbluethings @anyone, anyone- be happy please, we’ll try together

[wedefyauguryy]

time with friends

photography

watching whatever tv show I’m currently watching (right now it’s Doctor Who)

interacting with people here

listening to music

@cordelias-musings @the-actual @arbitrenart @thatonecommentor @elfkeys @bashircore @mindthewitch @s-and-n @carysthequeerconfusedteapot @everythingisstardust

[s-and-n]

1. icecreammm

2. not having school

3. spending a day doing nothing

4. writing (sometimes)

5. people genuinely liking something i did

tagging y/n <3

[stupidlittledoodles]

A small frog offering pass it on

[kohinoors]

@imthatqueerkid @chai-tea-isnt-real

[postcardpdf-deactivated20220321]

@ambivertedfrog

[cipher-dorito]

@neon--mess @mango-pickle @drowning-neptune

[neon--mess]

Fdgjhk thank youu

@some-major-ishues @gopikanyari

[daleks-never-muse-deactivated20]

thank you!

[wedefyauguryy]

thank you!

@bashircore @theshityoucallmyheart @s-and-n @thegoddesofchaosherself

[wasp-coffee]

The

A

stands for Ace/Aro/Agender

NOT

Ally

It's June and if I see any A erasure on my dash I will throw hands, cake, and dragons

[flower-swift]

don’t forget on pride month