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[jimjongjung]

Sensory issues aren’t about fear.  They’re causing physical pain.

So I see a lot of people (mostly not actually autistic people) talking about sensory issues in terms of fear.  They’ll say things like “oh, he’s afraid of the vacuum.”  

This, of course, isn’t correct.  It’s not that the person is afraid of the vacuum, it’s that it’s literally causing them pain.  Like, literally.  If you put an autistic person in an FMRI and expose them to one of their sensory issues you’ll see their pain centres light up. 

So, why is this a problem?  Well, most people view fear as something that can be overcome.  So they’ll look down on people that let themselves be controlled by it.  Which isn’t good.  The other thing is that the tried and tested way to overcome fear is through exposure therapy.  However, if the thing is pain and not fear, all you’re going to do is numb yourself from the pain.  Which is generally not the best way to deal with things. 

So, if you’re autistic, remember that your sensory issues are part of how your brain physically works, and you can’t just will yourself out of them.  If you’re not autistic, don’t dismiss people’s sensory issues so flippantly.  Rember it’s literally causing them pain. 

[octopuscato]

This. I’m not afraid of public transport, of crowded public places, of certain foods, or of someone fiddling with my hands/fingers. These things aren’t frightening, they’re physically unbearable. This shit hurts, and the more tired/stressed/[insert thing that tkes away filters] I am, the worse it is.

I’m not asking you to let someone stab a needle in your hand, so don’t ask me to let you pet my fingers or to eat food with horrid textures etc.

[omghotmemes]

The real villain

[puttingherinhistory]

What If You Only Had To Paint Naked Women?

Want to be a great artist? What if all you had to do was be male -- and paint naked women? Here's Jason Dias on the most expensive paintings ever sold...

What if to be a great artist all you had to do was be a man and paint naked women? (of course white, skinny, conventionally attractive women at that) 

[puttingherinhistory]

A survey of the most valuable paintings in the world draws one conclusion: they’re all painted by men, and most of them are naked women. This seems to be the norm for most major art galleries, most of the paintings are by men, and almost all the nudes are of women. What can we conclude from this?

Seriously, when’s the last time you walked into an art gallery and saw a bunch of nudes of cis men painted by women. 

[theonlyleftydesk]

I jokingly pointed out in an art class once that it seemed an awful lot like the “classics” were just stuff from rich men’s spank banks…all those naked women frolicking in forests, as “nymphs”, and all the greek goddesses wearing transparent robes and just standing around looking pretty and holding their weapons.

Everyone just gave me funny looks. Then the professor changed the subject lmao.

[lkeke35]

Hilariously, my female art teacher just came right out and said it. This was back in the early nineties. She just came out and admitted that most of this art, was just an excuse for men to paint naked women, be in the same rooms with naked women, and live bohemian lifestyles, centered around nude women.

She tried to put it in a historical context by saying that men of certain classes were often segregated from the kinds of women they wanted to paint, and that claiming to be an artist was a way to legitimize being in the same room as nude women, while protecting the reputations of both the man and woman involved (although it was still not a reputable type of job, it was at least acceptable to do it.) Remember artistic types of careers were considered shameful and low class, but if you were a man of a particular class you could get away with being around naked women, outside of a brothel, by claiming to be an artist.

[allofthefeelings]

I realize I have barely stopped complaining for four months, but I honestly think that if anything we should be talking even more about how Marvel’s first two phases gave us one female superhero each, the token woman on each of their two teams (nothing so much as a solo movie, don’t be silly, we had to wait ten years for that), and in the culmination of the Infinity Saga, both of those women were thrown off a cliff.

We as audience had to watch them plummet to their deaths. We had to look at their lifeless broken bodies at the bottom of a mystical space ravine. We were supposed to see one of those deaths as something to cheer for in its heroism. We had to accept that an abuser’s claim of love that the recipient denied was still love, and had exactly the same import as the love of a best friend.

We had to see men feel Emotions at the top of those cliffs in the immediate aftermath of these women’s deaths, and then see men with romantic interests react with rage and violence at each loss. We didn’t get to see emotional reactions about the value these women’s lives had held. We had to hear that even when everyone else can be brought back to life, there’s no way someone can ever be freed from the soul stone, and these women were just the necessary casualties of this plot device.

And then they had the audacity to give us that all-women fighting scene, which should have been a rousing moment for those of us who are invested in female characters, but instead rang fundamentally hollow, when Natasha wasn’t there and the Gamora who was there wasn’t the one we had followed through multiple movies of growth. That scene told us that all women are interchangeable, and now that we have enough OTHER women the two we started with aren’t necessary and their absence doesn’t even need to be acknowledged within the scene.

Of course neither character is missing from the future of the MCU; Civil War-era Natasha will be in the Black Widow prequel movie and pre-GOTG1 Gamora will be in GOTG3. But the characters the audience has formed attachments to are permanently gone. They didn’t get to say goodbye to people they cared about. If they were mourned, we didn’t get to see it.

I get that it’s a movie. I get that it came out over four months ago. But we should absolutely still be angry. They both deserved better.

[hermitreunited]

this very much. samesies that I haven’t really let it go and I’ve already written rants about this but I still feel this way very much, okay!? and the way it’s phrased here in the top paragraph really cut right to the essence of how insulting and traumatic this is

and I’m going to crib from some things other people have pointed very well and just add that the all-women fighting scene is the epitome of using women’s bodies as carefully arranged props, to be seen and not heard. I hadn’t thought before of how much that is true of Gamora’s death scene in part 1 as well, because she rightfully protests that what Thanos feels towards her Is Not Love, and her words are pushed right off the Murder Women Cliff along with her body.

and the point about both of the women we lose being our two og female team members? excellent. people had a lot to say about endgame being a movie about the og avengers team and insert explanations why it’s okay then to leave out Okoye or Carol or Valkyrie etc, but how does the loss of Natasha fit in there? it’s the celebratory send-off for the og team of avengers that launched this incredibly ambitious and successful series of films, and the most heroic and impactful place for our og female team member is broken on the ground hundreds of feet below her male counterpart? cool. thanks for the #feminism, marvel

[chujo-hime]

#idk i just think about the pictures of those little girls with stars in their eyes at the premieres so excited to see a girl superhero!! #being part of the team!! #and then dead at the bottom of a cliff is where they get to see their role model end up #why is this the rep we are giving to our kids #they deserve so much more god this makes me so mad

This is something so important that I think a lot of us older female fans shouldn’t forget. A whole generation of girls have grown up watching first Natasha and then Gamora on-screen, only to see both characters - their superheroines - end up this way in IW and Endgame. I can’t imagine what it would have done to us if at the end of Return of the Jedi, Leia had laid dead at the bottom of a cliff while Luke and Han survived the movie. 

[allofthefeelings]

This hit me like a truck.

It’s so easy to rely on the fact that these movies are PG-13, and think of the audience as at least teens. But they’re not. The toddler- and kid-sized shirts we see at Target have audiences. The child-sized Halloween costumes exist for a reason. There are kindergarteners playing Avenger on the playground, and until the last year or two girls’ choices were pretty much Gamora, Natasha, or sidekick. And those are the only characters dead with no recourse and no memorial.

Kids want to be superheroes. Endgame told them their options are supporting characters who only show up at the big fight for a Moment, or corpses at the bottom of a cliff.

[maddeningmentalmess-deactivated]

as someone who became a fan of the MCU in my highschool years, this really opened my eyes to more of what was wrong with natasha’s death and gamora’s death.

when i started watching the movies from the beginning (in chronological order), natasha really caught my eye. she was bold, smart, and was obviously a multifaceted and extremely complex character. watching her first appearance in iron man II and seeing her constantly have to go through sexuilization from the men around her was extremely relatable and the way she responded to unwanted sexual attention was exactly how i have always wanted to be. strong and unflinching, she immediately because my favorite, because she showed me who i could be. i wanted to be feminine, and learn ballet and how to be as graceful and elegant as her, but also to be tough and to not take shit from people while standing my ground. i hated the romance with bruce banner that they pushed into her narrative, not only because i felt there wasn’t enough chemistry between the characters and that she didn’t need a romantic plot in order to be an interesting character, but because of what they chose to be the common sense of identity that was supposed to attract natasha and bruce. the implication that a forced sterilization made natasha see herself as monstrous, hurt me because it felt like they were portraying a woman based on her ability to give birth, which didn’t feel like natasha at all and was horrible representation to put out that malleable minds would take in. what really broke me was seeing her grow so much from iron man II all the way up to the beginning of infinity war, just to watch it all slip away. in civil war and at the beginning of endgame, we really see natasha as the person holding the team together, and truly stepping up when some of the male counterparts were clouded in emotion and crumbled. she finally evolved into the person i saw that she could be at the beginning of endgame, just to see her be forgotten almost instantly. it felt like they were saying “no matter how hard you fight to be a powerful woman in this world, you’ll always end up being a tool for other people’s success, soon to be forgotten and unmentioned.” like how matter how far i make it, i’m just someone else’s body to step on, below them in every way. i’ll admit, i’m not as attached to gamora, but i do see her as an icon for women like me who have gone through the pain of having an abusive parent. she was a powerful and skilled woman who took her experience with emotional and (most likely) physical abuse and turned it into something that wouldn’t define her. so it was really disappointing to see her become defined by her love interest and her father in infinity war. instead of seeing her importance stem from her own power, she quickly became important because of her relations with others. and to force the audience to “empathize” with an abusive and manipulative father, just made me feel sick. as he drags her off a cliff, we’re supposed to feel sorry for him? it was clear that he didn’t love her, and only loved what she could do for him. she became his sacrificial pawn, and it just hurts to see someone who has finally become free of abuse, loose her life while begging and pleading. it made me feel like no matter how much i’ve moved from the abuse i faced, i’ll never be free of it, and it would always be my downfall. and then to see neither of them get anything more than a few minutes of toxic masculine misplaced rage hurt so much. what is that supposed to say to younger audiences? to women like me who have worked through similar issues? that it’s all for nothing and no one is going to miss me? that i’m just a disposable tool for other men and my abuser to use to achieve their versions of success? and to not even see a second of recognition during the huge female team up, even if you helped open the doors that led them to where they stand?

[allofthefeelings]

I realize I have barely stopped complaining for four months, but I honestly think that if anything we should be talking even more about how Marvel’s first two phases gave us one female superhero each, the token woman on each of their two teams (nothing so much as a solo movie, don’t be silly, we had to wait ten years for that), and in the culmination of the Infinity Saga, both of those women were thrown off a cliff.

We as audience had to watch them plummet to their deaths. We had to look at their lifeless broken bodies at the bottom of a mystical space ravine. We were supposed to see one of those deaths as something to cheer for in its heroism. We had to accept that an abuser’s claim of love that the recipient denied was still love, and had exactly the same import as the love of a best friend.

We had to see men feel Emotions at the top of those cliffs in the immediate aftermath of these women’s deaths, and then see men with romantic interests react with rage and violence at each loss. We didn’t get to see emotional reactions about the value these women’s lives had held. We had to hear that even when everyone else can be brought back to life, there’s no way someone can ever be freed from the soul stone, and these women were just the necessary casualties of this plot device.

And then they had the audacity to give us that all-women fighting scene, which should have been a rousing moment for those of us who are invested in female characters, but instead rang fundamentally hollow, when Natasha wasn’t there and the Gamora who was there wasn’t the one we had followed through multiple movies of growth. That scene told us that all women are interchangeable, and now that we have enough OTHER women the two we started with aren’t necessary and their absence doesn’t even need to be acknowledged within the scene.

Of course neither character is missing from the future of the MCU; Civil War-era Natasha will be in the Black Widow prequel movie and pre-GOTG1 Gamora will be in GOTG3. But the characters the audience has formed attachments to are permanently gone. They didn’t get to say goodbye to people they cared about. If they were mourned, we didn’t get to see it.

I get that it’s a movie. I get that it came out over four months ago. But we should absolutely still be angry. They both deserved better.

[hermitreunited]

this very much. samesies that I haven’t really let it go and I’ve already written rants about this but I still feel this way very much, okay!? and the way it’s phrased here in the top paragraph really cut right to the essence of how insulting and traumatic this is

and I’m going to crib from some things other people have pointed very well and just add that the all-women fighting scene is the epitome of using women’s bodies as carefully arranged props, to be seen and not heard. I hadn’t thought before of how much that is true of Gamora’s death scene in part 1 as well, because she rightfully protests that what Thanos feels towards her Is Not Love, and her words are pushed right off the Murder Women Cliff along with her body.

and the point about both of the women we lose being our two og female team members? excellent. people had a lot to say about endgame being a movie about the og avengers team and insert explanations why it’s okay then to leave out Okoye or Carol or Valkyrie etc, but how does the loss of Natasha fit in there? it’s the celebratory send-off for the og team of avengers that launched this incredibly ambitious and successful series of films, and the most heroic and impactful place for our og female team member is broken on the ground hundreds of feet below her male counterpart? cool. thanks for the #feminism, marvel

[chujo-hime]

#idk i just think about the pictures of those little girls with stars in their eyes at the premieres so excited to see a girl superhero!! #being part of the team!! #and then dead at the bottom of a cliff is where they get to see their role model end up #why is this the rep we are giving to our kids #they deserve so much more god this makes me so mad

This is something so important that I think a lot of us older female fans shouldn’t forget. A whole generation of girls have grown up watching first Natasha and then Gamora on-screen, only to see both characters - their superheroines - end up this way in IW and Endgame. I can’t imagine what it would have done to us if at the end of Return of the Jedi, Leia had laid dead at the bottom of a cliff while Luke and Han survived the movie. 

[allofthefeelings]

This hit me like a truck.

It’s so easy to rely on the fact that these movies are PG-13, and think of the audience as at least teens. But they’re not. The toddler- and kid-sized shirts we see at Target have audiences. The child-sized Halloween costumes exist for a reason. There are kindergarteners playing Avenger on the playground, and until the last year or two girls’ choices were pretty much Gamora, Natasha, or sidekick. And those are the only characters dead with no recourse and no memorial.

Kids want to be superheroes. Endgame told them their options are supporting characters who only show up at the big fight for a Moment, or corpses at the bottom of a cliff.

[thoughtlessthinkythoughts]

Asexuality and Fandom

Am I really taking my lunch break to write a post that has quite possibly too much information to talk about how fandom both made it harder to accept my own asexuality and how it finally made it easier? Yes. Yes I am. Who knows? Maybe someone with similar experiences will read this and find it helpful. (Note. To the few people I know in real life around here, this might be a bit awkward to read. It’s your choice whether you read this or not. )

I didn’t think I could be ace for the longest time because fictional depictions of sex always fascinated me. I’ve always loved a lot of explicit fic. Once, long ago, I was actually excited by the thought of experiencing what I liked reading about in real life.

So I couldn’t be ace.  I got crushes on people as easy as breathing, even though determining whether or not I was attracted to them always felt like a weird guessing game. I’d have an instinctual response of “pretty” for a bunch of people, but what does thinking someone is pretty even mean? Even if having a crush never meant “I want to see you naked” to me, I didn’t realize anything was different about me. After all, I thought sex sounded interesting. I spent a decent amount of time engaging with fictional material that was about sex. 

The one time I was in a relationship, we spent a lot of time basically doing online role play, or sort of writing fics about ourselves in outlandish scenarios. A lot of times, these turned sexual, and I had fun with that. I didn’t understand why in person interactions never quite felt the same. I was actually eager to try….but something just didn’t click quite right. I wasn’t repulsed or anything. Just sort of bored out of my mind. I would have rather been reading fanfiction. 

Once, I complained to an allo friend that I didn’t understand why, “I couldn’t just have naked cuddle time with my partner without them wanting it to get sexual.” The reaction I got was a big hint that maybe my experiences of the world were not the same as allosexual people’s (Said friend tried to be nice about it, but I could see the confusion.)

But then, fic started actually engaging with asexuality more. You had ace characters all over in terms of their attitudes towards sex. Sometimes repulsed, sometimes interested. Sometimes they were kinky - sometimes that included sex, sometimes it didn’t. I realized a lot of these authors were ace, and that they were writing about their own experiences. And all of these different takes were important to me. It made me feel like my experiences were valid. 

So please, let’s have more fic about ace characters experiencing every possible variety of asexuality. Fics about ace characters being sex repulsed - great. Fics about ace characters being interested in sex? Great. Write a character one way in one fic and switch it up for the next? Awesome.

And please don’t say that those fics don’t deserve to exist. Or imply that the fics with ace characters having sex must be written by allo people or by people “doing asexuality wrong.” I’ve spent years thinking I was doing asexuality wrong, and that is a crappy mental place to be.

 Because every time someone writes an ace character a bit differently in a fic, some ace reader is going to go, “Oh, yeah. That’s my experience. I guess I’m not alone in that after all.” Every time some author (who is likely ace themselves) gets told that they are representing asexuality poorly, you are making it harder for ace people who see themselves in those fics. And if a fic doesn’t match your experience, all it means is that there are a whole lot of ace experiences out there.

[legsdemandias]

You need to realize that no amount of bullying asexuals or tucutes or polyams or whatever will make straight people respect you. The cishetero patriarchy doesn’t like you. They won’t like you if you bully and hurt and ostracize the ~weirdos~ in your community. They won’t respect you more. Oh yes, they might might might laugh with you for a little. It might be a great little bit of bootlicking fun when you two are laughing together at someone else. 

But in the end they will always kick you in the face and laugh at you again. 

[legsdemandias]

And there’s no justifying hurting polyams or tucutes or aces or whatever outside of “i want to be homophobic, but in a popular way” because what’s even the point? You don’t get medication from doing it. You don’t get representation in media. You don’t get rights. You don’t get respect. All you get is to take your vindictive hatred out on people just like you who want and need the exact same rights as you. There’s actually no benefit to it besides gaslighting, bullying, and straight up bootlickin.

Stop kidding yourself, you’re scared and angry and tired of being stepped on by someone bigger than you, so you started stepping on someone smaller than you. 

[owiez]

Nobody bullies polyam asexuals to appease the cis hets ♥️

[legsdemandias]

So why DO you bully people hm? Please explain to me, I’m giving you my platform to give a voice to you and all the people like you who firmly believe that you bully people for valid reasons. Enlighten us your unique reasons.

[pommegranatte]

When given the chance to actually explain themselves, these sorts of people resort to shit like this. They don’t care about the community as a whole. They care about arbitrary little sections of “””acceptable””” gays. Who’s in those little sections? Only they know because they make up the rules on who’s in or out. This really is a case of hurt people turning to their own community to attack others. All to look like one of they “good” gays to the outside. Which is fucked up.

[themadcapmathematician]

People like this dont realize that “because its funny UwU” is the more or less the same thing. You’re doing it bc systematic oppression has made polyams and aspecs and vulernable trans people easy targets and made the abuse of us funny, and putting us down bc you think we’re lower than you is buying into and upholding these systems

At the end of the day, that’s what bullying is, hurting people you can get away with hurting because everyone else is doing it, because the culture of your enviroment makes that not just possible, but easy and rewarding

[catgirlforeskin]

It’s also worth pointing out how the exclusionist rhetoric of “ace people/ non-binary people/bi lesbians are invading queer spaces!” closely mirrors the terf rhetoric of “trans women are invading women’s spaces!”

Some people are arguing in the notes that the people who punch down at less accepted queers are doing so out of fear of losing their own privilege, and while that could be true (and would still be inexcusable), it’s more likely that they just don’t care about other queer people, and now that they’ve been partially let into the privileged class, they’re more than happy to join in on oppressing the rest of us.

[skamortuus]

“[N]ow that they’ve been partially let into the privileged class, they’re more than happy to join in on oppressing the rest of us.”

And the thing is, actually driving out the ‘weirdos’ is the worst thing they could do to themselves. You have no idea how quickly the boundaries for ‘weirdos’ can and will be redrawn.

[twolouser]

“he isn’t overtly political as a rule”

I wonder why.

[motherbychoice]

Care to debate abortion?

Nah

[reproductivejusticeandliberty]

Mood. -V

[kiwianaroha]

This reminds me of a party I went to last year. I was standing with some friends, chatting, and someone said something that indirectly implied that sexism exists. Some trivial recounting of the basic facts of daily life for most women. Something so mild, so uncontroversial, so mundane that I don’t even remember what it was. 

Suddenly, this man standing on the outskirts of our conversational circle piped up with “actually, I think men are more discriminated against than women these days.”

 All conversation died.

I turned to look at him and he had this smug, insufferable grin on his face, relishing this moment, expecting us to waste our time and energy refuting this ridiculous thing he had just said.

The Devil’s Advocate was among us.

And, in my mind, I saw the next 15+ minutes playing out. The parade of facts and statistics in a vain attempt to defend ourselves, our gender, and to prove that misogyny is real. The glib, snide denials from some shithead who is getting off on our pain and frustration. The Gish Gallop of bullshit that would take a whole evening to properly dismantle. It was depressing and overwhelming. I hated it. I had to kill it before it began.

So I looked him dead in the eye and I said “OK,“ shrugged, and just walked away. 

Nothing I have ever said to another human being has ever been so crushing. As I walked away, I watched the smug grin vanish and confusion and anxiety set in. The rest of the group turned their backs to him and carried on as if he had never spoken - as if he was invisible. He was still staring at me when I walked over to another friend and told her what he had said. I pointed him out for her and made direct eye contact with him while we both laughed.

tl;dr: Don’t feed the troll. Let it perish, cold and hungry, in the wasteland of your indifference. It is weak and you are strong. Live your best life.

[meshkol]

This is the most hilarious thing and the best advice I’ve ever read on this damned hellsite.

[notjustamumj]

As someone I respect very much has written on more than one occasion, you don’t have to engage in every argument you are invited to.

[mckitterick]

ADHD life hacks #41,279: Vegetable Management

source tweet: X

[aestheticalspace]

Iridescent clouds, looking like a rainbow in the clouds.

A diffraction phenomenon caused by small water droplets or small ice crystals individually scattering light. Larger ice crystals do not produce iridescence, but can cause halos, a different phenomenon. please check out my app

[sashayed]

if you want to revitalize your relationship with tumblr just abandon it and go be exclusively on twitter for a year and that year is 2020. like choosing to shut yourself in a dark box scrambling your own brain with a cobbler's awl for 18 hours a day. nightmare slide projector of apocalyptic "news" flickering unstoppably past your eyeballs until your blood is so thick with stress hormones that you're essentially circulating pure meth, and the resulting derangement makes you think it is your Responsibility To Post because of Awareness. not here, baby! i love to scroll for an hour and see nothing but gifs from obscure early-'00s luca marinelli movies. oh, sure, you apparently can't put the word "butt" in the tags anymore, but that's barely a blip on the radar of ridiculous social media platform choices. this is the garden of fucking eden to me now

[draconian-rex-deactivated202207]

Since a bunch of you are seemingly into tall, skinny dudes with questionable fashion choices, I present your next crush:

Mr. Mint ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

[senpatriarch]

Hey can you kill me real quick? I don’t want to see this get out of hand

[polararts]

Yeah, okay.

[robotlyra]

I love how everyone’s all like “tumblr” when actually Candyland had canonical “sexy redesigns” in 2013

This idea of … sexy guy might skew a little camp, I’ve hardly seen that stop anyone

Lord Licorice though…

Hold on to your steampunk, cybergoth panties, folks.

[catbountry]

WHAT

[leonitic-deactivated20190601]

HELLO?????????????

[sweetpotatertatas]

IGNORE MY LAST TWO POSTS

SMSLSKSSKSKSNZKSN

[furbearingbrick]

reading this post is like being punched in a million directions at once

[pansexual-pied-piper]

Can we all take a moment to acknowledge that “You don’t really face oppression for your identity, it’s just misdirected [x]” is one of the most ridiculous arguments to arise out of exclusionary discourses?

Like, buddy, pal, I assure you that the people who hate us for not fitting into their norm don’t care why and how we don’t fit, just that we don’t. We’re talking about people for whom a lesbian and a trans man are both equally “women who think they aren’t” and so are ace women bc to them womanhood is connected to having sex with guys. People who think trans women are just effeminate gay men, except effeminate gay men to them are also just “men who want to be women” and AMAB enbies are either depending on the time of day. It’s all the same to them.

These people are overwhelmingly not anti-[specific set of identities], but anti-queer. They might end up policing us in different ways simply because we end up being affected differently by their policies, but that’s not generally due to any distinctions they care to make.

None of this is to say that there isn’t also identity-specific discrimination, but simply that 99% what you call “misdirected” is, in fact, targeting exactly who they want to target. They don’t care that to us, they’re targeting different groups, to them there’s only one group and that group is “other”.

[rritchiearts]

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[rosalarian]

Be aware of your Pride and what exactly it is you’re proud of and who you’re throwing under the bus to get that pride.

[evil-bisexual]

Love this minus the “It’s almost like he’s not LGBT at all”

[castironjackelope]

That’s the point though- it’s calling out assimilationism and respectability politics and how the mainstream gay rights movement panders to cishet expectations while throwing the rest of us under the bus.

[evil-bisexual]

Ok, I get it now, thanks

[kieren-fucking-walker]

Gay Assimilation vs Queer Liberation

[legsdemandias]

You need to realize that no amount of bullying asexuals or tucutes or polyams or whatever will make straight people respect you. The cishetero patriarchy doesn’t like you. They won’t like you if you bully and hurt and ostracize the ~weirdos~ in your community. They won’t respect you more. Oh yes, they might might might laugh with you for a little. It might be a great little bit of bootlicking fun when you two are laughing together at someone else. 

But in the end they will always kick you in the face and laugh at you again. 

[legsdemandias]

And there’s no justifying hurting polyams or tucutes or aces or whatever outside of “i want to be homophobic, but in a popular way” because what’s even the point? You don’t get medication from doing it. You don’t get representation in media. You don’t get rights. You don’t get respect. All you get is to take your vindictive hatred out on people just like you who want and need the exact same rights as you. There’s actually no benefit to it besides gaslighting, bullying, and straight up bootlickin.

Stop kidding yourself, you’re scared and angry and tired of being stepped on by someone bigger than you, so you started stepping on someone smaller than you. 

[owiez]

Nobody bullies polyam asexuals to appease the cis hets ♥️

[legsdemandias]

So why DO you bully people hm? Please explain to me, I’m giving you my platform to give a voice to you and all the people like you who firmly believe that you bully people for valid reasons. Enlighten us your unique reasons.

[pommegranatte]

When given the chance to actually explain themselves, these sorts of people resort to shit like this. They don’t care about the community as a whole. They care about arbitrary little sections of “””acceptable””” gays. Who’s in those little sections? Only they know because they make up the rules on who’s in or out. This really is a case of hurt people turning to their own community to attack others. All to look like one of they “good” gays to the outside. Which is fucked up.

[themadcapmathematician]

People like this dont realize that “because its funny UwU” is the more or less the same thing. You’re doing it bc systematic oppression has made polyams and aspecs and vulernable trans people easy targets and made the abuse of us funny, and putting us down bc you think we’re lower than you is buying into and upholding these systems

At the end of the day, that’s what bullying is, hurting people you can get away with hurting because everyone else is doing it, because the culture of your enviroment makes that not just possible, but easy and rewarding

[lazylittledragon]

what a great day to remember that enby/ace/pan/poly/etc people will always always always be safe on my blog and i love and support you all

[uartman]

The “It’s funny :3” means “The society approves of victimizing this group of people and I will use this to be a horrible person without facing consequences”. It means that you perpetuate bigotry not even because you have some bigoted beliefs, but just because you’re an asshole.

It’s more than a little bit disgusting.

[allamericansbitch]

Men doing the bare minimum for women but will fight hard for their problematic male friends part 92737

[the-geeky-fangirl]

ngl this absolutely pisses me off

[fantasmicdisneynerd]

Right?

Because this all started because of an actual JOKE on Twitter of out of the 4 major Chris’ of Hollywood, which would you vote off and the Internet respundedly said Christ Pratt for justifiable cristicisms and reasons.

But to then have his coasters suddenly jump to support him publicly like they haven’t done for many of their female OR black costars ( I still remember the hate when Sam became Captain America and was confirmed he was going to become the new Captain America) got hate mail and threats and they did nothing absolutely pisses me off and reminds me of the problem with many men in how they’ll bend over backwards to defend their very incredibly problematic friends.