A hill i will die standing on is that picky eaters deserve respect and accommodation and to eat food they enjoy too. Sensory issues, disliked flavors, allergies, intolerances, cultural differences, religious restrictions, moral or political choices, they all deserve to be given consideration if you know you're gonna be cooking for them and to not be excluded from the fundamental right to food & access to the many important social bonding acitivities centered around food
Lotta people in the notes going "well I'll respect picky eaters if they have a Real Actual Good Reason like allergies/autism/religious exemptions/allergies again but only if they're life threatening, but not if they're just being fussy little princesses for no good reason"
This is the same framework btw as "people need to be more tolerant of harmless weirdness, with or without an autism diagnosis." You don't know what's behind a person's food aversions; sometimes even that person doesn't know what's really behind their food aversions. Refusing to respect a person's food preferences unless it comes with an Official Medical Label attached is a setup for constantly intruding on the boundaries of people with arfid, allergies, religious restrictions etc. until someone gets hurt, and then claiming "well I didn't know! I thought they were just being picky for no reason!"
Also, I think "absolutely hates this, finds it disgusting and repulsive" is a good reason for not eating a food.

























