“asexuality is just the lack of a sex drive, or a really low one” uuhhh no. really, no. that is incorrect, you have been lied to, i’m sorry.
asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to anyone. sex drive is your horny meter. you can still be horny and not be sexually attracted to people! similarly you can be sexually attracted to people and not be horny!! amaze
oh my god this actually clarifies so much thank you
If you put a lesbian in a room full of men she can still be horny as fuck but their ain’t anyone there she wants to do it with.
Also note that if you put a bunch of horny dudes on a naval vessel for years on end, even if they’re all straight, some of them are probably gonna end up fucking (which is why back when sodomy was illegal on land it was allowed on a ship). Similarly, some fraction of asexual people do have sex for recreation, but never with anybody they’re actually attracted to because they aren’t actually attracted to anybody. Friction is friction and endorphins are endorphins.
Conversely, there’s a lot of allosexual people who never have sex. Some because of religious or moral objections, some because or psychological aversion or trauma, some out of an abundance of caution about the risk of disease or unwanted pregnancy, and others simply never get around to forming that kind of relationship.
There’s a pervasive misconception that asexuality and abstinence are the same thing, that a person can choose to be asexual or not. That assumption hurts a lot of people, from asexuals pressured or even forced into sexual encounters they don’t want in order to “fix” them, to perfectly normal and healthy allosexuals being shamed and repressed as “sluts” just for feeling natural and uncontrollable emotions.
That’s being ace, buddy. Ace people can experience hornyness.
