A Self-Made Woman

The wheel keeps on turning She/Her, 26, Latina

[sprachgefuehle]

I just got the funniest caution message at the beginning of a Wikipedia article

[sprachgefuehle]

[sprachgefuehle]

Yeah.

[cloudmancy]

need to become a guy who exclusively does evil commissions. like this

WILL DRAW ✓ mecha ✓ gore ✓ furry ✓ nsfw

WILL NOT DRAW X ocs X fanart X simple backgrounds

[cloudmancy]

great question and I'm glad you asked. in this case I would only draw:

real people, places, or objects

art of media that neither of us are really a fan of

unoriginal characters

[lilyblisslys]

girl you must be a fine piss, the way I need to take you in this bar bathroom

[lilyblisslys]

only a foolish general complains about her opponent’s tactics upon defeat

[tgirl-gaming-thoughts]

You have to love her. You have to love her when she sleeps til noon because she was up late. You have to love her when she doesn’t have the energy to do anything but lay in bed. You have to love her when she didn’t shave today. You have to love her when her thighs are hairy because the sensation of shaving them is too much for her to handle. You have to love her when she spends a day playing games because working is too overwhelming. You have to love her when people assume the worst of her. You have to love her when the world turns against her. You have to love her when she feels powerless and alone and abandoned. You have to love her unconditionally.

[tgirl-gaming-thoughts]

You have to love her when she's plural. You have to love her when she's little. You have to love her when she's racialized. You have to love her when her autism isn't just quirky hyperfixations. You have to love her when her mental health isn't just #Relatable Internet memes. You have to love her when she's disabled. You have to love her when she has chronic pain. You have to love her when she needs help with the little things. You have to love her when she's unemployed, broke, struggling. You have to love her when people ignore her. You have to love her when people talk over her. You have to love her enough to lift her up. You have to love her enough to give her what she needs. You have to love her enough to stand by her no matter what, because no one deserves to be without love.

[tgirl-gaming-thoughts]

AND LOVE IS NOT JUST "I love you" EITHER. Love is support. Love is safety. Love isn't just donating to charity. Love is paying for her to eat when you know she won't otherwise. Love isn't just reblogging a positivity post and hoping she'll see. Love is seeking her out and telling her how much she means and how happy you are that she's here.

Love is not just love, love is action. If you don't get that, then you've missed the point.

[emi-exists]

"her" also includes yourself!

[estrogenesis-evangelion]

"when i was your age, netflix came to our house in the mail" never gets old. they don't believe you, because they can't, because they cannot conceive the apparatus by which this would be true. but it is true. they mailed me season 1 of the sopranos with stamps. with fucking stamps man

[kiwicantfly]

[deepesthole]

This but the other way around

[kiwicantfly]

Congratulations on being the person this is about.

[ashenmind]

genuinely if you invoke “I was born a women”, especially as a way to deflect misdirected transmisogyny, then I hate you

you were born a baby and became an asshole

[ashenmind]

like ideally you should take it on the chin and, ya know, actually stand up for trans women for once.

but if you are going deflect, please don’t do it by channeling your inner twerf, thank you.

[oscarwildeboytoy-deactivated201]

Hey, unpopular opinion, apparently. But people don’t just “have pain for no reason” doctors say this all the time (especially to women and chronically ill people) and the truth is, Thats literally not possible. Even if your pains are psychosomatic (a word I hesitate to even use because of the way its used so often) there is a reason you are having those pains whether its mental illness, abuse, etc. If your doctor consistently tells you that “well some people just have pain for no reason” get a new doctor. That’s a doctor who is not going to give a shit what your actual symptoms or experiences are.

[kamorth]

I just wanna add to clarify the psychosomatic thing.

That word DOES NOT MEAN you’re making it up. It doesn’t mean you’re imagining the symptom. What it means is that the symptom ISN’T DIRECTLY CAUSED BY ANY OF THE THINGS THAT WOULD NORMALLY CAUSE IT.

I fought to get a PCOS diagnosis for 2 and a half years. For the ENTIRE time I was fighting, I was dealing with 3 cysts that were not going away by themselves and eventually required surgery to remove. At one point close to the end of the battle, I suddenly went blind. I was visiting my parents and was standing on the veranda looking out over the tree we had planted in memory of my dog and suddenly I got one of the shooting pains that I was quite frankly used to at that point and my vision started to go dark. It was like the sun was setting while being completely hidden behind storm clouds but it was 2pm in the middle of Summer on a clear day. Within about 30 seconds I couldn’t see ANYTHING. I was 27 years old and I was screaming for my mother.

My mum raced me to her doctor (he was a 15 minute drive away as opposed to 45 minutes to the nearest hospital) and he quickly worked out that there was nothing wrong with my eyes and what had happened was totally unrelated to them. Then he said it was psychosomatic and I freaked out, yelling that I was NOT making this up and I definitely wasn’t imagining it. Very quickly he calmed me down and said he believed me and I had misunderstood. He explained that whatever was going on with my abdominal pains (he suggested PCOS which I hadn’t even heard of at that point) had been ignored for so long that my body was starting to do things other than the normal pain response to try to draw my attention to the problem. My sight going was my body basically jumping around in front of me going “HEY ARE YOU EVEN LISTENING TO ME HELLLOOOOOOO??????”

He gave me some prescription strength painkillers and my sight started to come back as soon as they started to kick in. About 45 minutes after it started I could see well enough to walk around without help and within a day and a half I was back to normal. On top of that I finally had a scan booked to figure out what the hell was causing all the pain.

Psychosomatic symptoms are NOT imagined or fabricated or happening for “no reason”. Experiencing them DOES NOT make you a liar. It makes you someone who has been battling with something serious for so long that your own body has started to get impatient with you.

[oscarwildeboytoy-deactivated201]

I completely agree. Thank you for sharing this.

[antique-scarecrow]

Psychosomatic symptoms are literally your body flipping random alarm switches just to get any alarm blaring because you’ve been ignoring the regular ones

[cheerlessnes-s]

[redstonedust]

theres a nearby music festival featuring a bunch of tribute bands with parody names like "back stabbath" and "bon jozi" but im particularly fond of the eminem impersonator who has straight up called himself "the real slim shady". thats fucking hilarious. bros claiming to be a realer slim shady than slim shady. i respect it.

[auramgold]

a lot of people assume psychosis hallucinations are super intense all-consuming horror movie shit like the memes about the hat man or always horrible debilitating things that make you dangerous to be around

but in my experience 95% of my hallucinations are getting spooked by very clearly hearing someone knocking on my door or calling my name from another room or hearing footsteps walking behind me which are "just" my brain recreating the horror of an abusive childhood

i *have* gotten the "bugs crawling all over me" hallucination once or twice though and yeah that one is exactly as terrible horrible as it sounds AUGH

[auramgold]

(not trying to put you on blast specifically, you're just a good example to jump off of)

media and pop culture hypes up psychosis a lot as The Worst That Can Happen out of sanism, so even when you try and filter that cultural bias out you still assume it's based on something

when, no, psychosis is actually very simple: it's just hyperactive pattern matching. it's your brain's signal-to-noise ratio being off balance, it's seeing images in random static. it's not always this special uniquely big thing, it's in fact quite mundane a lot of the time.

no one is immune to psychosis, it's not purely the realm of the insane. anyone is one bad night of sleep or one bad case of food poisoning or one bad fever away from being just like me on my worst days.

and this, indeed, is why solidarity with the insane is so important: you, yes you too, are just one bad day from joining us, and no perceptions of being a "temporarily embarrassed sane person" will save you from the oppression of the psychiatric institution.

[sapphling]

as always just very notable to me how many people refuse to acknowledge the fact that discussions around "what is acceptable to do in public" will always covertly be discussions about what homeless people and those who otherwise do not have access to private spaces should be allowed to do at all

[boringkate]

Average internet user: I like pirating MP3s and sharing memes, so yeah! I guess I do hate intellectual property rights! I guess I do want to see private property abolished!

Average internet user upon creating one (1) copyrightable work: I own the color blue now. I already used blue in my MS Paint JPEG, so if you use the color blue too then you're a thief and you're stealing from me. I'm an independent artist and I am being robbed.

Average internet user upon learning about machine generated images: Paramount Global (formerly Viacom) has every right to put anyone that uses the character Squidward without a licensing agreement into a woodchipper. We can't make exceptions for your child or there would be absolute chaos.

[quick-to-query]

I was told time and again that it would be different, once people violated MY copyright.

Then some rando on tiktok made shitty AI-voice videos of my stories.

It was hilarious. I didn't care. I got new readers out of it. No, it was not different when it was my copyright being violated, I still think copyright is Bad Actually.

[traniform]

you are not a noble vigilante pedo hunter you are an unpaid cop

[traniform]

and somehow despite there being thousands of men known for sexually abusing minors, your noble pedo hunts seem to always end up at trannies with anime pfps

[mariacallous]

I want every ad on the subway to be this one. And then I want this also posted elsewhere. And then I want people who don’t use earbuds or headphones while listening to music or watching their videos in public to have their phones explode in their hands and faces. Or they get shunned and banned from public spaces.

[dramatic-dolphin]

the thing about the concept of gendered socialization is that so many people use it as like another kind of gender essentialism. you know it's not an immutable trait right. you can literally overcome it.

"i'm like this because women are socialized to be shy and quiet and subservient" okay good on you for recognizing it, but that's only the very first step. the next few steps are that you Stop Doing It. feminist thought vs feminist action.

[dramatic-dolphin]

and when ppl see a trans woman being confident and unafraid to take up space and decide it's because of her evil evil male socialization, i'm always like "wait you're saying this woman was raised as a child to be loud and confident and take up space? that's awesome, i thought that's how we WANTED people to raise girls? why exactly is it a problem now? 🤔"

like WHY are you telling trans women that they literally have to make themselves smaller and conform to the WORST gender exceptations of women to be seen as real women. since when is it evil and masculine to be confident, i thought we were supposed to be doing that. i thought that was feminism.

[ordr]

Thanks for sexualizing peoples trauma fuckhead

anytime