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@squee-old
dogs with jobs
WHAT. GOOD. DOGS.
These are all Good Dogs,; however Trufflehunter has definitely earned some extra treats, because according to this article (late October 2021) there’s +$4,500 worth (!!) of white truffles on that scale.
truffle doggo deserves a WHOLE STEAK
I've seen discussions sometimes about how fanfiction-based fandom culture is heavily influenced and dominated by people who are not cis men.
One thing I haven't seen discussed as much though is how much of fandom in general is shaped by neurodivergent people.
I mean, you have autistic and ADHD people with special interests or hyperfixations collecting information and writing detailed meta, connecting very strongly with characters and fandoms. I would not be surprised if the percentage of autistics in fandom communities was significantly higher than in the general public.
And that's not even getting into other types of neurodivergencies and how they influence fandom culture.
I sometimes see people try to divorce fandom culture from the idea of being a "geek", and I understand that this is sometimes because of the association with the sexist geek stereotype, but I also know that there is a connection between the two concepts, and it's probably us neurodivergent people.
I also think this is why at first I was like "my fandoms can't be special interests, that's just how fandom is"
Yeah, because a lot of people in fandom have special interests
I’ll go slightly further here, and say this (well. this plus ableism) is the root of a lot of current issues in fandom.
Back when I started being in fandom, a couple decades ago, I’d argue that damn near every single person in fandom was autistic or ADHD. You’d only join fandom if you were obsessive and were chill with doing things that weren’t socially acceptable. (Because being a fan absolutely was not socially acceptable at the time! We went to ridiculous amounts of effort to hide that we were fans!)
And fandom culture was absolutely shaped by this. The standard behaviors in fandom were those of happy autistics. That’s how you were expected to act. You remember “squeeing”? The visual image of it is generally someone so happy and excited they can’t physically contain it so they make a high-pitched noise and flap their hands and - a squee is literally just a happy stim. And so many fans at the time did happy stims that we gave it a special fandom name! So even if a neurotypical person happened to stumble in, they’d learn that the “social norm” in a fandom space is basically just “act autistic/ADHD” and assimilate.
But then... fandom got mainstreamed. It became socially acceptable. And then the neurotypicals started showing up in large numbers. And instead of assimilating like they did before, when they were the minority, now that there were a lot of them they started going “what the heck is this! why are people here acting so weird! this is embarrassing!”
...and then we got cringe culture within fandom.
No one says “squee” anymore not because fans don’t squee anymore - happy stims don’t just go away - but because the neurotypicals showed up and told us “squee” is a cringy word and concept. Which they had ALWAYS told us out in public, but we used to have fandom as an insular autistic/ADHD-dominated space where we were safe and free to be ourselves.
You know how everybody talks about how cringy and embarrassing 2012 tumblr was? Dude. We were literally just acting like happy autistics, because that’s what we were. It’s just that - like you always have - you think autistic/ADHD behavior is cringy and embarrassing.
This isn’t new. “Cringe culture” isn’t new. It’s just a new euphemism for the exact same ableism that’s always existed, with the only difference that now it’s coming from inside fandom.
All those posts saying “if these people were bullied more they wouldn’t act like this”? They’re not just bizarrely tasteless jokes. They’re because the people making those posts were bullies. Are bullies. Fandom used to be where the sort of people who were victims of peer abuse went - where we went to be safe from bullies and be openly ourselves - but now the bullies are in here with us.
On the happier side, while mainstreaming has resulted in a lot of neurotypicals showing up, autistic/ADHD people are absolutely still the backbone of fandom. We’re the ones collecting tiny bits of info and connecting the dots to write galaxy brain meta. We’re the ones churning out new content every single day, rain or shine. We’re the hyper-verbal ones writing 250k fics and the ones who hyper-relate with the characters and make incorrect quote posts so spot-on they sound canon. They may think we’re embarrassing - but they still need us.
SO MUCH THIS!!!
Fandom would be nothing without neurodivergent people. Because there’s nothing on this earth that can rival the white-hot intensity of an Autistic or ADHD person in full-blown hyperfocus or special interest mode.
"girl, the only thing i'd change about you is your last name" but instead of a cheesy pickup line it's a billboard ad for a divorce lawyer
I had a friend a while back who ranted at me at length in a conversation about his mother in law's food hoarding tendencies. This was back in the 90s, when everything could be bought in a supermarket. I distinctly remember our generation training ourselves away from the things many people are trying to remember. We didn't want to darn our clothes anymore. We didn't want to plant gardens to supplement our food, or admit we knew how to hunt.
And as he described how his mother in law used to get panicked if there wasn't three cupboards packed with staples, as if she was being utterly weird and unreasonable, I asked him what age she was. She sounded like my grandmother; and she'd grown up in a houseful of 12 other siblings during the Depression with a newly widowed mother. She told us of how she had to eat her dinner quickly before the dust settled on their food, and every meal with chicken and dumplings, because that's all there ever was.
So she learned to clean everything - couldn't bear to see dust on a surface. She had OCD and didn't know it, there wasn't a word for it back then, but it was a nightmare to endure as her own kids could attest, and even we as grandkids. But trauma doesn't always manifest in a way that makes sense, and it certainly doesn't disappear when someone reaches 40. Trauma is forever, and those weird old people behaviours are often rooted in exactly the kind of trauma I see so many younger people champion in their peers.
I remember him having a long think, and he said his MIL had grown up poor. I could hear him putting two and two together, and deciding that, while he still didn't understand it, he could at least let it from a point of empathy. I don't know if their relationship improved. I hope it did a little.
I have found myself reminding many younger people that the mental health causes they so rightly point out as needing support applies to everyone, even if you don't recognise what it looks like in older people. Some people never got the help or recognition for the conditions they have - and they certainly never will if they think an entire generation refuses to acknowledge them if they ask for it.
If 2/2/22 falls on a Tuesday it could also be known as “2’s Day”
I fucking missed it
Source: tolgagirgin99 on Instagram
“Start by pulling him out of the fire and hoping that he will forget the smell. He was supposed to be an angel but they took him from that light and turned him into something hungry, something that forgets what his hands are for when they aren’t shaking. He will lose so much, and you will watch it all happen because you had him first, and you would let the world break its own neck if it means keeping him. Start by wiping the blood off of his chin and pretending to understand. Repeat to yourself “I won’t leave you, I won’t leave you” until you fall asleep and dream of the place where nothing is red. When is a monster not a monster? Oh, when you love it. Oh, when you used to sing it to sleep. Here are your upturned hands. Give them to him and watch how he prays like he is learning his first words. Start by pulling him out of another fire, and putting him back together with the pieces you find on the floor. There is so much to forgive, but you do not know how to forget. When is a monster not a monster? Oh, when you are the reason it has become so mangled. Here is your humble offering, obliterated and broken in the mouth of this abandoned church. He has come back to stop the world from turning itself inside out, and you love him, you do, so you won’t let him. Tell him that you will never know any better. Pretend to understand why that isn’t good enough.”
— Caitlyn Siehl, “Start Here”
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S E N S O R Y
you mean you people stopped doing this?
reblog if you love the moon, or any other really big rock
Does this include Dwayne
Of course it does
to summarize: •Anish Kapoor gets exclusive rights to use Vantablack, the world’s “blackest black” pigment, which understandably upsets a lot of artists •Stuart Semple responds by creating Pink, the world’s “pinkest pink” pigment, which he makes legally available to everyone except for Anish Kapoor •Kapoor somehow gets ahold of Pink and posts an Instagram photo of his middle finger dunked in the pigment that Semple had banned him from using •Semple gets ahold of Vantablack and posts an Instagram video of his hand making the peace sign with his fingers coated in Vantablack •During this time, Semple also releases Diamond Dust, the “most glittery glitter,” again available to everyone EXCEPT Anish Kapoor
The best thing about Diamond Dust is that it’s made from actual shards of glass so Anish can’t just stick his middle finger in it again
This petty art feud is actually starting to look like it could be one of the most important pieces of performance art of the 21st century
When I was training to be a battered women’s advocate, my supervisor said something that really blew my mind:
“You can always assume one thing about your clients; and that is that they are doing their best. Always assume everyone is doing their best. And if they’re having a day where their best just isn’t that great, or their best doesn’t look like your best, you have to be okay with that.”
Any now whenever anyone in my life, either a friend or a client, frustrates me, disappoints me, or pisses me off, I just tell myself They are doing their best. Their best isn’t that great today, but I have days where my best isn’t that great either.
this. everytime. this.
I AM SCREAMING
I actually know a few people in NYC who work or volunteer with her campaign, and I’m definitely picturing one of the shady kweens I know living his best life right now knowing he can let loose on Donald Trump through her social media team from now til November. This finna be so extra and ridiculous. I’m living.
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Stephen Colbert pens hilarious and important feminist op-ed
Who runs the world? If Stephen Colbert could have his way: women. In an op-ed for Glamour magazine, the future Late Show host pushes for equal rights and treatment of women in the workplace and the media, all while mixing in a healthy dose of humor. But despite the hilarious jokes, his extended quotes make some incredibly crucial points.
I have such an incredible respect for this man. He works hard to earn it, too.
researching 17th century piracy tonight. came across this:
One popular pastime amongst pirates was the mock trial. Each man played a part be it jailer, lawyer, judge, juror, or hangman. This sham court arrested, tried, convicted, and “carried out” the sentence to the amusement of all. (x)
how widespread could this have really been? how would it have gotten passed from ship to ship? can you imagine a pirate crew at a tavern, bragging to another pirate crew about how good they are at playing pretend? why was their go-to game “legal system”? were they performing incisive satire? is this some sort of pirates-only inside joke that’s been lost to the ages?
update: the mock-charge in the mock-trial was piracy
they used to pretend to try each other for piracy
as a stress relief
ok but it’s got to have been a lot of fun to be the pirate defense lawyer, for the pirate accused of piracy, to attempt to argue to the pirate judge, in front of a jury of pirate peers, that your client could not possibly be a pirate
sproings replied to your post “Looking for Avengers longfic rec’s, pref. MCU, but will also check out…”
There’s a thread on Rav full of recs: http://www.ravelry.com/discuss/lazy-stupid-and-vengeful/2336305/1-25 Hope you find something!
How did I not know about this branch of LSG?!?
Thanks! I’ll scroll through the thread and see if anything strikes my fancy. :)
One of us! One of us!
Holy hell - LSG has a fic rec page? LSG has a Marvel fic rec page!? LSG has a whole MARVEL sub-group?!?!
squeeeeeeeeee.
Also - hey, hoars. *Waves*
Come for the fic recs, stay for Science Fridays!
Science Friday is the best day
Just….ignore the the really long thread. It’s a whacky thing that got out of control. We’re really nice. Honest. AND damn near everyone has their own thread of pictures to ogle over.
