The Sleepover Sys

4 protectors oversee this blog. Don’t be an ass. https://sleepoversystem.carrd.co

[strawberryeyebags]

Making a new pinned post since we’re more organised now.

Mixed origins system, Collective pronouns are they/them, body is an adult, intersex and transmasc. The purpose of this blog is to share our plural experiences, because if no one does the stigma and lack of good representation will never be abolished. We encourage plurals to share their experiences, although do keep internet safety in mind. Being plural isn’t a bad thing, it will have its hardships of course, but we aren’t evil maniacs or pathological liars like ableists will have you believe. Being a system is not the end of the world, you can heal, you can grow to function.

Frequent fronters (as of late):

Adonis, Halsin, Zayne.

Full introductions and the rest of the system are in our carrd.

Everyone’s sign-offs:

Adonis 💫, L🍭, Adricat 🐈‍⬛, Luka 🎸, Zag ❤️‍🔥, Hypnos 🌙, Ahk☀️, Damien 🦇, Zachiera 🕊, Dolly 🍒, Prismo 🟨, Aries 🧜🏻, Achilles 🏛, Link 🧝🏻‍♂️, Angel 🕸, Moros 🌧, Astarion 🧛, Hanni🫧, Zack 🎶, Halsin 🐻, Zayne❄️

DNI and BYF are in carrd, but here’s a basic rundown:

DNI: syscource, l×wlight, anything listed under the next section.

We are ANTI: p×oship, harassment, fujo culture, cringe culture, fakeclaiming (including pages like FDC), TERF/TRF, transandrophobia denial (it exists, fight me), intersexist, racism, sexism, queerphobia, abelism, psychiatric abuse, war of any kind, MAP/L×li-s×otacon, TCC/romanticism of murderers.

We are PRO: endo/mixed origin, kin, good faith identities, informed self diagnosis, religious freedom, environmental safety, gender EQUALITY, intersex rights, trans SOLIDARITY.

BYF: Minors can interact but don’t expect us to be friends.

Current headcount: 21 active.

Hypnos’ (+zag) blog: @seepyeepy

Ahk’s blog : @nyahkmenrah

Adri + Lukas blog: @kitkatnior

Dollys blog: @spoiledsummerdasies

Link: @hai-lian

Zachiera: @transangelrage

Damien (NSFW WARNING): @damidomien

Astarion: @doomsvampire

Hanni: @hannibunnnni

Achilles and Halsin: @emotionalsuppourtdilfs

(Oh my god guys stop making blogs we have too many)

Pronouns: https://pronouns.cc/@Sleepoversys

[smilepilled-archive]

intersex person: this thing is only for people who are bodily intersex (which is literally what intersex means), please dont use this if youre bodily perisex. thank you

perisex person: well what about intersex alters??? what about people transitioning to be intersex??? what about the fact i experience delusions and it causes me to think im intersex??? what about the fact i feel icky about being perisex and would LOVE to be a herm instead??? what about my androgyne friend who has a beard and tits after going on T and not getting top surgery??? what about meeee

perisex people will always find a way to treat intersex people as a trophy, goal, or as "just a silly queer label anyone can use"- but when we voice concern and distaste towards said things, suddenly we are bigots, transphobes, ableist, and all the other buzzwords that people throw at intersex people for calling out intersexist bullshit

[image description: the text "do not derail" and "this post is about intersex people & related issues in the style of hollow knight's menu screen text. it is all in the colours purple and yellow, the colours of the intersex pride flag. /end of image description]

[strawberryeyebags]

Bodily intersex system here.

If you have alters that have atypical sex traits, but the body you all share does not, you are not intersex. The alter can use terms like "dualsex", "sysex" or just "atypical sex traits". We have an alter who has both male and female reproductive traits, both fully functional. Like bro literally carried and birthed his son. He calls himself "dualsex" because what he has is not a human intersex variation. But he calls the body we all share intersex, because it is. His body and THE body are not the same. WE as a system are intersex, HE is dualsex.

Before we knew we we're intersex (sneaky bastard variation was well hidden lol) alters like him who had atypical traits kind of just made up their own words to describe what they were. Some later found out that it was a real world variation and some have non-human more fantasy like setups. Our general rule of thumb is that if the alter has a real world variation and the body is intersex, then they can use the term. If the body isn't, they can use an alternate term that describes what they have. If they are a non-human alter with non-human variations then they tend to make up their own terms or borrow ones from fiction or default to "atypical".

TLDR: body is intersex? you can use the term for alters. Body isn't intersex? have alters use alternate terms. Also you can just make your own terms! Especially if the alter is non-human and their traits and variations don't match human ones anyway.

[strawberryeyebags]

As an intersex trans man, I refuse you my body.

As an intersex trans man, I know my body and its limits.

As an intersex trans man, I had to suffer with this body before coming to like it.

As an intersex trans man, I am not your fetish.

As an intersex trans man, I am not a freak of nature.

As an intersex trans man, I am not your baby incubator.

As an intersex trans man, I am denied several serious medical procedures simply for being born this way.

As an intersex trans man, I am still fighting for medical care.

As an intersex trans man, I had to fight and still have to fight to get to where I am now.

As an intersex trans man, I will never give you the satisfaction of knowing what my genitalia look like.

As an intersex trans man, I am treated like a defected woman and a monster of a man at the same time.

As an intersex trans man, I will always kick, punch and claw my way to safety and fight off my oppressors and attackers.

As an intersex trans man, I will not go down without a fight.

As an intersex trans man, I will not even begin to take the opinions and views of pericis people on trans intersex bodies into account.

As an intersex trans man, my particular variation makes sexual acts painful rather than pleasurable and your penis/strap is not the magic exception.

As an intersex trans man, I choose to remain a virgin for my own safety and comfort.

As an intersex trans man, I know you are not entitled to my body.

As an intersex trans man, I refuse you my body.

While others may be willing and able to give you their body, I am not. I refuse you my body and you cannot change that.

[ssscxngel]

AAAAWWWHGGG THIS IS SO CUTE I CAN’T BREATHE

[the-muppet-joker]

Absorbing all of the period cramps of all of my followers. You're welcome, females. You're welcome, theys. You're welcome, brotherhood. Menstrating for ALL OF YOU.

[little-snails-log]

[strawberryeyebags]

The way I just went to a transandrophobes account to block them and got FLASH BANGED by chibi fanart of a REAL LIFE SCHOOL SHOOTER. Of fucking course the transphobe wants to fuck a nazi school shooter. That is exactly the type of person who would bootlick nazi school shooters, so one who openly hates an entire minority group. Extremely fucking alarming.

[strawberryeyebags]

The gender essentialists would hate me.

I'm dual-sex. I'm non binary. I use they, he but absolutely not she. I carried my child and birthed them. I'm not human. I have long hair. I'm tall as fuck. There is a bit of shape to my chest, but its not breast tissue. I have an androgynous voice. You take one look at me and have zero idea what I am, and all their guesses will be incorrect.

It's fun being a cthonic being that exists outside of human ideas.

-Hypnos

[strawberryeyebags]

Block evading is breaking boundaries by the way. The person blocked you, they don't want you there. And you evade it and still bother them? You're breaking someone's boundaries. Bad person alert.

[strawberryeyebags]

What no one warns you about when you're a system: no one can agree on what to name the new cat

[yvilonion]

zayne loves hachiware

ever so busy med student de-stresses by watching chiikawa and now sees hachiware as his child

[anti-transmasc-archives]

Never ask a man his salary

A woman her age

A popular Tumblr user, what they think about trans men

[the-vampire-roaming-the-woods]

"My daughter is fine" ma'am, your son want a fucking break from it all

[strawberryeyebags]

Fuck it, fictive art

Ft our weird crossover relationships.

[strawberryeyebags]

Some old man just walked past us in the garden center and told us to shave our legs.

Mate. First off, I'm a stranger. Wtf are you doing saying that shit to strangers at your big age? Second, I bet if we were in a more masc outfit today, passed better, was percived as a man, he wouldn't have said anything. Third, you try being a thick dark haired Italian, I shave it off and it grows back in two days.

And finally: NO FUCK YOU I LIKE MY LEG HAIR BITCH.

[this-is-saneism]

(just in case TW: mentions of suicidal ideation; direct & indirect variation - brief mention of abortion)

Saneism is people assuming that every and all mentions of "I can't do this anymore", "I wish I didn't exist", "I wish I wasn't born", "I don't want to live" etc instantly are the same as "I genuinely want to commit suicide".

They don't.

They CAN mean that. But they don't always do.

If I'm venting to a caretaker/social worker/psychiatric worker about how I'm exhausted and wish I didn't exist, that doesn't mean I'm planning to kill myself. It means I'm tired of existing in an ableist and saneist society where bullying, shaming and ridiculing me is normalized and "accepted".

It means I wish this world was a better place. I wish I lived in a world where things were better. Where I didn't experience what I experience. Where I can genuinely be okay.

"I wish I was never born" or "I wish I was aborted" won't mean I'll kill myself. That still requires me being born to begin with!!! It means I wish I wasn't born in the situation i was born into, with abuse and trauma around me. I wish my parents had made a more educated and mature choice that would have been better for them (+me, by not bringing me in that situation!), and waited to have kids until they were able to be the parents they weren't. Sure, I wouldn't be here, maybe my siblings would be very different people, but it would mean that whoever they would end up having would have the better childhood they deserved. We deserved. I deserved.

And even if - even IF the person means that they're having suicidal ideation thoughts. Then you do NOT tell them "don't think that way" or otherwise tell them to stop talking, cutting them off etc. You listen. Because that is what they need. You listen and you help them not act on these extremes AFTER you listened. You shutting them down will only further fuel the feeling of being abandoned by the world. Of not being wanted.

The choice between listening & helping the person, or instead shutting them down because it's uncomfortable or worrying could very much be that final thing that either makes the metaphorical bridge underneath their feet receive a new support beam or break and have them falling down that hole.

You don't want to be the person who refused to be there for them, only for that to be the final straw.

If you genuinely can not handle the discussion, then please help the person find someone who can. Especially if you're a loved one rather than professional.

But if you're a professional shutting them down? If your job is literally to work with mentally ill people & help us integrate into society as stable as it is possible for us? Then for the love of whichever god or otherwise is out there, don't shut that topic down. We come to you because we trust you will listen und help us, based on what we tell you, find a way to channel those feelings in a better way that won't kill us. If you're a professional dismissing this, then you failed at your fucking job.

This is saneism and suicidism.

[yvilonion]

i had a vision