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I am personnally so anxious about wanting to transition and being terrified that I actually don't want it in the end. I have never felt right in the way I am, I have always depicted myself mentally as... well, as in-between, but I am also absolutely terrified that it would be worse if I transitioned. I break down crying because boobs are here and because my body feel alien and because of my high voice and how feminine I look and at the same time I get paralyzed at the idea that I am just wrong
I assume this is in response to the video I reblogged. As I’ve said in my reblog, it is a gamble, so you have to weigh pros and cons.
My personal view is that if it becomes unbearable to live without transitioning, I think it’s still a better gamble than not transitioning out of fear you might regret it. Not all detransitioners necessarily regret transition in the first place. Some even say that they would have ended up in a worse place had they never transitioned.
Also consider, transition is at least partially irreversible, there’s no going around that, but it’s a gradual process. It’s not like you go from Jessica Rabbit to Sean Connery in one day. There is some time to evaluate your options even if you do eventually begin the transitioning process.
I’ve linked the detransition survey before, and yeah it’s not the biggest sample, but consider this:
As far as we know from the limited data we have available, most people realize they don’t want to medically transition before they even get to taking hrt, let alone have surgery. So even if you do end up realizing you aren’t trans, chances are it’ll be before it becomes extremely hard to go back to living as your birth sex.
There are also things you can do to make things slower, if you want more gradual changes, like taking a low dose of testosterone for a certain time to get used to its effects and seeing if you start feeling “off” or if you find it improves things. Personally something I’ve found quite telling for me was that my mental health is always worse when I delay my shot or have to be off hrt for a long time. If you feel that your mental health gets worse ON hrt, that’s when I’d personally stop and reconsider.
By which I don’t mean“just jump into it and don’t worry!!!”, mind you. You don’t have to rush into transition if you’re not sure. There’s no time limit to the age you can transition. If you are more concerned about trying than not trying, you can always do it later. If you are just pushing yourself to put up with it and it makes your life sourer and it makes it harder to handle everything else, you shouldn’t feel compelled to wait because “what if I am wrong?”. It’s a risk that you have to decide if it’s worth taking or not. Like many things in life.
It’s easy to think of transitioning as the most “final and drastic” thing in the world but really, it’s far from being the only one. Plenty of people make irreversible or very drastic decisions on a regular basis, like having children or picking a field of study or buying a house or marrying, and all of those are also a wild gamble in many ways.
You’ll figure it out, anon. Give it time, by which I don’t mean “do nothing and self-flagellate about it”, but take the time to inform yourself better, evaluate things, take steps towards things that improve your well-being (you know what’s one thing I regret? Neglecting to take care of my body and my health because “well I hate it anyway what’s the point”), inform yourself about what are your potential next steps in case you eventually decide to go through with it (for example research your options in terms of nearby gender therapists or clinics), interact with trans people (preferrably real life ones), interact with detransitioners (the non-transphobic ones I mean - @detransinfo seems to be a good neutral resource for example), and so forth.
Many have been requesting that I show my voice progress. I didn’t do any recordings of me pre-T, but today I finally found an old recording of my voice pre-T… On my voicemail.
I didn’t realize how much it changed. When my BFF showed me my voicemail I was shocked.
Or does it seem like most of the terfs are also white supremicists?
It also seems like their claims of death threats and hate speech are fabricated. I just can’t sympathize with terfs at all. That being said I don’t condone any type of bullying and I hate the thought of women dealing with death threats…but it just doesn’t seem real. Maybe it’s the people I choose to associate with but all I have seen is people ignoring them or making harmless comments like “begone terf!” The only time I have seen any serious hatefulness is on posts written by and for terfs. Most of it is small blocks of text that has been cropped down too much to see any user info or context. It’s also ridiculous. It looks like they are creating their own hate speech and taking screen shots so they can lend legitimacy to the whole “terf is a slur” bull crap.
Professor Rosa Freedman had the door of her home urinated on by vandals for espousing gender critical views.
Maria MacLachan (a 60 year old woman) was punched, pushed and intimidated by trans woman Tara Wolf, because MacLachan was filming radfems and trans activists at Speaker’s Corner and Wolf didn’t like it. Prior to the event, Tara Wolf posted about wanting to “fuck up some TERFs”, so it wasn’t just some spur of the moment thing. By the way, I recommend watching the video of this attack, because (imo) reading about it is nowhere near as viscerally uncomfortable and chilling it is to see a 6ft male-bodied person charging at a woman, hitting her, and then proceeding to turn on the people (presumably trans allies and fellow protestors) attempting to hold them back. Fucking terrifying.
Similarly, a radfem speech about sex trafficking and prostitution in Argentina, on International Women’s Day, was interrupted when a trans woman attacked the female speaker, ironically accusing her of violence, and attempted to choke her.
Following the murder of an interracial lesbian couple and their son by anti-radfem trans woman Dana Rivers, some individuals praised the murders and said that the deaths of TERFs should be celebrated.
Just this month, a panel discussion by black feminists (including Linda Bellos) about race and gender was cancelled by the local council, because of safety concerns about trans protestors.
Also very recently, Trans Pride Scotland had to cancel their headliner act, Peyton Rose, a trans woman who threatened to throat-punch radical feminists and encouraged others to do the same.
Here’s a quote from Esther Betts, a trans activist who acknowledges that smoke bombs, intimidation tactics and silencing women is wrong (if only for the sake of optics lol):
“The biggest reason I regret my participation in the protests against “We Need to Talk” is because I genuinely made people feel like I was a danger to them. I may be a trans woman, but I’m still bigger than most women and I’m still scary when I’m wearing a balaclava and shouting at you. I remember standing a few steps above Julie Bindel and Heather Bruskell-Evans and screaming down at them whilst Dr Bruskell-Evans tried to hide in the corner and looked absolutely terrified.”
I could also send you screenshots collected by various radfems, including threats of rape, genital mutilation (e.g. Shoot all TERFs in the pussy), torture, and murder. But you’ve already explained that you don’t take those seriously because it’s far more conceivable that feminists would send these to themselves than that men or trans women would ever send a sexually explicit threat to a woman…apparently.
However, here’s a Twitter thread in which prominent trans activist Avery Edison defends such threats and statements as “Fuck all TERFs to death” because the evil radfems “provoked” poor trans women first. Hmm…where have we heard that one before?
And of course, the infamous “I Punch TERFs” exhibition by the Degenderettes - although defended in the aforementioned twitter thread by Avery Edison.
Acting as if radfems and women in general are exaggerating and lying about the harm done to them in the name of gender identity ideology is not only cruel, it’s exactly the same tactics as those used by abusers and misogynists, especially abusive men, throughout history.
they use the same tactics as abusers and misogynists because they are abusers and misogynists. the gender crowd is led by trans women, literal males, and their followers eat up everything they say.
there are black radfems. asian radfems. hispanic/latina radfems. muslim radfems. jewish radfems. radfems who branched out from liberal feminism. radfems who were immediately interested in radical feminism and completely skipped over the liberal, watered-down mainstream “feminism”. radfems from conservative families and backgrounds, and radfems from leftist backgrounds.
radical feminism is the branch of feminism that focuses on all women, all over the world - not just US and canadian women and every other issue under the sun. it is the only feminism (that i’m aware of) that focuses on women only. liberal feminists never speak about women outside the west, and absolutely never speak about sex-based oppression. liberal feminism tells you that sex isn’t real and that every non-white society had no idea what men and women were until the Colonizing White Man came and told them. liberal feminism embraces ending female-only spaces for the sake of “validating” trans women, despite the obvious dangers of that and the numerous cases of men claiming to be women just so they can enter women’s spaces with bad intentions.
not to mention, plenty of us have receipts tags in which you can find the actual posts of trans activists telling us to kill ourselves or graphically describing how they would kill us or how they would rape us! there’s an entire google doc floating around somewhere of screenshots, with usernames included!, of trans activists being homophobic, misogynistic, violent, deranged and unhinged, and just plain old disgusting. trans activists celebrated a radfem getting brain cancer and her death. trans activists nailed a dead fucking rat to the door of a RAPE SHELTER. trans activists are publicly open on their blogs and twitter about how much they hate “cis” women and lesbians and all the fucked up things they want to do to us. you’ve even got trans activists on fucking facebook telling women they’ll rape them and their CHILDREN for something as insignificant as removing them from a group.
if it seems fabricated, it’s because you’re literally just not even bothering to look for it.
Content: Abuse, rape, experiences with mental illness and suicide
***PLEASE REBLOG TO PROTECT OTHERS IN OUR COMMUNITY FROM HAVING SIMILAR EXPERIENCES–I am finally ready for my voice to be heard***
With Gender Odyssey approaching (and I am too disabled to attend) and the release of the new Tegan and Sara video and the first Trans Youth Leadership Summit, I want to talk publicly about something for the first time. I want to talk about queer relationships, abuse, rape, polyamory, exploitation, and specifically, Eli Erlick (personal facebook page x, professional facebook page x, tumblr x, website x). I was in an emotionally, financially, and sexually abusive relationship with Eli Erlick for over a year and a half. And it pains me to see her get so much applause when I still suffer every day from the trauma she has caused me and I struggle to pull my life together alongside someone else who has suffered from her abuse.
At the beginning of the 2013 school year, I was a baby trans person taking a beloved professor’s Biology, Gender, and Society class to try to understand more about myself. Eli Erlick, an experienced trans person with tons of social capital and authority, used this class to prey on me, a vulnerable new member of the trans community, relentlessly sexually harassing me for weeks, causing daily panic attacks, until finally i felt like the only way to make it stop was to give in. Coercing someone to have sex with you and making them feel like they cannot safely say no is RAPE. Eli Erlick raped me and continued to emotionally manipulate me into an abusive polyamorous relationship in which she exploited my emotional labor and experiences as a trans person of color to benefit her career and social life and gaslighting me to believe that our relationship (which she refused to even acknowledge as one until I tried to break up with her for her abuse) was some sort of beacon of queer progressiveness.
Polyamorous relationships can absolutely be abusive. And the kink community is not exempt from rape. Tops, doms, and sadists ABSOLUTELY need to check themselves. Eli Erlick is NOT an accountable top, dom, or sadist, but rather is someone who literally keeps a scorebook of her conquests, originally titled the 100 list, with the intention of expanding her conquest goals each time she met them. Eli views the bodies she is intimate with as tallies in her book of conquests to do whatever she wants to their bodies. Keep in mind that Eli primarily conquests QTPOC and trans people in general. You do NOT GET TO SEEK OUT A GROUP OF PEOPLE WHO HAVE SO MUCH TRAUMA WRITTEN INTO THEIR BODIES WITHOUT APPROACHING SEX WITH THEM IN AN ACCOUNTABLE WAY. YOU DO NOT GET TO FORCE YOURSELF INTO SOMEONES BODY AND MAKE THEM FEEL LIKE THEY CANNOT SAY NO TO THE NEXT KINKY OR SADISTIC THING ON YOUR AGENDA TO DO WITH THEM. Check-ins are not a formality you toss out to your sexual partner after you have already aggressively started forcing what you want onto their body. Our bodies are inseparable from the traumas written into them and if you are going to be in a position of sexual power you need to account for the traumas of the person who is entrusting their body to you.
I do not trust Eli Erlick with vulnerable young trans people, especially trans people of color, looking for a hero when they never see their experiences represented. I know that when Eli has an ounce of power over someone, she WILL abuse that power and exploit their body, mind, and experiences for her own gain and sense of accomplishment. It is not even a conscious thing she does, but it is a thing she could consciously watch herself on to prevent herself from abusing others but she does not care to. The most Eli will ever do is make superficial changes to cover her tracks and keep people’s perceptions of her up, not actually change her abusive behaviors to prevent herself from causing harm to others. I do not trust Eli with trans people, I do not trust Eli with non-binary people, I do not trust Eli with people of color, I do not trust Eli with low income people, I do not trust Eli with disabled and mentally ill people, because I and others have been on the receiving end of cissexist, binarist, racist, classist, and ableist abuse from her.
Since day 1 of knowing Eli I have tried to help her become more accountable as a leader and person. I have confronted her time and time again, even since I ended our abusive relationship and we stopped being friends. When I confronted her about the countless ways she abused and raped me she has acknowledged that she had done these things and even agreed with me that she was a danger to our communities. I told her that the accountable thing to do upon recognizing that she is a compulsive abuser would be to transition TSER leadership to a QTPOC, especially someone like a trans woman of color, because of the distinct void in representation and programming for this community that really could use the funding and resources, and fade herself out of organizing so she won’t be tempted to abuse her power and authority in activist/organizing spaces.
She AGREED to these things and said she would try to transition to just the academia side, which I told her that I did not think she could do accountably either. Eli could excel and thrive in any liberal capitalist workplace who would be thrilled to have such a cis passing, white, conventionally attractive, high functioning neurotypical token of diversity, and in a workspace like this, she has no power to abuse vulnerable people. As she has failed her promise over and over again she has blocked me out from what she does hoping that I won’t see her continuing to expand her empire and her presence and social capital in organizing spaces to cover up her continued conquesting and exploitation of my communities. But I’m not the only one who sees you and your abusive behavior, Eli.
Since I began voicing my experiences with Eli’s abuse in online QTPOC spaces, countless people have come forward and told me they have had similar experiences in even transient interactions with Eli–fetishization, violent elitism, exploitation of their labor and experiences, predation, as well as rape. Eli is a serial abuser and conquester of our community.
Eli Erlick literally iced me out of her organization because she wanted to silence and contain me and protect her reputation and her freedom to continue expanding her trans empire (and I use empire in the most colonialist violent way) to rape and abuse and exploit without being challenged. Over the summer, while still living in the same apartment, we grew more distant as it grew more and more apparent to me that Eli was incapable of and unwilling to change her abusive ways. Eli took this time to not only take out her feelings about the breakup and losing control of me on our entire household of 4 that summer, she also took this time to stop keeping me in the loop about TSER, even intentionally neglecting to inform me about meetings that were happening in the very livingroom of the apartment we were sharing and ensuring that I would feel so alienated and out of place that at my low capacity I would not have the energy to even assert that I belonged.
When I sent her a 17 page letter detailing every horrifying act of abuse and rape she had committed against me, her immediate response was to remove me from the admin role on TSER’s facebook page and group so that I would not have a chance to expose her and speak the truth to her supporters and those she works with. And without even informing me or giving me a chance to fight it, Eli personally removed me from TSER’s board of directors page on her website and buried my involvement and contributions to the organization.
Eli would not have the radical social capital or academic capital she has today without me. During the year and a half+ that we were together, I painstakingly read, edited, advised, brainstormed, and even sometimes outright wrote every single publication of Eli Erlick’s, from papers to grants to even her social media posts. Every. Single. Day. I performed endless emotional labor to educate Eli on intersectional issues that my and other communities besides her own insular white trans community faces. Every day I faced violence from Eli in the form of negating the insight of me and my community members that I was generous enough to share with her. Being with Eli was 24/7 emotional and also physical labor that I was expected to perform with no acknowledgement of how my disabilities make me incapable of performing to her high expectations.
I have struggled with feelings of suicide for years from the trauma of occupying a body that society wants to violently stamp out of existence because I’m mentally ill and disabled, because I’m a person of color, because I’m queer, because I’m trans, because I’m non-binary, because of years of abuse. And Eli was a huge contributor of what nearly drove me to suicide my last official year of college. As my mental health declined, every day Eli would make me feel ashamed for what I couldn’t do, verbally attacking me and making me feel like I was never enough or that I was a waste or that I was crazy for feeling like she was even treating me unfairly. Eli normalized her abuse and her expectations of my body to the point of making me feel so ashamed on a daily basis that it grew more and more tempting to just end it.
Eli was by no means the only factor in how I was feeling but she certainly sent me spiralling to a dark place that I luckily have been in the process of pulling myself out of and healing with my amazing partner Knight. My will to survive and make a livable life for me and my little family is stronger than ever before, but I’m still haunted by my trauma from Eli, who every other day I see pop up in my newsfeed being showered with praise, attention, and social capital for something she takes credit for that should be credited to so many communities and individuals she has leeched herself off of.
This same person who has gained so much activist and capitalist credit for working with The Trevor Project, a queer suicide prevention organization, was the person who when I was in the car with my abusive parent at the peak of a fight about me being trans with my hand on the car door on a speeding highway chose to respond to me reaching out for help with the words “I’m on the verge of committing suicide” by policing my language telling me it was inaccurate to say that and that it bothered her that I was using incorrect language to be dramatic.
This same person gaslit me into thinking my brain was falsifying memories of sexual abuse to deny me the right to claim survivorship so that I could not identify what she had been doing to me as rape and sexual abuse.
This same person victim blamed me and gaslit me for “stereotyping flirtatious people” to deny the way she sexually harassed me and coerced me into a sexually and emotionally abusive relationship.
This same person wouldn’t let me transition the way I needed to because she was more interested in controlling my body’s attractiveness to her liking. The other trans masculine people she conquested were allowed to be on testosterone, to have body hair, to have facial hair, to have deeper voices, to have acne, to have their pronouns be respected, to be gendered affirmingly with her in public, but not me, because my willingness to mold myself to her liking was the thing that made me special to her compared to them. I was stockholmed to feel like our relationship was some sort of radical queer polyamory rather than it being abuse and control. I felt like I had to let her mold me into exactly the type of non-binary trans person she deemed to her liking, I consistently reassured her I wasn’t being gendered affirmingly in public so she could keep her queer social capital, I let her call me she, I let her call my parts whatever she decided they had to be, I let her relate to my body in ways that made me dysphoric and triggered me and hurt me and scared me and that I did not actually consent to. All because she made me feel like I never had the chance to say no and made me feel like I would be nothing without her because I was struggling to survive.
Like any other abuser, Eli controlled my body and what I could do with it in ways that were violent and traumatizing to me as a non-binary trans person. Any time I would excitedly wonder what my body hair would look like or what my voice would sound like on testosterone, Eli would cut me off saying, “Don’t do T. It’ll make you hairy/gross/unattractive” or “I wouldn’t be as attracted to you” knowing well that the abusive dynamic of our polyamory made me really insecure about my attractiveness to her because of how she would compare me to everyone else and go out of her way to make me feel less desirable and secure to control me.
This same person steals the spotlight and the mic away from vulnerable struggling (but also POWERFUL) communities like trans women of color, disabled trans people, and so many others who NEED their voices and experiences represented and their issues addressed EVERY TIME she takes a press opportunity for her own personal gain.
This same person forced me to advance her resume by writing almost her ENTIRE PeaceFirst Grant and helping her appear in a capitalist video segment exploiting queer people at the expense of my sleep, mental health, and a midterm.
This same person uses her social capital to intimidate and impress vulnerable young trans people to gain access to their bodies and a voyeuristic, exploitative look into the lives of people who are marginalized in ways she is not.
This same person fetishizes and preys upon queer and trans people of color, ESPECIALLY Asian Pacific Islander people, who make up the last 4 serious relationships she’s had and an unbelievable number of the people in her conquest list. Conquest culture IS rape culture.
This same person has STOLEN so much of my ideas without giving me any credit and continues to build and build and capitalize off of her own reputation while I struggle to survive.
I could go on and on but it drains me to write even as much as I have and the 17 pages I sent Eli last year don’t even begin to cover it.
I have spent today bawling my eyes out about the recent Trans Youth Leadership Summit that Eli put on with TSER. Because this was MY IDEA. MY IDEA that I was so passionate about that she SHOT DOWN. MY IDEA that was inspired by the life changing experiences I had leading trainings with the Asian American Sponsor Program at Scripps with friends who I love and respect and grew with. When I was at my lowest in my last formal semester at Scripps, I was enrolled in a class called Grant Writing for Non-Profits that I took as a desperate attempt to find something that would give my life meaning when I was struggling to survive. I desperately needed to feel like the academics that were sapping so much of my energy and life force could give back to my survival and the survival of my communities and because i was the Program Director and Grant Writer for TSER, I came up with one idea that finally got me excited and hopeful about the future and my potential as an organizer: a TRANS YOUTH LEADERSHIP SUMMIT for SUMMER 2016 with horizontal leadership structure featuring collaboration focused around LEADERSHIP DEVELOPMENT INITIATIVES with a dedicated track for trans people of color. Compare this with Eli’s description of her TYLS (http://www.transstudent.org/tyls)
I put every ounce of energy I had toward brainstorming and beginning to write this grant, even using the last of my ADHD medication to keep my focus while I did not have health insurance or psychiatrist to prescribe my meds, to crank out an amazing beginning for a leadership initiative program that I was so proud and excited about, that gave me hope for my future. Only to have it be immediately shot down by Eli because she would rather use my writing abilities to write a grant to open her up a physical office in LA so that she would have more capitalist credit and acclaim as a Non-Profit executive. When she shot down my idea I was devastated, my mental health and any momentum I had the potential to build crumpled and spiralled. I soon after dropped the class and began a downward academic and health spiral that had me struggling for my life against suicide.
To see her now, in summer 2016, STEAL my idea and remove from it the HISTORY of where my motivation came from with my communities, the LOVE and CARE I put into my work with my communities, and the accountability I hoped to give it, as an opportunity to instead boost her own cred and CONQUEST the attendees. I fear for the number of trans youth, especially trans youth of color that Eli might have conquested or raped at her leadership summit. I genuinely am scared and hurting for the people I never even got a chance to connect with because not only was I not informed, credited, or invited, but I was driven out of organizing into burn-out by its corrupt leader. My heart broke today in ways I didn’t think Eli had the power to do anymore, despite how many days in a month I wake up in cold sweats and panic from nightmares of rape trauma from Eli. I know that I probably won’t ever have the capacity to go back to organizing, vastly because of how tied up in my trauma it is due to Eli. Its a slap in the face to me as the disabled QTPOC she abused the most to see all my hard work and care just go toward Eli’s conquest and empire.
Eli Erlick is an abuser and rapist. Not someone who has ANY business being a leader for such a vulnerable community. I urge you all who read this and find it in yourself to believe what I say and recognize how serious my testimony is to pressure Eli to step down from organizing in a community she refuses to learn how to be accountable to.
[See the Read-First Introduction before proceeding]
CENSORED BY TRANSPOLITICS: A MASTERPOST
TIER 1
MURDER OF PEOPLE WHO QUESTION TRANSGENDER PEOPLE/IDEOLOGY
Psychotherapist Rita Powers murdered by her patient, a transwoman, because Powers didn’t think he was an appropriate candidate for sex reassignment surgery
Note, in the link, that the transgender community blamed Powers for being murdered, saying that if she had just given her patient what he wanted, she would still be alive. In other words, ‘she asked for it.’ Sound familiar?
TIER 2
ASSAULT OF PEOPLE WHO QUESTION TRANSGENDER PEOPLE/IDEOLOGY
Cheryl Partsch punched in teeth for questioning cross-dressing man in women’s restroom.
His punch cost her $60K in medical bills. Note that Patrick doesn’t identify as a woman, but still punched Cheryl in the teeth for being concerned about his presence in the women’s restroom, and called her questioning a “hate crime.”
Feminists assaulted in Transgender Attack at Portland conference for Social Change
Violent Zoey Tur grabs panelist by the neck and threatens to send him “home in an ambulance” live on the air
The panelist’s crime? Mentioning biology.
UK trans athlete Lauren Jeska, attempts to murder an official and attacks two other officials from British Athletics for reviewing the medals won while competing as a woman. Lauren Jeska is male.
TIER 3
ECONOMIC PUNISHMENTS
(SUCH AS UNEMPLOYMENT OR LEGAL FINES)
OF PEOPLE WHO QUESTION TRANSGENDER PEOPLE/IDEOLOGY
Rochester Radio Hosts Fired After making transgender jokes
General fired from academic post over transgender bathroom joke
Gavin McInnes fired for thought catalog post, “Transphobia is Perfectly Natural”
Daycare workers fired for ‘misgendering’ confused student
ESPN fires Curt Schilling for sharing a ‘transphobic’ meme
Transactivists attempt to fire Meghan Murphy for writing about Laverne Cox
Transwoman & business owner Janelle Bahan threatens to fire any woman who might be a feminist
Woman’s Planet Fitness Membership cancelled for concern over transwoman in locker room
Transactivist attempts to fire ‘transphobe’ Elizabeth Hungerford for her Open Letter to Smith College
Worthy of note: The same transactivist is now trans-critical, has since apologized, and now experiences abuse from the trans community.
Vassar College transactivist students attempt to fire Professor
New York City enacts $$$ 6-figure fine for “misgendering”*
Canada Prime Minister Justin Trudeau introduces bill that punishes “misgendering” with up to two years in prison*
* Challenge for transactivists: can you find any comparable punishments for people who call women bitches, sluts, cunts or whores? Hell, most rapists don’t even face consequences this severe for raping people.
YMCA fires rape victim for expressing fear of being raped in gender neutral bathrooms
Georgia ACLU leader Maya Dillard Smith pressured to resign after asking too many questions about transgender bathroom bill
Transactivists violently harass, deplatform and attempt to fire Ruth Barrett
Because she signed a petition and had an opinion about MichFest. How dare she!
Macy’s fires Catholic employee for disagreeing with transgender bathroom policy
The policy was never made known to him, and he promised to uphold the policy, but they still fired him.
Renee Gerlich is banned from a community book market and subsequently lost her job and was the target of a bullying pact launched against her by a trans spokesperson from the New Zealand Prostitutes’ Collective.
TIER 4
THE NO-PLATFORMING, DISINVITATION, EVENT CANCELLATION, UNPUBLISHING AND CENSORSHIP
OF PEOPLE WHO QUESTION TRANSGENDER PEOPLE/IDEOLOGY
BOLD links = this person has been deplatformed repeatedly
(Meaning, this list is longer than it looks.)
Derrick Jensen disinvited from Oregon State University over “transphobia” (Response)
Lawrence University invokes last minute BAN on Earth Day Keynote Speaker Lierre Keith due to her Feminist views on Gender
Rachel Ivey of Deep Green Resistance “End of Gender” presentation cancelled at Bluestockings… …and at Unitarian Church of Philadelphia
Julie Bindel repeatedly deplatformed for her gender-critical views
Lesbian activist stripped of Grand Marshall honors over “transphobic” Facebook posts
Cindy Sheehan talks about being targeted by “trans bullies”
Glosswitch commissiond, then un-commissioned, to write for feminist site
even though she was initially told she could write “ANYTHING”
Janet Mock and followers target GenderTrender blog, shut it down & suspend blogger
Campus “Vagina Monologues” cancelled for being about vaginas (which is “exclusive” to transwomen)
Lesbian Outsmart review of Julia Serano’s “Excluded” removed from website for “insensitive” trans-critical remarks
New York Times transgender/gay rights debate features 2 transwomen, 4 gay males, but NO women or lesbians
Christine Benvenuto essay removed, AND bookshop event cancelled, after petition & harassment by her transwoman ex-spouse
Bev Jo disinvited from Butch Voices by transwoman
Iconic Michigan Women’s Music Festival ends after long fight over trans-inclusivity
Organizers were threatened for years by transacitivists for having a female-only vision of the festival
Vulva Cupcake event called “violent” – transactivists attempt to cancel it
Woman’s Bruce Jenner rant deleted by YouTube
Iconic feminist Carol Adams targeted by “transphobia” misinformation/deplatforming campaign
No evidence of her alleged transphobia was ever provided by her accusers.
PantheaCon female-only spiritual rites infiltrated by transactivists
Sex-specific events are no longer allowed at PantheaCon — not even traditional rites based on exclusively female experiences such as menstruation, which have always been deeply revered in many Pagan traditions
Kate Smurthwaite’s comedy show cancelled for “transphobia”
even though she’s demonstrably supportive of trans people
Female Erasure Book faces pre-emptive attacks
Royal College of Psychiatrists Transgender Conference cancelled after trans complaints
Cardiff University cancels Germaine Greer lecture after trans-critical remarks
Sheila Jeffreys targeted by “transphobia” de-platforming campaign
Jeremy Clarkson Amazon Show cancelled for trans-critical remarks
Potentially $568 million in economic damages, countless event cancellations, and corporate withdrawals and in North Carolina following HB2 decision
Everyday Feminism pulls article by Alice Dreger about sex ed; cites disagreement about ‘trans issues’
For Books’ Sake takes down, apologizes for, sharing FeministCurrent article…calls it transphobic but does not explain how it’s transphobic
Ruth Greenberg denied venue for lesbian-focused, trans-inclusive event based on year-old “transphobic” tweet
Thistle Pettersen banned from the community radio station, WORT 89.9 FM, AND she was also prevented from organizing a yearly women-focused music & arts festival in Madison, WI due to accusations of ‘transphobia’.
Please take the time to read this one, if you can: PART 1, PART 2, PART 3, PART 4.
Professor tells student she is not allowed to share trans-critical views during class discussions
Twitter bot corrects tweets that “misgender” Caitlyn Jenner
Vancouver Women’s Library harassed and threatened for having “TERF” and “SWERF” literature in their catalogue.
This is despite the fact that the library is trans-inclusive. According to this Guerrilla Feminist Collective post, transactivists have also assaulted a library visitor and stolen the library’s sign.
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Thistle Pettersen has again been silenced and pressured to not perform at an event she started organizing.
Rhéa Jean, author and PhD, was accused of transphobia and censored from speaking at a seminar on the transgender movement. The seminar was cancelled.
Meghan Murphy has a post she wrote for rabble arguing against Planned Parenthood’s dehumanizing use of the word ‘menstruators’ to describe women censored without notice or explanation. When pressed, she finally got a response claiming the post includes ‘transphobic language.’ To date no one has explained exactly what that ‘transphobic language’ was. She quit in protest.
TIER 5
SOCIAL EXCLUSION, DOXXING, HARASSMENT, GENERAL INTIMIDATION
OF PEOPLE WHO QUESTION TRANSGENDER PEOPLE/IDEOLOGY
Laci Green doxxed for saying “tranny” years ago, even though she apologized
Yes, THE Laci Green that liberal feminists love so much.
Cathy Brennan was stalked and harassed by a group of transactivists in Olympia for refusing to say that a homosexual male could also identify as a lesbian.
There are so many open threats of violence made against trans-critical people, particularly against lesbians and/or radical feminists, that I cannot list them all. So I’ll summarize instead:
WITHDRAWAL OF SUPPORT
Transactivists are known to threaten to withdraw support for feminist causes/organizations if they fail to openly pledge allegiance to transgender ideology. Many such organizations are in desperate need of social support and funding, so they don’t have much of a choice except to go along with what transactivists tell them to say.
The message is clear: “Your rights are important, but validating my beliefs is more important.”
One example:
SOCIAL MEDIA PHASE-OUTS
Ask ANY radical /gender critical/trans critical feminist, and they will tell you: we get deleted, harassed, banned and blocked more than anyone. Many of us have lost real-life friends over trans-critical Facebook posts or even for asking questions. It seems that transactivists patrol Facebook for the slightest hint of “transphobia” so they can pile-on and virtue-signal what a Good Trans Ally they are.
Again, there are too many examples to post here, so here are just a few examples: (x)(x)(x)
TERF BLACKLISTS
Transactivists on Tumblr often make lists of alleged “TERFs” and command their followers not to engage with, or reblog anything from, people on the lists. Some examples:
The “TERF hive” commands trans allies to censor, harass, report, block and otherwise shut down trans-critical sites:
DIE CIS SCUM
This is a popular slogan in transactivists circles. Transactivists argue that their use of this slogan is okay because “they’re more oppressed than cis people.” As you can see in the picture below, it’s a very threatening slogan, especially when tattooed on the body of a male holding a baseball bat.
#KILLALLTERFS
A favorite hashtag of transactivists. Many examples of these open threats of violence can be found on the following websites:
TERF is a Slur | Violent Receipts | Violent Trans Male Witness
Here is a small sampling of the kinds of threats made against us by transactivists, taken from the 3 links above ^
VIDEOS:
TRANSACTIVISTS IN ACTION See it for yourself.
Anti-feminist protesters at the Vancouver Women’s Library Launch from GFC on Vimeo.
Also worth considering:
These major “feminist”/women’s websites will publish pro-transgender pieces but won’t publish “transphobic” (trans-critical, gender-critical or radical feminist) pieces:
Feministing, EverydayFeminism, Jezebel, xoJane, The Frisky, Bitch Media, The Establishment, Refinery29, Bustle, Black Girl Dangerous…
Autostraddle even blatantly admits to being inclined to give trans*people more money for their writing (source)
Many trans-critical writers have had to resort to publishing on Right-wing websites just to have a platform, even though they do not sympathize, or want to associate, with the Right. (This is part of where the “radfems are conservative” stereotype comes from.)
Common "lesbians should like penis or they're transphobic" arguments and why they're bullshit.
“You’re attracted to women, some women have penises. Not into to penises/into only to vaginas is not a sexual orientation.”
No one said that was a sexual orientation, and a person is allowed to have a penis be a deal breaker. Being attracted to women does not mean attracted to every single woman with no standards or boundaries.
"Lesbians are just gendering genitals. They just need to examine why they don’t like penis.”
“Gendering genitals” is not the only reason ever someone may not like penis. Why can we not accept that some people just don’t like dick? Has it occurred to people that maybe a penis is inherently sexual, and as such some people might simply not be into it? Some women don’t like clitoral stimulation for instance and some men don’t like PIV sex, so why can’t some people just not like penis?
It’s also a huge insult to act as if lesbians haven’t examined why they don’t like penis. Lesbians are at risk for corrective rape, abuse, abandonment, and all sorts of oppression due to their sexual orientation. Why would they not spend nights wondering why they don’t like penis? Lesbians may even go as far as pretending to like penises for safety.
“A trans woman might not even want to use her penis.”
Some people are uncomfortable with the idea of merely facilitating the arousal or orgasm of a penis, even if it’s not directly involved in the sex act.
“You’re conceited. Why do you even think a trans woman would want to sleep with you?”
You’re the ones who created the cotton ceiling, you’re the ones who keep making (often violent) posts about how lesbians are transphobic for not liking dick, you’re the ones who complain about lesbians not dating/fucking you. We’ll stop talking about it as soon as you stop using coercive tactics as a form of activism, aka shaming women for not consenting to sex they don’t want, find uncomfortable, or even find triggering.
“A trans woman’s penis is different from a man’s penis. It’s a woman’s penis, not a man’s penis.”
That’s just magical thinking and semantics. They’re all structurally the same. Make a line up of trans women’s penises along with non-trans men’s penises and you can’t tell the difference. It’s not an issue of male or female penis, it’s the penis entirely.
“If you’re not into penises, just pretend it’s a big clit. You wouldn’t reject someone just because they have a big clit, right?"
A penis isn’t a big clit. There’s more to a vulva and the entie female sex than just a clit.
Furthermore, women who do have larger clitorides are often subject to surgeries reducing the size of it. It’s seen as a detriment or abnormality rather than an uncommon but natural variation. This is often done non-consensually at a young age. They may also experience shaming, harassment, and have their sex questioned, which may also lead to them getting unnecessary surgery. This won’t happen to your penis. It’s an insult to these women, many of whom have been coercively put through unnecessary surgery, to make this comparison because you don’t have potential access to every lesbian.
"Lesbians reject trans women but sleep with trans men all the time.”
Oh? I thought ~sexuality is fluid~ though? I guess it is until it comes down to a trans woman not getting fucked. Are there even any reliable citations for the claim that lesbians are more likely to date/fuck trans men than trans women?
“By excluding a pre-op trans woman from her dating/sex pool, that lesbian is denying trans women their womanhood and is committing an act of violence.”
Not fucking or dating someone does not deny someone their womanhood, nor is it an act of violence. You are literally saying that self validating your womanhood is more important than someone’s comfort, boundaries, wants, needs, and/or emotions during sex, that is the opposite of womanhood and non-violence if anything.
“Lesbians use penis shaped sex toys, so I don’t believe they just simply aren’t into penises. It’s just transmisogyny.”
Straight men give themselves hand jobs so I don’t believe they really don’t like hand jobs from other men. This is the same argument lesbians have been hearing forever from dudebros.
“Lesbians who don’t like penises and won’t have sex that involves one should die.”
Your activism isn’t new or radical, and neither are your arguments. A good chunk of the world agrees with you.
I called a few of them this morning to see if they were willing to sell me a mink kit next spring for the full price an adult pelt would be worth, so financially they aren’t loosing anything. They were all really hostile & defensive & aggressive & rude >.< I was so polite & nervous, damn youooo
It’s like they sensed I’m a weakling vegetarian Dx
this truscum guy i know posted on his ig story that “any “””””””man””””””” that performs cunnalingus is an absolute beta and you cant change my mind” and tbh ? hes just weak.
Why is this tagged truscum and why is him being truscum relevant? There’s literally truscum trans men who have PiV sex and perform cunnilingus without issue; how trans people have sex isn’t a truscum position.
Dude probably is dealing with some serious dysphoria and self Hate. Sometimes that presents as toxic masculinity to an extreme. It’s not okay, but let’s not act like this is some elitist truscum BS when it’s probably just someone who’s hurting a lot.
OP, Have you considered not posting things publicly in public tags for people you don't like if you don't want responses that aren't patting you on the back and trashing on someone who's clearly either shitposting or dealing with some real shit?
none of us care that you think we’re “invalid” the word “valid” has lost all meaning anyway. also you make it sound like the entire truscum community has forced me to become a transmed.
You can’t just tell people to ‘get a VPN (Virtual Private Network)’. Buying a VPN is like buying a house. It’s very very important. Having no VPN or having a ‘wrong’ one can seriously damage your life. Especially for Americans because their privacy laws are garbage. I am going to try explain why you should get a VPN but bare with me, I am from Germany and my English is far from perfect.
Let’s start with a simple test.
Click this link here: https://whatismyipaddress.com/
It will tell your IP adres, your ISP (internet service provider), and your location. The location might not be very accurate, but then again, it’s just a simple website. Imagine what the government can do!
So basically, everyone can find out where you live. But there is more danger. Your ISP. Your ISP logs your every move online and they are required to keep it in case the government wants access to it (or if a 3rd party wants to buy your data (yikes). They have everything. What websites you visit. How long you stay on a website. What you download. Your search terms. European laws are more subtle on this but if you are from the US you are #@*#&, especially because Trump doesn’t support the open internet. It’s scary but maybe in the future you can’t get a job because the recruiter knows your searched on ‘how to deal with depression’ or anythings else that’s supposed to be private because it’s your f*cking right. Or you get a $100k fine because you pirated a movie 15 years ago. You need a VPN. You’re dumb for not using one. but what does a VPN do?
A VPN encrypts all your data so if it were be intercepted no one can ‘crack the code’ and damage your privacy.
Usually being online goes like this (simplified): Your computer —-> ISP (—–> keeps data —–> sells it)
But with a VPN it goes like: Your computer —–> VPN (encrypts data)—–> ISP (ISP can’t see shit)
Furthermore, a VPN hides your IP address and location by giving you another IP address located in Spain for example (you can often choose from a list and change as many times as you want).
Now that you know why you should get a VPN and what is does it is important to educate yourself because people often choose the wrong VPN. VPN providers are also businesses and have to obey the law. If you choose a VPN provider located in the US then you are throwing your money away because the laws in the US shits on your privacy. If the US gov wants the provider to give all their logs they have to obey. The ISP still can’t see what you are doing online and sell your data but the US gov can interfere with your VPN provider so NEVER CHOOSE A PROVIDER LOCATED IN THE US.
I just wanted to make that very clear so my followers don’t buy false security.
There is still more danger!
Who says your VPN provider isn’t selling your data? You need to check their logging policy. Do they keep logs? If yes, what for? For how long do they keep them? Tip: Choose a provider who doesn’t keep logs
More about law
The US is part of the Five Eyes program (the worst):
The Five Eyes, often abbreviated as FVEY, is an intelligence alliance comprising Australia, Canada, New Zealand, the United Kingdom and the United States. These countries are bound by the multilateral UKUSA Agreement, a treaty for joint cooperation in signals intelligence (source)
There is also a Nine Eyes (bit better) and Fourteen Eyes Program (better).
You don’t want a VPN provider who is located in one the Five Eyes countries.
If you had to choose go for a provider located in a country that’s part of the Fourteen Eyes Program or even better, go for a country that isn’t part of any program!
I know this is a shitty explanation and please pardon my english but now it’s time to do your own research. Take your privacy seriously. Maybe WWIII breaks out and you get killed for liking the ‘wrong’ FB-page.
Go to this website: https://thatoneprivacysite.net/simple-vpn-comparison-chart/
Make sure that your future VPN provider both has green boxes for Privacy Jurisdiction and Privacy Logging.
I recommend ovpn.se and trust.zone. ovpn is located in Sweden so they are part of the 14 Eyes Program and they keep minimal logs. Their business ethics, however, are alright.
Trustzone is located in the Seychelles. No country can interfere and their privacy jurisdiction is the best you can get. The US want your data but needs to get it from Trustzone? The Seychelles will simply give them the finger and wave them goodbye. However, this makes this provider very appealing for people who torrent and criminals because they keep no logs (and that is how it shoud be) Also, there are almost no marketing efforts so this provider is one the cheapest)
Also, often providers such as ExpressVPN are being called ‘The Best’ on websites about VPNs but know that this is just marketing which also makes those provider more expensive (and they too shit on your privacy)
This must be the worst article you have ever read but please, please take your privacy very seriously.
EDIT: I got many people asking me which provider I use. For those who want to know, I use Trust Zone. They offer a free 3-day trial with no strings attached. But still do your own research!
I am also with Trustzone but I think you forgot to explain one of it’s most important features. It protects you when you are using someone else’s Wi-Fi.
If you are at Starbucks and you use their Wi-Fi your privacy is at risk. Anyone with ill intentions could steal your information. Especially if you are using an unsecured Wi-Fi hotspot. With a VPN your data gets encrypted so no one can steal it.
Wait, what’s going, on? Did trump destroy internet privacy with a bill or something? Where’s the news? Oh wait, why am I getting visions of Alex Jones and selling water purifiers?
He hasn’t yet but he says he wants to. And if he is serious about it it would be really easy to do. Since all our data is already recorded, as the person above explained.
@elvesfromthedeep just brought the current situation in the US to my attention (March 30, 2017).
Sources
Anger as US internet privacy law scrapped
Congress just voted to let internet providers sell your browsing history
To all my friends in the US, please read this entire post. Making everyone aware of VPNs is going to be my mission. Your privacy matters. Please reblog this post.
Don’t tell me you just wanted to scroll past this. Stop looking at pictures of cats for a moment, okay? Don’t you realize how important this is? This is dangerous! ‘America, the best FREE country in the world’ my ass.
With this new law your ISP can sell your Internet history which could include passwords, usernames, religion, credit card numbers, race and much more to the highest bidder. So here is what I want you to do.
You are going to read the whole thing and before you think ’this is so important. Let me reblog this real quick and go back to admiring cats again-’ NO! Don’t reblog this. Take action first. Then reblog. Sign up for a free trial! Trust.Zone offers one (here). Yes. It might be difficult to set up a VPN for some people. But is that going to stop you from protecting yourself and your family? 30 minutes. 30 minutes is all that it takes. 5 if you know how to install software. The problem with some of you is that you see ‘difficult’ as something negative. I want you to see difficult differently. I need you to push through this stuff. You are going to protect yourself. There is nothing negative about that.
VPNs are fun and costsaving too! A VPN bypasses geographical restrictions so you can access websites you normally can’t or you could start Netflix’s one month free trial over and over again- forever. And it’s legal! (unless you use it to buy weapons etc.,)
Don’t tell yourself that you are too tired and that you will do this tomorrow. Because that isn’t going to happen and you know it. You have to do this right now. You only have to click on it. Don’t let this/shit/life just happen to you. Take yourself seriously. Get a VPN.
Privacy is not a privilege, it’s a fundamental human right
Ahead, there are in fact, female vaginas. Vaginas of both cis and trans women. I dare terfs to tell the difference.
Some are cis, some are trans. I, personally, can not see the difference. A person who identifies as a woman is a woman. All of these vaginas are female vaginas, except some of them (who knows which ones?) Are from women who have had bottom surgery. I can’t tell, and neither can you, my dude. If you can, kindly guess which ones are. No, you won’t find out by reverse image searching. I cropped them. So, terfs, get the fuck off my dash, and go eat a stinky, unwashed, terf pussy.
Lol see this is one of the biggest problems with your bullshit. You think our problem with neovaginas is that we believe they’re not aesthetically pleasing enough which is misogynistic projection. Our problem isn’t that they don’t LOOK like real vaginas (when they’re made by a skilled surgeon, that is) it’s that they’re NOT real vaginas. You can fashion a porn perfect vagina on a man all day long but will it clean itself? Will it Lubricate itself? Will it smell like a real vulva/vagina? Will it taste like a real vulva/vagina? The answer to all these questions (based on actual research into post-srs results) is no.
The first one is the neovagina. I knew right away. It's also an atypically good result. Typically a neovulva will not have the characteristic of the clitoris splitting at the bottom and turning into the labia minora. It will also often not have a separation between the minora and majora, it will be a fold. The bottom of the opening will not have the same kind of skin.
So I see people say “lesbian couples have the highest rates of domestic abuse” all the time, and I used to believe it, too, but it turns out that that isn’t actually true. According to the US Department of Justice, 11.4% of women who have lived with women reported a lifetime experience of being victimized by a female partner, while 20.3% of women who have lived with men reported a lifetime experience of being victimized by a male partner. Therefore, heterosexual relationships have a higher rate of domestic abuse than lesbian relationships. Please stop spreading the myth that “lesbians relationships have the highest rate of domestic abuse” as if it were a fact. Spreading misinformation doesn’t do anybody any good.
This is the part of the Research Report that talks about this. It’s actually pretty interesting:
“The survey found that same-sex cohabitants reported significantly more intimate partner violence than did opposite-sex cohabitants. Among women, 39.2 percent of the same-sex cohabitants and 21.7 percent of the opposite- sex cohabitants reported being raped, physically assaulted, and/or stalked by a marital/cohabiting partner at some time in their lifetime. Among men, the comparable figures are 23.1 percent and 7.4 percent (exhibit 8).
At first glance, these findings suggest that both male and female same-sex couples experience more intimate partner violence than do opposite- sex couples. However, a comparison of intimate partner victimization rates among same-sex and opposite-sex cohabitants by perpetrator gender produced some interesting findings: 30.4 percent of same-sex cohabiting women reported being victimized by a male partner, whereas 11.4 per- cent reported being victimized by a female part- ner. Thus, same-sex cohabiting women were nearly three times more likely to report being victimized by a male partner than by a female partner. Moreover, opposite-sex cohabiting women were nearly twice as likely to report being victimized by a male partner than were same-sex cohabiting women by a female partner (20.3 percent and 11.4 percent) (exhibit 9).
Somewhat different patterns were found for men. Like their female counterparts, same-sex cohabiting men were more likely to report being victimized by a male partner than by a female partner. Specifically, 15.4 percent of same-sex cohabiting men reported being raped, physically assaulted, and/or stalked by a male partner, but 10.8 percent reported such violence by a female partner. However, same-sex cohabiting men were nearly twice as likely to report being victimized by a male partner than were opposite- sex cohabiting men by a female partner (15.4 percent and 7.7 percent). These findings suggest that intimate partner violence is perpetrated pri- marily by men, whether against male or female partners.”
• packing twice as much for every sleepover/ vacation because you never know how you’ll feel when you wake up
• your girlfriend explaining to people that yes, she had both of a boyfriend AND a girlfriend, and no, she’s not polyamorous
• when you buy a cute dress for a formal event… And then it’s a guy day
• pronouns. suck.
• having a really nice hair day but feeling the need to tie it up for a guy day
• the beanie collection has gotten out of control
• little kids looking at you so confused
• when your texting a friend and they don’t know what day it is and you don’t have the heart to correct them when there’s no way they could know
• so. much. binding.
Feel free to add your own on these are just the ones on the top of my head
lol have you folks? perhaps???? considered people dress to mitigate their dysphoria? or to conform to gender norms so as to prevent strangers from misgendering them?
TF, you're scaring me. When i started checking in on you a few years ago, I was impressed that you didn't have the "haha! Stupid morons!" approach to people that disagreed with you, and you tried to understand them so you could educate them. But over the past year or two, you're starting to show SJW tendencies. You no longer attempt to understand your opponent, instead going straight to acting as though their ignorance is a personal attack. I'm worried I'll lose (loose?) my friend to hatred.
Because it’s a website, full of radicalized people who used to be part of the same community as me but exemplified Horseshoe Theory and went too batshit crazy for me to even try to understand them. I don’t want to. I don’t care. It’s a website. It doesn’t mean anything. Trying to engage in debate with people who believe I’m not a person who deserves the same rights as them just isn’t worth it on a website that means nothing.
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