swallow, give me your quick wings

Sunny, 30’s, Australian, Female, She.  “You can’t hurt me, I haven’t got a film career!” - Nathan Lane to Weinstein. Loves art, theatre and Elegies: a song cycle too much. Star Trek took over my life as well. Awaits the forth wave. 

[ymutate]

Filippo Palizzi (Italian painter 1818–1899)

Excavations in Pompeii, 1870

Oil on Canvas

119.5 × 86 cm.

Private Collection

[rabid-transcendentalist]

@anthropologist-on-the-loose get peer-reviewed because your shared experience with the subject of the painting really heightened the emotional impact of this artwork for me ( An impact which was already high tbh. The idea that Pompeii was built by generations, buried by generations, uncovered by generations. What if I just started screaming and never stopped. )

[anthropologist-on-the-loose]

"Built by generations, buried by generations, uncovered by generations" is ruining me, thanks

[anthropologist-on-the-loose]

But it was buried by generations! Yes, it was buried in a volcanic eruption, but it was also figuratively buried. Over the centuries the location of Pompeii was lost, and it was found again by accident during construction projects. The ruins were not conclusively identified as the city of Pompeii until the 18th century (more than a millennia and a half after the eruption!) and it has been excavated ever since. People have been digging there since before the formation of the United States.

It's truly an incredible, one-of-a-kind site.

[youngadultread]

“Teachers are often unaware of the gender distribution of talk in their classrooms. They usually consider that they give equal amounts of attention to girls and boys, and it is only when they make a tape recording that they realize that boys are dominating the interactions. Dale Spender, an Australian feminist who has been a strong advocate of female rights in this area, noted that teachers who tried to restore the balance by deliberately ‘favouring’ the girls were astounded to find that despite their efforts they continued to devote more time to the boys in their classrooms. Another study reported that a male science teacher who managed to create an atmosphere in which girls and boys contributed more equally to discussion felt that he was devoting 90 per cent of his attention to the girls. And so did his male pupils. They complained vociferously that the girls were getting too much talking time. In other public contexts, too, such as seminars and debates, when women and men are deliberately given an equal amount of the highly valued talking time, there is often a perception that they are getting more than their fair share. Dale Spender explains this as follows: “The talkativeness of women has been gauged in comparison not with men but with silence. Women have not been judged on the grounds of whether they talk more than men, but of whether they talk more than silent women.” In other words, if women talk at all, this may be perceived as ‘too much’ by men who expect them to provide a silent, decorative background in many social contexts.”

—

PBS: Language as Prejudice - Myth #6: Women Talk Too Much (via misandry-mermaid)

Every EVERY women’s studies class I’ve been in has had this problem and failed to address it. 

(via iamayoungfeminist)

[highlandcattleofsaarela]

[balkanradfem]

Rating of the old wooden closets I've found in the abandoned house!

This is a great closet; it has shelving, it has some hanging space for coats, it's good in size. I can keep my every-day clothing in there and maybe adjust it a bit for the seasons, I love it. 10/10. It doesn't have a functional handle but that's not its fault.

Shelves! This is the shelving space I've been dreaming of. I can keep my linens in here, my extra blankets, my yarn and craft supplies, big sweaters, paintings, there's no end to things that could fit in there. 11/10 I love shelving space so much. I was confused by the hanging stick up there, like what could be so tiny you would hang it above the first shelf? Then I realized it was there so you could, if you liked to, remove the shelves and use it as a hanging closet. I will not be doing that but I like that there's options. Also wish I knew where the bottom shelf was, I want more shelves.

3/10. Only one shelf and too high up. Can be used for winter coats and maybe some shoes. No variety, no fun, this is a one-use closet. Oh and I forgot that I put jesus in there. I threw it in there yelling 'see how you like being in the closet!' and closed the door. I thought I was hilarious.

How fancy am I to have real wooden closets? The old owners were going to throw these away for being 'old furniture', what a crazy thing to do! I've never had 3 closets all to myself. It feels luxurious.

[kitpikz]

From Riverbed to Meadow

[sundayswithroses]

I know that I shouldn’t be this irratated because we k n o w this by now, there’s AI bulshit in my Facebook feed from Star Trek conventions and this photo of Kate Mulgrew she’s got such S TA T U R E when she sits that is so Janeway and baked into her Janeway she is COMMANDING her stance is here and in the moment and she’s got this and she’s got swagger and commanding presence aaaand ai by like tone that shit and be a meek questioning women in your stance

also the AI Avery Brooks went from cool and chilled too… some tough thing he wasn’t doing there either

[through-a-historic-lens]

Two 'friends' in the early 1900s.

[soft-lovely]

people

[anjomecanico]

People are so indoctrinated by patriarchy that mentioning something neutral like "men on average are physically stronger than women" will get you accused of saying women are inferior to men. Like, nobody said that, you are the one who believes physical strength equals worthiness and value as a human being and is projecting it on completely neutral assumptions.

[nemfrog]

Sells mustard. 1965. Source. 

[lesbianp1lled]

No one talks about how much bisexuals pushed gender ideology and pushed conversion therapy beliefs on us.

It wasn’t lesbians. It wasn’t gay men. It was bisexuals. Let me explain.

Bisexuals have nothing to lose when it comes to TRAism. Sure, sometimes trans identified people will say to them they should be attracted to trans identified people or else they’re bigots but homosexuals are, and will always be the main targets of trans individuals to hate on. Why is this? Because they think a lesbian or gay man being attracted to them will be the highest level of validation even though no lesbian will be attracted to a male and no gay man will be attracted to a female, it’s a sick fantasy they have.

Bisexuals don’t see the issue with trans identified people hating on us for our sexuality because they simply can’t relate. For them, genitals and sex doesn’t matter so surely it shouldn’t for homosexuals either. They can’t fathom that for homosexuals, biological sex matters, because they don’t understand from their perspective.

Therefore, most bisexuals don’t stand up for homosexuals. They call us bigots for not being attracted to the opposite sex. They validate trans identified individuals because they don’t see anything wrong with the way they act towards us.

[vintage-bentley]

Not only do they have nothing to lose (unless they’re women…but many women support misogynistic causes), but they have so much to gain. Gender ideology positions bisexuality as the one moral sexuality. So many bi people are so excited to get to wax poetic about how superior they are to everyone else for “not seeing gender” or for “not caring about genitals”, or how they care about “hearts not parts”. Unlike those horrible gays who only care about genitals and don’t even care about personality.

It also gives them an opportunity to punch down at homosexuals. Again, they’re viewed as the one moral sexuality, so now they get to take on an Educator role and lecture homosexuals about how horrible and transphobic we are, and how we should open our minds, hearts, and beds to the opposite sex. And they are so smug about this.

As far as the whole “but bi people are also told they’re transphobic if they don’t date trans people” argument goes…I’m sorry but it isn’t the same. When bi people are told this, they aren’t facing demands to change their natural sexuality. In their case, not wanting to date trans identified people really is a preference. One that should absolutely be respected, of course, but still a preference. In the case of homosexuals, it’s our biology. Lesbians cannot be attracted to males no matter how they identify, and gay men cannot be attracted to females no matter how they identify. When we’re told that not wanting to date the opposite sex is transphobic and that we should change, we’re facing homophobic conversion rhetoric.

[majchic]

its actualy men who are behind this. We need to familiarise with the history off this movement before we point fingers at others.

[vintage-bentley]

Of course men are behind it. We all know that. But when it comes to the way this movement treats lesbians, bi women absolutely fuelled the fire and gave these men “proof” to their claims.

Bi women who talk about how their husband came out as trans which made them discover they’re a lesbian. Who talk about how they’re a lesbian who loves dick. Who make videos and write articles targeting lesbians with conversion rhetoric. Who respond to these men with “omg I’m a lesbian and I think you’re so hot”. And so on. Men can then point to them as proof to their claims that lesbians can be attracted to males. Lesbians get bombarded with these women and begin to feel guilty about how we aren’t as good and moral and righteous as them. My experience at least was that these women harmed me just as much as the men they support did…because I thought they were living proof that there really was something wrong with me, that I really was just a horrible bigot for not being able to be attracted to men like them. Why could they be attracted to men, but I couldn’t? The rhetoric pushed by men was harmful enough, but having bi women eagerly proving that rhetoric “right” only dug the knife in deeper. I wouldn’t be surprised if gay men have had this same experience with bi men pushing conversion rhetoric on them in the name of “trans rights”.

So yes, men are absolutely behind this. They’re the root cause. We know. But that doesn’t mean we can’t look at who stood beside them and not only helped them spread their homophobic rhetoric, but also acted as “proof” that it was true.

Also, if we’re talking about trans homophobia in general, as in not just the kind that targets lesbians but also the kind that targets gay men…that was started by straight and bi women who wanted to identify as and fuck gay men. So we can’t really say that women are entirely blameless.

[sundayswithroses]

alright I’ve been hanging around this post for a while. so. Here we go. 100% there is a lot of homophobia just spread around by bi women and probably men but there’s less bi men going about their ssa in any way (either by claiming to be gay or actually doing anything with a man.)

There’s kind of two categories of bi women. Going to say this even though there’s more complexity for sure, but. Category a bi women who don’t benefit in the least from tra stuff, ie me, some other bi women. I took a woman that I was seriously dating back to meet my parents - the old school who need the “okay to gay” of activism to completely see me as NORMAL and ACCEPT ssa as NORMAL, GOOD and NOT COUNTER-CULTURE not anything purer, or healthier, the future that I’ll just push because they’re also bi eventually underneath etc, I just want to be normal and boring with my basic girlfriend who is also normal, lala. But b bi’s are far more common.

category b bi’s, they get to frame their sexuality as more ethical. The rollback on ssa attraction acceptance doesn’t affect them because their ssa experience sort of if they would even or just labels to be cool is just their spicy, sexy side quest. I want to hate them even more than I already because it’s just…normal. I have a normal sexuality. I also struggle with not liking men more because it will exclude.. the people who helped me most were my bi male friend. With a heavy ssa preference to the point where he doesn’t go with women at all. There’s also my friend who told me about her bi cousin who is so ssa will also sleep time to time with women, but will only date men. I think that they’re men and came to this conclusion was a factor, you know, I still think that I’m somehow doing men wrong but not at all wanting them like the way I see women… there definitely is the tra side for bi’s are “not allowed to exclude and exist to serve/validate” because I had worked through this five years ago!!! But the stuff bleed in and turned around my progress. There’s a lot for them to answer for but… it’s mostly lesbians who get this. I can’t stand how the lesbians get treated. Young lesbians need to know that other women are like them, but they don’t have the words because the others that throw labels around. I genuinely think that more bi will come from a homophobia place than the ones who will defend homosexuality. I had a homophobic as hell worded post on my Facebook feed, it came from a bisexuality page, then I wrote a long refute to their disgusting statement… no one liked it. No one defended lesbians. The post had so much homophobia on it. I still won’t and can’t get over this. It has entitled behaviour too - oh the lesbians don’t want to date you? I don’t blame them! But they’re entitled to lesbians for validation, so they think. I’d completely understand, in a homophobia free world, a lesbian only wanting to date other lesbians due to shared experience. To want to date the same as you isn’t a crime. I hate them so much.

Back in the day, 10+ years when the majority of radblr as it is now currently definitely wasn’t in any gender fight - Get the L Out in the UK wasn’t allying with men at all. They did ally with women sometimes, mostly bi ones. There weren’t any gay men in this defending the lesbians from the trans UNTIL they began to get targeted too. They soon realised that it was worse for lesbians than gay men, many of them, they concentrated on the lesbian side of gay conversion coming from tras there are many great ones, speaking from a not gay (bi) perspective I am fully grateful for their words, for their stance and giving energy to lesbians. BUT. If you went into gender post 2017 there were men around supporting lesbians - their boundaries, the voices and definitely lifting them up. But for years really, truely, dead silence from them. Bi and straight trans-identifying women wouldn’t have been able to do the damage that they did if gay men didn’t stand by and watch the trans begin and finish their lesbian takedown over absolutely years. There were crickets and no pressure or intrusive to gay men’s spaces in a constructive way that did any damage on a scale there was nothing. There wouldn’t have been a successful template for the boundary breaking of gay men. The takedown of everything lesbian so so fully successful that the intrusion to gay men ascended after. There was no gay men having any major voice to defend the lesbians. There were lesbian and bi women though. Also a gay tv show completely added to the homophobia by having a “lesbian” couple sleep with a man… but there gay male actual male characters everywhere ugh it’s also been around for some gay men that the lesbian hate is long running

This isn’t a complete response to this part on the thread basically I’m just finding the first version of this post that I saw there’s the Magdelan Burns part on another thread but just a mostly completely rehashed version of too many thoughts that I had seeing different areas of threads on this post in days past. Very emotional on this post sorry 😭 and just yes bi’s seriously do some of them be seriously homophobic as hell

[femanthropy]

just watched an episode on a serial rapist where a 18 year old girl was told by a policeman he’d put her in jail himself if she was lying, so she quickly changed her story & was fined $500. Years later a serial rapists computer was found where he documented all of these eapes & a photograph of her in the circumstance of her story was right there. “False reports” well I wonder how many “false reports” are true. & men are more likely to be raped than falsely accused also.

[tomboydweeb]

I've been saying. "False reports" are true reports that were recanted due to threats.

[femanthropy]

Yep!!! & I honestly hadn’t thought of that.

[niiwa-angel]

Police officers are also often abusers themselves, so what they consider "assault" against a woman is incredibly skewed.

[kinvadel]

For more information about this issue, check out Victim/Suspect (trailer) a Netflix documentary that follows the investigation by journalist Rachel de Leon on the disturbing pattern of young women going to the police to report they've been sexually assaulted, only to find themselves charged with the crime of making a false report.

End Violence Against Women International (EVAWI) has an informative publication on this issue called "Raped, Then Jailed: The Risks of Prosecution for Falsely Reporting Sexual Assault", which includes the case example of the 18-year old OP is referencing:

Sexual assault (SA) crimes are difficult to investigate and substantiate, and the police are pressured to "close cases", the easiest method for SA reports is to get the victim to recant her statement, thereby providing evidence for them to charge her with a false report which is a 100% slam dunk way of closing a brand new case.

[pikafem]

This is so wildly homophobic I don’t even know where to begin. I feel so disheartened.

[old-school-butch]

Why are these people in the same community as gays and lesbians? This ideology is fundamentally hostile to our existence.

[transphobia-is]

transphobia is homosexuality. Example 5

[femclasscirce]

Isn’t this the TIM who started the barbie classism discourse

[friendlymathematician]

and they’re always using those little euphemisms to appear reasonable to people who don’t know much about trans ideology. it’s not “unfamiliarity of the body type”. it’s (depending on the person) somewhere on a scale from “complete lack of attraction to members of that sex” and “actively repulsed by members of that sex”. but it sounds more palatable to the general public to speak of “overcoming an unfamiliarity” than to outright state “overcoming a lack of attraction”.

[mohnblumesworld]

[sundayswithroses]

also remember in the halfway point of s10 when they made twelve blind, then you thought, it’s well known that he’s leaving in half series wouldn’t be great!! Because the show became stake filled fresh in a way that it hadn’t for half a decade or more to go till regeneration that would have been so good, they had the show so that he couldn’t run off to somewhere to fix whatever he had because he was sneaking out… haven’t been so good since they fixed that

[sundayswithroses]

The only good thing about these random Doctor Who rankings in tiers that come on my Facebook feed is that often they dunk on Tennant and put him halfway down the field we love to see it

[femmefascist]

[the-rad-menace]