[wingkink]

btw it's so fucking stupid you can be anxious physically in your body even after you've decided mentally you don't care. I'm supposed to be in charge here

[manuciruja]

awww the like button turns into a rainbow when you press it! that's so cute...hey staff what's with all the trans women you keep nuking?

[manuciruja]

i think we should be ridiculing them more for this. you don't get to try and go all "queer website" when your staff likes to go on nuking sprees targeting the trans fem users

[smadsel]

would be remiss not to mention that the rainbow notably straight up just removed the trans flag colors from it. like they’re gone. it’s the progress flag minus the trans flag colors.

[smadsel]

that’s not the whole flag, now is it

[manuciruja]

hey staff what the fuck

[villainessbian]

hey staff don't you think you're being too on-the-nose

[shrodingers-catgirl]

HEY STAFF DONT YOU THINK YOU'RE BEING TOO ON-THE-NOSE

[icarus-suraki]

[mariasklodowskastwixbar]

When trump dies we're gonna have to have a long discussion on elder abuse in the government in America

The man is clearly unwell and incapable of being the president and at this point he should 100% be removed from office to retire and the people who aren't willing to do that are responsible for his sharp mental and physical decline

And when he dies i will be dancing in the street don't get me wrong but like good lord he shouldn't have been there in the first place

[prismatic-bell]

THIS.

There's very little question that he's there because it'll line pockets. And yes, he is one of the most horrible men alive, but I can't think of anything more dehumanizing than treating someone like nothing more than a lunch box.

[copperbadge]

On Saturday I said to my partner, as I have said for months, "A ten thousand dollar a year raise would solve so many of my problems."

As of this morning I was reluctantly looking for jobs because I love my job and don't want to leave it, but see: $10k raise problem solver.

As of noon today this was no longer an issue, because my boss called me with the news that I was getting a $10K merit raise.

I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. This is roughly $200 extra per paycheck. Enough to pay off debt faster, rebuild my savings, and spend a weekend a month in Milwaukee getting obscenely laid. The sex I'm going to have on $200 extra per paycheck. You can't even.

May all of you get the $10K raise your soul has yearned for. And whatever level of sex you can be satisfied with for $200.

[vergess]

hey bestie i think ur post might be charmed 'cause you aren't gonna fuckin believe what happened today

[shaymindreamy]

Happy Neil banging out the tunes 20th anniversary

[sunny-possum-pal]

Happy 20 years Neil

[erinchavi]

halfway through the day i realized why april 13th sounded familiar i gasped NEIL BANGING OUT THE TUNES but only one of my coworkers knew what i was talking about 💔💔💔 whatever they passed me tape so i could hang this when i was done

[allthecanadianpolitics]

Manitoba Premier Wab Kinew calls out ‘the Epstein class’ over the war on Iran.

Source: CanadaHOC (TikTok)

[riseagainphoenix]

"When I say the Epstein class should fight the Epstein war, I'm attacking Donald Trump I'm attacking Jeff Bezos, I'm attacking Mark Zuckerberg, I'm attacking Jeffrey Epstein, I'm attacking Sam Altman, I'm attacking all of these folks who have articulated progressive views and yet bow down in the face of extraordinarily damaging politics today. And you tell me: why is the greatest military in the world at war without a reason that they can explain, without an exit strategy, and asking their allies--who they've been insulting for the past year--for help getting them out of danger? Because they went to war to distract from a domestic political problem. This is all facts. Everybody out there knows that this is true. Every single person who sees this on social or video knows that this is true, and yet for whatever reason we can't talk about it in the public sphere. Like, I guarantee you won't report this. All the major mainstream outlets won't report this comment. Why is that? Something is true, everybody knows it, everybody's paying 70 cents more per litre for gasoline because of this nonsense in America, and yet none of us are allowed to talk about it in the public sphere."

[radiqueer]

Human relationships are not transactional but they are reciprocal, which I think many of you with your ‘i don’t owe anyone anything’ shtick are too happy to forget

[aromanticduck]

Transactional: everything has to be exactly 50/50 all the time, pay me back for the £5 sandwich or buy me something worth exactly £5, I refuse to make an effort for you if there’s nothing in it for me

Reciprocal: you were there for me when I needed help, and I’m going to do the same for you, it doesn’t matter if one of us needs more or is capable of less, because the point is not equivalent exchange but mutual care

[stillhere-erehllits]

This a a reminder to not fall victim to the sunk-cost fallacy. Just because you invested time and energy into something, does not mean you should indefinitely waste more time and energy on it, if you decide it’s not what you want anymore. This goes for anything, from books, to relationships, to jobs, to hobbies, etc.

If it’s not serving you anymore, move on.

[finnglas]

This is honestly one of the places I find Marie Kondo's advice most helpful. I stop, look at the thing I've spent time and money on only to realize I dislike, and I say, "Thank you for teaching me something about myself and my preferences. I think I've learned this particular lesson and we can part ways now."

And then I don't feel like I "wasted" things or made a mistake. I just tried one path of learning about myself, learned something, and now it's time for a different path. Works a lot better for my brain.

[ekjohnston]

The time Marie Kondo said "you can thank a a shirt you've never worn for teaching you about your taste", thereby making it NOT A WASTE literally rewired my whole brain. Acknowledge the thing and move forward, even if that means leaving the thing behind.

[4rk-in-the-road]

I think the reason a lot of leftists struggle with disability justice is that they haven't moved past the concept that discrimination isn't bad because it's objectively "wrong." yes, sexists are objectively wrong when they try to claim women are dumber than men. yes, antisemites are objectively wrong that jewish people are inherently greedy and run the state. yes, racists are wrong when they try to claim that white people are the superior race. and so on.

but then with disabled people, there are a lot of objective truths to the discrimination we face. people with IDs/LDs do fall behind and struggle with certain concepts. physically disabled people are often weaker and less capable of performing demanding tasks than able bodied people. many of us with mental illnesses are more reckless and less responsible. a lot of us are dependent on others and do not contribute much "worth".

and guess what? disabled people still deserve a place in the world. disabled people still deserve the supports they need. because they are people, and that should be enough to support them and believe they deserve a place at the table.

if your only rebuttal against discrimination is its objective inaccuracies, you are meeting bigots where they are at. you are validating the very concept that if and when people are truly incapable of being equal to the majority, that means they are worth less. this causes some leftists to then try to deny the objective realities of disabled people and/or become ableist themselves.

your rallying behind marginalized groups should start and end with the fact that people are completely worthy of life and equity, because they are fellow human beings and that should, frankly, be enough.

[milf--adjacent]

Long covid has disabled hundreds of millions of people across the world. Groups like Act Up NY have signaled the seriousness of this condition that is triggred by even mild and asymptomatic covid infections. People with long covid are dying slowly and painfully as there is no treatment after 6 years of pandemic spread and their condtions get worse with subsequent infections. Everyone is at risk. Trans people are the group most affected by this condition. But y'all don't care enough to protect them. Y'all think wearing a respirator in public is a mark of fear or stupidity or some virtue signaling. My mask keeps me safe. My mask keeps you safer. My mask keeps my trans friends dying of a wasting disease society would rather ignore from dying or getting worse, because I don't and won't spread illness to them. I mask because it matters. I mask because I care. Refusing to care is killing trans people.

And people say we're making shit up when we compare the long covid crisis to the AIDS crisis.

[gahdamnpunk]

A QUEEN

[bathroom-stall-musings]

Okay, I don’t normally add on to posts but in this case I’ve got to.

Rachel Ann Bovier is a Pittsburgh legend who has been publishing her poems in city newspapers for decades. In more recent years, she started putting up these bill boards along major roads. For what reason? I have no clue. But I would often pass them on my way to Oakland for therapy. They never failed to cheer me up.

As a young trans writer, they gave me this precious little spark of joy. There was someone like me, a writer, a Pittsburgher, a trans person, who was confident enough to put their face on a bill board! I would always smile as we passed by and my mom took note.

Fast forward a few years and it’s my 21st birthday. My mom has been super excited about my gift and teased me about it over and over again. She said it was the best gift she’d ever gotten me and in many ways she was right. It was a custom poem she commissioned from Miss Bouvier! It congratulated me on my birthday, my academic success, lots of little stuff. It was simple and sweet and perfect.

I’m still not out to my parents about being trans, but that poem serves as a reminder to me that trans people are every where, they are artists, they are all ages, and their visibility is essential. So thank you to Rachel Ann Bouvier for being a great poetess and a Pittsburgh treasure!

[boomer-mythology-destroyer]

[fandomsandfeminism]

What Happens When A Country Bans Spanking?

Researchers look at countries that have prohibited corporal punishment for kids and their rate of youth violence.

Now a new study looking at 400,000 youths from 88 countries around the world suggests such bans are making a difference in reducing youth violence. It marks the first systematic assessment of whether an association exists between a ban on corporal punishment and the frequency in which adolescents get into fights. 

[puolikarhu]

[F]or both boys and girls, [prof. Elizabeth Gershoff] said, “We found [spanking] linked to more aggression, more delinquent behavior, more mental health problems, worse relationships with parents, and putting the children at higher risk for physical abuse from their parents.”

“People often ask: Why didn’t you look for positive aspects?” she continued. “My answer is: We did, and there were none. We see consistently that the more children are spanked, the more behavioral problems they have in the years ahead.”

[quasi-normalcy]

Once again worth emphasizing that this is pretty much the exact opposite of what authoritarians said would happen

[moniquill]

This is an important study in the same way that many ‘water is wet’ studies are; it provides hard data that can be referred back to.

But yeah, startlingly enough if you don’t use violence to control children, they’re less likely to try to use violence to control others.

[edgebug]

The lesbian blanket is DONE

[edgebug]

when Joann was dying a horrible death my friend @theshatteredarchivist and i would go out every friday and visit all the stores in the area to scope out their clearance stuff

i got like a zillion skeins of this stuff

"But kip how did you do color work with variegated yarn?" I spent hours unvariegating it and tying tiny knots. Do not be like me

anyway i used the Lotus 2 pattern from Veronika Liachovic, vcrochetpatterns on etsy! and it turned out so good and im so happy with it