being forgiven by your victims and absolved from the harm you cause others is not a requirement for change of conduct and attempts at material restitution. i find it fruitless and frankly infuriating that “redemption” is fixated on as the former
just because you are not entitled to people’s forgiveness or “absolution” doesn’t mean that it is meaningless to change. that should be your own battle
you may get it, but you don’t need to get it. again, forgiven by who? absolved by who? there is not gonna be some universal supreme judgement that you will receive that can close this all up nicely and neatly for you, i’m sorry. someone you have harmed may give it to you, someone else might not. you will remain with yourself all the same
