#actuallylgbt

[lucifer-just-needs-a-hug]

I am genderfluid bisexual and polyam so Yes that does in fact mean that Every song is about Me

[euphorias-journey]

In response to the recent news I have learned that the demi flag that currently exists draws its origins from N*zi imagery, @estheefania and I have designed new demisexual and demiromantic flags!

The colors all mean the same things, but these flags are intended to be more safe for Jewish people and other groups that would feel prosecuted and attacked identifying with a flag that uses imagery from the N*zis.

Read the blog DNI and don’t start discourse on this post. PLEASE REBLOG to spread awareness!!

[isogender]

Isogender in a post!

So hi, I’m Jaq, and I’m isogender! Here are a few questions (and answers!) that people might have when they hear about the term!

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1. What exactly IS isogender?

Isogender is a term that basically means someone who isn’t cisgender or transgender, or doesnt identify with either label!

2. Why would you identify as this? Why not just say trans/cis?

There are many reasons why someone would identify as isogender!

For me, I definitely don’t identify as my birth gender, so “cisgender” is off the table, but I don’t feel like “transgender” sticks with me! 

More examples would be:

A genderless, agender, etc person who doesn’t define themselves as transgender because they aren’t transitioning to a gender, they just don’t have one

A neo/xenogender person whose gender is too complex to be described as “cis” or “trans”

A person who simply doesnt identify with the term cisgender or transgender!

There are infinite more examples, however, and not fitting into any of these doesn’t make you any less valid as an iso person!

3. Is this some new stupid MOGAI gender?

Nope! This is not a gender, but an identifier (similar to how “transgender” is not a gender)

Also, I am personally 100% in support of the MOGAI/neo/xenogender community unless the identities are genuinely harmful!

4. Are there any criteria for being isogender?

There are not any criteria other than not identifying with the cisgender or transgender labels! However, nothing is stopping you from identifying as cisgender and isogender, transgender and isogender, or all three! It’s your label, and you can screw with it.

5. Is this for nondysphorics?

Not exclusively! You can be dysphoric and identify as isogender!

I am a semidysphoric transmasculine isogender enby, someone else could be a heavily dysphoric iso woman, someone could be a nondysphoric genderless isogender person, and many more possibilities!!

6. This label is unnecessary/stupid

For one, all labels are unnecessary and stupid, but a lot of people still use them

For two, it actually is a pretty useful label honestly! If someone finds it useful, then why does that bother you?

7. Is this internalized transphobia?

Sure isn’t! Some people genuinely just think the term trans doesn’t fit them! 

Some isogender people *might* have internalized transphobia, but in general, no, it’s not a term for such.

8. Is there a flag for this? What is it?

There are actually two versions, here they both are :)

I may update this post later if things come to mind, but for now, I hope this was useful!

[mothmonologue]

Don't be suspicious

Don't be suspicious

Don't be suspicious

Don't be suspicious

DONT BE SUSPICIOUS

DONT BE SUSPICIOUS

DoNT bE SuSpiCiOUs

[thesleepykuma]

I saw the post about whether pride should be family friendly on my dash for the millionth time and I fee like it’s common sense that if your pride event is in broad daylight where any child could come across you by virtue of living in the area and choosing to go for a walk that day, you should conduct your activities with this in mind. Yes, sexual expression is a part of pride. Yes, parents need to decide what conversations they’re willing to have with their children when they take them to such an event. Yes, all-ages pride events should allow degrees of freedom that explicitly child-friendly queer events don’t. But the line is crossed when you leave the space of things that children can’t do and into the space of things it isn’t healthy for them to see. Wearing unconventional clothing is fine. Being literally naked is not. Expressing affection for your partner is fine. Performing blatant sex acts in public is not (the rule is if you’re getting off on it, it’s a sex act, and be damn honest about which actions qualify). Drinking at the 21+ tent is fine. Being so intoxicated you endanger those around you is not. There’s a time and a place for all of these activities but if a small child could see what you’re doing by virtue of living near the parade route you owe it to them to not do things that would be detrimental to them down the road.

It’s not “being Puritanical” or “respectability politics” to expect you to take five seconds to think about your surroundings

(Just want to note that I’ve never seen anyone cross important lines at any pride event I’ve ever been to, but that post because a whole hullabaloo and I saw people justify some things that seemed quite unreasonable to expect to have other people be fine with you doing in public and I was like ??????????? public decency expectations apply to us too?????)

[foxie-roxie]

i know i probably shouldn’t be asking tumblr for this but can someone give me coming out advice?

im in the closet for being nb and want to come out but idk the best way to do so. my fam is supportive bc i have a trans brother and my mom has a non-binary friend she refers to with they/them

i just hate confrontation and am scared

[famicom]

all gays know is be shirtless in -40 degree weather in alaska, disguise self as someone twice their age, inherit only recessive genes, repeatedly capture man they're trying to kill without ever killing him, strip man shirtless to fistfight on top of a nuke launching robot about to explode, use deadly airborne biological weapon designed to kill only one person on identical clone, survive being shot and blown up but die from heart attack, eat hot chip & lie

[actingnt]

MOGAI literally just means Marginalized Orientations, Gender Alignments, and Intersex. That's what it stands for.

No, it's not just another word for nonbinary, and it doesn't automatically mean microlabels.

If you've been marginalized because of your orientation, or because your actual gender doesn't line up with your official birth assignment, or you're intersex, then you're MOGAI.

It's a superior alternative to LGBTQIAP2SN*+&etc that just includes everyone from the get-go instead of centering a few popular labels and becoming endlessly more cumbersome while making the margins of the margins have to fight for their inclusion.

It's an alternative to using queer as an umbrella term that doesn't assume anyone is cool enough to be called queer.

Literally the only thing wrong with MOGAI is that not as many people know what it means. But that's one of the easiest problems to fix.