#alloplatonic

[aro-ace-culture-is]

Finally finding friends you can say "i love you" to, and not having to do the "platonically" overexplanation thing. Not only that, they say it back :)

I love my friends. I hope all the alloplatonic aroaces get to have friends like mine too :)

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[normystical]

REASONS TO SHIP

TERRIBLE REASON: "friends don't look at each other that way!"

WHY: yes they do. if you're not a fucking coward about it. my platonic love is infinite you little gunkwads

TERRIBLE REASON: "it would be so hot if they banged!"

WHY: friends can Also fuck each other and still be friends. make them friends with benefits instead dammit

EXCELLENT REASON: "if they kiss each other romanticstyle it make me happy i love my touys yey"

WHY: ehehe :)) yippyyyy :) yaaay!!!

[shiutsu]

Online friend 💌💫

👑 When you can express platonic attraction through online services only; flag for online friends.

Platonic version of Online lover , source is in the link.

I couldn't find any non-romantic alternatives, so I made one myself.

Not sure where this could belong on the spectrum, or if it's just a relationship flag.

[blkaroculture]

I think the biggest thing I struggle with as a Black aromantic is feeling like I’m not taken seriously as a human person.

People see aromanticism as dead. Remember when JK Rowling said those things about asexuals on Twitter? People had said “Aro/ace people don’t even do anything, why is she so mad?”

People have attributed romance as what creates art, as what creates life and what creates this colorful world. The minute it’s gone, everything is dull. That’s why any semblance of nonromanticism (the concept of doing and engaging in nonromantic actions) is mocked or even simply replaced with something that isn’t “static” to them. The label “black” historically has be used as a marker of death and inhumanity mentally. They treated my ancestors as such when they sold Black couples off whenever they needed to, separating families and lovers. Black love has kinda been used as a way for the Black community to show that they actually are active, lively people. That they actually can be considered human and alive. So when I tell people that I’m aromantic I feel as if I’m only re-sealing my status as a “dead” individual. I don’t feel as if my nonromanticism is acknowledged or appreciated. I once told someone close to me, a fevorant ally, about why I would marry a woman queerplatonically and she had said “why not just be roommates? Marriage is for romance.” She had also mentioned later on when she was talking to her boyfriend she had mentioned me, said that “They said they were aroace and maybe lesbian? I’m not sure but I support!” and like I said she isn’t against me doing anything queer but the mindset is what stuck with me. I’m not seen as a proper lesbian because my love for women is nonromantic. I can only call myself lesbian-adjacent, the full lesbian label is only allotted to those who’s love is romantic or, in many cases, both romantic AND sexual. It’s sad, really, because nonromanticism to me is FULL of life. Even when it’s completely devoid of intimate relationships including platonic and queerplatonic. Simply walking by yourself being with the life and nature outside is lively by definition. Simply breathing is lively. It’s not hard for me to understand aplatonic/aqueerplatonic folks because there’s so many ways to be alive even to the simplest thing. They teach me I’m not worthy based on my capacity to love nor if I have someone but I am worthy simply just because. Nothing else. I am human just because. I don’t feel the need to equate my love to romance anymore, and I wish people would do the same. I’m not a concept, I am a human being.

[citnamora]

Born to cherish platonic relationships in fictional media, doomed to watch them become romantic

[rythrogon]

why aren't more people horny about platonic ships??? like yeah yeah god we get it, romantic sex, BIIIG deal, totally mhm yep. like man idgaf. where's the long-term friends with benefits arrangements that never have any feelings involved??? why is it always the couples and never the buddies??? you cannot be calling yourself queer and yet only being horny about the most basic heteronormative shit imaginable, you are all actually so fucking boring and pathetic, GET INTERESTING WITH IT!!!!!!!! AAAA

[venominomenon]

Me: I'm not really repulsed by romance. I handle other peoples PDA very well!

Also me when I recognise that the PDA is a display of romantic affection:

[privateolives]

This is probably because I grew up watching 24/7 animal planet, but what finally made the allo/aplatonic thing click for me were the nature's of big cats.

Lions are powerful, regal creatures who are uniquely adapted to pack life. They need these connections to live a healthy life; A lonely lion is a miserable creature indeed.

Jaguars are solitary, beautiful creatures who live happily solitary. They prowl their lush world with self-sufficient majesty. A jaguar is not lonely without a pack. In fact, forcing jaguars to share space with others they do not enjoy is just as damaging as forcing a lion to live alone.

A lion may choose to head out on it's own for the most part, but in the end must return to the pack to thrive. A jaguar can choose to trust and enjoy the company of others, but they never feel the need to form a pack.

Is a jaguar selfish for this? A psychopath, a narcissist or any other such horrid assumptions? Is it a less moral creature than a lion, who seeks others like it to thrive?

Is a lion pathetic, or needy, or selfish for wanting community? For requiring contact with others like they require water? For their inherent need to string complicated webs of relationships that may seem silly or dramatic to others?

Of course not. These are ridiculous questions to even ask.

They are simply lions and jaguars.

In fact, is a jaguar that chooses to spend time with you not as magical as a lion's love? For a creature that needs no bond to thrive to still enjoy your presence enough to share it a time? Is a lion who can prowl the night alone not impressive in its strength and resilience? Is it not awe-inspiring in its ability to conquer a life it was never wired for and reign still?

Are they not both beautiful and awe-inspiring in their own ways, without being wrong?

Alloplatonics. Aplatonics. Are we not both special and beautiful in both our bonds and self-confident happiness equal, in each our ways? Is there not unique beauty in lifelong bonded packs and magical encounters that need no perpetuity to carry life forward?

Are we not but lions and jaguars? Neither wrong, neither selfish, but just different and beautiful creatures in each our ways?

That's how I've come to see it, anyway.