12H Venus: You Want A Love To Consume You
But your eyes only gives me the sense of reassurance my soul calls for
For starters, I believe having this placement along with a water moon or venus (scorpio, pisces or cancer) especially with the moon or venus aspecting (oppose, square, conjunct) harsh malefics such as Pluto/Neptune maybe even Uranus would create this placement to be more prominent in your romantic life.
Usually, especially with a water moon or (venus) and those planets (especially moon) making aspects would possibly mean that the love your mom or past partnerships gave you was chaotic or heavy, maybe it was all or nothing, a constant back and fourth where if she either showed you love or hate; to the point where the love was there, then it wasn't (scorpio) or you wanted to fix and be their savior because that was the kind of love you had to give to your parents, you mother cried to you about her pain and you had to console and hear all of the hurt she felt, (pisces) or perhaps you had to take over and give/be the caregiver towards your parents. your parents or mother looked at you for answers instead of taking on that parental role (cancer), (the severity depends on the chart) but now because of that chaos you felt, it's only natural to want to feel so much with only looking into the eyes of another. Because of that love you now search for the same deep transformative experiences.
With this placement, you naturally will take on Pisces and Neptune qualities. The love you long for is deep, unworldly, profound even. You want a love to consume you. A love to change you. A love to bring you in a different point of life. A love to be something you never felt before. The kind of love you only can dream about. Something that feels unreal, or untouchable. Something that feels so out of reach yet in your arms. You want to feel their soul and embody a part of them. You want the look in their eyes to bring you a feeling you've ever only fantasized about. You want someone to make you feel different compared to everyone else you've ever came across; and you want a love that is unspoken and spiritual.
You want a transformative soul binding unexplainable connection.
On another note, having this placement could manifest in an ‘elusive’ way. As I mentioned, the love you desire may be eternal and ethereal, but it could also mean falling for people who are unattainable or out of reach. You may find yourself drawn to someone who will inevitably leave, or you fall for someone you know you can’t have. You might feel ‘comfortable’ in that role, accepting the position of the other woman, or being hidden from the person you love. They may withhold their attention from you in public, or you might fall for people who need saving or fixing. Their internal struggles or emotional needs could create barriers for the relationship to grow, which ultimately prevents your own emotional needs from being met. This also can hinder the relationship from reaching stability or commitment. And in some other cases, the partners you choose might be ‘ashamed’ of you or uncomfortable with being open about your relationship. Affairs or deception may become recurring themes (undesirably so), but for you, falling into these situations might feel inevitable or difficult to avoid.
In the basis of it all, you tend to fantasize or picture a reality with your chosen crush or lover. You ultimately choose longing over ever holding and that state, that wishing, longing, or waiting state feels comfortable, it feels familiar. You could find yourself feeling so deeply for someone you may not have a deep connection to. You may sit in your feelings instead of acting on them or choose to avoid and suppress these emotions or desires. Wanting someone you know you can’t have feels safe, and picturing the ideal reality where you have them seems easier and less frighting. You might choose someone who may love you in private, and from past experiences, insecurities and fear, that feels the most ‘safe’ enough to experience.
This type of pattern may or may not come from being afraid of real intimacy, love and connection. Whether it be because of parents or past partnerships as I previously said, the idea of a real tangible love is out of your comfort zone, something you say you yearn for yet possibly deny (depending on other aspects of your chart). Not accepting that you have insecurities or some fear regarding partnerships will manifest this pattern to keep happening.
(There is a reason why you experience the same pattern and fall for the ones that seem to give you everything you don't truly want. The ones you subconsciously choose can't really love you. Possibly deep down, you might be afraid to accept the true depths of what it can mean to have or to hold someone because you know how deep you can really feel)
Venus represents the ideas of pleasure, joy, desire, lust and love, it being hidden in your 12H, the house of the unseen, your subconscious, your dreams, a part of you that you hide away, the part of you that's not shown to anyone else. It's so prevalent and important yet so hard to even comprehend or logically articulate. It's unspoken feelings and desires.
This usually can indicate that the love you search for would be catalysts for change whether you are aware of it or not. And once you find someone to make you feel this unworldly emotion, you might make yourself fall for them over and over again, rethinking and imagining scenarios where your emotions exceed logic and to the point where that person becomes just a dream. In the extreme part of it, the person your imagining is no longer in front of you, but in your head. Suddenly they now showcase as someone that has their real identity or true colors, hidden.
This part of you creates the idea of letting someone go unrealistic. Saying goodbye hardly happens because in your mind, there's always room for redemption. Especially if you find someone who not only fits the 'ideal' but gives you the ethereal emotion you've only dreamt about.
Because of this, it's important to remember to stay grounded, aware and comfortable with the idea of what can occur. You can't change someone, or fix their wounds. Fall for the one that will accept your undying love, not the one who would rather hide you away and not the one where you don't (or can't) even truly have them. Not everyone will want to feel as deeply as we do, and not everyone will understand the depth of emotion that we can offer, but the right person will.
I have a Sagittarius 12H Venus Sextiling my Neptune with a Scorpio Moon aspecting harshly to my Neptune. These are only my experiences, since this is a short thread I can't type every scenario out, but the basis of it all; this placement can indicate that finding a love to be difficult or unreachable. I hear you, I feel you, and once you are aware and accept the patterns or partners you choose, will you then find the soulful connection you fantasize about.
It's out there and you do deserve it.
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