My dislike to hatred of the European binary doesn't extend only to gender...
So apparently another Twitter battle broke out about PoV and which of TWO were the best. And I'm like but there are more than two and the combinations have different effects and they are all awesome. And the person delivering the news agreed with me and said they were tired of it.
Then another Twitter battle broke out on if audiobooks are "really" "reading" which creates another what? fucking binary. You're with them, or you're with us, and no nuance in there or other options and urrgghhhh. I hate you for doing that.
Then people do this shit to sexuality and sexual orientation and then romantic attraction and sexual attraction, and if you cross the line from the imagined binary, welp, you have to be a specific category in that. Nuance, what? What do you mean nuance?
PINK or BLUE Shit, then what is I prefer the breath of color combinations through color theory? *Confused look* What? I'm not allowed to worship color theory more?
People justify these binary choices usually with conflict theory, but when I slap down the Jewish tradition of asking exploratory questions to add nuance and examine if the question is legitimate... That's SUPER rude. Or people have told me. (Screaming in the corner). You aren't supposed to examine the question in Christianity. Look, you took from Judaism, but 100% missed this part of it. Yes, you ask questions about the question and the lines of evidence. Anyone who has been in a Jewish debate session knows this. It makes it super pedantic at times, yes. It's literally baked into a seder. But in doing this, it means you demand evidence. Exploratory questions aren't the same as the Greek rhetorical questions that Christians seem to love. But you see, this brings me to the next bit in the binary:
Asking questions is evil.
The answers come back usually this way:
It makes you vulnerable to attack.
You mean it makes you appear like a white female. (Since you hate the question form).
White women tend to use according to a study on an Italian American family, higher percentage of adverbs, adjectives, superlatives and placating questions.
Waiiiiittt... Isn't that what Writing manuals tell you not to use. There you go.
It also hates on Jews and other groups that use questions in another way... but then that's nuance. And nuance in this binary system is evil.
I love nuance, though. Trained as a Jew, and also as a Korean where the rhetoric is done differently, there isn't as much binary thinking in either.
I've spoken to people who didn't take their opinions 100% from TV, and when I ask questions, I try to find points that the television hasn't spoonfed them, to find nuance.
Is the basis of the question even valid? You're not supposed to ask that. Is the basis of the question, racist, sexist, ableist, etc, and maybe you should phrase it differently? Not supposed to ask that. Can I insert nuance and variety and greys into this question? No.
And you can start to see the flaws of binary thinking. Also why I tend to dislike it.
Also, have to point out, asking a question does not make you "weak" there are a ton of types and reasons for questions. Your thou shalt nots doesn't even invite seeing the glory of the world around us and your binaries mean even larger exclusions than what culture and experience offer.
"There are only two PoVs"
First person or third person. And if you use omniscient, WTF is wrong with you? What? Because a third option isn't supposed to exist and there aren't valid reasons to want to switch in a literary sense because the next binary is Literary fiction or Genre fiction and how dare you want to mix those. (Basically from what I can find of the early genre subscribers, white straight abled men v. everyone else).
Reading Writing manuals of this type stress me out. Why do we need a binary anyway in European texts. Can't greys and all of the colors inbetween ALSO be beautiful. But always texts try to slow it down as a competition or a conflict and I would think you all would be tired of the depression and anxiety that brings.
It's whites v. Blacks. Woah, Asians and Latines exists? How dare you. We have to take this one by one even if there is clear overlap. <-clearly sarcasm. And then Indigenous people... What are you saying here? Anyone else... we should forget they exist. ==;; You can only choose one. at. a. time. (though we are oppressing you in similar ways).
So I'm saying let go of the binary in everything, not only in gender. I've met people who were never Christian and atheist all their lives who 100% still bought binary thinking, but to me, that's an invitation to poke and prod and ask the more "invasive" question about if the binary thinking is valid in the first place.
TT Some NBs have let it go in gender, but religiously follow it elsewhere. But maybe do as the Jews do and first ask if the question creating a binary is valid first? Maybe I'm asking too much of the algorithm because it's constantly confused when I try to point it towards nuance.
BTW, Nuance to the audiobook question is (Excuse my Jewishness with exploratory questions):
What disabilities does the audiobook help or hinder?
Certain forms of ADHD. Visual impairment (obviously) and certain learning disabilities as well.
But it might hinder those who are deaf, have certain types of language processing disorders, or might be fixated on their imagination over the audio.
Sometimes when I write a book, I have very specific voices attached and will leave it in the text. (SPD, has that side effect FOR ME, not everyone. I tend to be fixated more on sound, etc). So if it's incongruous to the voice in my head, or said wrong I'll sometimes be editing the audiobook.
Do certain audiobooks sound better read than others because of a strong oral tradition in the community that the author grew up in? (Kwik Kwak, BTW, is an oral form, so the stories are always designed to be read out loud. Griot, Seanchaí (Irish storytellers), etc all have an oral form to them. Some South Pacific traditions also are designed to be told out loud and once you do, it flows magically. So demanding it only be in print might miss out on them.
Do you want to get rid of audiobooks altogether and this is why you're asking this inane question?
'cause to the visually impaired community, it sounds like a threat. And why are you even asking this question. Why can't you let it effing go already?
What if you are doing both at the same time?
Some people DO read and LISTEN to the audiobook at the same time. They might have a disability that makes it so. I know some people with ADHD that do both to help them concentrate and consume it more efficiently.
Your brain just broke. Good. !@#$
You care that deeply about how people consume books and want to invalidate the way they consume media because, frankly, invalidating entire populations, traditions of people, does exactly what for you, morally? What power trip do you exactly get by declaring this question in the first place? This is what a Jew would ask you. Because is it really that much of a difference that you need to spend hours on this making other people feel bad and bringing it up over and over again without any level of the nuance it deserves to create conflict and us v. them? Does that truly create any sense of community, cooperation, or is your entire existence as you see it is to create division and conflict? (I believe even the New Testament is against that, but sure, ignore that. I actually sat and read it. lol My favorites whom I wish there were sects for are Matthew and Luke [Granted both Jewish, which I found out after the fact, so I might be Jewish biased by accident]. But apparently writers/Christians like Paul, Peter and John more?).
And thus I really dislike binaries. They tend to create more us v. them and division and less cooperation and thought about the impact one creates in the world and how to cooperate. And truly from what I've read of the Bible, Torah, and some of the Qu'ran and a lot of other religious books as well, they spend like 80% at least trying to get people to cooperate and floating theories on how to do so. So why not let go of the binary?