#bpd partner

[nudelakesideflorist]

about ppl with BPD, perceived by someone with ASPD

[wordsandmorewords]

You, me, never and always

I will always be haunted

by you

always followed by the smells of the rooms we occupied, the brightness of the ceiling lights in your clean kitchen contrasting with the early dark of evening

on that day we don't need to name

remembering never and always 

I will always be chasing

you

the one I conjured in my virgin mind, with the flowers in your hair, dripping from a dip in the sea after turning pages in our books on the shore 

I will always be accepting 

the battle between the two 

never and always

[shameful-sinful-sensual-sex]

I hope you'll be hung in the streets you fucking piece of shit

I mean shit they might do it because I’m black, but some cringey mentally ill freak from tumblr is as good an excuse as any to lynch someone. Keep in mind I told you guys to stop doing stuff like this and blaming it on your disorder. Ohhh ohh ohhhh and I called you stupid, tone deaf, and ignorant for perpetuating abuse, harassing abuse victims, and spreading misinformation about mental illness and abuse just to get away with the abuse you obviously dole out.

And you are in fact a freak because no disorder is making you constantly send this shit. You’re doing it because you’re empty and insecure. Most of us are and don’t do this stuff. I don’t respect cowards either. You said this on anonymous. Say it to the parents who traumatized you. Say it to the kids who bullied you. Say it to whoever fucked you up. And say that shit with your chest.

Otherwise, keep doing this until it makes you feel better, or bored. And you’ll add to the reasons you already feel shitty. I’m not suicidal and I’d never kill myself, I’m too petty and spiteful. That means you won’t feel bad about those messages if I just “disappeared”, but you will look back and cringe that you let some objective truths about personality disorders get to you this bad. You let a stranger who doesn’t know or care about you see how desperate you are to feel something interesting.

That’s almost worse than if I were to “kill myself” or get “hung” because I’m gonna let you know right now, you guys are far more inclined to do it than I ever would’ve. And I can tell you actually have a few people who might piss on your grave. Multiple people who can easily forget you. And I don’t lose sleep over corny losers who hide and throw rocks, randomly dying or hurting themselves. People accepted that I’m an imperfect person and they still respect me. Do they respect you, or do you need to send another vulgar message to mask?

[4n4ismyen3my]

Trying not to let my feelings get hurt because I know it’s not her fault and I know she doesn’t wanna hurt me but as someone who hates making people upset and hurting others I feel like the worst person alive

[shehasbpd]

we're (she's) back to considering whether this is a real relationship, because she's not a 'relationship person' and needs to be single. we'd gone almost 2 months without her saying anything like this out loud.

friends and lovers.

but that was at 5 PM.

and the evening got better, to the point where, while I'm confused about what we are, I'm allowing for the possibility that we're still okay as committed partners.

everything changes by the hour. and that was on the eve of me leaving town (long-distance relationship), so maybe it's just the push-away-so-I-don't-get-hurt voice in her head. either way, I'm feeling wounded and a little angry (this is one of her 'voices' that frustrates me to no end).

[coderealizeheadcanons]

Sorry if it's a trigger, but could you write the guys dating a BPD person ? This disorder affects my life so much urgh ;;

Mod S here! I myself don’t have BPD, but I do have a friend that does and I did some research about BPD in order to answer this question. 

I just want to say you’re a very strong person. <3 Having a mental illness is hard, but overcoming it is a struggle worth fighting for. If you ever need anything, please let me know. ^^ 

I’ll call this headcanon Code: Realize Guys Have A Partner with BPD. Please do not hesitate to correct me if something is wrong or if you wanted something else with this. C: Thanks for being wonderful. 

Arséne Lupin: Lupin would try his best to support his partner with BPD by always reminding them that they are committed to the relationship. If his partner ever worried about his feelings, he would profess his love again and again. It would take him a bit to understand that the feeling of self-doubt is not going to go away, and he would never mind expressing his feelings so often once he understood. Lupin would want his partner to feel as happy as possible when they are together, and he would never feel burdened by them. 

Abraham Van Helsing: Van would work with his BPD partner by creating codes for how they were feeling. If they felt strong dissociation, they would immediately hug him, and he would ask what they needed. If they felt like they were going to be abandoned, they’d hold his hand. Van would then remind them that he loves them and will always stay with them. These techniques would be great coping methods for his partner, as Van would return these gestures often in order to remind them what they mean. 

Impey Barbicane: Impey would talk to his partner a lot about what they go through to understand how to help them cope with BPD. If they felt a low sense of self-worth, he would remind them that no one is more important to him. If they started acting on dangerous impulses, Impey would try to help them focus onto something productive, like helping him cook or build something. Whenever they panicked, he would hold them in his arms until they felt better. Having his constant companionship would be healing for his partner. 

Victor Frankenstein: Victor would try to help his partner by talking to them about their feelings as frequently as possible. He would listen to them describe what was going through their mind when the symptoms arose, and he would work with them to come up with a tool belt of techniques to mitigate the effects. With abandonment issues, Victor would create phrases to say to his partner like “You matter” or “I will not abandon you”. Sometimes they would just embrace and breathe in silence to calm their heart. 

Saint Germain: Saint Germain would advise group therapy for the both of them so he could understand his partner’s feelings and symptoms completely. He would also read up on BPD to learn exactly what his partner was experiencing. He would stay by his partner’s side whenever they had symptoms, and he would take them to a private place if it was ever in public. He would hold them if they were disassociating, and if they felt abandoned, he would talk about all the reasons why he never wanted to be apart.