#communication struggles

[borderlineremindersbook]

At the core, communication struggles in BPD aren’t about being manipulative or dramatic. They are about longing. Longing to be heard, longing to be loved without conditions, longing to not feel like too much.

[desultory-suggestions]

It's okay if you have trouble understanding people. Reading others is not as important as being compassionate and open to understanding them.

[wannablegendary]

I’m trying to explain what I’m feeling, but the words don’t come out right. Like my brain and my mouth are out of sync. It’s frustrating, and I just want someone to understand.

[executive-dysfunctioned]

ADHD is mourning the relationships you've lost not because you didn't care, but because your brain forgot to show love in ways that neurotypical people could recognize and receive

[reflections-in-a-critical-eye]

I feel the need to share this:

What Is Functional Illiteracy?

Exploring functional illiteracy: how limited reading skills create hidden barriers in everyday life for millions.

This not only explains what functional illiteracy is, but also provides advice and tips in how to combat this issue.

It is a serious and real issue and because of that, I can be understanding. My advice is to read carefully, multiple times at least and check on your own if the message in the text is clear and obvious. I'm not even talking about subtext or identifying irony. I'm not even going that far.

Ask yourself: "what is this person trying to convey? What is the main message of the text?"

After you think you identified that and the person's position toward the issue they discuss about and you decide to share your own thoughts, make sure that your response is connected to the actual topic. It can even be in disagreement, that's perfectly fine. But try to stay on the topic.

Example:

Person A: "I think it's absurd to fight on the internet about whether covid vaccines have somehow led to people having a micro-chip installed in their bodies. There is no basis in reality and it's fear-mongering misinformation."

Person B: "I don't trust the scientists saying there is no evidence of micro chips in human bodies and that the vaccine is safe. I'll wait and see if it does any damage to my body".

This is an example of faulty communication. Person B has not engaged with what Person A was actually trying to discuss. Person A was not attempting at having a conversation on whether the microchips were real, but they'd already taken the discussion to the next level, pointing out the ridiculousness of the debates even existing.

I'm not trying to be condescending. I'm really not. I'm trying to help. For everyone's sake. I know this issue is a result of what society has led to and social media as well. But it is in all our benefit to try and learn to understand each other properly.

[justagaymoth]

I definitely overuse (parentheses)

In casual written communication that is

It's interesting how everyone has unique communication styles

Different slang they prefer, phrases, pronations

I use filler words a lot especially “like”

On Tumblr, you can definitely see my casual writing style.

One of my favorite slang is GOAT/GOATed (greatest of all time)

My favorite saying is “living high off the hog” it's a Southern phrase that means eating good or making the best of the food you have (at least that's how much family and I use it)

I also catch myself saying yeahh NO or no YEAHH

Yeahh no is me trying to plolity say no

No YEAHH is either me changing my mind or taking a second to process the question and saying yes

I'm pretty sure that's a midwest saying

I definitely talk strangely cuz of the phrases I use and because I struggle to pronounce words, forget words, mix up the order of words in a sentence, sometimes I stutter.

[alostlittleriverlotus]

Trying not to overly apologize for my schizo ass talk. Disorganized speech and thoughts. I'm already semiverbal from autism. But I'm semiverbal cause of schizospec shit too. And like. I'm trying so hard to let me be me. But it's so hard when I've spent years masking and learning to "talk" and "type" "correctly" as if it was the only way to do so. Cause had no other choice. And got met with anger otherwise. It's so difficult not apologizing for literally EVERYTHING with me.