#disabilty

[pumpkin-magpie]

Thought a bit after posting that last thing so I made this

[ryanjudgesthings]

There's a mistake I see a lot of people in the mental health community make and in all honesty, it's one I've made myself. But I think we should really work on it. And that's saying "if this were a physical illness, wouldn't you care?"

I've learned that no actually, people wouldn't care. Katelyn Weinstein (theADHDprincess on Twitter) is a neurodiversity acceptance activist who really put this in perspective for me. She said that it's actually more an issue of longevity than physical vs mental health.

If you're having a bad day people will generally be understanding. But when you're experiencing chronic depression and you have many bad days people lose sympathy.

In the same respect people may be understanding when you've broken a bone that will heal properly or when you have a cold that will go away soon in ways they simply won't understand when you have chronic pain or need to use a wheelchair. They may send chicken soup for a temporary situation, but when you need consistent accomodations it's an entirely different story.

I understand that from our perspective it looks like people care more about physical health than mental health, but it's good to remember that our own perspective is also limiting. Facing ableism doesn't mean you can't be ableist. And I know so many people are not ill-intentioned when they say this. I know I wasn't. But we can't discount the lived experiences of physically disabled people. If we want true equality we need to be united and we need to listen to those with physical disabilities and illnesses. And those with physical disabilities and illnesses (some of which are also invisible) have said that they are not given proper accomodations either.

So let's be united and fight for equality and accomodations for everyone, no matter what their illness or disability may be.

[nepharim-tree]

Okay I was watching another dispatch playthrough and something occurred to me about Invisigal's line in the ADHD exchange. For reference, it goes:

Robert: Look can you just focus? What, you got ADHD or something?

Invisigal: Yes, fucker! Is it that obvious?

And just. The way Robert asks is a frustrated expression. It feels like he's talking about "adhd or something" in the "adhd as oh look no focus" way, the sort of sanitized version that we see a lot of passed around on social media, rather than the serious disability.

And then Invisigal's response is just so viscerally emotive. The defensive admission and the almost hurt-sounding investigation of "is it that obvious?" sound to me like she was trying to mask, like she was trying not to let her disability get in the way of her hero work. It reads to me as though she's upset with herself for not being able to hide it.

[soup-mother]

all of those fucking "we employ disabled people and help them learn the skills to hold a job" businesses always think they're being sly by leaving out "and we're legally allowed to pay below minimum wage because they're disabled" bit. like oh it's super obvious you're exploiting ppl for money and getting public goodwill from doing so because ppl don't think disabled people are employable otherwise.

[mysharona1987]

[ababeofclass]

Jack Abbot x chronically ill! reader headcannons

some v self indulgent headcannons about Jack dating someone chronically ill💕 (divider by @cafekitsune)

Jack is obviously a disabled man himself so he is the most understanding about your condition. He will go to every length to understand your diagnoses and/or symptoms, and will do his best understand how you're feeling, even past the clinical symptoms/his medical knowledge.

Mobility aids? He will never judge you, love you and think you're smoking hot no matter what mobility aids—wheelchair, he's pushing you so you don't have to do a thing; crutches, they rest by your shared bed next to his pair—whatever you need, he's 100% onboard (and WILL pay for the nicest model in your favourite colour to replace your mobility aids).

Flare days? He's doing everything he possibly can. He's helping you through the day even when he's dead-on-his-feet tired from a night shift. You can nap and cuddle with him while he sleeps his shift off.

Being medically invalidated? Jack is pulling favours with his doctor contacts to get you to the best specialists as we speak. His amazing reputation in the medical community has you at the best doctors in the country as fast as he can possibly get you there, no lengthy referral process needed. If the doctor you're speaking with is invalidating or gaslighting you, you bet he's using his title as a Doctor to question them so harshly they're sweating under his gaze (you may never be coming back but Jack wants you to feel like something is being done).

Insurance claim denied? He's paying the bill before you can get a word out to protest. He will also be marrying you as soon as your relationship is ready for it to get you on his cushy attending insurance plan.

Appointments? He's going with you to every single one. He works nights so his day is wide open for you (as long as he chugs a Red Bull). He's meticulously organizing a medical binder for you, keeping track of all the test results, and making sure you're comfortable getting to every appointment (he bought a very nice Mercedes to drive you in). 

Procedure? Most of them are probably at PTMC, where he knows and trusts the doctors. Wherever you are, he'll be there scrutinizing every step to make sure they're doing it properly. If it's a surgical procedure, he's pulling favours to scrub in to supervise. Jack will be there every step to comfort you, and will get you your favourite sweet treat after.

Jack will be the absolute best partner. He's leaving special notes on the mirror telling you how strong you are, making sure all your favorite foods are in the fridge, and paying for every streaming service so you have endless options to watch while on the couch. He's using all his power, reputation, and money as an attending doctor to make sure you are getting the best care and are as comfortable as he can make you.

[chaiaurchaandni]

right to maim: disability and imperialism in Palestine

also watch this documentary that covers the 2018 great march of return protests

[metalheadsagainstfascism]

If you use phrases like "narcissist", "psychopath", "sociopath", "narcissistic abuse", "crazy", "insane" or any similar language to describe asshole behavior, manipulative behavior, or otherwise undesirable behavior.

I'm kicking you out if disability pride month.

We don't support lateral abelism during disability pride month. We're not demonizing real disabled people with real mental health conditions to support your narrative.

It's really easy to say "The dude is an asshole that doesn't give a shit about anyone but himself" without forcing abelist language that hurts real disabled people onto him.

(Especially because the disorders that these conditions attack are often cluster b personality disorders which are often caused by trauma)

-fae