#dream advice

[chestersbraincell]

Do you struggle to visualise? Do you think you might have aphantasia, but arent sure because you have rather vivid dreams? Or are able to daydream while doing something monotonous but not when closing your eyes and really focusing on it?

I may have realised the solution last night. Two things are most important: you’re taking “see it in your mind’s eye” too literally, and you’re taking “imagine/in your mind” not literally enough. This is pretty hard to explain but I’ll try my best, since this took me frankly TOO long to realise.

Try remembering something. Anything. Literally if you’re struggling to come up with something, then hold and look at an object near you. Let go, and try to remember that moment. NO, no, dont overthink it. Just recall it as you would anything.

Okay? Notice how that felt. You didnt SEE it, did you? It was like, inside your head right? And while you were remembering it you kind of zoned out for a moment? THATS the key. You apply the same thing when trying to imagine something. Dont go into it expecting too much, and dont try too hard to do it. Just. Do it.

In meditation when your eyes are closed, my best tip is to like. Stop focusing so much on the back of your eyelids, and trying to see something in that darkness. Just ignore it. This also helps in general if you’re trying to fall asleep

[aquaticptato]

I have just learned that, contrary to my assumptions, it is NOT seen as normal to have a couple of recurring characters in your dreams called Dream Riders who occasionally show up and just. exist there. and you subconsciously understand that they're just passing through, using your dream as transportation to get somewhere else that you can never quite wrap your consciousness around.

these guys have been around since I was a kid, should I be concerned? And if so, do I call a psychologist or a priest?

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First one is named Bonco. Second one, I can never remember its name. It dislikes me for that.

[modmad]

in regards to your post about breaking the slow motion effect in dreams: do you have advice on how to scream in a dream? usually when I scream for help, only a whisper comes out

ah that one is tricky, no I haven’t gotten around that one (also it is VERY HARD to remember advice in a dream, you just have to sort of, remember it in waking life so it gets ingrained in your subconscious enough)- if anyone has advice on this one I’d be delighted to hear it!

[endlessevol]

Do not allow yourself to live within the limits of anothers mind.

[chestersbraincell]

You know, for anyone into Lucid Dreaming, heck, anyone who might suffer from either nightmares, false awakenings and/or sleep paralysis , I have a specific habit I’ve developed as a safety precaution when learning how to Lucid Dream that may be of help.

It can be immensely useful to teach yourself how to do this as a habit every time you wake up. Not only does it double as a reality check, it can also help prevent sleep paralysis if done at the right time.

So what you’ll want to do is start telling yourself, and preparing to NOT open your eyes when you wake up. That’s your first instinct, ofc, when you wake up. But you’ll have to get rid of it. Instead, teach yourself to wake up by realising that you are in bed. That your eyes are closed. Once you do that, congrats! You’ve mastered most of this skill. That’s literally the hardest part: getting rid of the instinct of immediately opening eyes after waking up.

Next, you simply try to move your hand. Or any kind of movement for that matter. What you’ll want to do is basically make sure that you have full control of your body(ie not sleep paralysed) BEFORE you open your eyes. That way, if you ARE in sleep paralysis you don’t have to deal with hallucinations(or the visual ones atleast. But hey, it atleast helps to be aware that they ARE hallucinations right?)

What you do next depends on what you want to achieve. If you’re trying to do a WBTB Lucid Dreaming technique like DEILD for example, minimum movement is ideal. Once you’re aware you’re awake just slide right back into another dream but with awareness; you’re welcome!

But otherwise if you are actually getting up, I reccomend getting into a habit of making that first movement with your eyes closed a hand-related reality check. Be it counting your fingers, or trying to breathe through a plugged nose, getting into a habit of reality checking first thing waking up is GODSENT for false awakenings.

I also find it really comforting after nightmares, too. Works as both a grounding technique but also “hey, you’re definitely NOT dreaming so nothing nightmarish can happen right now, because you’re no longer in your head!”. That, or if it turns out you ARE still dreaming, you atleast have that awareness which hopefully makes it feel less real, and so less scary? That or, if you master the skill, you can kick some nightmare ass through dream control.

[lettersiwillneverwrite]

"Find someone who doesn't just love you a little bit"

[painfulinpink]

Dream advice

Last night I dreamt I was on my way to an important choir concert that I was nervous to perform in and on the way found out Neil Gaiman was doing a book signing for a brand new book. So I decided to stop and hope against hope there was no line and still make it to the concert.

As I walked in, I grabbed the new book, didn't even look at the title and ran to go up the stairs to the signing area. Somehow there was no line...and I ran right into him on the stairs. I apologized profusely and said he was leaving I'd just head back out, I didn't have much time, but I was so happy to have finally met him.

Then he grabbed my book and said "it's wonderful to meet you, too. Don't worry, I have a moment for you before your concert"

Then he went back to his seat, took out an elegant fountain pen, and wrote in my book. As he finished I realized I was almost late for my big event, took the book from him, and tearfully said "i don't know if I have time to read it. And I want to savor it"

Then he said "don't worry, my advice to you is there. It will be there when you need it."

Then I woke up.

Somehow...I think that might actually have been him in my dreams...

[rednailpolishqueen]

You know it's ok if other people are interested in things that you are too or have the same dream as you, personally I'd love to write a book and whenever I see that someone else wants to do so as well I freak out and then I'm like damn bitch calm down it's not like there's one book in existence. We need diversity. Don't give up.