#enby things

[theadhdgoblin]

[wszechmistrz]

It's exhausting every time nonbinary androgyny is brought up, it's in the context of "you don't HAVE to be androgynous". 99% of the time we're just forgotten about, omitted from any sort of discourse or positivity, unless it's time to remind people they don't have to be like us.

Being androgynous doesn't get us treated better or more seriously than other nonbinary people. There's no nonbinary/androgyonus gender role. We're still seen as an aesthetic, mental illness, ideology. In fact, we're often more visibly queer and trans than fem-aligned and masc-aligned people.

We're a minority in a minority in a minority. Most nonbinary representation is, in fact, not androgynous.

And nonbinary people being androgynous is not even really a stereotype bigoted people have. Most of the time we are stereotyped as either "transmasc lite" (an AFAB person who has short hair and binds but is still visibly feminine) or people who only change their pronouns and do nothing else. Enbyphobes never jump to androgyny.

[neversaymayday]

Inside you there are two wolves, one wants to be feminine in the boy way and the other wants to be masculine in the girl way

There is also a secret third wolf that wants nothing to do with gender whatsoever

[kryptonite-cutiee]

Yall have a gender?

In this economy?

[whereserpentswalk]

Being enby is so weird because you have the same yearning that most trans people have to have had a childhood that matched your gender, but the childhood that matches your gender isn't even one our culture even has a concept of. Like, I yearn to have just been a kid in a way that had nothing to do with being a boy or a girl, to have been a cute genderless child as opposed to being something that was trained to be bred. There's almost a model for what a genderless childhood that I'll never have had looks like with enby middle schoolers with very accepting families, and I do wish I got to have that, but it's still not what I really want which is to have been recognized as genderless from birth. And there's nothing as easily expressable as having wanted to been just a boy or a girl.

[hellameyers]

I'm feeling a bit gender affirming today. Kinda want to be perceived.

This fit is really doing things for me. But I still need a haircut.

[aromanticduck]

The solution to the ‘most nonbinary characters are aliens or robots’ problem isn’t to start giving aliens and robots binary genders. That’s like if I complained in a restaurant that they’d forgotten to bring something I ordered to the table and they just... took back all the food and kicked me out.

[caprici0us-fool]

Today my dentist accidentally called me sir and then, probably remembering I put *other on my intake form, asked if there was anything I prefer he called me other than Mack. It was a really sweet sentiment.

They had already numbed me and put the dental dam in so i couldn't actually reply with words, but again the sentiment was lovely