#forced syscovery

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My significant other used to make jokes about things I would say that seemed plural. It started to bother me, so I asked him to stop and he did. He sent me a comic about systems in denial and said i didnt have to read it. I did not feel pressured to. I did read it anyways. Within a week we had talked about it and came to the conclusion i likely was a system. He isnt wrong, it just happened very fast and caused a lot of breakdowns about identity. The timing was bad bc we didn't (and sometimes still don't) believe we were abused even. Im not at all upset at him, it just was intense for figuring it all out in like. Under 2 weeks

This is forced syscovery.

Even if people mean well or don't mean to cause harm, armchair diagnosis that ultimately leads to premature disorder/trauma acknowledgement never ends well. I hope you're doing better now, nonnie. Forced syscovery is extremely stressful.

[pocket-of-trinkets]

30 Days of DID

The non-parts-focused ask meme can be found here.

Day One :

When and how did you find out you have DID?

Content warning: discussion of abuse, forced syscovery, and trauma from aforementioned events.

...what a way to kick this off. Lmao.

A few people on this app probably know about our syscovery, because we share this story often—and there are multiple reasons for that. Some of it (especially when we first started sharing our story) is a need for validation of the abuse we experienced during that time. Nowadays, most of the reason we're so open about it is to spread awareness on how harmful forced syscovery is, and to let others know they aren't alone in their own experiences.

October 12th, 2023.

Most "memory" of our syscovery is a compilation of flashbacks, and retellings from a witness we trust/are very close to (our lovely partner). Our general knowledge of our syscovery is most easily laid out in a series of events, like so, to avoid dissociating/triggering myself lol.

We had a shitty abusive roommate with DID

They recognized our symptoms and pressed us constantly about our dissociation despite our INSISTENCE we could not possibly have a CDD

They took advantage of our heavy exhaustion and dissociation on one particular day (i.e. the 12 of October) and forced us to acknowledge we were a system

[more detailed story here on our sideblog for those curious]

^ That led to a lot of distress and resurfacing/prematurely acknowledged trauma that we were NOT ready nor safe to handle (you know, actively living with. One of the worst people I've had the misfortune of allowing into our life).

Don't force syscovery lmfao. That should be common sense. Let people find out in the safety of a trusted professional's office or just on their own terms in general that they have a trauma disorder. We were robbed of the chance to figure out we were a system in safety, don't do the same to others.

Also fuck that abuser and their savior complex bullshit. Good riddance. That was the most traumatic period of my life.

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Thing is, I am a (self-diagnosed due to doctors not available since yeras) system

However I hate how I discovered it

I was in a bad, traumatising situation. I already was a system however I myself was NOT aware of it.

I did hear about systems before and knew what they were but I put alters off as 'oh those are just fantasy friends im imagining' or 'oh im just imagining im that character!' Which was good because it kept me calm and bla bla

Anyways, my friend was also into reading about systems back then (funnily enough they are one too)

We were around, 13 or 14 then, I domt know exactly

But either way they read about it and sometimes said stuff, and somwtimes I did thing 'huh seems familiar to me' but I didnt dive deep into it

Eventually they realized i am a system tho. Which is fine cause sure you can suspect stuff and i suppose you could ask 'have you ever thought you were a system?' Or so, sure.

But they got SO obsessed with making me realize I am a system back then

They kept telling me I am a system, when I said the slightest thing that is a symptom, instead of just talking about the thing they were like 'see that is a system thing!' And bla bla

It caused me to eventually realize that yes, I am a system, but it was bad.

We were in a situation where being mentally ill was seen as *bad*.

So i went into denial which caused me more stress, which caused more splits which just worsened it

It led to sh and stuff [tho i never told my friend that] and it was just really bad.

I get my friend just wanted to help me, but it just made it worse back then. I would've preferred it greatly if I would've figured it out myself eventually or through theraphy

This is forced syscovery.

I feel you, nonnie. I'm so sorry you were pushed into acknowledging you were a system.

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Armchair diagnosis is being pushed into syscovery and into separating my "alters" by endos because I have multiple kintypes and experience voices due to schizophrenia.

This is armchair diagnosis, and forced syscovery.

So sorry this happened, op. This is such an important reason why we are anti endo, ourselves—and why pro-endo rhetoric is so harmful.

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This is Armchair Diagnosis.

Welcome to yet another "This is [x]" blog!

Run by @pocket-of-trinkets , formerly @/pocket-trinkets

This page was inspired by the rise in armchair diagnosis and forced trauma recognition we have seen online. We intend to educate on unhealthy methods commonly used to "help" people who are struggling, point out harmful behaviors within mental health spaces, and generally focus on forced illness acknowledgement.

This blog is anti-endogenic and anti-radqueer, but anyone may send asks and examples of armchair diagnosis. Any hate or aggression will be ignored, and senders will be blocked.

FAQ

What is armchair diagnosis?

WIP:

Why is armchair diagnosis harmful?

Why consider endogenics perpetrators of armchair diagnosis when plurality (in their eyes) isn't always disordered?

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